GistMedia0: A bride’s father stirred controversy at a wedding by telling the groom, “YOUR WIFE MUST NOT COOK FOR YOU.” His remark immediately ignited heated discussions both at the event and on social media.
Many critics argued that such a statement undermines traditional marriage roles, with some insisting that it weakens the groom’s authority and disrupts household harmony. “The foundation of marriage should be based on mutual roles, and cooking has always been a part of a wife's duty,” one person commented. Others expressed concerns that this could lead to a power imbalance, making the groom feel less in control in his own home.
On the other hand, some defended the father’s perspective, emphasizing that modern marriages are about mutual understanding rather than rigid roles. “The husband and wife should determine what works for them,” a er remarked, arguing that every marriage is unique. Others suggested that when a woman isn’t pressured to cook, she may actually enjoy doing it more willingly. “If a man doesn’t impose expectations, she’ll likely cook for him out of love and not obligation.”
There was absolutely nothing wrong with what the man said, but the foolish nairaland men aka blackpill gang will start crying. If a woman is not available to cook for you, cook for yourself or order food na wife she be shes not a slave or a chef. It's not mandatory she cooks everyday, a father who knows the worth and value of his daughter. Applause 👏👏👏
dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!
You dey mind all the idiots in this platform forming nonsense!!
iLegendd: Which of These 2 Situations Is More Hurtful for a Man?
Situation 1:
You're a rich guy called Nedu and you checked your woman's phone and saw a text with her bestie discussing you and she said, "I'm just with him for his money."
Situation 2:
You're a good-looking man called Timi, but broke and you checked your woman's phone and saw where she told her bestie, "I'm dating Nedu just for his money, but I love my boyfriend Timi."
One situation makes you feel you're not good-looking enough but your money is enough cover up and the other makes you feel poor, but at least, you're good-looking.
Which of these situations would you feel hurt more? And which would you rather be in if you're forced to choose one in an exam hall.
Someone should help me with 5k please ,E don red for my side like this 😭😭
You don old ohhh, you want marry at 48 what were you doing in your 20s and 30s? At 48 wey u don dey get high blood pressure don dey riise with chronic erectile dysfunction na now u wan marry? Na WA!!
Gandollar:
Big pharmacies too sell fake drugs sometimes. One can't be too careful.
It's everywhere and not limited to the SE alone.
My friend who lives in Ibadan with her family usually comes to Lagos to buy medication for fear of fake drugs where she stays. It's a universal problem.
Nothing like everywhere, SE sells fake things more, the recent video of nafdac going into Aba to destroy cartoons off fake drinks and beverage's few weeks ago nko? Or the Video where VDM talked about a man in the east which was clearly Igbo selling large Sum of fake drugs nko? Expired drugs they take it into that building and change the expiring date then sell it out. No be kill igbo people wan kill us for this country so? Wicked people!!
FeliciaOja:
The rate of fake goods is very very alarming
Pepsi plastic drink has so many fake
And people are drinking it without knowing.
Fake toothpaste fake drinks fake deodorant
They now sell fake sniper rat poison.
Majority of these fake goods come from the east.
Is this the Biafra you want to create by poisoning your own people for the sake of making money
Am telling the energy they put in making these fake stuffs can actually be put in learning the original but No!! They are ready to Poison their own people just bc of greed, a typical Igbo man them people wey dey give this country bad name!!
FeliciaOja:
If you stay in the East, do not I repeat do not buy drugs from small chemist shops.
These shops buy cheap expired drugs due to cost of original drugs.
Go to the big high class pharmacy
Those big pharmacy with big compound
They sell original drugs from uk
Fake drugs are rampant in the East and the greed to make more money is pushing small pharmacy to buy cheap drugs.
Avoid roadside or any small pharmacy
Go for the big building pharmacy/hospital
Igbo people and greed 5&6
Because of money they are ready to sell anything, fake drinks, beverage's and drugs. God forbid!!!
SultanOfAbia:
At this stage of my life.
I have obsevered 2 things
1. Our parents where very lucky to not have social media during their youth.
2. The only reasonable group of women in Nigeria are those born from 1940 to 1994
Gen Z women are the most useless DUMB and materialistic non entities.
After my numerous sexcapades I have come to a conclusion that I don't want to have a female child in this particular generation.
These girls are extremely dumb
Dancing like epileptic fools on TikTok. It is a total nightmare out there
Social media has destroyed youths beyond repair and girls are the main victims
The millions of nude pictures of Nigerian girls leaked over the internet is proof that having a daughter in this modern woke age is a disaster Hookup has increased 10 times over
Now girls in this generation will be the worst
Do if you are going to birth a daughter in this period. Just know that it is finished..
Silentgroper:
he's the bottom gay type yet he's doing the asking out .. it's like saying either or James brown/bob risky going out there asking niggaz out ..
Something is not adding up..
gbam!! You don talk am finish. Leave the werey make he dey disguise.
Seriously it's the "why" I'm interested in, to get a clear understanding of their nature. And a lot of them guys who work at banks and real estate agencies are heavily into this. Selling anus to get sick male clients and some even service thier bosses and get heavily rewarded for it but lose their anus in the process
After getting the clear understanding of their nature what now happens? You will now opt to be like them? It's like you think everyone on nairaland are stupid bahh? Continue!!
Lol bro he doesn't even know me physically not to talk of meet cos I have no intentions of even meeting him. And besides he's the bottom gay type, the receiver asin those when dey collect like women. Truth is I just want to know why he's the way he is and how it started for him before I finally delete and block as I will still have to do the blocking thing cos there really is no use to keep entertaining him once I'm done
Na lie oga, if you have no interest to knack him why do you care to know why he's like that? How's that your business? Mumu excuses.
dkidd:
Sometime late 2023 i was moving out of my apartment to another one mostly because water messes the road once it rains around that orchid road environs. And my estate cast bad for the water issue. So I met a lot of estate agents and I finally got an apartment in another estate which I still stay at till now.
I noticed an effeminate guy who chats me strangely but he was careful not to be direct. Always using the term "Dear" . He's one of the agents I met in the course of finding a new apartment. I dey bear am saying maybe the effeminate guy na just dp maybe na babe. So I asked if it's a she or he and he confirmed he... Omor Bobrisky things! I said nothing so as not to be assuming things that are not.
This "dear" matter continued and it was just irritating so one day I told him to stop the bs and he agreed to it. He would come out of the blue to ask me for money. Na hustle everyone dey. I do help out when I can and when I can't I lockup. Sometimes I ignore his messages for months cos they're mostly annoying like how can a guy younger than me be calling me "fine" when addressing me? Talking nonsense about my pics and sometimes requests for video calls which I always decline, but he never gives up.
So recently we started chatting again and he mentioned that "he can't wait to meet me" and that one shock me. So I asked what for? Business he said. But we can do business online and meet when it's necessary so tell me let me know if it's profitable to me. Then he started mentioning me helping him with some clients. The worst part was when he mentioned yesterday that he would do anything for me. My instincts were right as always. Then he came out openly saying he would give me sex if it's what I want. I asked him again but Ur a guy like me na? He said yes.
The funny thing is I felt pity for him instantly unlike before I will get mad,insult and block but I just felt real pity for him. I told him I don't get down like that and I only do women. He said okay. So I was just thinking to myself how many men go done blast this boy anus because he's trying to meet the company's target? This is exactly what estate agents do, same with bankers both sexes not just women. They offer sex for clientele. He has gone back to the "dear" issues again. I think I will just have him as my online gay friend let me learn one or two from the other side 😂
it's obvious you go soon go Bleep the idiot yansh, you have a pity for him very obvious ur masculinity was very fragile. Mumu man!!
Don't mind him, men dey! Women just need to connect with the right men. As I grew older, I realized that one can work on attracting the right type of people, so I focused on building connections with those who align with my values. Peace of mind is essential for mental health.
Serendipity2023:
How did this nonsensical vag1na worship start?
So I will be going on a date with a woman who isn't sick or physically challenged;
I will leave driver's door, and go open enger door for her to seat in the car.
Then I return to drive.
I do same for her to alight from the car.
Then when we get to the date venue, I hold the entrance door,
At the table, I pull out the seat for her before getting mine.
And this happens even in Nigeria where the man is paying the bills for the date 99.99% of the time.
And in a world where women claim equality with men and demand it too?
How did this tomfoolery start?
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So you call this simple gesture of a man to his woman Simpson? But it's okay for a woman to do your laundry, cook your meals, have sex with you and do every other thing just to make you happy but you doing same is bad, this una yeyr red pill don turn all of una to complete idiots. M disgusted!!!
ValarDoharis:
I'm not triggered, I'm just telling you reality.
Do not set out to do competition with men. The right man will give you the respect you deserve
Exactly just as the right woman will give you the respect that you deserved, that's to tell you that respect or submission should be earned not forced.
You know damn well he meant a submissive wife but as usual your inadequate comprehension skills and zigzag emotional spectrum made you see red instead of yellow.
Are you married? No! Did you ever pay bride price? No! So how in hell do you have the guts to tell a grown ass man not to look for a submissive woman!
Submission shouldn't be forced but should be earned, only a slave should submit to a master not a wife, she's is your partner this is just a way to show that y'all don't view women as humans. When you act right and respect your wife, submission will come naturally. Know this and have peace!!
Most of you using this slave word if they tell you noe to bring half of the expenses in a marriage so that you wouldn't be a slave anymore you will start crying and running to your father's houses when you are supposed to be happy.[b][/b]
Every human on earth has the ability to make money it's not gender based so do not capitalize on that. It's the reasons for feminism , women should empower themselves financially so as not to be disrrspected by the enemy dey call husband's.
You want to take dame decision as your husband (equality) but when it gets to financial equality you start shouting its the man's responsibility to become a slave for you for life una mumu no get part two abeg shift
Using insults to point out your views on what I just said just shows how unlogical you are. Women these days have the potentials and ability to make money more than men, just that y'all are easily intimidated when a woman is more successful than y'all.
ValarDoharis:
Bottomline is a man should marry a woman that listens to him.
Marrying someone that listens to you only if whatever it is you are saying is right, na partner we will be not slave and master, she not a dummy she has her own brains to think too and say No giving her reasons. You men of this generation should know that we aren't rye women of your mother's generation, if you want to get married you should partner with your woman not trying to command respect which you can't give all in the name of marriage. Women aren't y'all slaves.
Afolue:
at his economic level should he then go for a woman that is wayward.? Mind you his wife might not even be what you are imagining. There are decent girls that are very much very well behaved and respect their man. Not until he begins to show displeasures towards her unnecessarily. I hope you are a good type
Respect is reciprocal, she's not your slave, you don't tell a full grown adult to sit down in an authorative way. Na wife you marry no be your pikin. The way y'all like to accept what you can't give is disgusting. You don't want your partner to do something talk to her gently about it that's called partnership not commanding her as if na you born her.
calabaman: Do not let anyone put you under pressure to marry
**Op I married when I clocked 40**
Some things I would advise though:
> Marry a soul mate who you can tell sit down on the ground and she will.
> You are a man and can marry when you are ready , however if you are waiting for millions before you marry you may never marry.
> I didn't have up to 200k in my , but had a 3 million wedding with spare change.
> Don't let your wife to bes people dictate the spending on your wedding ( you are the one paying not them)
> My experience - I fought the TM list and reduced it drastically (whilst telling them they can marry their daughter if they won't budge) my wife did the needful.
Funny enough now, there is pressure on my wife not me to have a child.
I have asked her to chill, some days she listens...some days she doesn't stating menopause.
But me.... I put my feet down and told her whoever is putting her under pressure can come and give her belle (she won't cheat)...but the idea that I don't care puts shiver down her spine.
In summary, the decision to marry now or in 10 years time depends solely on you. Looking for a homely girl ready to settle down and not a broke a55 slay queen with a broke a55 family to make your forever partner.
Imagine demanding for a bike (okada), big gen amongst other outrageous things - regalia for a great grandfather who don kpai since all in the name of tradition for this economy. Aunty come dey say it's tradition (all in the name of looking for marriage) mchewwe
Good luck bro!
Godabeg ooo see what a man of 40 is saying? So you finally married a slave not a wife? What you call soulmate is a woman you will tell to sit down and she will sit down? So apparently she doesn't have a say? You succeeded in marrying a slave and you are happy, nice one!!
Do you even read all before quoting me saying I can't even feed myself..smh..if food is my problem I don't have problem..please before you comment on someone post read through.
Don't mind that werey I was reading his reply to your post and I was trying to understand where's he's coming from. Some people lack comprehension shaa.
Ohraykon:
Go and sleep capitalism tool and slave you will learn the hard way soon. Keep on fooling yourself with rubbish education from people who hate you. you dont even know your true history. shame on you, the ancestors are disappointed. like i said earlier your chimamanda, i will finish her at any where she wants for a debate about feminism.
You are yet to have any tangible debate or even win an argument concerning feminism with me, yet in your wildest dream you think you will be able to seat and win a debate with chimammanda? DELUSIONAL!!!
Face the problems affecting women in all institutions and stop hating on men, you might even be a lesbian because most of you are. Modern day african women are just annoying.
This is where you lack comprehension, I have told you before educate yourself on that topic, if chimamanda hates men she won't get married, feminism does not hate on men but preach women's rights. have sense you say no, instead you prefer arguing ignorantly. The lord is your strength!!
Freshtruth:
WAHALA 😳🇳🇬
TIMAYA~~ I stop dating Nigerian women since 2014 they’re the worše set of women I have ever dated in my life all the thing about is money, the don’t think about you but making a family or raising kids together they’re problem is all about you spending money on them, my advice to any young man out there is that while hustling forget about dating a Nigerian woman if you want to make it in life, I the was a time I almost went dêprêsséd because of the woman I was dating I never had rest because I needed to give her money always, I prefer to date a Cameroonian woman because the bring ideas to the table for you both to make money and how you guys can start up a family but in Nigeria the case is different.
Prettygirl200(f): 3:42pm On Feb 28
cant u understand simple sentence 
