NewStats: 3,265,149 , 8,185,799 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 04:14 PM 642c5x

;DCan't relate... But I can't help to laugh my ass off with all your experiences.


I believe none of you will treat your kids the way you were treated. In this generation, that kind beating na child abuse but e get why those parents they always do like that.

I also believe you all turn out to be good ambassador for your family.

You made my day with this thread.

Good morning, my fellow widows.

Is your friend engaged?
Where you expecting her to tell you she likes your cousin instead of being bold about it? She's a mature girl that knows what is good or bad for her. Unless you feel you don't want your cousin to hurt her or you see a future with them but you don't want her to be your sister in law.

God may be using you to bring them together. Don't be an hindrance.
Just talk to her to know her feelings towards your cousin and step back. You don't need to avoid her or be harsh towards her.

Having a lasting marriage isn't easy. One person can't be building it and the other person is bringing it down. Even the Bible says can two work together except they agree. Comparing our grandparents marriage to this Era is a no no... Just like MrBrownJay1 said people, norms, beliefs change. Our mothers then were the perfect example of a submissive wife, they're trained to see the husband has authority over them. They don't speak unless spoken to, they were mostly housewives.
Even when faced with infidelity, they still keep their marriage but cry in silence. Nobody to advice them to divorce, even when they want to they put their children first saying they don't want them to suffer or stigmatized. Our parents of that generation endure that's y their marriage last longer.
Now come to our generation, same thing is happening but with a big difference. We are in the Era of Technology, back in the days our mothers do not have celebrity as role models but we have in dz generation. Women are no longer housewives, they no longer accept a cheat, they see being submissive as taking advantage of them, they can't or won't endure what our grandparents endure then.
If the two parties would sit down, discuss and plan how they want their marriage to be a blessing to others before walking down the aisle, I believe it will bring a positive impact on the society.

Marriage isn't a do or die affair, if you know you aren't cut out for it don't enter into it. It's a mystery that is yet to be unraveled. Even those married for 30 years still have one or two things to say about it

Lmao! It's not that hard to cope. Make we just pray make brokenness no be the order of the day for person.
The man changing in front of you like no biggie didn't see it as a problem o na you see am like that. I back then when we dey stay one room for ikeja, I dey carry my pant and bra enter bathroom, if I baff finish I go wear am there, enter room rub cream.
I never caught my parents going at it but I always wonder how my mum end up pregnant. Sometimes I stay awake claiming to be reading for a test so I can catch dem but still all my effort came to nought.
To sleep nko? Con see arrangements if we wan sleep.
Life dey where e dey oo
We saw it as no condition is permanent
We parked out years ago, going back memory lane i dey ask myself say shey na me live that kind life but humble beginnings dey make person head straight smh.

MrBrownJay1:
both of them did the wrong thing.... and thats why the end result is a DISASTER!

I BLAME the husband whose ego was clouding his judgment and he should have been fully honest with his wife, sadly, he is a very selfish deluded man who decided it was better to pretend to the whole world that he was happily married rather than to be fully honest with his own wife.

I BLAME the wife whoshould have known that something was wrong and investigate the issue (fertility test etc) so that she could face her husband with thte truth and move on with her life....instead she fed into this charade by having an affair and getting pregnant from a stranger, and claiming that the child is his....WHILE THEY BOTH KNOW IT AINT!!!

I BLAME society, where people would rather pretend that everything is ok in their marriage than being honest with their own self. people who would now claim "ITS A MIRACLE CHILD" from god after 20yrs of waiting, and everyone around them will say:"god blessed them bla bla bla" or "with prayers everything is possible bla bla bla".... and tey will now fit perfectly with the Joneses!

Your first mistake was having sexual relationship at your place of work... Shit could happen at any fucking time, devil no dey idle to let una enjoy the relationship like that.

Second mistake, was telling her you saw her name among the list of people to be sacked. Some babe no get patience o. I'm very sure it's because you like her that's y you told her but in dz case she dey para for you.

My guy summon courage go tell your uncle before dz babe open her mouth, if she does omo you don comot for work be that o.

Warning : you should learn to keep yourself from anything office relationship because na dem dey too collect daily bread 4 person hand.