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I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

If you're really concerned about proving it to him you can take him to sexologist or gynecologic which will explain it to him that sometimes membrane can be damaged, hence no blood. Some women are born without it.
I could say - make him research it on the internet but frankly, I believe he's too shallow to listen to it. Specialists will explain it to him clearly.
Still I would be really disappointed in a man that values your virginity higher than you.
Next time take ketchup with you and plaster it all over the bed. Tell him to clean up this mess

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Well in ma opinion, gainin ur trust bac is very paramount so I fink ur mum shud do d work of explainin 2ur husband...cos if I b ur hubby I no go believ ur good mornin o
Meanwhile nt every1 bleeds on dia 1st time

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Not everybody bleeds the first time dey have se.x. i've read of pple who bled after abstainin from sex for as low as 2yrs. Even if you were abused at 4, u are 28 now .. abstenience for 24yrs! I will say u are not a "bleeder"

Now to ur husband.... He married you cos he loved you i suppose (not because you were a virgin) and i assume Trust comes with love?

PLEASE IS YOUR HUSBAND A VIRGIN
DID HE MARRY YOU COS HE IS LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO DIS-VIRGIN
WHY GOING THROUGH THE STRESS TO PROVE YOUR VIRGINITY WHEN HE HAS WITNESSED THE TIGHTNESS OF YOUR PRIVATES
HOPE HE AINT A PERVERT...NO PON INTENDED PLS

The husband has every right to have felt disappointed, even though the husband did not married her because she was a virgin he was very proud that his wife was a Virgin based on what his wife told him which would have strengthen their bond/trust, now that it turn out to be the opposite he is looking and thinking of is this how we are going to continue with a relationship that is supposed to be everlasting? He is a human being and as it is now, I will advice you allow your mother do the explanation to him, that you were not told on till this issue came up, with time he will overcome this challenge. God bless.

Someone has got quite an active imagination here.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

The husband has every right to have felt disappointed, even though the husband did not married her because she was a virgin he was very proud that his wife was a Virgin based on what his wife told him which would have strengthen their bond/trust, now that it turn out to be the opposite he is looking and thinking of is this how we are going to continue with a relationship that is supposed to be everlasting? He is a human being and as it is now, I will advice you allow your mother do the explanation to him, that you were not told on till this issue came up, with time he will overcome this challenge. Good bless.

freeboy604:
The husband has every right to have felt disappointed, even though the husband did not married her because she was a virgin he was very proud that his wife was a Virgin based on what his wife told him which would have strengthen their bond/trust, now that it turn out to be the opposite he is looking and thinking of is this how we are going to continue with a relationship that is supposed to be everlasting? He is a human being and as it is now, I will advice you allow your mother do the explanation to him, that you were not told on till this issue came up, with time he will overcome this challenge. Good bless.

I understand u. We r all human... nobody wants to be scammed or made to look like a fool but not everywoman bleeds on her first night.. she sould have been one of them.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Your husband must have come from mercury for him to expect to marry a virgin. At this 21 century??

Hubby is just showing his ignorance. Some women dnt bleed their first time. Get someone maturer to explain that to him...Even if you weren't abused as a kid, you still may not have bled.

rexkexmilan:
Your husband have come from mercury for him to expect to marry a virgin. At this 21 century??

Talk like this is why innocent girls are raped and beaten. Nobody was born "deflowered" d fact that some pple cant keep theirs doesnt mean nobody can.

virgin this days chai! the guy no dey alive, and how are u so sure he's also a virgin?

4get the virgin wahala dear if husband loves u he ll remain ur man virgin story or no virgin story

Google is his friend.

demelza:
Someone has got quite an active imagination here.

I dunno how but you just know the story tellers

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Tell your husband and your friends to pick up a book and stop embarrassing themselves. Some people do not even feel discomfort the first time they have sex. In fact some women are born with no hymen at all. Hymen is just extra meat that covers some part of the vaginal opening. And a lot of women lose that "extra meat" over time. You were almost a grand mother when you lost your virginity so yours probably wore of a long time ago

this story sweet oh...
chapter2 nko

freeboy604:
The husband has every right to have felt disappointed, even though the husband did not married her because she was a virgin he was very proud that his wife was a Virgin based on what his wife told him which would have strengthen their bond/trust, now that it turn out to be the opposite he is looking and thinking of is this how we are going to continue with a relationship that is supposed to be everlasting? He is a human being and as it is now, I will advice you allow your mother do the explanation to him, that you were not told on till this issue came up, with time he will overcome this challenge. Good bless.

So the mother should sit down and start discussing her daughter's vagina with her son in law. Get the Bleep outta hia with this nonsense

Everybody does not bleed the first time. You can take him to someone (possible a doctor) who will explain that to him or make him ask goggle. His expectation was dashed sha,eyaaaa.

:DI can't stop laughing @ this comment. The guy must be high on something very strong to have suggested such a thing. I'm trying really hard to imagine how the dIscussion would start.

soulglo:


So the mother should sit down and start discussing her daughter's vagina with her son in law. Get the Bleep outta hia with this nonsense

FynBabe:
:DI can't stop laughing @ this comment. The guy must be high on something very strong to have suggested such a thing. I'm trying really hard to imagine how the dIscussion would start.

We are gathered here today to discuss emm, emmm. Okay before we start let us pray

soulglo:


So the mother should sit down and start discussing her daughter's vagina with her son in law. Get the Bleep outta hia with this nonsense

Only if you are not a toddler, you would have understand that I have the right to make my submission and not to be insulted, and I wish my second young brother could see you in person, you would have learn to make your contributions and not insult others.

soulglo:


So the mother should sit down and start discussing her daughter's vagina with her son in law. Get the Bleep outta hia with this nonsense

its really awkward
@Op, your mum should have told you long before now... But then, she was only trying to protect you from the horrible memory. You should talk to your husband about it yourself(and not your mum.. Like someone suggested)
He loves you right? Then he should understand the deed has already been done anyway....

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Do u know am having the same problem with my husband that until today he still calls me a bloody lair and finds it hard to think I didn't lie about my virginity Tho i was never touched or raped ooo. I tot I was the only one and always felt so shy to tell any1 about it. humm

aw yuh wan take bleed? After all those fingering you don dey give yourself tehteh.

Give him d usual lie, 'I got disvirgined thru a rigorous exercise'

Mtchew

am coming

He must be a dumbo!

the husband should grow d fukk up