NewStats: 3,259,785 , 8,170,904 topics. Date: Monday, 26 May 2025 at 01:46 AM 4k3r15

Op, while I would advise against it, I would also say it depends on how deep your pockets are.

You might be stickingly rich and taking care of the lady and her family might not make a dent on your finances.

But saying you would not want your financial obligations to extend to her family is just wishful thinking.

Use your tongue to count your teeth.

Aaaaarghmed:
no be only lift,na weight lifter . I no get that strength to lift any woman or her family anywhere.i suffered to lift myself

As in, the thing shock me.

Men go suffer lift their selves finish come go carry another woman and her family load for head.

No wonder they die young.



Awon weight lifters.

I hope Nigerians don't make them regret this move.

While this is commendable, there should be appropriate security checks in place.

Big fools.

Black man and low I.Q

Tueh!

Aaaaarghmed:
una get time.joblessness

Evolutionism:


Sponsored Post.

Everything to keep the Ignoramuses in endless cycle of perpetual POVERTY is welcome.

Eyin Eleribu Ashiwereey Edakeda.

Gerrard59:


The thing dey surprise me o. The ones I know who did have postponed childbearing or have scholarships to depend on. How family go live on scholarship stipend dey surprise me sef. Thank God sha I don't have a do-or-die marriage mentality.

At the bold, very important if you want to succeed as a young Nigerian man.

Gerrard59:


You are not an average Nigerian. When I was serving, my parents were telling me how they had to run generators daily because there was no electricity throughout that year. Just because you enjoyed those amenities, which are basic and should be readily available via government infrastructure, many Nigerians do not. So, when these people move to developed countries, it is surreal because they have never experienced it in their lives. BTW, I mentioned electricity. I have not mentioned security, efficient public transport system and general rule of law.

Even the CEO of Sterling - Suleiman - once complained about the power situation by posting a picture of his massive generator. Omotola once posted about how living in the US for a year changed her perspective on life, especially regarding how systems work. Is Omotola poor?

The problem with some of una be say when una don get am, you care less whether others have gotten theirs. Electricity availability is a basic need for human existence.

One problem I've observed mostly with black people at the bold: selfishness.

Once they're set, the others don't matter.

Keep deceiving yourself.

1Sharon:
As long as the Muslim population remains around or under 2% in any given country, they will be for the most part be regarded as a peace-loving Minority, and not as a threat to other citizens. This is the case in:

United States -- Muslim 1.1%

Australia -- Muslim 1.5%
Canada -- Muslim 1.9%
China -- Muslim 3 %
Italy -- Muslim 2.5%
Norway -- Muslim 1.8%

At 2% to 5%, they begin to proselytize from other ethnic minorities and disaffected groups, often with major recruiting from the jails and among street gangs.

This is happening in:

Denmark -- Muslim 2%

-- Muslim 3.7%
United Kingdom -- Muslim 4.7%
Spain -- Muslim 4%
Thailand -- Muslim 4.6%

From 5% on, they exercise an inordinate influence in proportion to their percentage of the population.


For example, they will push for the introduction of halal (clean by Islamic standards) food, thereby securing food preparation jobs for Muslims.
They will increase pressure on supermarket chains to feature halal on their shelves -- along with threats for failure to comply.

This is occurring in:

-- Muslim 8%

Philippines -- 5%
Sweden -- Muslim 5%
Switzerland -- Muslim 4.3%
The Netherlands -- Muslim 5.5%
Trinidad & Tobago -- Muslim 5.8%

At this point, they will work to get the ruling government to allow them to rule themselves (within their ghettos) under Sharia, the Islamic Law. The ultimate goal of Islamists is to establish Sharia law over the entire world.

When Muslims approach 10% of the population, they tend to increase lawlessness as a means of complaint about their conditions.

In Paris, we are already seeing car-burnings. Any non Muslim action offends Islam, and results in uprisings and threats, such as in Amsterdam , with opposition to Mohammed cartoons and films about Islam.
Such tensions are seen daily, particularly in Muslim sections, in:

Guyana -- Muslim 10%

India -- Muslim 19.4%
Israel -- Muslim 16%
Kenya -- Muslim 10%
Russia -- Muslim 15%

After reaching 20%, nations can expect hair-trigger rioting, jihad militia formations, sporadic killings, and the burnings of Christian churches and Jewish synagogues, such as in:

Ethiopia -- Muslim 32.8%

At 40%, nations experience widespread massacres, chronic terror attacks, and ongoing militia warfare, such as in:

Bosnia -- Muslim 40%

Chad -- Muslim 53.1%
Lebanon -- Muslim 59.7%


Nigeria 50% Muslim

From 60%, nations experience unfettered persecution of non-believers of all other religions (including non-conforming Muslims), sporadic ethnic cleansing (genocide), use of Sharia Law as a weapon, and Jizya, the tax placed on infidels, such as in:

Albania -- Muslim 70%

Malaysia -- Muslim 60.4%
Qatar -- Muslim 77.5%
Sudan -- Muslim 70%

After 80%, expect daily intimidation and violent jihad, some State-run ethnic cleansing, and even some genocide, as these nations drive out the infidels, and move toward 100% Muslim, such as has been experienced and in some ways is on-going in:

Bangladesh -- Muslim 83%

Egypt -- Muslim 90%
Gaza -- Muslim 98.7%
Indonesia -- Muslim 86.1%
Iran -- Muslim 98%
Iraq -- Muslim 97%
Jordan -- Muslim 92%
Morocco -- Muslim 98.7%
Pakistan -- Muslim 97%
Palestine -- Muslim 99%
Syria -- Muslim 90%
Tajikistan -- Muslim 90%
Turkey -- Muslim 99..8%
United Arab Emirates -- Muslim 96%

100% will usher in the peace of "Dar-es-Salaam" -- the Islamic House of Peace.. Here there's supposed to be peace, because everybody is a Muslim, the Madrasses are the only schools, and the Koran is the only word, such as in:

Afghanistan -- Muslim 100%

Saudi Arabia -- Muslim 100%
Somalia -- Muslim 100%
Yemen -- Muslim 100%

Unfortunately, peace is never achieved, as in these 100% states the most radical Muslims intimidate and spew hatred, and satisfy their blood lust by killing less radical Muslims, for a variety of reasons.


It is important to understand that in some countries, with well under 100% Muslim populations, such as , the minority Muslim populations live in ghettos, within which they are 100% Muslim, and within which they live by Sharia Law.

The national police do not even enter these ghettos. There are no national courts, nor schools, nor non-Muslim religious facilities. In such situations, Muslims do not integrate into the community at large. The children attend madrasses. They learn only the Koran. To even associate with an infidel is a crime punishable with death.

Therefore, in some areas of certain nations, Muslim Imams and extremists exercise more power than the national average would indicate.

Today's 1.5 billion Muslims make up 22% of the world's population. But their birth rates dwarf the birth rates of Christians, Hindus, Buddhists, Jews, and all other believers.


Muslims will exceed 50% of the world's population by the end of this century.

Lol, are you a data analyst or have any role that required you to make inferences using data.

Your writeup is quite interesting.

Aaaaarghmed:
I Thank God I dont earn in naira.Nigeria is a very insensitive country. Masses dey suffer,dem dey buy exotic cars.mtcheewww

Bro.

How that side?

Are you settled now?

What the Bleep is your business Nigeria?

How does the situation in Gaza concern you?

tensazangetsu20:
If you are asking people to put on hold in Nigeria, should they put on hold until one pound is equivalent to 5000 naira cause its definitely going to happen under this baboon of a president no ifs or buts. Full fees should have been paid if you cant pay full UK fees, other cheaper countries should have been considered.

If you don't have your full school fees and 6 months living expenses. Don't go to the U.K

No ifs or but.

justwise:


It’s not always the case. To start with a woman can only clean up a man who has something to clean.

A man’s money before marriage and money he made after marriage are treated differently.

If you structure your finances carefully before getting marriage you will be in a better position if the marriage goes south.

I have a female friend who is going through divorce right now and the ex husband has taken her to the cleaners. She has to remortgage the house to give the husband share of the equity even as the man did not contribute a penny for the deposit. Kids are also involved in this marriage.

Can you explain more at the bolded?

How can a man structure his money before marriage?

justwise:


lol..see fear of marriage..

i blame Lexusgs430 for this

Women don't always get everything even with kids involved.

Doesn't seem that way.

Seems like once the woman has kids, it's game over for the man.

Lexusgs430:


Would you want to reside in the house, with the woman you already divorced........😜😂

You simply expose yourself to possibilities of varying allegations, injunctions and all sorts of mess .......

The children would NEVER be rendered homeless, by any Judge.......

Only in the man's name, would NOT save the man...... The wife would still be entitled to 50%, as a starting point, because the property is/was a family home ........

Hence putting the mortgage in only your name, is at a disadvantage to you .......🤣😜

Be good to her, so you don't end up homeless or renting again........😂

Thanks.

Now I understand why some egbon in their forties are not married over there.

The others prefer having baby mama's and taking care of their kids.

Cc: Regex

jedisco:


Divorces here are no joke especially when there's a good income difference and kids are involved.

Not a lawyer but for well established marriages, the target for a legal split is 50:50 of marital possessions. Even your pensions and isa accumulated after marriage are not exempt.

To the house, though there might be a 50:50 equity split awarded, priority is always given to the kids. The kids will usually be allowed to stay in the house moreso if they're established there.
Your partner might buy you out of the mortgage or you both can sell and go separate ways. If she refuses, it's very unlikely a Judge would give an order mandating sale when kids are involved. That means as the other partner, even though you may have 50% equity in the house, you may not be able to sell until kids turn 18 or leave.

In the meantime, you would need to rent your place and banks will chase whoevers name is on the mortgage to keep up with payments. All this is aside child maintenance which goes primarily to the partner with main custody. If you're unlucky and have domestic violence pinned on you, another gbese as your alloted time might be culled. Of course, either of you can have a new relationship while all this is going on.

If you have good earning potential and a vast difference from your partner, a divorce can leave you wrinsed

Quick question: what if the mortgage is in the man's name only?

Does it mean he has to move out if the judge grants custody of the kids to the woman?

Just thinking about different scenarios here.

Evolutionism:


Raalsalghul i greet you man.

I deactivated my other .

I trust you have been good. Just checking on you. Have a great day.

Yeah good bro.

I have been up and about.

I agree 100%.

Like Pansophist will say, enjoy your time and leave.

May their prayers be answered.

Amen.

Hamas, Israel, Ukraine, Russia: As a Black African, none of it is my business.

LordAdam16:


Abobi you na SS.
Mk dem no tag your matter.
To collect visa go kon b War.
We're not anonymous.

That said, there's no point getting wound up about the antics of the Jews.
Throughout history, the Jews have been subjects. If they formed a polity, they'd be vassals.
The only reason why the Israelis appear ruthless right now is because the West permits it.
And the West permits it, because they'd rather have them there in the Middle East than at home.
America has enough landmass.

The Jews have ridden all types of d*cks.
From the Egyptians to the Assyrians to the Persians to the Greeks to the Romans to the Arabs to the Turks.
They're calling Arabs animals today.
Let the US withdraw their security blanket today.
Before you say Talmud, you'll see them twerking in Mecca, Tehran, and Istanbul.

Don't let their rhetoric get to you.
They always do that.

They were committing genocide against their neighbors even when they were under Assyrian suzerainty.
The Assyrians looked the other way.
Then they lost their marbles and rebelled. The effrontery.
Two seconds. Nebu pack all of them drop inside Babylon.
Same thing happened with the Romans.

If they cease to be useful.
The West would just send their calls to voicemail.
These same people that are very loud and uncouth and saying they'll turn Gaza to a parking lot will automatically become meek as a dove.

Na why when them mk noise reach Iran end, e dey touch Iranians on a personal level.
For their mind; these dot people when the Achaemenids and Sassanids tolerate nai dey open mouth yarn opata.
Dem no know their mate abi?

-Lord

You know your history very well especially about the Jews and this is one of the reasons I respect your write-up.

And just like you've said, the Jews to an extent rely on the intervention of foreign forces to prevent their existence from being wiped off.

When they were in Babylon, it took the intervention of Cyrus the Great to free them from bondage.

Also during the first crusades, it was European Knights from thousand of miles away that came to their aid helped under propaganda tool by Alexios 1 Komnenos and Pope Urban II.

Only time I them putting up a bit of internal resistance was the Maccabees revolt under the persecution of Hellenistic King Antiochus IV Epiphanes.

Good thing they have America and Europe their side innit?

Baba no be everything you dey chook mouth.

Haba!

And when will black Africans realise that these warring parties don't give a Bleep about them to be choosing sides.

Zimbabwe.

Moniya4Real:
As far as I am concerned, both sides are treating each other the same way. They are both killers of innocent children and women. Hamas has been doing this before now while Israel too has been doing the same before now. For All you Africans who don’t have identity and will still be identifying with either side, you all have no brains.The current Israeli government is racist while the Arabs are worse. Will Africans think for once?

👏👏👏👏👏👏

KingAzubuike:
The western toy baby called Israel all mouth. Ordinary hamas they can't defeat for over 40 years. With all their western backing hamas is making them wet their pants. Just imagine how America quickly sent a war ship to Israel for . Shameful.

To those quoting bible for Israel, just be reminded its predominantly a Jewish and Islamic country before you can even mention Christianity.

Nah, you've got it all mixed up at the bold.

It was Jewish first, Christian and then lastly followed by Islam.

Jewish first by courtesy of the Isrealites who occupied it first (according to the bible), then Christian courtesy of being under the control of the Roman empire/Eastern Roman empire.

Islam only came into being when Jerusalem was overtaken in 653 A.D

okoroemeka:
nobody has total ciaim over the whole region, different tribes were living together until Islam came and conquered Jerusalem in the year 635,most tribes converted to Islam but the Jews been very conservative retained their Judaism traditions,in 1095 pope urban declared a holy crusade to take back Jerusalem from the muslims,I'm 1099 the first Christian crusaders succeeded in capturing Jerusalem and massacred every human being in the city Muslims and jews alike,the remaining Jews fled and scattered all over Europe until the genocides and gas Chambers of second world war forced them to go back to their Homeland in 1948,the UN solution for a two state is the best idea and compromise which isreal agreed but Hamas refused,insisting on a delusion to wipe away isreal,the Jews have similar strong claims to the land as them,most Arab countries have seen the stupidity in trying to wipe away the Jews and they are planning for peace this current attack is just a plan to scuttle that peace

You are informed.

Just what I was discussed with my colleagues: Christians, Jews and Muslims, no one has a legitimate claim to that land.

It has been occupied by each at different points in history and ruled by different empires: Israelites, Neo-babylonian empire, Achaemenid, Hellenistic Kings of the Seleucid empire, Romans, Byzantine Romans, Seljurk Turks, The Crusaders formed by European Knights, Ottoman Turks etc

I laugh when people foolishly call the Hamas terrorists though not surprised as Nigerians hardly know history.

jedisco:


Divorces here are no joke especially when there's a good income difference and kids are involved.

Not a lawyer but for well established marriages, the target for a legal split is 50:50 of marital possessions. Even your pensions and isa accumulated after marriage are not exempt.

To the house, though there might be a 50:50 equity split awarded, priority is always given to the kids. The kids will usually be allowed to stay in the house moreso if they're established there.
Your partner might buy you out of the mortgage or you both can sell and go separate ways. If she refuses, it's very unlikely a Judge would give an order mandating sale when kids are involved. That means as the other partner, even though you may have 50% equity in the house, you may not be able to sell until kids turn 18 or leave.

In the meantime, you would need to rent your place and banks will chase whoevers name is on the mortgage to keep up with payments. All this is aside child maintenance which goes primarily to the partner with main custody. If you're unlucky and have domestic violence pinned on you, another gbese as your alloted time might be culled. Of course, either of you can have a new relationship while all this is going on.

If you have good earning potential and a vast difference from your partner, a divorce can leave you wrinsed

Thank you very much for that detailed explanation.

So basically, a civil partnership is better?

PalestianIsrael:


Thank you my brother.

I thought I was running mad.

I never knew in my wildest dreams I’ll be in this Situation. I’m a very liberal live and let live kind of guy. Nothing is by force.

The only “crime” madam claims I have committed is inflicting emotional pain. How? Because when we quarrel over relationship stuff she says my apologies are not genuine and I stay away for too long to cool my head. And I don’t initiate the apology or reconciliation. Anyone who knows me knows I hate confrontation or stress. I thought I knew or understood my wife when I married her. But now the stress doesn’t make sense. When she argues her own and I’m tired of the argument, I give space.

To now “retaliate” against the emotional pain I’m inflicting by coming to disturb me/slap me/tell me to leave/smash phone/bringing knives /poking me etc. is soooo over the red line. If I saw this physical side, I won’t have gone ahead. Never in my wildest dreams, did I see myself fighting back after being beaten and bruised. Am I meant to just swallow it?

I just need a suitable way out. This is not what I signed up for. I believe I do my best (without tooting my own horn) and things shouldn’t escalate to physical violence even if I “committed” the crime of emotional distress.

This is not sustainable.
The fighting has happened more than 3 times.

First time…push and struggle.
Second time…slaps and blows.
Third time…madam brought knives saying I should make the work easier.

How on earth is this the solution to the emotional abuse she’s suffering? We’ve been on this emotional issue for years, I’ve lost hope on solving it.

Need to get out while I’m still alive. Crazy world.

Hustla has a point.

It would do you a lot of good to report the issue to police first just in case.

All the posters up there saying you ignoring your wife, not giving her emotional and all that nonsense is not an excuse for physical violence on her part.

jedisco:


People have said alot and I hardly advise on relationship issues and hardly subscribe to auto divorce. But your story has alarm bells ringing.

But from your post, 4 things strike me
1. You are having significant issues this early which in this country would many times would get worse
2. It seems you guys are still newly married.
3. You have no kids
4. You are the visa sponsor.

The last 3 points are to your advantage. The way you painted her black without taking standing up to where you got it wrong makes me think you lack insight and I wonder about compatibility. No need claiming right. You cannot live with everyone but you can salvage whats left and learn lessons for the future. You don't want to end up with a life of misery possibly paying a mortgage for a house you don't live in aside your own rent and then child for your kids while your ex-wife is boyfriending with another. Of course, regretting everyday you met.

You need to make a decision quick and until then, avoid making kids. If you split now, she would need to look for another sponsor or get a visa herself. In the meantime until things are clear, moving out might be a better option, keep evidence discretely and definitely avoid hitting her.

In summary, if e no work, take a walk. You might not get a better opportunity.

@ the bold.

How true?

I can understand the child but the mortgage?

Really?

Does that happen?

I don't your friend telling you not to Japa.

He should tell you the hard-core facts involved with emigration and then allow you to make the decision.

Simple!