NewStats: 3,261,344 , 8,173,728 topics. Date: Wednesday, 28 May 2025 at 09:33 PM 2xb54

Spaghetti mixed with spinach and fish. ‘Pomo’ added.

triplechoice:
I'm afraid your thinking is very faulty. It's filled with too many assumptions about men.

In the real world, not Nairaland where you have been educated wrongly, both men and women in this part of the world are involved in the "busi body business" of condemning young girls whom they see as inappropriately dressed.
And the major reason they do so is religious indoctrination coming from the pulpit and not because they fear the loss of "pristine vaginas" to marry.

If you insist men only do so because of what you imagined, then what of the women, especially Nigerian mothers who also do the same?

Is it because they are obsessed with marrying pristine vaginas or sleeping with them? Answer me.

It's not only men. Women are also guilty of the same.

There are some women who erroneously believe young ladies dress that way to seduce their husbands or snatch their boyfriends. You can't tell me you haven't come across such women.

One thing you didn't include up there in your argument is that there are some men and women who believe demons are influencing young ladies to dress the way their religion regard as immodest.
The word, paedophile doesn't describe men only. There are paedophiles amongst women. Those ones also go about molesting children sexually without anyone suspecting because it's assumed that only men are paedophiles.

However, you correct to condemn those who read "dark meanings" into dressings.

For me , I believe those teenagers are just following the latest fashion trends which makes them feel good about themselves. Those with "dark" reasons are either perverted minds or religious fanatics.


Hehehe. I hope you're not a man hater. Too "many men" every where in your comments.

Many women are also involved in the same kind of behaviour you're condemning "many men " for.

Women are the ones who even take it to the extreme in Nigeria. You can easily confirm this yourself by dressing scantily and go shopping in any of the local markets around you, and experienced first hand the reaction of your fellow women to your dressing. You won't be able to stand it . Some bold ones would even offer to cover you with their headgear or anything else as you move around the markets.

Recently a young lady who visited a local market in Nigeria, described how she was harassed and embarrassed by women there who forced additional clothing on her because they thought she wasn't properly dressed. The story was on the front page of this Forum. You can Google it to confirm.

It wasn't men that did that to her but women

.And that wasn't just an Isolated incident. It happens all the time in our local markets and any where else women are gathered. If they are not making attempts to cover you with something, they are eying you with disdain.

So , what are you taking about?

My post didn’t cover all reasons and was directed at men whereas women are involved - its good that you pointed that out.

Personally I don’t feel that my opinions on men are wrong though. You are right about the women and the variety of reasons, but I’m also not wrong.

I think men only care because they fear the loss of pristine virgin vaginas, the scarcity of pure brides for marriage. You know, because they only see women as a commodity to be preserved until needed - not a human being with a sense of style and a beautiful being that just wants to try out so many ways of looking good, enjoying fashion trends until they outgrow them.

On the other hand some men promote this kind of thinking, because they need it as an excuse to prey on little girls. Many of these kids just feel cool, they just feel like they’re having adventures and following fashion, but it’s the men crying about it that make all they are doing to be dirty. By the time some of these kids get lied to and taken advantage of sexually, they will face a world that tells them what they never knew - that they were mistreated due to the fact that some sex oriented, sex obsessed people believe that the only reason for that dressing is to seduce them. Some men think you came to this world only for them, if you are dressing with skin showing, it must be to catch their eyes.

Funny enough, I have nothing against covering up, I even think it protects the body more and protects kids from pedophiles, but these pedophiles exist amongst people who focus unnecessarily on the bodies of strangers, getting aroused and therefore reading sexual and dark meanings into their dressings which match the pedophiles’ obscene fantasies and triggers.

Imagine many men here saying that these kids are all having sex and doing hookup… kids that watched cool kid shows and just felt like dressing like those they watched…

Men involved themselves in a dirty lifestyle that doesn’t allow them to think straight. Now you men that immersed yourselves into a dirty lifestyle that gave you a dirty mindset will go and inflict these young kids with suffering based on that.

The assumption made on these clothes is a suffering inflicted on children by those with dirty minds and lifestyles. The girls have to hide themselves because of men who chose to corrupt themselves and now won’t let little girls and women live in peace.

chidiokay:



I missed primary 6 tho, but i dont know of any africa country that colonize the other in history

Asking you to be a woman stay a woman is not a call for slavery

Adam was lonely, naa why God to bring woman into the picture.

what if Adam was not lonely, just imagine

What were your examples of how to be a woman and stay a woman, again?

You mentioned that we should not misbehave where we are squatting. Made references to Churchill getting another woman so fast (to me that seems like I’m being reminded that I’m easily replaceable, not valuable and should behave, having that in mind.

And now - Adam was lonely. Hinting that we women are only here because of men.

I think making someone’s existence worthless, and only to be worthy when they completely live for someone else’s pleasure alone, is slavery.

Btw I don’t know about your primary six. There are other ways blacks have enslaved other blacks, which don’t include colonialism.

chidiokay:


trust me i am not close to white not to talk of " master" .. staying on your lane on the road does not mean your car cant move at speed

do whips still exist i can use slippers

Slavery exists from white to black

From black to black

From light skin to dark skin and vice versa

From men to women

And from women to men

So don’t give me no talk about not being white.

Especially with how you want to claim it’s a mens world like women were born to be slaves to them.

chidiokay:


does it matter what you love, flip it like pancake or turn it like amala does it change our reality .. m/f are not judge from the same lens and as such we dont suffer the same consequences

how long did it take churchhill to get another sweet celeb wife.

its a man's world, hate it buh behave yle you are squatting

Okay ‘massa’. We be good an’ docile. Juss don beat us with the whip, massa.

pocohantas:
Forgive her, Sir.
It is you she loves.
After all she came back home to you.
That should tell you a lot.

Don't allow the devil break your home.

😂

I love your cutting sarcasm. Like flipping the script. The thing they tell women to do when it’s them that got cheated on. And this went right over many dudes heads.

Shidinky:
Less simps
In the next 10 years hopefully you will start paying groom price at this rate.

Here’s your crown 👑 and your glass slippers 🥿

Princess Cinderella.

Kaczynski:




start by learning mandarin and become a translator for those Chinese men in nigeria


Korea is too racist, outside of Seoul expect racism

How about those learning Japanese?

My own is to no longer tell people my age but give my birth date for them to calculate.

I’d rather ask a question than answer yours. Why are you ‘age watchers’ so fixated on people’s real ages, looking for liars all about, why are you so suspicious of everybody?

It’s just so annoying for those of us that don’t lie about our ages. You never accept the truth even when told.

adecz:






Great 👍

But how come you didn't share??

I didn’t think of sharing o, just ate and enjoyed 😄 fair to say I forgot.

adecz:





What would go down with this?

Your post made me cook plenty fresh okra soup and stew, with eba.

People don’t understand and may never understand that power is transient. I will find it hard to believe in the authenticity of any old persons humility, because my life experience includes mostly people that stick to certain groups and have a lot of pride mocking others as much as they can just because they have it all now.

It’s a male controlled world.

The men want you to go round naked while you’re young, not yet a mom and single, not belonging to any of them. You think you are able to do as you wish because of your own strength but the only reason you were not cowed into submission is because they like it. Get the reports from most of the older women and married women. Society is a bully.

You think women want to really evolve into wearing those old wrappers and bogus gowns, old lady hairdos and what not? No, they suddenly got older, got hitched and had kids and then everywhere they went, If they tried to dress like they did when they were single, young boys and men would harass them, people would berate them etc.

Men believe your life is for them. You’re not available or attractive to them anymore (according to the ridiculous rules they made by age or birthing) so your right to wear certain things has been revoked. Should you choose to wear those things still, the men will make it very hard for you…along with the many, many pick me women we have in society…like those ones that look at you with disgust when you buy food in a restaurant because they believe you should have cooked (as a woman born to live and die in the kitchen without enjoying being served, that you are).

They control this show still, the men, through harassment and traditional rules. A woman feeling good is only valid to them if the woman is pleasing to them, that is young, not a mother, not married. The rest of us are forced, a lot of us against our will, to be musty old women. If you think many of us really want to stay out of the spotlight and not dress up, you’re not seeing deep. The male centered society forces it on us.

Wanna continue being a babe? Gotta be a fighter, gotta be brave.

Good luck.

Boiled sweet potatoes, eggs and stew.

When you get pregnant, you will ‘see yourself’ along with childbirth, along with the first few months of taking care of a newborn.

It is then you will understand the need for kindness, tolerance and understanding in this life.

For some reason they had to describe the suspect as a divorcee, first and foremost. 😂 She couldn’t just be a woman? The effort to demonize divorcees is very pitiful and obvious here. She is entangled in a crime not yet confirmed, but the fact that she divorced is the center piece.

Abegiii….

DMCY:
Lent someone 100k since last year February. People around kept telling me not to lend the money to the person but the crying and gnashing of the person’s teeth made me feel they really needed it. Omo! Till now shishi I never see, instead na fight dem deh follow me fight for adugbo.
I don leave and forget even tho I dey pained.

Same story but I chop insult on top. The person is super bold, no remorse.

I thought of this today, doing good will not make you anybody's friend.

Please men should stand up and get laws in their favor if they feel they are being sidelined. Rather than put up complaints anytime they notice something being done for women.

This is a very good move.

Iretii0511:


They said the woman is his mother. I hope she’s not the one that molested the child to this point so much so that he didn’t think it was wrong to do that to her anywhere.

News we aren’t sure of.

Mother or not though, he needs so much therapy, rehabilitation and help from professionals in the field of psychology.

If this is real then some one or some people really abused this child sexually to the point he has become like this. Not only do they need to investigate and find out the culprits, but the child needs serious rehabilitation and therapy, rehabilitation.

Sad the woman had to experience that. But I haven’t seen a situation where a woman can press charges against a child for harassment.

Firebox123:
if na woman beat man nko it's not unfair abi

You already know it’s unfair. Still, this crime was probably committed because the man knew he had more physical strength. He took advantage of his strength as a man.

They must do something about it. It’s very unfair.

I wish I could have therapy. Too bad people want to discourage and ruin the business.

I agree with you.

motymop:
I believe her.

Many Nigerian men want to sleep with anything.

The amazing stuff about this is that, the man left the financial side where he could make money and was thinking about sex.

I found a way, to really destroy a Nigerian man, just get a beautiful woman, they will forget about business deals they are suppose to do. Disgraceful

Especially the bi racial and light skinned beautiful women. Them no dey use eyes see that one.

AGManuel:
I've taken my time to go through all the comments and I really want to say I appreciate everyone who took time out of their busy schedules to talk to me like a brother.

The married men, those in relationships and the singles, your advises all meant a lot to me.

I learnt alot and I realised so many things I never knew.

Thank you all so much , I have been equipped with knowledge and the experiences you all shared and I really appreciate.

Thanks family.

Is like I go marry the girl, na better woman.
Is like na ashawo de my eyes true true

Please marry your spec and let her go. I don’t want that girl to suffer.

But when that girl came out and said her man must have 500k in his before marrying her, you guys cursed her and were filled with anger. Because truth is bitter.

cr7lomo:


Did u even understand my statement?? Who is talking about virgins eating a man's money?? I really don't understand the sort of brain u women have

This is your post.

cr7lomo:


Just like u women will wanna drain a man's and when he has no more cos he's been drained out, u women dump him...so who are u leaving him for to marry?? So u see, it goes both ways ... its left for the man to protect his funds while the woman protects her body ...

[quote author=cr7lomo post=134860446].

You are claiming the explanation above as an equal reason why men do what they do to virgins. If you were not referring to virgins, how does this come in as defense for your gender deceiving and defiling them in the first place?

Okay, put my first paragraph aside, how does the use of a man’s money equate the taking of a woman’s virginity? Is a woman’s virginity refundable? Though money is hard to make, it can be remade. Virginity cannot be remade. Let’s not compare the two please.

Women almost always protect them selves, their virtue. Men are the adventurous ones who are not going to rest until they can say they’ve slept with A, B and C. That is where your virginity scarcity problem arises from.

Adexgentle005:
Lol are you really a female ? I doubt it.

What makes you doubt?

cr7lomo:


Just like u women will wanna drain a man's and when he has no more cos he's been drained out, u women dump him...so who are u leaving him for to marry?? So u see, it goes both ways ... its left for the man to protect his funds while the woman protects her body ...

Even when the virgins are not looking for funds, men assume they are, just to justify going after their pussy. Even when virgins weren’t looking for funds, they are deceived with sweet lies. A lot of them only wanted to be courted and married properly but they were deceived and lost their virtue.

A family will send their girl to university after toiling and training and tell her to keep her honor. She will agree only to meet a barrage of guys that will keep trying until one of them breaks it. So for all the other girls.

Only one or two girls will escape and leave university chaste. And that is because they were seriously hiding themselves while the many year hunt at school was ruthlessly occurring.

Control your dees and stop talking to women who if left alone and not deceived will remain chaste.