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LoveUdie:


Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family . Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

7) MEN-SEX MENTALITY: Lots of men also believe sex is for men, women should not enjoy it, so they approach their wives with horse rider mindset, they have no plan to make their wives enjoy sex but to do their thing, enjoy themselves and go their way, this is very unwise and unkind to women.

CAT MOUSE SEX ATTITUDE: With Men-sex mentality most Men develop what is known as Cat-Mouse attitude towards sex. They grab their Wives the way Cat does grab mouse and begin to sleep with them, no romance, no pre-intimacy, no good or kind words, no mind for the ladies they are sleeping with, it is very unfair.

Men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving and be loving and caring thereby becoming better husbands and fathers.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

All the points mentioned is the sad reality that we're all facing in this generation. There are many good men out there but the bad fruits outweighs the good ones.
If men take care to correct themselves with this point, I believe no sane woman would counter with a bad character and no man with the positive influence of this point would attract a evil woman.

We really need to learn, learn and re-learn and stop whatever we believe is being 'woke'.

Relationship are difficult these days because we all go in for the wrong reasons.
Some go in....
*To escape loneliness, boredom
*Peer pressure from close friends families.
*Satisfaction of materialistic needs
*Freedom to have sex anyhow i.e if you're from a strict Christian home.
*Some to end whatever sufferings they're going through at the home front.
* To have a child to keep the lineage
Little did some know that after all this reasons are met, you're then left to face the realities of marriage which many aren't prepared for.

I want to believe the reason why marriage crashes these days is because....
*Some of us lack basic home training, both men and women. Some men don't know how to respect a woman while some women don't know how to submit to a man.
*Improper upbringing
*No teachings of endurance, preserverance, tolerance like the old.
*Some of us aren't even teachable.
Until we go back to pick and adopt the teachings of our parents, we'll keep missing it.

Evolutionlove:


True though.

He doesn't lack intelligence. He is right to generalize because this particular issue have now become a Menace hence the generalization is Valid.

You are just an Exception and there will always be exception in everything. How many well to do Nigerian Ladies can boast of being Chaste and Virgin at the Age of 30Years.

I ask again, How many??

Unlike many Nigerian boys/men most especially the ones from Poor/Average Background. I will tell you this for FREE. Do you know there are many Guys in their 20s who have never got down with a girl/lady. Except they engage in Mastvrbation and with Sex Workers. Some doesn't even have the Will or Opportunity to engage Sex Workers. All they do is to Mastvrbate.

This Situation is not same for the Female Gender. Currently as i am posting now, There are a lot of Young Girls/Ladies between the Age of 18/22 Years engaging in Sex Transactions with Older men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. It's very Rampant nowadays.

True... it is rampant these days because the parent we have now is different from the parents we have in the 90s. Today's parent even encourages this young ones to do shit and won't bat a eye.

There are ladies/women who still keep this chastity belt around their waist but very rare to come by.

79 years of fight, quarrel, tears, joy, happiness and love. They held strong for each other because it was them against the world.

They faced all the ups and downs of marriage, from families to Co workers but still found each other at the end of the day.

How many marriage of this generation can hold on tight to what they believe in?
How many can even stand the test and tribulations of time like this lovingly couple?
How many marriages last even 6 months not to talk less of a year.
How many ladies and gentlemen of this our generation can endure this far without throwing in the towel of divorce, domestic violence and infidelity?

This is a pure perfect and titanicious love. I wish them a beautiful rest in peace.

They are the best MVP for marriage coaching not our online assumed role models to some people yarnin dust calling it motivational talk.

Auskyd:


This will get you one.

Alright thanks for the help, really appreciate it.

Auskyd:


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Ladies really need to assess who they engage with. Go for who is good for you both physically and spiritually and not get attracted to beast or demons who disguise as men. Good men are out there but you refuse to see them for stupid reasons known to you.

Some men are just too emotional, selfish and heartless. How can a sane man do this to a suckling not even a toddler yet.

This news really broke my heart and brought me to tears.

How can someone do this to a baby, your baby not someone else baby all because you want to sleep?
How can you chose sleep over your crying baby?

How would the boy feel when he grows up and learnt of how he lose his arm? Ehn!
Sometimes when I feel I have see and hear it all.. Gbam something else burst your bubble.

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Kizzygentle:
Two things are involved here..
1. Punnishng the sales attendant.
2. Giving him enough change, at least he will not tell customers to take sweet or chew gum with their change. Though I love new notes.. It helps me save money coz I don't spend them. I have over 400k of new notes in my bag that I can't even spend.. That's how I save though..

My kind of person... I love new notes. I don't like spending them cuz it's like letting them out to get corrupt or contaminated with other bad ones.

Its either a bucket list or something for this guy

Demigod22:


Hahaha, AA buga group, what does that even mean?

Yes, to avoid such situation, we ask important questions when necessary.

Naturally this group of people don't disturb themselves with asking that question and feel offended when asked. N their answers is always with confidence unlike other genotype who feel reluctant to answer what their genotype is.

I was in a relationship but we were both unaware of the disparity in genotype.
We all know gaining ission into a new school makes you go series of medicals and test that was when I got to know my genotype.

Now the issue of asking my partner of his status became a huge task for me. I couldn't eat, I cry almost every day and I avoided his call for days. When he comes to see me I refuse to see him and pretend busy. This raised questions from his parents and friends and I couldn't keep it in. My parents actually tot I told him already and were hoping he was the opposite of my genotype.

So I made up my mind to ask him instead of letting the fear of the unknown kill me. I invited him to my place to explain the changes and then I told him. He was mad at me that I kept it to myself and assured me that he's AA. I asked if he was sure, he said yes that he did it yl he donated blood some years ago.

I was elated and disappointed I cried for nothing. Now fast forward to 3month after, he was seriously ill and was itted to a private hospital. That was when he got to know his real genotype, that's he was AS mind you mine is AC.

He didn't believe, even claim to sue the hospital after he is fine for wrong information but after going to 3 different hospital for the test our fate was decided.

He wanted us to continue with our relationship but I had to put my foot down on that. He claimed I didn't fight for us but what is there to fight for.


Please always ask this question on the first date or before you start the journey of love to avoid stories that touch. Don't leave important questions for unimportant questions.

Demigod22:
On the first date, questions about health status like genotype, blood group, goals, inspirations, dos and don'ts, religion and education, culture, beliefs, hobbies, occupation and occupational hazard and every important thing need to be asked and discussed.

But these girls will abandon such and ask for suya, pizza and urgent 2k instead.

Personally, I have no such experience, while because, I am O- blood group, and AA genotype, which can marry any genotype, so I have no issue, but I can imagine the whole trauma of losing your lover because of genotype issue, although, it's better than suffering the children.

Na them, AA buga group. Just joking anyway.

The trauma no be here I tell you.

Psalm 103. The whole chapter

As anyone noticed that the naira itself has lost quality? 1 A4 paper is thicker than the so called Nigeria currency. Try putting 5k or 10k inside envelope (in 1000 denomination) you won't feel the heaviness of the money unlike before.

If 1 US dollars equate 660 in Nigeria currency and some Nigerians still feel they need to vote emilokan urchins in power, I give up.

God bless Nigeria

tonyson010:


it is so bad.

the big problem is that some people open business, don't nurture it to grow and will be expecting fast huge profits.
school management is often poor always transfering blames and punishment to teachers.

I can't take a teaching job in secondary or primary school, the pay is poor and the pressure is too big.

Pressure is 'too big' is an understatement. They pay you less but expect you to be able to deliver a service of 6 figures. The owner of the school at a time expect all his staff to dress like we were being paid 200k and to be able to speak phonetics. If you can't speak, you lose your job. In other part of the world teaching is good but here in Nigeria, hmmm person miss road.

Since that salary isn't negotiable, please avoid that job e get why.

I once worked in a private school as an officer sometimes last year. Big school, well structured and established but the way they treat their staff ehn.

As the school ant I was earning 40k, if I minus food and transport I barely save 5k in a month. Funny thing is I know the amount expected per term but the amount paid to staffs won't dent the initial amount for that term but the owner of the school ll still complain and say he's over paying staff. If you know how much the student pay ehn, even their parents feel the school pay staffs close to 150k. Some parents sef ll threaten to report you that you don't know your job on top how much.

Teachers take up to 3 to 4 subjects, no free period because they use it to mark or grade their students and they're still paid same amount with me or less. Il

Queries nko? If your student make noise, you collect query. If you no greet the owner of the school well query and query is 5k that's if you even reply the query letter well, if not you go home with 15k or less.
Sometimes I pity the teachers because they collect query anyhow.

Why I left there was because I don't have time to seek for other opportunities because even mid term, holidays o we are expected to come to work. They even have the habit of making you see yourself less

Pardon my stories, what I mean to say is don't accept that job.

I don't want to believe this write up. But if this writeup is true, mehn I really need to see this obnoxious woman in question and give her a resounding slap.

See me see entitlement virus o. Even if the husband is flowing with wealth, the woman doesn't have the right to insist he builds a house for her mother, because of what?
Because you are married to him, birthed 2 kids and what else.

I see reason why men generalized and treat women as a child, trash. If you can't build house for your own mother let it be.

However, the mother's attitude towards the husband can move the husband to build house for her or not, that's if she's worth it judging from the so called daughter.

Is she a student?

If yes, she needs correct resetting. So dz Buhari no reach her side. Why is she been self centered and difficult to understand that you are broke and still hoping the strike is called off.

Please don't do more than yourself, at least you her birthday. What if you forgot the birthday nko?

This entitlement mentality is nw becoming a virus.

ama19:


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Nice work


Can I use more than 1 egg? Probably if am making a family batch?

Or just be creative with adding fillings like fish?

I don dey imagine how to sidan chop dz on Saturday morning

Something fishy about dz story.

I guess she's the type that believes whatever comes out from the dear pastor's mouth.
When you aren't a stripper, person say make you strip just to punish you. Na your papa im be, even your papa sef no fit tell a grown adult to strip make e beat you.
22 years sef na pastor again for this country. Ha! Fear who know fear Nigeria o.

Some stories no be am at all.

OH when dey say,
Oh happy ni
Oh when dey say o happy ni
O lord I want to be in the number
Oh when dey say o happy ni

Nostalgic feelings

Not sure I got the song right but you know what I mean

Before saying anything to the kids, watch their mothers well.

Are they neglectful?
Are they razz? Quarrelsome? Busy bodies?

Or
Well respected?
Discipline?
No nonsense type? You can go ahead.

Because you might end up being blamed, setup or in danger. I want you to believe that the guy in question isn't someone you know or what he's capable of doing.

Kids dz day tear eye the people wey born them, dey are attracted by sweet words and flashy tinz. Talking to them might bring disregard for you, they may see you as enemy of progress. And don't forget that dz same kids could rope you for something you don't even know or simply state that you are the one inviting them to meet the guys.

Just be careful with whatever you decide to do, if your gut is telling you to talk to somebody about it, do you. God ll see you through.

Children when birthed come to dz world blank, it's the parents, society and the environment that fills that blank with whatever they deem is necessary.

Most teachers ain't qualified to be a teacher but bcuz of dz Buhari time dy end up with teaching job.

They have
Zero ion for the job
Zero ability
Zero drive for the job

The rate at which dz ppu establish private schools dz days scares me. Their mission is just to make ends meet and nothing else.

The loss of a child isn't healthy to one's mental health. Condolences to the parents.

Before you judgment,

Look at that picture very well. That can't be the so called baroness, I know it's not written on the face but we watch movies. We know how dey look like in movies, the drug lord and the baroness.

Her appearance doesn't fit that palatial mansion or what she's wearing unless it's a camouflage to sway ppu.

No man is single be it married or not. If he dey hauz na you get am, if he comot na everybody get am. Know dz and have peace of mind.

To the women, they should try and dress appealing for the husband instead of dres as if they were maids. Some women after getting married just 'darale' like kokanmi.

You shouldn't have open his msg when you know you won't reply, personally I don't open msg I know I won't reply. I just let it sit there till I get a good reply to give.

As an adult, if you like someone you let them know. If the person like you back, you get luck if not you move on find another person.

Life don comot from say you dey hide feelings oo

You ignore the guy call and msg based on assumptions that you don't want to look desperate, now nigga too is ignoring you bcuz he's lot in his mind.

He didn't come to Nigeria cuz of yu but he gave you the attention nd you confirmed you'd fun.
The guy might be testing you to know if you're worth the effort and chase and I believe you're not too big to set your assumptions and pride aside to do the needful.

Call or text him and when he picks you let him know your fears, I hope you get positive from him.

Mine was doing GCE days, we had mathematics that day.

But on seeing the question paper, elephant started stomping in my stomach. I had to meet the invigilator to excuse me to do the needful.

As soon as I got out the elephant stopped and I was relieved so I went back inside. Few minutes, my stomach started rumbling again, I got up to meet the invigilator who was already looking at me with a stare that could make me combust. I said,
Me: sir I want to ease myself
Sir:Again, what did you eat dz morning? He allowed me.

I went out again but dz time I never reach toilet b4 I mess myself up.

To clean myself I no fit, to go back inside go continue exam I no fit. I just stand dey look.

Shortly, one of the teachers in that school was sent to look for me by the invigilator. When she saw me, the look on her face was priceless.

She asked me to wait and she left to get me tissue, soap. As I was cleaning myself, she was telling me how dey all tot I left.
That d invigilator was the one that insist dey should check the toilet first b4 dey conclude.

After cleaning myself, here comes another dilemma. How do I go back to the class with all d ppu present there? Bcuz I know she would have told them about seeing me and the situation she met me. Mind you am d shy type.

I just start to dey cry o, that I don't want to sit for the paper again, she persuaded me, that it's nothing just call of nature.
Then I tot of it, how do I tell my parents I missed my paper bcuz I dey shame say I shit for body? I just compose with my head down and went to class. On getting there, the invigilator was d first person to initiate convo but I couldn't answer him, All eyes was on me I just jejely go sidan, try check the question again.

25mins later I hear time up, I just go submit like that.

Result came out I got C4 but that didn't erase that day from my head.
Funny thing is I didn't eat anything that day o.

My aunt came to stay with us back then.

She's the type that has low tolerance for spicy food but when she got knocked up, Oh! Her hate for spicy food became love.

You can't eat out of her food cuz you ll either end up drowning yourself wit too much water or open your mouth for air to enter.

If she takes pap, she adds pepper. Sometimes habanero or grounded pepper.

Then later change to longer throat. She stops eating our own food but food made by someone else like 3 flat before our own.

When she gave birth ehn, we're all relieved.
Come to think of it, the baby boy now eats pepper like kilode now.

Friends? Hmmmm

If a friend ask you how life is treating you, just know that he/she is only asking not bcuz they care but to measure up with their own life.

I once get dz seasoned friend back then in school. I say season cuz she no dey check on me normally but once in a blue moon after we finish school but I still try keep communication. Na me dey always call, text her first, I just make up my mind stop.

Before, I go always tell her all my life epistle if she act like say she care until I noticed d trend. The last time she be call me ehn I do her shege, she msg me afta 2yrs to ask how life dey treat me, if I don get job or not. Na so I start to give her lamba o say I don see work for Maryland with pay of 150k for a start+accommo and tfare allawee.
When I ask about life, she just open my msg but no reply since today.

Modified: Some friends need to know that lights are different from one another.
Some light are dimmer and need extra power to shine better yl oda don't need extra power cuz the light is brighter without it.

Babara1994:
I lodged in an hotel for a night. The bedsheet was smelling like pussy. Very irritating thing

Oga you too much o!

You don kpansh tire to know how pussy dey smell. I hail thee

This experience got me cracked up like say I take loud.

palsenator:
I unfortunately went to this hotel around Abule Egba in Lagos and paid #5000 for the night only to find out that the Gen wasn't working around 10 pm when it was supposed to be on. That was not even the problem. In my whole life , I have never seen a place with so much mosquitoes and rat. I am not kidding ooo. Despite using insecticide before entering the room , It was just too much.

Me and the babe went to stay outside till day break and we couldn't do anything. Till today, i still have not stopped apologizing to her..

I made sure I collect back part of the money I paid sha.


Another was the haunted hotel around Iyaro in Benin... Bed was well spread before I enter and I just dropped my bag , went straight to the bathroom but when I came out , the bed was in disarray.
I tried to make sense of it and I arranged it again before going out to get something to eat.... The moment I closed the door to the room , I heard a sound and I quickly opened the door...I saw everything scattered again, my bag was slightly opened.. Me I run ooo... I was given another room but couldn't sleep till day break...