NewStats: 3,263,336 , 8,179,817 topics. Date: Thursday, 05 June 2025 at 02:22 PM 3y3oi

Note : I will be adding pidgin English to this post so everyone can relate.

My people, make we yarn truth today…

You ever meet those kind of babes (or even guys) that will offend you badly, just say "sorry" like it’s nothing — and then when you try to talk about how it affected you, they flip the script on you?

You go hear lines like:

"But I’ve said sorry nah, why are you still upset?"

"This talk is too much jor."

"You don’t know how to forgive!"

"Let’s forget it jare, haba!"


Like say na remote control dem use the apology press reset button. 😑

Let’s be real — that’s not apology. That’s arrogance in disguise.

You offend someone, and because you dropped a quick “sorry,” the person is supposed to magically act like nothing happened? Come on. That’s not how mature people operate. An apology should not come with conditions or impatience.


🚩 What Real ability Looks Like

Real apology no dey end with “I’m sorry.”
Real ability means:

Listening without acting like you're tired

Allowing the other person to express their pain

Being intentional about not repeating that nonsense again

Showing humility, not ego

Some people dey say sorry, but deep down dem still believe say na you cause the problem. They’re not apologizing — they’re trying to shut you up.

💡An Example

Girl go mess up, say “sorry”, but the next minute she’s angry that you are not smiling. Even trying to make you feel guilty for being hurt. Na wa!

Some of them will even act like they're doing you a favour by saying sorry at all. And if you try to explain how it really pained you, dem go say:
"Is it not enough? What do you want again?!"

🎯 Moral of the Matter:

Don’t fall for fake apologies.
Saying sorry is cheap. Taking responsibility is rare. And in this life, we must start choosing ability over apologies.

Not everyone that says sorry is truly sorry. Some are just tired of the discussion and want to gaslight you into silence.

If you’ve been through this type of scenario, share your story. How did you handle it?

Let’s educate ourselves. No be every “sorry” get good intention behind am.


Make we hear una experience 👇🏽

If she told you sorry at all, she's already better than 80% of Nigerian girls.

thesicilian:
If she told you sorry at all, she's already better than 80% of Nigerian girls.

The sorry is only from the lips not from the heart, no remorse. Such a person is ready to hurt you more

lol.
The illusion of some people about relationships and marriage is funny.

Most times, y’all forget your partners are human too.

You may think they are wrong and they think you are wrong. So, when you hear sorry; it may be arrogance or just saying it to let peace reign.

Someone can still say "My love I'm truly sorry" in a very calm, polite way but never meant it from the bottom of their heart. You go dey trust human beings?

Peakdesign23:
Someone can still say "My love I'm truly sorry" in a very calm, polite way but never meant it from the bottom of their heart. You go dey trust human beings?

Exactly my point.