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Advice To Single Ladies Approaching 40 (47871 Views)

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Goldbw122(m): 8:57pm On Apr 19, 2022
Nyascobar1414:


Time gonn' come when the boy will be like mom, where is my Dad
I hope they keep the details of the random guy that will impregnate them and find the suitable father for his resemblance.. this life is going to another level..





Kaffytiamiyu(f): 9:10pm On Apr 19, 2022
quentin06:
HMM, is getting a child guarantee tht you will be looked after? Children grow and find their mates.

Any lady single in her 40s has herself to blame.

Let them keep blaming themselves
Their problem
Evening newspapers grin
Kaffytiamiyu(f): 9:11pm On Apr 19, 2022
Hassanmaye:

Hahahhahahaha l just ed my old university girl that is doing me shakara up till now no man show up

She no go see

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2braithe: 10:27pm On Apr 19, 2022
Kobojunkie:


2. Children are given to both the wicked and ungrateful by the same God so let's not pretend anything special about having of them. [b]The point here again is they are not meant as a replacement for a good retirement plan(savings, investments etc.,). [/b]And God said it is against Him to have children outside of wedlock so I am not certain why you suddenly want to drag God down into what again is a foolish suggestion on the part of the OP. undecided


I'm more interested in your 2nd point.
Why then will I have children if I'm not to expect them to take care of me in old age?

The amount of money spent to raise them from cradle till maturity, wouldn't it pay me if I decide to use it on myself?

What exactly is the benefit of raising children by investing heavily in them with resources?
Bignuell(m): 10:33pm On Apr 19, 2022
Please don't take this advice, you're a queen, you're meant to be worshipped. Take your time, relax, you'll find your TDAH. Don't settle for less, you're just 35 grin grin

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Kobojunkie: 10:35pm On Apr 19, 2022
2braithe:
1. I'm more interested in your 2nd point.
2. Why then will I have children if I'm not to expect them to take care of me in old age?

3. The amount of money spent to raise them from cradle till maturity, wouldn't it pay me if I decide to use it on myself?

4. What exactly is the benefit of raising children by investing heavily in them with resources?
1. There is no law that stipulates that one must have kids. undecided

2. There are 10s of millions out there in Nigeria who had the same thought but were disappointed when in their old age, those children were no where to be found. There are no laws to guarantee you that your kids wil live as your slaves nor mandate they care for you in your old age. So the question ought instead ask is why you think to make slaves of your fellow human beings? undecided

3. If you think you are better off spending that money on you and you alone, you are free to do just that. There are many out there who made the choice to spend on themselves, instead of having kids, and they are enjoying their old age better than most who had kids all over the place. undecided

4. Having and raising of kids is meant instead as a sacrifice made, not a business entered into for gains. undecided
eedhrisademola(m): 10:42pm On Apr 19, 2022
jazon:
What do you think?


Bede Nnamdi Nwulu:
Dear Ladies, If you're clocking 40 years old and yet no husband is coming, Look for a guy and beg him to impregnate you.
You need a child that will look after you at old age.

Don't let anyone deceive you, Marriage is not an achievement, and it's not everybody that will get married.

You can still be single with your own child and still be happy and fulfill your purpose here on earth.

Stop waiting for something that may never happen. There's no marriage in heaven as I heard. I'm only trying to make common sense!
I Repeat.. Common sense is not COMMON among COMMON People.
2braithe: 10:44pm On Apr 19, 2022
Kobojunkie:


Having and raising of kids is meant instead as a sacrifice made, not a business entered into for gains. undecided

Are you saying there is no benefit in having kids?


A sacrifice is made for the sake of another thing.E.g Some people sacrifice their peace of mind for their marriage.

If having children were to be a sacrifice,what are we sacrificing for?
Kobojunkie: 10:48pm On Apr 19, 2022
2braithe:
1. Are you saying there is no benefit in having kids?

2. A sacrifice is made for the sake of another thing.E.g Some people sacrifice their peace of mind for their marriage. If having children were to be a sacrifice,what are we sacrificing for?
1. Benefits? You mean like business profits? undecided

2. Same with having kids. You sacrifice for your kids in the name of love. Look at the animals for inspiration if you need to. undecided
Kobojunkie: 10:51pm On Apr 19, 2022
Bignuell:
Please don't take this advice, you're a queen, you're meant to be worshipped. Take your time, relax, you'll find your TDAH. Don't settle for less, you're just 35 grin grin
Even a 55-year-old shouldn't settle. Marriage is not meant for everyone, neither are children meant as a life achievement/fulfillment package. undecided

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eedhrisademola(m): 11:16pm On Apr 19, 2022
Oga op sharrap and stop being a simp,you must be a dundee for you to tell anyone when to get married.
Dey catch cruise!
folake4u(f): 11:39pm On Apr 19, 2022
Yet you people will still curse single mothers.

The double standard is really smelling.

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Imbecilicsamuel: 12:21am On Apr 20, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
After doing nyanga and shakara with their youthful age, na when dem turn 40 na when their eyes go clear say man and woman no bi same.
Women dey expire, imagine @40 a woman dun dey fear while @40 na when life of a man start and a man go manage marry una, una no go allow d man to drink water and drop cup.

Be deceiving yourself.

Body go tell you.
Ode.
Imbecilicsamuel: 12:24am On Apr 20, 2022
All the disgusting f@gg0ts have wanked all over this thread.

Thread stinks big time.

Sh1t.

3Dii: 12:35am On Apr 20, 2022
Holluwhakemmy:
We won't beg for bread God is on the throne He will surprise us in a big way
would've taken dis comment in the way op meant it, but my spoilt mind no gree me. I hope say na only me think the bolded in another way sha.
darediamond(m): 12:50am On Apr 20, 2022
Generalwoodz:
When you get old as a spinster this message will become more clearer and vivid to you....

As one gets older, one gets more lonely and this fact gets quadrupled if one is all by herself. No husband to show love, No children to whine and call you up... there's no element of joy when one is alone.

To add, not all is destined for marriage and if Providence places you in bad side of the divide, do well to make the best part of it. It's more like making lemonades outta of lemon.

Take this from me if you're approaching the big 40: if you can't trap any guy down, spread your legs widely when next you're getting the D, and make sure you get knocked up.

This is a dicey situation. If you can't afford artificial insemination, then you must be twice as careful, selective and highly cautious whose sperm you're getting into you.

In other words, take your time and do your homework before spreading those legs widely. grin

When you're 60, with top notch vibrancy, enviable good health and wellness, but no children... You're fuccked up.

Get the D now!
Get the D now!
Spread the legs damn wide!
Spread the legs damn wide!

"So says the preacher as he briskly walks out of the thread, dressed in immaculate Cloak. White and adnored."
Hamachi(f): 2:48am On Apr 20, 2022
wink
odimbannamdi:


How do I ?... grin
BigBashiru: 3:54am On Apr 20, 2022
Nyascobar1414:


Averagely looking for that matter

Abeg dont tell her how females eveolve.. Let her learn the hard way, so that it will serve as a lesson to other girls...

She doesn't know age is her greatest enemy

There's another one and na dis one pain me . A 20 yo girl that recently turned 21.... I liked her(for marriage)....she bragged how her family had tried to introduce her to a guy in South Africa for marriage but she ran away.... she bragged how they has tried introducing her to another guy for marriage, she said she played along but ran away. She said relationships aren't really her thing and wants variety...... she boasts how guys are after her etc.... I think it's the failure of parents to quickly marry off their daughters that's causing all this....I hope she regrets it some day when she eventually wants to settle down.
Dpaulie(m): 5:55am On Apr 20, 2022
yuping:
undecided so, some one that keep herself as virgin upto that age should also follow this advice? This life common sense no dey work for everyone. She should beg, I don't understand, I can't even imaging my own blood begging one idiot to impregnate her. Nawaaooo doing the right thing is now evil in this world.
Women dey suffer, women are their own worst enemy.
God will never let u as a lady or any of your relative to be in this shoe

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Nyascobar1414: 8:31am On Apr 20, 2022
BigBashiru:


There's another one and na dis one pain me . A 20 yo girl that recently turned 21.... I liked her(for marriage)....she bragged how her family had tried to introduce her to a guy in South Africa for marriage but she ran away.... she bragged how they has tried introducing her to another guy for marriage, she said she played along but ran away. She said relationships aren't really her thing and wants variety...... she boasts how guys are after her etc.... I think it's the failure of parents to quickly marry off their daughters that's causing all this....I hope she regrets it some day when she eventually wants to settle down.

Real truth bro, when they are gossiping they like telling their fellow girls the number of men they have turned down so as to massage their ego....
Na h0e phase dey worry am...


She will gladly learn!
2braithe: 8:44am On Apr 20, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. Benefits? You mean like business profits? undecided

2. Same with having kids. You sacrifice for your kids in the name of love. Look at the animals for inspiration if you need to. undecided



Let's not run around in circles.We know people don't give birth for the sake of love only.They do so for the sake of benefits mostly.

If people are not expecting benefits from children then,raising children will be useless.Nobody will want to raise kids.
Sacrificing heavy resources,a good portion of your time, possibly mental health(kids can make you mad) and you want to tell me you're expecting no benefits whatsoever from them?

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Iyasaburi: 9:14am On Apr 20, 2022
yuping:
undecided so, some one that keep herself as virgin upto that age should also follow this advice? This life common sense no dey work for everyone. She should beg, I don't understand, I can't even imaging my own blood begging one idiot to impregnate her. Nawaaooo doing the right thing is now evil in this world.
Women dey suffer, women are their own worst enemy.

The truth is, we are in a faithless generation. God has been pushed to the back stage

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yuping(m): 9:26am On Apr 20, 2022
Dpaulie:

God will never let u as a lady or any of your relative to be in this shoe
lipsrsealed sometimes I wonder if this people put themselves in others shoes before writing or saying this.
yuping(m): 9:26am On Apr 20, 2022
Iyasaburi:


The truth is, we are in a faithless generation. God has been pushed to the back stage
undecided exactly!
odimbannamdi(m): 10:24am On Apr 20, 2022
Hamachi:
wink

I seriously jare... wink
Kobojunkie: 12:42pm On Apr 20, 2022
2braithe:
Let's not run around in circles.We know people don't give birth for the sake of love only.They do so for the sake of benefits mostly.

1. If people are not expecting benefits from children then,raising children will be useless.Nobody will want to raise kids.

2. Sacrificing heavy resources,a good portion of your time, possibly mental health(kids can make you mad) and you want to tell me you're expecting no benefits whatsoever from them?
1. Procreation happens at all levels of the animal kingdom. Humans have different expectations but in the end, the only real benefit to the race is survival of the specie, everything else imagined. undecided

2. Animals do the same, and it is all, in the end, for the survival of the specie and nothing more. undecided
Maverick777: 3:22pm On Apr 20, 2022
yuping:
undecided and you think hypocrite families will agree?
What a senseless statement!
So you need to seek validation from 'family' to live your life?
Your post simply revealed your age...
yuping(m): 3:23pm On Apr 20, 2022
Maverick777:

What a senseless statement!
So you need to seek validation from 'family' to live your life?
Your post simply revealed your age...
undecided do read the other comment before this so you would understand.
Cousin9999: 5:42am On Apr 21, 2022
1. Intentionally being a single parent is gross unless you're adopting a child, or you're an exceptionally good parent.

2. There's no deadline for marriage. Don't be irrational and ignorant.
Olumaeme: 5:18pm On Apr 21, 2022
teeshet:
your dick wasn't big enough thats why. If not she would have spread her legs for you

Sadly, I hit better than your father.
That's why he gave birth to slowpoke you.
Ahswerugawd.
Kobojunkie: 5:24pm On Apr 21, 2022
Cousin9999:
1. Intentionally being a single parent is gross unless you're adopting a child, or you're an exceptionally good parent.

2. There's no deadline for marriage. Don't be irrational and ignorant.
Here I can agree with you! undecided
Ogamysolex: 2:11pm On Aug 26, 2022
Not everybody that was born to this world will married. So please try to give reasonable advice

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