Gamesmart: 2:05am On Jan 15, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 11:20pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 10:07pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
Isolock:
I have 2 (boys) and wife presently carrying the 3rd, I have no issues taking care of my kids, we discussed about having a 3rd child and my wife was the one that pushed for it and i agreed, now she's pregnant. It is wonderful. God blesses his children and if we look up to Him for everything, we won't suffer.
For the singles out there, feel free to have as many or little as you want but know this... It isn't all about you...!!! You have a duty to birth and train the next generation.
What a nonsensical mentality!
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Gamesmart: 10:06pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
DDota:
It's better not to bring in babies you would not have means to cater for.
Look at your means, check your investment, calculate your steps very well and consider the economy before any decision to father a child.
Persin wey get sense!
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Gamesmart: 10:01pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 9:53pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
Free2Fly:
I've 4 cute boys and i'm capable of taking care of them
Chikel20000:
3-4 is enough for me
babajero:
4 (2 boys and 2 girls).
TheMostComplex1:
Four
2 boys & 2 girls
Olaolex:
3 ni ooo
If God wills, 4 at most
Waffarianman:
4,5 children 3kids down already. With God all things are possible
greenermodels:
3-4 kids is my ideal.
You are able to do all these for them?
Gamesmart:
It is surprising many Nigerians (especially the stuupid pastors) talk about being a married man and raising a family makes one "mature" and "responsible".
In sensible reality, a responsible man (or woman) should only bring a child into the world if this man has reasonably secured a means and long-term path for taking care of the child to at least a socially competitive level. Being responsible is not just by procreating. Wild beasts can do it too.
What is socially competitive?
Socially competitive is when one can reasonably compete in his or her world to be able to live at least an average middle-class life with no-to-minimal suffering.
So, for every child a responsible person creates, he or she must have secured a means and long-term path for taking care of the child to live a good life.
What does it cost to almost ensure that a child in Nigeria today grows up to be prepared for the world of the future, be competitive and live a good life?
The parents have to be able to provide the following:
- A nice and secure roof over their heads. There should be no need to worry too much about insecurity and they should be able to mix with decent humans that have prospects from a young age. So, if you live in Lagos, you should ideally be living in neighbourhoods like Surulere, Festac Town, Yaba, Ajah or neighbourhoods above these standards.
- You should be able to send them to schools that would prepare them well for the future. Now, public schools in Nigeria are nothing to write home about, so you are looking at decent private schools like St. Gregory’s College, Wellspring College, Lifeforte etc. that cost like 1.0m to 2.5m per child per annum to ensure they are well-equipped for the next stages of their lives and not be another LeonSaab.
- While at these schools, you will have to equip them with decent amount of electricity, laptops and access to internet.
- When they finish there, you want to send them to, at least, Top Nigerian public universities like UI, OAU, Unilag, UNN, ABU, Unilorin etc. or top private ones like Covenant, ABUAD, Pan-Atlantic, Babcock, Bowen etc. If you are sending them to a public university, you should be ready to pay good money for off-campus accommodation so they don't live in the pigsty hostels not fit for human habitation. These places would cost you about N700K to N2.5m per annum per child. You might also need to upgrade their gadgets by this time as those would be outdated.
- When they finish from Nigerian universities, most likely, it would make sense for them to go abroad for their masters. Preferably in UK, USA or Canada; but, at worst, in Ireland, South Africa, Cyprus, Turkey etc. These places would be costing you in the range of 12m+ per child for a one year masters.
- This is apart from the decent balanced diet meals to feed them daily and solidify their brain functions. And, if you want to be even better, at least take them on two overseas trips before they are 18 to make them both more exposed and be confident in society.
These are what it takes to build and almost guarantee a child in Nigeria today good prospects/chance of being competitive and not suffering in life in future.
Are you telling us that you have the secured a means and long-term path to deliver these to all your 4 children?
Worse still, I don't know the age gaps of your kids, but have you secured a means and long-term path to deliver these to all 4 children if they are all in secondary school or university at the same time?
Or how close to these standards can you provide for your 4 kids?
I am talking about reality on ground o, not delusional hopes and dependence on God's miracle/divine intervention/prayers?
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Gamesmart: 9:42pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
onuman:
Don't say that to northern Nigerians.
Breeding children in mass is means for them to get more states and local government areas from Nigeria for bigger shares in oil revenues.
Worse, Nigerians, especially those from the south, don't understand that population or land mass is not considered when creating states in a country formed by different regions. That's how northern military dictators sewed states and local government areas like seeds in the northern region but left fewer states and local government areas for the two southern regions.
Nigeria's North have more population than the South.
Nigeria's North's land mass is twice that of the South.
So why should the North not have more local government areas and states?
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Gamesmart: 9:24pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
marsman:
I said it then and I will say it again. You are not smart or Intelligent; at best, what you have is a good eyes for typographical errors.
This is enough playing around. I proved my points.
Turanci Haram student, I have humiliated you like the idiiooot you are.
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Gamesmart: 9:16pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
akaahs:
U just described a typical African parents.
Just imagine my rebuked me when i ever i said I'm not gonna two children, telling me God has been the one feeding and taking care of us all these while.
Just crazy!
And the useless religious dead-brain people would be the one saying being married and having children is the measure of being "responsible".
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Gamesmart: 9:15pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
sammiewrite:
I understand how you feel and I hope 2024 will be better for you financially. I too have been in a similar situation since 2020 even though my parents are still alive. Very little savings, no investment, very little spending on myself. The painful part is that, given another opportunity, our parents will still make the same mistake, as most of them don't even regret their actions to begin with, as they are always excusing it away with some religious shits like "kids are a blessing from God," "a child brings what (s)he will eat from heaven," or that "God said we should be fruitful and multiply." And this is not even the most painful or shocking.
I have engaged a parent who has three sickle cell kids. First, I wanted to know if she wasn't aware of genotype. Next, I tried to know if she wasn't aware that her first child was a warrior, and why she didn't stop. It turns out she was aware of the genotype mismatch and was also aware her first daughter carries the disease. The only reason she gave for her decision is her strong believe in her God and her believe in miracles. She even told me a concorted story of a man whose genotype changed from SS to AA after an encounter with one of their god of men.
Enough is not said of the damage religion has done but any attempt to raise this discussion is often met with attacks from those who are profiting from it. Religion has taking away the ability of grown adults to think logically/disionately and take responsibility for their actions. So far I have not met anybody with plan for a huge family whose decision is not informed by/hinged on religion. And this is not as if these folks are even financially capable to begin with.
My freaking bleeping GOD!
WTF?
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Gamesmart: 9:12pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
akaahs:
All those thinking of having more than 2 children, should tomorrow u won't be alive and what ll happen to those children?
We 7 in number, i always warning my mom after the 5th born to stop giving birth as the current situation in Nigeria isn't going to improve but ll get worst.
After the 7th child, we lost our dad. In 2017 she lost her teaching job and at that time, I'm the only graduate. From that moment till now, I'm the one shouldering the responsibility of my siblings. 4 of them are currently in the university. u can imagine how some parents can be wicked and insensitive.
Una dey see?
maasoap.
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Gamesmart: 8:22pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
Unreasonable meets unreasonable!
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Gamesmart: 8:16pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
Lovely
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Gamesmart: 8:03pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 7:42pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 7:21pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
marsman:
I will not even lie you played your game well.
Attacking a point I really don't give much attention to, given the fact that it's not official and many overlook it here.
I have been thinking of taking a long brake from here, I believe this is some kind of a sign from the Universe to adhere to my thoughts.
That is what you get when someone is smarter than you and you make a mistake to attack the person and his intellect.
I knew how to handle you and what to do to you because I knew your game was to evade my questions. So I devised my own game that would still humiliate you and expose the intellectual gap.
Now, have some fucking respect. Do you want to talk something sensible?
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Gamesmart: 7:15pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
GanagiBitrus:
True Federalism with greater devolution of powers to the States & resources control by states will make every State to look inwards & aim to be self sufficient.
You'll be surprised by the progress made by each State after 10years.
What resources should be controlled by states?
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Gamesmart: 7:08pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 7:07pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
marsman:
Alright alright. However, lets analyse how I used the sentence perfectly, there isn't any error to that. There is nothing like using a future tense to describe a present status because it was a continuous sentence. It covers the present and the future.
I still want to know how I used a future sentence to describe a present status. Or you only know how to spot wrong spellings and omitted words?
Now attempt that. Spotting wrong spellings and omissions is not everything. Let us view your technical analysis side.
No, lets analyse how intelligent you are. https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/7969664/billionaires-nigerian-origin/1#127936404
Don't you think you have been made to look like a foooooooool now?
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Gamesmart: 6:56pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 6:25pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 6:20pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 6:18pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 5:53pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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Gamesmart: 5:13pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
blancsn1: Bro that is what many ipob n obidient have been telling us Nigeria to go n their lies deceit and foolishness.
They are obviously iiidiots!
One iddiot, Realtruth2023, told me yesterday to go and google his own moronic claim that "Genevieve made millions in(sic) Netflix" because e dey pain am that Funke Akindele is on record killing it. Buffoon!
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Gamesmart: 5:09pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
BloomingDale:
At most they are not killing each other like men do to each other at astronomical rate.
Point 1: Because they cannot and men would also stop them before they do. Say "Thank you, men!"
Point 2: That does not change the fact that it is proof they are not emotionally intelligent.
Point 3: Emotionally confused? .............100%, yes, they are.
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Gamesmart: 4:03pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
BloomingDale:
lol. To marry is easy na. Let’s see how long it lasts. Abi Sadio no be man again. Most men are emotionally unintelligent.
Anyway she will do her crying in an Bentley instead of a Toyota. When she is tired of crying she will secure the bag and bounce. She is just 18. Her brain is not yet fully developed.
Men are actually very emotional intelligent, far more than women.
You think they are not emotionally intelligent because they can't handle the consistent micro-mental health faults of women. Only certified psychiatrist can handle the mental lunacy of women. But one does not have to be a certified psychiatrist to be regarded as emotionally intelligent.
Don't fall for the fallacy that women are emotionally intelligent or more emotionally intelligent than men.
If women are emotionally intelligent, they would get along with each other and build great bonds. They NEVER do!
Una all na mad and unstable people!
And una brain never fully develop until your 70s. Are you saying men should wait till you hit 70 to marry una?
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