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HelipsTech:
You fit da wait to make good money before you marry, and still fit no make the money till you old oo.

Then you loose on both side.
When, Your children is suppose to be growing, you are busy looking for money and T-pain keeps stashing all the money, reason you always see a man of above 50years having a 4year old as his first child.

Better plan your life

Very common more than you could imagine. One man I knew literally said that as his life story. He said that he worked hard and waited long enough to make it before starting a family. He started a family very late and still, no enough money at the end of the day. He said he wouldn't have wasted time starting a family if he knew that he would still turn out like that for him.

Afolue:
this is a beautiful one. I have been reading through but this just seem to boost one’s moral. Nice!
To be candid, males are really facing economic challenges, those who have overcome don’t know what their creator has don for them.

I know it is not easy out there for many ladies not to talk of guys. Things are hard, like very hard for many people most especially unemployed and underemployed graduates who are still running against time. This is why I can't stop investing because economy is getting harder everyday with this man's economic policies

seguno2:


Private primary and secondary schools?
What is the local and state governments doing with all the money they make from the public and the allocation from the federal government?

To be honest, government schools are useless in Kaduna state.

Afolue:
being submissive is all that is required of a woman in a matrimonial home. Okrika get quality. For example every lady has her class of man that she will regard as masculine to her same as a guy. No man will marry who he can’t control or to say who can’t listen to him in regards as being the head factor in a home.

If your man can’t tell you to sit down and not to leave there, then you must check yourself before you become a wife. That alone es a lot of messages to who you are.

Your ideology is with those kind of couples who share bills in the home equally. I agree. It’s understandable. But mind you, there will always be problems. A man must take care of his responsibilities to a large extent. He should marry a woman of his class and contented

Men dey! Not all men are insecure, there are men who won’t tell a woman to "sit down there or don't leave there" for no reason. Stop deluding yourself; some men treat women with kindness and respect and are not controlling in any way.

I even have a brother who is very responsible. He has dated difficult women, but that did not compromise his values. He often questions why men cheat and why they mistreat women. Men who are wicked or irresponsible only make excuses for their behaviour.

Women need to strive to connect with the right men. As I grew older, I realized that one can work on attracting the right type of people, so I focused on building connections with those who align with my values.

Currently, I surround myself with responsible people; my temperament doesn’t even allow me to engage with problematic people. I can’t having a heated or violent argument with anyone. When someone starts to cause me issues, I simply detach myself from them. Peace of mind is essential for mental health.

Prettygirl200:
I understood perfectly well, he married a slave hence unmarried men in their 40s are big red flag.

All you have is theoretical knowledge for now. Keep coming up and make your mistakes..... to seek counsel because from your response you're still very young

Prettygirl200:
Exactly just as the right woman will give you the respect that you deserved, that's to tell you that respect or submission should be earned not forced.

Don't mind him, men dey! Women just need to connect with the right men. As I grew older, I realized that one can work on attracting the right type of people, so I focused on building connections with those who align with my values. Peace of mind is essential for mental health.

Merry100:

Men dey! Not all men are insecure, there are men who won’t tell a woman to "sit down there or don't leave there" for no reason. Stop deluding yourself; some men treat women with kindness and respect and are not controlling in any way.

I even have a brother who is very responsible. He has dated difficult women, but that did not compromise his values. He often questions why men cheat and why they mistreat women. Men who are wicked or irresponsible only make excuses for their behaviour.

Women need to strive to connect with the right men. As I grew older, I realized that one can work on attracting the right type of people, so I focused on building connections with those who align with my values.

Currently, I surround myself with responsible people; my temperament doesn’t even allow me to engage with problematic people. I can’t having a heated or violent argument with anyone. When someone starts to cause me issues, I simply detach myself from them. Peace of mind is essential for mental health.

one shouldn’t see that as control. It make no sense for a man to control are woman in a senseless way. Now, what’s wrong when your wife wants to attend a party or an outing, then, you as the Husband is not in , can’t he tell her not to go anywhere and she obeys?. Avoid analyzing point in a weak sense. A man is the head, after a woman leaving her father, her husband is the next. Even if she wants to go see her father, the husband has the right to tell her not to go and she must obey. With all cited examples, Is it not same as sit down !Am not saying any man must do that. But all husband’s power is up to that level over their wives. You shouldn’t boss your wife because you want her to know you are the boss. If she doesn’t know these, then she isn’t fit. Not responsible for a marital home. Weak men cheat themselves out of ignorance. A man must be responsible, yes. By all standards. So as to maintain his reputation for who he is!

Prettygirl200:
Submission shouldn't be forced but should be earned, only a slave should submit to a master not a wife, she's is your partner this is just a way to show that y'all don't view women as humans. When you act right and respect your wife, submission will come naturally. Know this and have peace!!

Bla blaaaaaaaaaa....don't collect bride price then

Merry100:

Why are sugarcoating his words? Does it even make sense to control a fully grown adult to sit, stand, run, come, go, lie down, or sleep? She be Bingo?

The guy could have simply said that marry a woman who is understanding and respectful. What does he mean by "a soulmate that you will tell to sit on the ground, and she will"?

Sorry to say, he is one of the worst types of men to marry. Not only do they try to control their partners, but they also try to dictate their partners' existence.

Women are generally understanding. You can explain to a woman how you want things to be, and she will often agree with you, even if she isn’t entirely convinced. But what is the purpose of a man asking a woman to sit on the ground if it is not just to degrade and disrespect her? Only insecure men would even make such a demand, and only a woman with her own insecurities would be willing to accept such an absurd behaviour.

Rubbish

Afolue:
one shouldn’t see that as control. It make no sense for a man to control are woman in a senseless way. Now, what’s wrong when your wife wants to attend a party or an outing, then, you as the Husband is not in , can’t he tell her not to go anywhere and she obeys?. Avoid analyzing point in a weak sense. A man is the head, after a woman leaving her father, her husband is the next. Even if she wants to go see her father, the husband has the right to tell her not to go and she must obey. With all cited examples, Is it not same as sit down !Am not saying any man must do that. But all husband’s power is up to that level over their wives. You shouldn’t boss your wife because you want her to know you are the boss. If she doesn’t know these, then she isn’t fit. Not responsible for a marital home. Weak men cheat themselves out of ignorance. A man must be responsible, yes. By all standards. So as to maintain his reputation for who he is!

🤣And she must obey. I am the head, you are the tail. You dare not go to your father's house because I have commanded you not to go there.

I just don't understand some men. The traditional mindset is deeply ingrained in them, and they expect every man to follow this perception.

A guy doesn't need to marry a woman he can control like a toddler. If a man is responsible and marries a woman who is also responsible, respect will flow naturally. Responsible people know how to handle situations maturely; they don't play power games.

luminouz:

Bla blaaaaaaaaaa....don't collect bride price then

Bride price does not give a man the right to control, degrade or disrespect a woman

Not all men even pay high amounts as bride price, and some families rejects bride price. My father paid my mother's bride price during their engagement, but my grandpa returned it back to him and said, "my daughter is not for sale."

ultimateprof:
To be honest, government schools are useless in Kaduna state.

Even after 10 years of progressive APC government

maasoap:


Very common more than you could imagine. One man I knew literally said that as his life story. He said that he worked hard and waited long enough to make it before starting a family. He started a family very late and still, no enough money at the end of the day. He said he wouldn't have wasted time starting a family if he knew that he would still turn out like that for him.

Sad reality.

Some persons don't know that marrying a good woman can actually bring luck, even if we can't live our lives with luck.
But a woman who is ive would ease the pressures of marriage

Prettygirl200:
Using insults to point out your views on what I just said just shows how unlogical you are. Women these days have the potentials and ability to make money more than men, just that y'all are easily intimidated when a woman is more successful than y'all.

It seems your prefrontal cortex wasn't developed fully for you to assert that i insulted you when i onky asserted my opinion while trying to punch your beliefs which are inconsistent to different scenarios but only scenario that will favour your selfish ideology.

Point out the insult in my comment that you quoted, you just highlighted words that has nothing to do with insult. Respond to the issues raised and stop perambulating.

Merry100:

Bride price does not give a man the right to control, degrade or disrespect a woman

Not all men even pay high amounts as bride price, and some families rejects bride price. My father paid my mother's bride price during their engagement, but my grandpa returned it back to him and said, "my daughter is not for sale."

Superstory.

Merry100:

🤣And she must obey. I am the head, you are the tail. You dare not go to your father's house because I have commanded you not to go there.

I just don't understand some men. The traditional mindset is deeply ingrained in them, and they expect every man to follow this perception.

A guy doesn't need to marry a woman he can control like a toddler. If a man is responsible and marries a woman who is also responsible, respect will flow naturally. Responsible people know how to handle situations maturely; they don't play power games.

Please go away with your mindset abeg. If you think our culture is archaic, then don't marry or marry a simp. You lots are the ones looking for rich, handsome, six packs and all that jazz but he can't demand submission from you? A man will pay bride price and bridal list nonsense for damaged women and he still won't even get submission in his own home?

Nah why men dey make una babymama na

luminouz:


Please go away with your mindset abeg. If you think our culture is archaic, then don't marry or marry a simp. You lots are the ones looking for rich, handsome, six packs and all that jazz but he can't demand submission from you? A man will pay bride price and bridal list nonsense for damaged women and he still won't even get submission in his own home?

Nah why men dey make una babymama na

🤣🤣🤣Which one is then don't marry, na only your kind of men exist? Mr Man comot for here jor, men dey.

Man's hustle is so much. Atleast by 49, a hard-working man suppose to have a good bank for settling down and starting a family. Why the rush? Atleast by 75, most of your kids must have reach 20. If you die, your wife will take over from where you stop!

maasoap:


You get married at close to 49, don't even bother about having kids anymore. I meant, what is the difference between 49 that you approved of and 50 that you considered late? 40 is late but still okay. At 50 upwards, you can still marry but don't even think about having kids again

Love800:
Man's hustle is so much. Atleast by 49, a hard-working man suppose to have a good bank for settling down and starting a family. Why the rush? Atleast by 75, most of your kids must have reach 20. If you die, your wife will take over from where you stop!

The age gap is just too wide. Imagine your first born getting ission at the age of 20 and you as a dad can't attend because you're either too old or too weak health wise

It doesn't matter. The main thing is, your children are already adult before old age will kill you finally. And having money to train and supply to their needs is another important thing too.

maasoap:


The age gap is just too wide. Imagine your first born getting ission at the age of 20 and you as a dad can't attend because you're either too old or too weak health wise

Love800:
It doesn't matter. The main thing is, your children are already adult before old age will kill you finally. And having money to train and supply to their needs is another important thing too.

It does, it definitely does. Even the psychological effects on your kids won't be a joke.

Yea, you are correct. Lemme just say i will learn to live with the sad emotions. My wish is to see dat i care for my child with almost all the homely goods(materials) that he wants. I hopes he(my child) becomes a better person with my short(duration) stay with dem on earth!

maasoap:


It does, it definitely does. Even the psychological effects on your kids won't be a joke.

WantsandMore:
That’s a stupid thing to say

Yea. Its stupid because i'm talking about Jesus abi?

But if its about someone else its not stupid.

No wonder they told you Jesus is a white man with long hair and blue eyes and you believed them.


Stop being a slave to the white man. Emancipate yourself today.

Uchesis:


Yea. Its stupid because i'm talking about Jesus abi?

But if its about someone else its not stupid.

No wonder they told you Jesus is a white man with long hair and blue eyes and you believed them.


Stop being a slave to the white man. Emancipate yourself today.

That’s not it at all. Jesus is the son of God. You on the other hand is the son of man!

WantsandMore:
That’s not it at all. Jesus is the son of God. You on the other hand is the son of man!

If Jesus is the son of God, then who is his mother?

Or did God mould him like Adam


Ladt time i checked, God doesn't even have a wife

Merry100:

🤣And she must obey. I am the head, you are the tail. You dare not go to your father's house because I have commanded you not to go there.

I just don't understand some men. The traditional mindset is deeply ingrained in them, and they expect every man to follow this perception.

A guy doesn't need to marry a woman he can control like a toddler. If a man is responsible and marries a woman who is also responsible, respect will flow naturally. Responsible people know how to handle situations maturely; they don't play power games.

contradicting all I have said, you simply an activist for “Broken Homes”!

Don’t let anybody put pressure on your neck, forever is not a day journey.
Once you’re doing well and have a job, people automatically assume the next thing is marriage which’s not suppose to be like that I have my whole life to plan for before marriage 🤷‍♀️ calm down to find the right person to love and worth the love.
Forever is too long not to be happy.
If they call you to talk about marriage when you’re not ready drop the call.

Love800:
Yea, you are correct. Lemme just say i will learn to live with the sad emotions. My wish is to see dat i care for my child with almost all the homely goods(materials) that he wants. I hopes he(my child) becomes a better person with my short(duration) stay with dem on earth!

As long as you achieve that aim, no problem. Because it would be a sad thing if one decides to work and make enough money first, to wait very late before having kids but at the of the end day, he fails to make that money as we have seen before. That would be a double loss

You wrote well.
Actually, it is also advised that you should not wait till the last day when you have achieved alot, before you dive into marriage life, because it going to take a long time to gather massive wealth, which leaves you with old age!

Along the line or during the process of working, if you sense that the little you have is enough to start a family with managing and disciplined lifestyle before you reach your zenith(good amount of money), you can go ahead with marriage!

maasoap:


As long as you achieve that aim, no problem. Because it would be a sad thing if one decides to work and make enough money first, to wait very late before having kids but at the of the end day, he fails to make that money as we have seen before. That would be a double loss

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verminnel:
Who you marry is more important than when you marry , as who you marry can determine your life's progression or retrogression.

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Lol

9JAFULLBREED:
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