NewStats: 3,262,835 , 8,178,298 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 05:53 PM 375v17

Musty112:
This should resonate especially if you are business person. At the start of every employment, make it very clear that any form of stealing will be met with the absolute punishment. Let them know you'll go as far as prosecuting them. When and if it happens that the employee steals, do not cave to any form of blackmail, they can go and bring their elders in the family and villages, they can even go to beg your own parents and folks, do not cave! Such will repeat itself and you'll eventually be run down. Be very fair in your dealings with your employee, but don't take sorry for theft. They don't care if you become unfortunate and lose everything that you toil for.

Humans are the most difficult aspect of business to handle.

You have to be very logical in your dealings.

Osiris12:
I learned that from kratos. God of war

Oh really. Impressive

This thread looks AI generated.

AI is gradually taking over. People will soon use AI for everything.

Osiris12:
Don’t be sorry, be better.

Exactly.

SpencerForbes:
I’m still reading your book tho. It’s a rare gem 💎

Kudos to you for taking time to read the little i penned down. Hoping to touch more lives.

Peakdesign23:
Someone can still say "My love I'm truly sorry" in a very calm, polite way but never meant it from the bottom of their heart. You go dey trust human beings?

Exactly my point.

Hey everyone,

I just wanted to share something that’s been sitting heavy on my chest lately, and I know some of you might relate to it.

I’ve reached a point in my life where “sorry” just doesn’t hit the same anymore.

Not because I’m unforgiving or overly harsh… but because apologies without real change are meaningless.

Let’s be real — saying sorry is easy.
It’s easy to say “I didn’t mean to,” or “It won’t happen again.”
But it keeps happening again, doesn’t it?

And suddenly, “sorry” just becomes a button people press to reset the vibe — not fix the issue.
No ability. No growth. Just noise.


Here’s where I’m at now:

I want people in my life who will:

Own their mistakes.

Reflect on their behavior.

Adjust their actions.

And most importantly, show they care — not just say it.


Because at this point, I’m done being impressed by tears or well-worded apologies.
I want to see consistency. Growth. Effort. Real ability.


Patterns over promises. Always.

Someone can promise the world and still deliver hurt. They can say “I’ll do better” and still repeat the same mistake next week.

It’s not about being perfect — nobody is.
But it is about being self-aware enough to say:

“I hurt you, and here’s how I’m going to make sure it doesn’t happen again.”


Truth is, a lot of people love the comfort of forgiveness… but hate the effort of actual change.

So they apologize just to calm you down. Not because they understand, but because they want to avoid discomfort.

That’s not maturity. That’s manipulation.


So yeah… I prefer ability now.

I don’t need grand gestures. I don’t need perfect people.
I just need real ones — who don’t make the same mistake 5 times and think “sorry” will always be enough.

If this hits home for anyone else, let’s talk.
What shifted for you when you stopped accepting empty apologies?

Let’s unpack this together. 👇

TL;DR: “Sorry” without change is emotional laziness. I’d rather see action than hear another apology. ability is the real flex.

thesicilian:
If she told you sorry at all, she's already better than 80% of Nigerian girls.

dominique:


Countless ladies do that but you people will always want them to keep mum about it so you can continue to push the narrative that women bring nothing to the table. When they get betrayed for girls that will look the other way while he was drinking garri, you people will say they don't deserve loyalty. What makes you think you also deserve loyalty?

At the end no one deserves loyalty.

DrFunmisticGlow:
the same men that will still exhibit bad character and poor loyalty to their wives if they eventually make it. Toor!! Loyalty is not the birthright for these men.

I would advise that women invest first in themselves before investing in 'potential' that these broke sons of Adam who haven't finished home training in their fathers' houses, if they had father's at all.

Same thing i will advise guys too. They should invest in themselves ans leave broke daughters of eve let's see how they gonna thrive.

Note : I will be adding pidgin English to this post so everyone can relate.

My people, make we yarn truth today…

You ever meet those kind of babes (or even guys) that will offend you badly, just say "sorry" like it’s nothing — and then when you try to talk about how it affected you, they flip the script on you?

You go hear lines like:

"But I’ve said sorry nah, why are you still upset?"

"This talk is too much jor."

"You don’t know how to forgive!"

"Let’s forget it jare, haba!"


Like say na remote control dem use the apology press reset button. 😑

Let’s be real — that’s not apology. That’s arrogance in disguise.

You offend someone, and because you dropped a quick “sorry,” the person is supposed to magically act like nothing happened? Come on. That’s not how mature people operate. An apology should not come with conditions or impatience.


🚩 What Real ability Looks Like

Real apology no dey end with “I’m sorry.”
Real ability means:

Listening without acting like you're tired

Allowing the other person to express their pain

Being intentional about not repeating that nonsense again

Showing humility, not ego

Some people dey say sorry, but deep down dem still believe say na you cause the problem. They’re not apologizing — they’re trying to shut you up.

💡An Example

Girl go mess up, say “sorry”, but the next minute she’s angry that you are not smiling. Even trying to make you feel guilty for being hurt. Na wa!

Some of them will even act like they're doing you a favour by saying sorry at all. And if you try to explain how it really pained you, dem go say:
"Is it not enough? What do you want again?!"

🎯 Moral of the Matter:

Don’t fall for fake apologies.
Saying sorry is cheap. Taking responsibility is rare. And in this life, we must start choosing ability over apologies.

Not everyone that says sorry is truly sorry. Some are just tired of the discussion and want to gaslight you into silence.

If you’ve been through this type of scenario, share your story. How did you handle it?

Let’s educate ourselves. No be every “sorry” get good intention behind am.


Make we hear una experience 👇🏽

TrainPark:



She did not leave a mansion to come and you in single room and to drink garri.

You were absolutely the very best option she could find otherwise, she would have left you.

But most women think that just by their existence alone, they are doing you and the world foe being born a woman.

That is why they still expect a settlement after being in a relationship where the man feeds, clothes and shelters her and literally, caters for her life.

A woman feels spending time with a man in a relationship is a favour done to the man.

The worst part is that this grandeur illusion and delision is without exception in the minds of most women.

And simpish men have caused and contributed to this delusional deiitification of non-value adding females, the world over. It does not even matter ugly, poor, badly behaved and dumb they are, in their mind they are the epitome of beauty, wealth and character. Men should always bow down and worship the ground that they walk on!

I wish I can be this insanely delusional

Reminds me of a case in think im USA where a woman demanded a settlement after being with a guy for 2years and not even legally married. Women and entitlement are 5 and 6.

Mariangeles:


And why would you expect any lady to do that?
Is that her responsibility?
Is she your mummy?
Does she owe you that or anything for that?
It's the entitlement mentality for me.

Y'all better wake up and smell the coffee, because this manipulation will not work.
Ladies are becoming wiser and investing in themselves instead. They have families they'd rather , than strangers in the name of boyfriend. 🙄
No time to waste on nonsense!

But you expect a man to bring down the world for you.

You can't even handle what you dish out. Double standards

maasoap:


Some of them could really smell potentials in men which they themselves are lacking. All what they need to do is to patiently wait for few years to see you transform. It is a prediction game

They have specialize in that expect.

JustcallmeFavou:


Yen, yen, yen, unless you want to pretend that there are no such women.

Well, such good women still do exist, but are rare.

And you are not one of them.

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Ofekongsk:
Mehn even if she helped you get on your feet, leave her so that she can go help another brother.

Seems you a fan of Future

JayEdm:

Som of us did all that,bought the garri,gave money,motivated , encouraged...basically everything. Guess what I got afterwards...." After all,I never forced you to help me"....just pray not to meet an ingrate who's also entitled.

Yea

JustcallmeFavou:


In some cases as a lady, you can buy the
garri, the groundnut, sugar, coconut, milk, cold water, and add fish ontop. Yet, an ungrateful man will still leave you when he becomes better. This goes both ways too!

Yen yen yen
In which cases... How many ladies have even done that

chinchum:
haha. Possibly even cheating and keeping a side nigga in the name of " i was with him"

Ah tell you. They can be cunning, showing fake loyalty.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

I am coming for you.

I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as .


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding ive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, ed, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

Its a Nigerian thing.

ARISHEM:
Reminds me of the Married woman in Anambra cursing those who criticized her adulterous sessions with a married man.
She started defending her actions by blaming her husband for been poor as the reason for her committing adultery with a rich married man

Same woman will deny is not about the money from start.

Baronthecelebri:
Na normal thing na

almarthins:


Unfortunately, most of us are subscribers. The love we get are conditioned upon what we can provide.

That's the reality.

Though some subscriptions are better than others.

This is the most interesting post you have read on men and women intersexual dynamics.

Hey folks,

I’ve been thinking deeply about something that nobody really talks about openly, but we all see and feel in relationships, marriages, and even "situationships":

Sex has become a silent form of currency.
Whether you're a husband, boyfriend, lover, or even just a "friend with benefits"—there’s usually a payment plan running in the background.

Let me break it down…


Sex in the Subscription Age

Today’s romantic world is almost like a telecom service:

Prepaid – Pay before service (dates, gifts, money first)

Postpaid – Service first, but emotional or financial debt follows

Pay-per-view – Access only on special occasions or when you’re being punished/rewarded

Free trial – “Let’s see where this goes” phase… until she pulls the plug

Monthly subscription – Usually in marriages or long-term relationships; you keep paying through attention, resources, or effort to keep the intimacy going

And guess what? Miss a payment (in any form) and "service" is suspended.

Is It Always About Money?

No. It’s not just cash. The "payment" can be:

Emotional labor (listening, complimenting her, acts of service)

Status & lifestyle (taking her out, being the "right guy"

Consistency (daily texts, constant validation)

In many cases, women aren’t doing this consciously. It’s just how they’ve been wired by societal norms and survival instincts. Sex, for many, is tied to security, attention, and power—not just lust.

Real Talk: Are You a Partner or a Subscriber?

The truth is, many guys are trapped in emotional or physical subscription models, thinking they’re in real relationships.

Ask yourself:

Is intimacy tied to how much I give?

Does affection vanish when I stop paying (financially or emotionally)?

Am I loved for who I am or what I provide?

If it feels transactional… it probably is.

What’s the Way Forward?

1. Stop being blind – Recognize the hidden transactions in your relationships.

2. Communicate clearly – Ask the hard questions about expectations early on.

3. Don’t lead with your wallet – Lead with your values, purpose, and self-respect.

4. Recognize red flags – If you always have to “pay” for intimacy, you’re not in love. You’re in a contract.

Final Thoughts

Love is not supposed to be a subscription service.
You shouldn't need to renew your value every month with gifts, validation, or cash.
And sex shouldn’t be a reward for being a good boy.

The real question is:

Are you truly in a relationship, or are you just another subscriber to someone’s “ plan”?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

— Dpsychologist

Good development.

Other parts of Nigeria need to have tech hubs especially the north.

This might be the most eyeopening thread you have ever read.

THE FINAL RULE states: "If She Likes You, You’ll KNOW. If She Doesn’t, You’ll Be CONFUSED."

Let’s stop sugarcoating reality.

This one sentence might just save you years of heartbreak, wasted time, and financial loss.
It’s not just advice. It’s a life-saving code for every man navigating today’s unpredictable dating world.

This is the ultimate truth:

If a woman genuinely likes you, you won’t need Google, tarot cards, or 3AM overthinking sessions to decode her feelings.

Let’s break it down for the brothers who still think “mixed signals” are a mystery worth solving.

🚦 HOW TO APPLY THIS RULE IN REAL LIFE

✅ SHE’S GENUINELY INTO YOU IF…

She initiates conversations. Not just replies, but texts you first — and often.

She finds ways to see you. Even if she’s “busy,” she makes time.

She invests. Emotionally, mentally, and sometimes even financially.

She re things you said. The little details.

She’s emotionally consistent — not hot today and ghosting tomorrow.

She hints at exclusivity or even brings it up herself (“Where is this going?”).

You feel calm, confident, and secure around her. No guessing games.


❌ BUT SHE’S PLAYING GAMES IF…

You're the only one initiating texts, calls, and dates.

Her affection is seasonal — warm when bored, cold when busy.

She “hates labels” and wants to “go with the flow” after 6 months.

She's emotionally unavailable, but sexually suggestive — a deadly bait.

You’re spending money, time, and energy… but she offers nothing substantial in return.

You feel anxious, unsure, and constantly wondering where you stand.


🔥 THE HARD TRUTH: STOP TRYING TO CONVINCE HER.

Some of you are doing boyfriend duties for girls who see you as “just a distraction.”

Stop arguing with reality.
If she wanted you, you’d know. If you’re confused, that’s your answer.

A woman in love is one of the most obvious forces on Earth. She’ll show up for you, speak life into you, and make effort — without being begged.


WHAT TO DO NEXT

1. Stop analyzing mixed signals — confusion is rejection in disguise.

2. Match energy — if she’s dry or distant, pull all the way back.

3. Don’t chase validation — no amount of money or attention can force her to care.

4. Walk away early — the second you feel you’re being “tolerated,” not desired, LEAVE with your head high.

5. Reclaim your masculine frame — stop being a beggar for love, be a chooser of peace.

BONUS: Why This Rule Will Save You

It protects your wallet.

It protects your heart.

It protects your future.


Too many men waste their prime years building emotional castles in women’s deserts.
They call it love. But it’s just desperation.

THIS, BRO:

When a woman truly wants you, you’ll feel like the prize.

When she’s using you, you’ll feel like the option.

Don’t chase explanations. Chase clarity.

The right woman won’t confuse you. She’ll choose you — boldly, consistently, loudly.


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Oy Nairalanders, let’s talk:
Have you ever confused a woman’s interest for love?
Or stayed in a situationship thinking it would grow into something real?
Drop your stories, let’s help the next man avoid the trap.

#StayWoke #MasculineFrame #NoMoreConfusion

You want the truth? Here it is — raw, bitter, and sobering.

You compare Nigeria to , the UK, the US, China, Japan, and all these developed nations. You want their roads. You want their trains. You want their robot armies, tech startups, steady electricity, piped water, and 5G like magic. But every time someone tries to explain the sacrifices, discipline, and hard decisions those countries made to get there, you start deflecting. You scream "But we’re poor!" or "It’s corruption!" or the classic "It’s the white man’s fault!"

Let’s unpack this — line by line.

1. “Why don’t we have water in every home?”

Because you don’t want to pay for it.

You’d rather scream "we’re suffering!" when the monthly water bill lands. You want water, but you don’t want to maintain the infrastructure. Digging boreholes is cheaper and easier to manage than setting up a nationwide pipe system — and guess what? It works. That’s why government after government chooses the easy route.

Meanwhile, countries that have piped water systems built them over decades, paid for by citizens through taxes and bills, and maintained by ability and law enforcement. Until Nigerians are ready to see governance as a partnership — and not a miracle factory — you will drink borehole water with pride.

2. “Why don’t we have robots and AI factories?”

Because when Nigeria became independent in 1960, we chose the wrong path.

While countries like South Korea, Singapore, and even China were investing in education, manufacturing, tech, and industrial strategy, we were busy exporting cocoa, palm oil, tin, and later crude oil — all raw materials whose prices we do not control.

We became addicted to commodity money — money that fluctuates based on foreign markets. So every time oil prices crash or the world moves to new energy sources, our budget crashes, salaries delay, and the entire economy starts begging.

While other countries were building factories, we were building tribal alliances. While they were training engineers, we were fighting over zoning and whose “turn” it is to chop money.

3. “Why are we always broke and in debt?”

Simple. We never built anything that consistently generates foreign exchange.

No serious exports. No reliable industries. No long-term vision. Just raw materials.

That’s why we borrow money to pay salaries. That’s why we fight over palliatives. That’s why we beg foreign investors to come and build what we should have built 40 years ago.

Corruption is a part of the story, yes. But not the full picture.

4. “Why do we blame corruption, the West, and IMF?”

Because it's easier to find an external enemy than to it we failed internally.

The truth is, our leaders are a reflection of our people. We vote for them based on tribe, religion, or stomach infrastructure. Then when they loot the treasury, we blame the West or the “system.”

News flash: Nobody is coming to save us. The West didn’t build Japan. China didn’t need Europe to rise. We need to stop the blame game and start doing the work.

5. “Why don’t we become like Saudi Arabia or the UAE?”

Because you don’t understand how painfully strategic those countries were.

UAE didn’t just build with oil money. They created policies to attract global investors, built infrastructure for tourism and trade, and now they’re investing in renewables, education, and AI.

Saudi Arabia is racing to diversify because they know oil has an expiry date. The moment their oil dries up or becomes irrelevant, their economy could collapse unless they pivot. And guess what? They’re already pivoting.

But Nigeria? We’re still waiting for oil prices to rise again, while illegal mining, pipeline vandalism, and oil theft steal the little we produce.

So What’s the Way Forward?

Stop expecting miracles. Development is slow, painful, and expensive.

Start voting for builders, not showmen. Look beyond tribe. Look beyond religion.

Demand productivity. Ask what we produce and how we can export it.

Embrace taxes and bills. If you want infrastructure, be ready to pay for it — just like the developed countries do.

Hold leaders able. Not on Twitter. At the ballot. In your communities.

Final Word:

Nigeria is not underdeveloped because of witches or white men. We are where we are because of poor decisions, short-term thinking, and a culture that fears discipline but loves comfort.

When you’re ready to sacrifice today for a better tomorrow — like the nations you ire did — that’s the day we will start seeing real development.

Until then.

Have you ever gone after a lady and she says that's not how guys do?

She wants you to role play just like other guys.