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In The Light Of D Economic Situation If U Marry Now How Many Children Wil U Have (18155 Views)
maasoap(m): 7:32am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Gamesmart:Why 1? Why 3? Why 8? Why 20? How many siblings do you have? Why? |
maasoap(m): 7:34am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Gerrard59:I'm sure that you always had alternative candidates that you preferred, it wasn't my fault that you guys didn't have enough votes to pull it off. Loser! |
Clinghton: 7:39am On Jan 12, 2024 |
4 2m and 2f. |
Kedikedi77: 7:51am On Jan 12, 2024 |
For me oo na just 3
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Kedikedi77: 7:52am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Foe me na just 3 children
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Gamesmart: 8:06am On Jan 12, 2024 |
maasoap: Because a small amount makes sense. I have only 1 sibling. But even if I had more than 1 sibling, this is the 21st century, not the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s where the world was less crowded, more countries were resilient (including Nigeria), you did not need expensive technologies like laptops, smart mobile phones, internet connections etc. to be competent enough educationally to compete in the world and Nigerian public universities were competent enough. So why would you have 4 or 20 children in this modern age? Why could you not have maximum 2 or, at the very worst, 3? 1 Like |
Dpaulie(m): 8:08am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Wetin children go chop for earth Dey follow them from heaven.... as many as possible 12 maybe |
Ewedegubbler: 8:36am On Jan 12, 2024 |
They just left the room …. They know themselves
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omoharry(f): 8:49am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Zonefree:Go get a job and keep yourself busy. stop sounding like a bitter loser. 3 Likes |
khattab02: 8:58am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Just 2 and if economy situation improves may be just may be 3. Zip up now na by force oooo ![]() ![]() ![]() |
mightyhaze: 9:46am On Jan 12, 2024 |
1 Max 2 with like 5 to 7 yrs gap 1 Like |
maasoap(m): 11:25am On Jan 12, 2024 |
Gamesmart: We heard, only you know the truth. But even if I had more than 1 sibling, this is the 21st century, not the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s where the world was less crowded, more countries were resilient (including Nigeria), you did not need expensive technologies like laptops, smart mobile phones, internet connections etc . to be competent enough educationally to compete in the world and Nigerian public universities were competent enough. You could still have one or two kids and not being able to afford those items. So, if you can afford it for your 4 or 8 kids, that would still be better than those with one or two kids who still can't afford it. So why would you have 4 or 20 children in this modern age? Why not? What's happened to "modern age"? Why could you not have maximum 2 or, at the very worst, 3?When you get married, you will understand why two becomes three or why maximum of 3 becomes 4. ![]() ![]() ![]() |
achimendy(m): 12:06pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Jewessgratitud3: Am having four children, 1 after three years. |
wanze(m): 1:00pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
2 original and back up periodt
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Allisgud: 1:06pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
10 from one woman by God's grace
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Ohraykon: 4:59pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Jewessgratitud3:abegi you all the same material lovers lol |
pagorino(m): 5:01pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Two is okay for me and I will take care of them well.
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ceeceeco: 6:40pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Three=2 boys & 1 girl.
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Enemyofpeace: 6:51pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Let me find out from Mynd44
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Blitzking: 7:21pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Jewessgratitud3:Sure but would be hurting that woman do u think asinine woman can carry 20 babies |
pretydiva(f): 8:00pm On Jan 12, 2024 |
Just 2
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Gamesmart: 1:26pm On Jan 13, 2024 |
maasoap: I am telling you the truth. And even if I was not, you can not compare back in the day to today. maasoap: This is quite a lame point. It is like me telling you that people in Denmark live a better life than Nigerians, and your response is that "Those living in Banana Island are better off than people in Denmark". Dangote is free to have 100 children, that does not make it okay for you to have 8 .......except you are telling me you are an ED of a Tier 1 Bank. maasoap: It is surprising many Nigerians (especially the stuupid pastors) talk about being a married man and raising a family makes one "mature" and "responsible". In sensible reality, a responsible man (or woman) should only bring a child into the world if this man has reasonably secured a means and long-term path for taking care of the child to at least a socially competitive level. Being responsible is not just by procreating. Wild beasts can do it too. What is socially competitive? Socially competitive is when one can reasonably compete in his or her world to be able to live at least an average middle-class life with no-to-minimal suffering. So, for every child a responsible person creates, he or she must have secured a means and long-term path for taking care of the child to live a good life. What does it cost to almost ensure that a child in Nigeria today grows up to be prepared for the world of the future, be competitive and live a good life? The parents have to be able to provide the following: - A nice and secure roof over their heads. There should be no need to worry too much about insecurity and they should be able to mix with decent humans that have prospects from a young age. So, if you live in Lagos, you should ideally be living in neighbourhoods like Surulere, Festac Town, Yaba, Ajah or neighbourhoods above these standards. - You should be able to send them to schools that would prepare them well for the future. Now, public schools in Nigeria are nothing to write home about, so you are looking at decent private schools like St. Gregory’s College, Wellspring College, Lifeforte etc. that cost like 1.0m to 2.5m per child per annum to ensure they are well-equipped for the next stages of their lives and not be another LeonSaab. - While at these schools, you will have to equip them with decent amount of electricity, laptops and access to internet. - When they finish there, you want to send them to, at least, Top Nigerian public universities like UI, OAU, Unilag, UNN, ABU, Unilorin etc. or top private ones like Covenant, ABUAD, Pan-Atlantic, Babcock, Bowen etc. If you are sending them to a public university, you should be ready to pay good money for off-campus accommodation so they don't live in the pigsty hostels not fit for human habitation. These places would cost you about N700K to N2.5m per annum per child. You might also need to upgrade their gadgets by this time as those would be outdated. - When they finish from Nigerian universities, most likely, it would make sense for them to go abroad for their masters. Preferably in UK, USA or Canada; but, at worst, in Ireland, South Africa, Cyprus, Turkey etc. These places would be costing you in the range of 12m+ per child for a one year masters. - This is apart from the decent balanced diet meals to feed them daily and solidify their brain functions. And, if you want to be even better, at least take them on two overseas trips before they are 18 to make them both more exposed and be confident in society. These are what it takes to build and almost guarantee a child in Nigeria today good prospects/chance of being competitive and not suffering in life in future. Are you telling us that you have the secured a means and long-term path to deliver these to all your 4 children? Worse still, I don't know the age gaps of your kids, but have you secured a means and long-term path to deliver these to all 4 children if they are all in secondary school or university at the same time? Or how close to these standards can you provide for your 4 kids? I am talking about reality on ground o, not delusional hopes and dependence on God's miracle/divine intervention/prayers? 1 Like 2 Shares |
akaahs(m): 7:41pm On Jan 13, 2024 |
All those thinking of having more than 2 children, should tomorrow u won't be alive and what ll happen to those children? We 7 in number, i always warning my mom after the 5th born to stop giving birth as the current situation in Nigeria isn't going to improve but ll get worst. After the 7th child, we lost our dad. In 2017 she lost her teaching job and at that time, I'm the only graduate. From that moment till now, I'm the one shouldering the responsibility of my siblings. 4 of them are currently in the university. u can imagine how some parents can be wicked and insensitive. 1 Like |
sammiewrite(m): 9:18am On Jan 14, 2024 |
akaahs:I understand how you feel and I hope 2024 will be better for you financially. I too have been in a similar situation since 2020 even though my parents are still alive. Very little savings, no investment, very little spending on myself. The painful part is that, given another opportunity, our parents will still make the same mistake, as most of them don't even regret their actions to begin with, as they are always excusing it away with some religious shits like "kids are a blessing from God," "a child brings what (s)he will eat from heaven," or that "God said we should be fruitful and multiply." And this is not even the most painful or shocking. I have engaged a parent who has three sickle cell kids. First, I wanted to know if she wasn't aware of genotype. Next, I tried to know if she wasn't aware that her first child was a warrior, and why she didn't stop. It turns out she was aware of the genotype mismatch and was also aware her first daughter carries the disease. The only reason she gave for her decision is her strong believe in her God and her believe in miracles. She even told me a concorted story of a man whose genotype changed from SS to AA after an encounter with one of their god of men. Enough is not said of the damage religion has done but any attempt to raise this discussion is often met with attacks from those who are profiting from it. Religion has taking away the ability of grown adults to think logically/disionately and take responsibility for their actions. So far I have not met anybody with plan for a huge family whose decision is not informed by/hinged on religion. And this is not as if these folks are even financially capable to begin with. 1 Like |
akaahs(m): 10:35am On Jan 14, 2024 |
sammiewrite:U just described a typical African parents. Just imagine my rebuked me when i ever i said I'm not gonna two children, telling me God has been the one feeding and taking care of us all these while. Just crazy! 1 Like |
Gamesmart: 9:12pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
akaahs: Una dey see? maasoap. |
Gamesmart: 9:15pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
sammiewrite: My freaking bleeping GOD! WTF? |
Gamesmart: 9:16pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
akaahs: And the useless religious dead-brain people would be the one saying being married and having children is the measure of being "responsible". 1 Like |
Gamesmart: 9:42pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
onuman: Nigeria's North have more population than the South. Nigeria's North's land mass is twice that of the South. So why should the North not have more local government areas and states? |
Gamesmart: 9:53pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
Free2Fly: Chikel20000: babajero: TheMostComplex1: Olaolex: Waffarianman: greenermodels: You are able to do all these for them? Gamesmart: |
Gamesmart: 10:01pm On Jan 14, 2024 |
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