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Hey folks,

I’ve been thinking deeply about something that nobody really talks about openly, but we all see and feel in relationships, marriages, and even "situationships":

Sex has become a silent form of currency.
Whether you're a husband, boyfriend, lover, or even just a "friend with benefits"—there’s usually a payment plan running in the background.

Let me break it down…


Sex in the Subscription Age

Today’s romantic world is almost like a telecom service:

Prepaid – Pay before service (dates, gifts, money first)

Postpaid – Service first, but emotional or financial debt follows

Pay-per-view – Access only on special occasions or when you’re being punished/rewarded

Free trial – “Let’s see where this goes” phase… until she pulls the plug

Monthly subscription – Usually in marriages or long-term relationships; you keep paying through attention, resources, or effort to keep the intimacy going

And guess what? Miss a payment (in any form) and "service" is suspended.

Is It Always About Money?

No. It’s not just cash. The "payment" can be:

Emotional labor (listening, complimenting her, acts of service)

Status & lifestyle (taking her out, being the "right guy"

Consistency (daily texts, constant validation)

In many cases, women aren’t doing this consciously. It’s just how they’ve been wired by societal norms and survival instincts. Sex, for many, is tied to security, attention, and power—not just lust.

Real Talk: Are You a Partner or a Subscriber?

The truth is, many guys are trapped in emotional or physical subscription models, thinking they’re in real relationships.

Ask yourself:

Is intimacy tied to how much I give?

Does affection vanish when I stop paying (financially or emotionally)?

Am I loved for who I am or what I provide?

If it feels transactional… it probably is.

What’s the Way Forward?

1. Stop being blind – Recognize the hidden transactions in your relationships.

2. Communicate clearly – Ask the hard questions about expectations early on.

3. Don’t lead with your wallet – Lead with your values, purpose, and self-respect.

4. Recognize red flags – If you always have to “pay” for intimacy, you’re not in love. You’re in a contract.

Final Thoughts

Love is not supposed to be a subscription service.
You shouldn't need to renew your value every month with gifts, validation, or cash.
And sex shouldn’t be a reward for being a good boy.

The real question is:

Are you truly in a relationship, or are you just another subscriber to someone’s “ plan”?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

— Dpsychologist

This is the most interesting post you have read on men and women intersexual dynamics.

It is so even in marriage. And to think that some people actually are in a hurry to get married so that they can have access to "free" sex.

Dpsychologist:
Hey folks,

I’ve been thinking deeply about something that nobody really talks about openly, but we all see and feel in relationships, marriages, and even "situationships":

Sex has become a silent form of currency.
Whether you're a husband, boyfriend, lover, or even just a "friend with benefits"—there’s usually a payment plan running in the background.

Let me break it down…


Sex in the Subscription Age

Today’s romantic world is almost like a telecom service:

Prepaid – Pay before service (dates, gifts, money first)

Postpaid – Service first, but emotional or financial debt follows

Pay-per-view – Access only on special occasions or when you’re being punished/rewarded

Free trial – “Let’s see where this goes” phase… until she pulls the plug

Monthly subscription – Usually in marriages or long-term relationships; you keep paying through attention, resources, or effort to keep the intimacy going

And guess what? Miss a payment (in any form) and "service" is suspended.

Is It Always About Money?

No. It’s not just cash. The "payment" can be:

Emotional labor (listening, complimenting her, acts of service)

Status & lifestyle (taking her out, being the "right guy"

Consistency (daily texts, constant validation)

In many cases, women aren’t doing this consciously. It’s just how they’ve been wired by societal norms and survival instincts. Sex, for many, is tied to security, attention, and power—not just lust.

Real Talk: Are You a Partner or a Subscriber?

The truth is, many guys are trapped in emotional or physical subscription models, thinking they’re in real relationships.

Ask yourself:

Is intimacy tied to how much I give?

Does affection vanish when I stop paying (financially or emotionally)?

Am I loved for who I am or what I provide?

If it feels transactional… it probably is.

What’s the Way Forward?

1. Stop being blind – Recognize the hidden transactions in your relationships.

2. Communicate clearly – Ask the hard questions about expectations early on.

3. Don’t lead with your wallet – Lead with your values, purpose, and self-respect.

4. Recognize red flags – If you always have to “pay” for intimacy, you’re not in love. You’re in a contract.

Final Thoughts

Love is not supposed to be a subscription service.
You shouldn't need to renew your value every month with gifts, validation, or cash.
And sex shouldn’t be a reward for being a good boy.

The real question is:

Are you truly in a relationship, or are you just another subscriber to someone’s “ plan”?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

— Dpsychologist

Unfortunately, most of us are subscribers. The love we get are conditioned upon what we can provide.

almarthins:


Unfortunately, most of us are subscribers. The love we get are conditioned upon what we can provide.

That's the reality.

Though some subscriptions are better than others.

Sex where both partners deeply desire the bodies of each other is the most intense and best form of sex.

There is no hesitation, no games, no planning, even if una dey fight una still dey nack steady.

It's the only kind of sex that makes sense to me. It is usually fast, furious and ionate.

Na normal thing na

Baronthecelebri:
Na normal thing na

Reminds me of the Married woman in Anambra cursing those who criticized her adulterous sessions with a married man.
She started defending her actions by blaming her husband for been poor as the reason for her committing adultery with a rich married man

ARISHEM:
Reminds me of the Married woman in Anambra cursing those who criticized her adulterous sessions with a married man.
She started defending her actions by blaming her husband for been poor as the reason for her committing adultery with a rich married man

Same woman will deny is not about the money from start.