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Thank you everyone , am deeply grateful , i had to take some time off through yesterday to read through , am deeply encouraged , And i will take some decision and steps. Good afternoon

Once in a while, last time was 2 months ago beginning of august wwen i could not bear it again

Omonigho1976:
you sure say you dey ok so? Pradvices d masturbation in men causes quick ejaculation

Thanks, its a whole lot i cannot say in 1 year , but am grateful ma 4 ur advice

Roseey0:
If she's not the sex type trust me she is not the sex type.
But you have to let her know that her marital vow is to be there for you sexually. And as much as she keeps avoidinv it she will never do it, but as she engages more her v muscles will be losing us to accommodate you more no mater the size. Stop waiting for her to initiate, go for it provided she will not say No.

Speaking from experience . It is still a marital obligation to some of us not necessarily that its something we want to do everyday. This has no relationship with the satisfaction we get from it. People are just built that way

not yet Sir

mistijude:
I want to ask op a question; is she with kid already?

I thought so Sir. am just being honest, but marriage made me realise my assumption is wrong

georgeakins:




Fake story!

Women don't complain about big pricks, they all love being serviced by big rods.

Well, am a very romatic guy, about 8 months into our marriage , sometimes i drop poems by the bed before leaving 4 works, send her love notes while at work and gifts randomly, but i lost intrest in al this 3 months ago.

Sens8:
I don’t think its your size you worried about..you are just worried that she might be loosing interest in you or you not doing it well. If she was a virgin then you prolly doing it the wrong way. Buy lube and make sure she’s really into the sex before you penetrate her, don’t try to impress her, just do things differently like spank her ass, dirty talk softly, and maintain deep eye slowly next time you inside her. Lastly, sex is not about in and out, since she’s tight, do it vert slowly and use your hands to be doing other stuffs on her body. Things that she’ll and it will be ringing in her head. Goodluck

Exactly, i tried this, but when i recommend position, she says she is tried and not used to it

trevorhorace:


Meanwhile I'd suggest you you utilize sexual positions that prevents you going too deep. Communicating is also very important. Follow her body language, ask her to tell you when she's enjoying or enduring. Try not to go too deep. Focus more on her and in making her cum really hard. Get materials that will teach you how. Be patient more outside the room. Show her love more, get her gifts more, complement her more.

Amen, but i do not drink or smoke either, but thanks 4 the advice, i tried not to look needy, but am just this person that cannot pretend not to be something i am not, i had tried changing but could not sustain it

ChocolateWine:
@DavidNative

I'm not married but I have an advice that might seem helpful.

Women dey get plenty nut atimes.

You're a good man. Change. Pretend to be a bad guy. Come back home smelling drunk, maybe pour drink on your body. If she ask where you're coming from, tell her you went hanging out with your friends, maybe late into the night (not too late before she gets used to it).
Stop some of the help you've doing at home (I didn't say stop providing money, maybe the kitchen help and things).

Stop looking needy, like you need sex and all. Afterall she no dey give you the sex for weeks, kukuma pretend like say e no dey hungry.

Try this exercise for some weeks and see. If she complains, ignore her, don't complain, don't say anything to explain your new attitude.

When she attempts to come close to you for sex, be strong and say no, pretend....maybe she'd turn needy. Na person wet get upper hand dey get negotiation power.

May your family be blessed.


Disclaimer: I'm not married. I'm not a relationship expert.

Honestly , my regret Sir

MrMacinterchi1:

Now, that you didn't have sex during courtship, why didn't you discuss this during the courtship or did you think it was a Sin to?
the problem you are having now could have been prevented during courtship.

And that did not affect your marriage Sir?

5Gnetwork:
i have same issue I got outside chick to handle that my wedding is ten year now with three kid

Lagos , why?

RosyIsBlessed:


Are you in Port Harcourt?

Alright Sir, i will get on this

IDERAWOLE:


Hmmm, I feel you.

Just relax and calm down.

The truth is that sexual matters are not always you read or watch in porns.

There's a side of your wife yet to be discovered! Take your time to discover it.

Don't back down the love languages you've been speaking. However, you may need to withdraw from those sexual gimmicks you've been trying to use. She may not even like them.

Why not try jisting and see if she'll like that. Sexual preferences are as diverse as people. Find out hers.

Let me tell you, sex for newly married is huge with a lot of fantasies, so I can feel you.

Believe it,women too loves it, but theirs are a bit complex.

For a guy, except the wife has emotionally wounded him, all he needs to be ready for sex is her body.

For a lady, you need more, How do you know that? Ask her.

Talk about other things of interest to her. She may love outings. Find out!

All the best.

Alright ma. i will try that

RosyIsBlessed:


Let her take watermelon frequently

Thank you everyone once again

Not yet

Gate050:

Any kid yet?

honestly , its well

Titto93:
Dis kind thing z common with religious people.
Most times, Una principle to please eachother end up hurting u.

This is what u should have resolve during dating.
Btw, why did u marry her?

because she's God-fearing or what?

Thanks for the encouragement and advice everyone , i will go through everything and make a best decision i believe by God's grace. Thanks once again Sirs and Ma's

Not at all Sir

OutisComputers7:
Did you Bleep her before marriage?

Well, i believe .r

Tokskob2008:

She said "she never had sex" or you confirmed she never had sex? Which is correct..
Then again this is why it's always good to know each other "properly" before getting married to see what both partners can or can't cope with cos it will definitely be hard to change from old ways after marriage.

Thanks everyone for the advice . Am deeply grateful

hmm. Thank you Sir 4 this, this is what i had been doing, i had tried not to even react negatively since, but could get tiring, sometimes i had to masturbate of if i cannot bear it again , last week wen i brought it up with her even in a very gentle and romantic atmosphere , we could not sleep as she was crying all through that i was not understanding , i had to plead with her never to bring it up before we could sleep at midnight

thorpido:
You need to be patient with her. She is a 'learner' when it comes to sex. It's like just learning to ride a bicycle. It's rough initially and full of falls.
Keep doing what you're doing... pre-intimacy. It will help her become more receptive. You also need to make love to her mind. You keep talking to her.

She has been exposed to porn in the past from what she said. All saying am comparing her to other ladies. i had bought books sex to help, she enjoys its when i perform romance and oral o her, but when i request for sex or she should give me some, she says she cant cos of my size and i should give her time, but its been a year, hence why i had to voice out
Thanks alot once again for your comment ma

Simdyofficial:
hmmmm.. Oga she needs understand you or tell her you will need another wife.. Some ladies are like that. When they hear anything like competition they will start fixing themselves.. Its no sin if you both watch porn xvideos.com can help.. She needs see other ladies feeling happy on BBC's.

Marriage is crazy though

hmmm

Ynix:

Play a simple game...

Write this word on paper and say,

I CANNOT TAKE THIS ANY MORE, BYE BYE WISHING YOU ALL THE BEST IN LIFE

Drop it and travel to a friend's place

Notice her reaction, if disturbed, don't come back until she begs and after that prepare a written agreement. Also be an alpha man

Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

thorpido:
There was no pre-marital sex while you were dating, was she a virgin when you married her?

Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

Pls i need an honest and kind advice . I will deeply appreciate

Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls