NewStats: 3,261,693 , 8,174,811 topics. Date: Friday, 30 May 2025 at 07:43 AM 4z2w44

Toymax88:
➜The 32k is for the enrollment of 2 children in public schools. The 3rd child is 7 months old. I sent 50 exercise books, textbooks, 2 mathematical sets, dictionary, school bag etc I'm a teacher in one of the public secondary schools in the state

You are a teacher and you open eye marry woman wey no get heads-or-tails, and even went ahead and had 3 kids with her? You even kicked her out of the house with all 3 children, expecting what to happen, abeg?

fmlala:





Seems you don't understand how marriages work, the man would have tried effortlessly, all possible means to bring the woman to the right path which eventually did not work. During these periods, the man would not have need to abandon his conjugal responsibilities.

I enrolled her in a computer center but she complained about the starting of the generator after 3 months, I asked her to learn hairdressing but she told me it's NOT in line with SUNNAH of prophet Muhammad, I had wanted to set-up a UNISEX SALON because I'm a barber, teacher, an examiner

Toymax88:
➜I'm a civil servant; I teach Biology in one of the public secondary schools in the state. I have a side hustle too. I'm also an examiner (WAEC and NECO)

Are you for real? I do hope you are not already thinking of marrying another wife with all your current kids living as ogorogoro sales reps with your mother-in-law? 😩😩😩😩😩

Firebox123:
I'm not married

ok,

Oyindidi:
you stayed together

i stay at Egbin ijede ikorodu

dalass:


You didn't think of that before sending the children packing with your wife.

Mumu man, you waited till she dropped 3 kids and you came here to tell us you wanted to be sending money for public school education. Why can't you take them to the public school yourself and them? You can not at least rent a separate apartment for your childrens sake instead of staying with an ogogoro seller Dey watch as your children become touts and ogogoro guzzlers

I put them in public schools here and I always tutor them for 1 and half hour everyday. I'm a biology teacher and a postgraduate student in university of ILORIN

Firebox123:
i stay at Egbin ijede ikorodu

sorry I thought you're the op

Toymax88:
➜I enrolled her in a computer center but she complained about the starting of the generator after 3 months, I asked her to learn hairdressing but she told it's in line with SUNNAH of prophet Muhammad, I had wanted to set-up a UNISEX SALON because I'm a barber, teacher, an examiner

No matter how much you try, she is not to blame since you, with eyes wide open, chose her to be your wife and mother of your kids. All these, I tried to do this and that, but she... tales mean nothing really. You chose her, and so blaming her will not help your children or you.

Oyindidi:
sorry I thought you're the op

no I'm not

Kobicove:


His mother-in-law did not just start selling ogogoro, OP knew all this before he married the woman

She ventured into the business late last year. She was selling shoes at BODIJA market and I met the girl here in Ilorin, she was a student at KWARA STATE polytechnic

beejay85:

sales rep...
Very sorry for your plight and the challenge you encountered to ensure your Children got enrolled in school..
I will want you to personally take up the enrollment of your children to a school close to where they live that you can afford.
And checkup on their feeding and ensure you get value for any upkeep funds you send if you don't want ur children to suffer from what they know nothing about

Thanks

spartachico:
Na u wan spoil your children life ... Will it kill u to raise your kids by yourself if ur wife is not cooperating with you ... Omo you better carry those children and body and raise your offsprings... If na to pay ur own mama salary to look after them while you are away to work go and do it

My mother is late and I'm the first child.

They are not even ready to release them, I was not allowed to c them when I visited on 18/4/2025 (good Friday)

Firebox123:
no I'm not

You replied my post like it's your kids that are selling ogogoro

Berankis:
Your story is not balanced. Else, you won't be begging to take your own children. May be you did somethings wrong initially. Your way forward is also not specific, you sound like a man with financial constraints or you are a confused person.
What do you really want? To take your children back and live with them or have your wife or mother-in-law take care of them?
From your narrations, both wife and mother-in-law can't take care of them children, they are most likely not educated themselves.

My family have been calling the MIL but she always ignore the calls, sometimes she would pick the call without saying anything, always wasting their airtime

deltateam:


Despite your spending are you saying your wife doesn't make her own contributions except squandering the money?

You sell your car and give her the money and she can't for how she spent it?

Whatever the case may be, any man that has the heart to sell his car and give the proceeds to his wife is not only a responsible, considerate man but a thoughtful man.
It was after his efforts at setting his wife up failed that he had to rely on his own efforts which isn't enough.

He was just unlucky in marriage.

Thanks so much sir.


Pls, read my other comments. I was not allowed to modify the post

Oyindidi:
You replied my post like it's your kids that are selling ogogoro

i reject in jesus name

joezyni:
Op, I took a look at the miserly items you sent your wife and kids out with, 5 kg of rice and #30,000, will that money be enough for their transport or upkeep ?

How long will the 5kg rice feed them, you are not financially stable to run a divided home, if you can forgive your wife, bring your family back and take care of them yourself !

Only 2 kids are if school age, the 3rd child is just 7 months old

nedekid:

Bros, what is the 30k for, upkeep or school fees for the 3 kids?

Public schools here in ILORIN pay #2,500 old students while new intakes pay #6000

Toymax88:
➜My family have been calling the MIL but she always ignore the calls, sometimes she would pick the call without saying anything, always wasting their airtime

Calling her for what when you, the papa of the kids, no wan go take your own children back from her? Stop with the attempts to offload your private responsibility onto the woman. They are your children, so go there and assert your right and take them back from their mother, who has proven she is not a better alternative, assuming you are ready to be a better parent to them than she has been so far.

Firebox123:
i reject in jesus name

Oga go sleep

dettolgel:


No mind the mumu he go marry IB girl with big nyash and breast. He will learn the hard way that there is more to marriage than big nyash and breast

Lol!!! She no even get yansh, the breast is PUFF PUFF SIZED

Kobojunkie:
If you really truly care for your children as you would love for us to believe there, then the sensible thing for you to do would be to take full custody of them since the woman by not putting them in school has more than shown she is not a capable parent or guardian for them. 😩😩😩😩😩

If, however, you plan to take them only to then hand them off to your mother or family to raise, then I suggest you leave them alone and simply continue to them where they are.😩😩😩😩


Poor children....caught between two adults who don't seem to know their left from their right. 😩😩😩😩

I'm waiting for the set date but the LAW stipulates 18 years

illicit:
Do you have a problem with people who sell ogogoro, that's what the woman who raised your wife sells, and now she is raising your kids...

Why are you worried?

Small sense, u and the useless Nairalanders that gave you over 100 likes no get.
Would you want your own kids or those of your siblings grow up helping grandma selling alcohol without having formal education?

Kobojunkie:
Are you for real? I do hope you are not already thinking of marrying another wife with all your current kids living as ogorogoro sales reps with your mother-in-law? 😩😩😩😩😩

Lol

For the sake of the kids, bring them to yourself and train them the way you want them to be trained.

Bahamas95:
Jobless/destructive and you still allowed her have 3children for you.. .....Are you ok at all?

And most importantly, to take them away

Firebox123:
show evidence or proof

I'm a red Marker, do u want me to show you my CLAIMS FORM? I mark biology I (practical). I started in 2014

Why do people unable to raise one child decide to birth many? My grandfather could raise five children comfortably, but his vices swore to keep him in poverty. He married three wives, had multiple concubines, gambled like he’d die the next day and slept with many men’s wives.

OP, focus on making money. You already made a mistake by birthing more than you could afford. Public school. If you were taught in one, you should’ve aimed for your children to attend the best private schools. Sha, people bearings different for this life. Many believe the most basic of things are enough for existence.

Toymax88:
➜I'm waiting for the set date but the LAW stipulates 18 years

Ugh! Why does this sound like a copout? Maybe because that is exactly what it is. 🙄🙄

You should be trying to get custody of your kids... You do not have to wait till they are 18. According to you, you are not married to her, and she is unemployed. And you also said you are a secondary school teacher. You are supposed to be the more educated entity in this union you describe, so why aren't you taking educated action in all of this? What in the world are you waiting for, assuming you really truly care for these kids and know you are better able to raise them than your wife has been able to thus far? 🙄🙄🙄

Oyindidi:
Are trying to say she destroys those items without provocation?

Honestly, she care less

Kobojunkie:
You took a person with no previous record or success, and you decided to push a business, 3 times, on this person,n expecting what, exactly? Why didn't you simply invest in and marry a woman who already had somewhere she was going?

It is easy to pretend she is to blame for it all not working out, but you are the one who chose to invest money in someone with no real business acumen here. And worse, you expected her to 3 kids while at it.

Thanks for your contributions