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If you're student, appear to agree with whatever your lecturer says, and your grades will magically improve.

If your lecturer teaches you a particular method in class, and you find out you can use another method in solving what he taught you, do not use your alternative method. Do not outshine him. While some lecturers might be intrigued by your intelligence, most might find it offensive.

If you know a particular topic/subject more than your lecturer, remain silent about it. Alternatively, if you're having difficulties with a particular course, if possible, become close with the lecturer, charm him or be a representative to his course, and he will find it difficult to fail you.

Limassol:
Being a silent reader, i felt the need to commend the amazing job you are doing here. Thanks.

Thank you, I appreciate.

Ask yourself these questions:

- What if I disappear, will they look for me?

- If I decide to go offline, will people notice?

- If people don't get reminded of my birthday, will they celebrate me?

- If I become bedridden due to illness for number of days or months, who will stay by my side?

- When I'm gone, what will people me for?

- If I'm in the darkest part of my life, who will show me the light?

- If death comes knocking, what will be my deepest regret?

Sooner or later, you'll realise what/who really matters, who never did and who always will.

If you've spent a significant amount of time with a particular company i.e. some number of years, and you've neither been promoted nor gotten an increase in salary, then it's time to change your place of work or consider starting your own business.

Sorrento:

What about mid 20 guy, is there need for even a relationship ?

If you feel you need a relationship, then no problem. Just know that for every decision taken, there's an end result.

@CR777, Smiles, your post triggered me to say something.

This is why balancing of the knowledge of TRP is the most important of all. If I wanted to follow all what I read on Nairaland every now and then, I would have become a full blown misogynist who doesn't even want to see any woman by his side because of someone else's bitter experiences. Sometimes I wonder if the problem really lies with women or with men.

Some comments I've read here and other threads I've come across sometimes makes me wonder how some people treat fellow women because of being exposed or wanna be called a redpiller. The thing about rage is that it blinds your eyes and also clouds your judgement. The more you hate, the more you hurt yourself in the process. In as much as women can be dangerous sometimes, men too are. Some women too were heavily damaged by men. So just pick yourself the fvck up and move on. Lesson learnt!

If you know how to handle women, you can even use them to achieve your goals. I can't even count how many times I've gotten favours from women even more than men myself. There are some times when I need something done, because I know a woman is unlikely to say no to me, I will use a woman for that particular mission, and it works 9 out of 10. Some comments makes me really wonder like WTF does TRP mean to some people.?

I always avoid people who hates the opposite sex. You know you've become a real alpha when you can get along with men and women really well and understand how each gender works, only then will you find peace.

Nothing like strictly business! There's a reason why companies don't hire couples or relatives. I'm sure sooner or later, Okafor's Law would be activated.

How do you expect him to be comfortable with nonsense?

My only concern is with the husband that might raise a bastard and probably commit suicide when things goes south.

The is nothing but the truth! In addition:

- Life is not for the weak, you either take what you want or die trying to.

- If you don't take your life seriously now, you'll be forced to do so later and unfortunately, with misery and regrets.

- Cut off bad company or drown with them, the choice is yours.

- As a man, your life is already expendable, every minute counts, so make it worthwhile. Women are afforded the privilege to fail, but you as a man is not. If you don't make it, you don't make it.

- Make valuable friendships and connections.

- Keep your life private and never reveal your next move.

Emotionalbeing:
Yes, ended in tears..

Ended in tears, how?

You said you're a virgin, do you have an attitude that pushes people away from you? Are you physically attractive or the opposite? Do you have core values?

Or the people you date ends up leaving you because you didn't have sex with them?

We all know most female celebs are using their birthdays as a medium to their products and to remain relevant in eyes of the public.

If you love yourself, stay faraway from her. Move on dude! It's commendable you didn't try to her, now it's time to forget about her.

In reality, most expenses incurred by wedding preparation is just a waste of money. The most important aspect of marriage is the introduction between both families. Any other things added to it is an exaggeration.

Hathor5:


What logical arguments have you provided in the first place?

You have thrown in your black and white world view like it is the ultimate truth.

A woman has clearly stated that she is not hypergamous. I myself am not and I know plenty of women who earn more than their husbands.

Just because in your circles women marry up doesn't mean that all women or most women do or desire to.

Well for the sake of people that's gonna read up this thread and probably learn a thing or two, I will expatiate further.

Being hypergamous isn't just only about money or how rich one is. Being hypergamous can be psychological. A woman has to believe or perceive a man is better than her in one way or the other to be attracted to him. So the fact that a woman dates a man poorer than her or less famous than her doesn't mean she isn't hypergamous, he has something else going on either physically, socially or psychologically that makes her believe he is superior. If this wasn't the case, she wouldn't be with him.

Highbeepeeh:
Boss really missed your thread cos am currently following one of the advice you gave.

May God keep blessing you with wisdom and guides you always

Thank you and God bless you.

LOL, when a woman fails to provide counter logical argument, instead of coming to a conclusion, or agreeing to disagree, the next thing she would rather do is to resort to insult or shaming tactics. I didn't expect more. They just proved one of many truths altogether. Enjoy!

Rule 1: Never present logical proof to emotional beings.

Ladyhippolyta88:


You must have been there working on the program alongside the creator to know this.

It is not a gender thing stop using religion to preach BS.Choosing to stay with a particular partner for a lifetime or at a time takes choice, commitment and discipline.It is not a thing of hardwire

Smiles, if you're a woman, I understand where this argument will already lead to. Women can't stomach the thought of sharing their man with other women.

Men are polygynous, women are hypergamous. It's the way it has always been. There are no two ways about it. LOL!

@Hathor5

If sex doesn't become boring amongst partners, there won't be cases of broken marriages due to cheating. A man might have an uncontrollable erection for a third party, while for his wife, it's a totally different story and vice versa.

Men are not programmed to stay with a particular woman for a life time. If a man is rich or have the means, he will either acquire more wives or have side chics. Men who stayed with a particular woman for a lifetime in most cases, it's either he doesn't have the means, or afraid of what the society or family would say. This is why the Qur'an (4v3) and Bible (Exodus 21v10) provided men with the opportunity to marry more than one wife.

@Klass99

Of course, you are right, but don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying sex shouldn't be among the reason to get married but for me, it shouldn't be the core motive on why you are getting married. Couple who got married for the sake of having legal sex may end up getting disappointed and depressed if it doesn't turn out with the way they imagined it to be. The idea of marriage is often more romantic that the reality of it.

All other points you made are valid. As long there's a mutual understanding, but feelings change and people also change.

Of course, there are lot of ways to know if a girl truly loves you through her actions, I will be talking about a few.

She spends and invest a lot in the relationship:

Generally, most women are stingy when it comes down to money. They believe it's your duty to keep providing for them, a girl who truly loves you will spend for you and also do things most typical girls won't. I once had a girl that continues to do and buy expensive things for me even after breaking up with her with the reasoning I might later reconsider her, LOL! No.

She breaks rules for you:

A girl that truly loves you will break her moral principles to satisfy you. She might not be like this to anyone else.

She stays with you even with many other options available for her:

A girl that truly loves won't easily detach herself from you. If you break up with a girl and she moves on easily, she wasn't in love with you, she was using you.

There are lot of ways to if the love she has for you is real by making her series of tests and challenges. But in all, never trust a woman completely. Trust but .

Klass99:
I have always believed there are essentially 3 reasons for marriage;

1. Companionship
2. Sex
3. Children

And people can get married for all three of those reasons or just two of them or even for just one of them and there won't be anything wrong with that.

Intending couples (people who want to marry each other) need to be honest with themselves why they wanna get hitched in the first place and they should be on the same page about these things.

I disagree that getting married should be solely for the sake of building a strong family foundation. It is very okay to marry for just the companionship alone. Husband and wife will be family to each other.

Even the good books says marry if you're unable to hold body so you don't live in continuous or perpetual fornication which is a very valid reason to get married as well.

Nice counter argument, but the point is you can't build a strong family foundation without including sex or companionship.

But if it's solely for the sex, there would be a time when the sex becomes boring, this happens a lot in marriage. Another example is, if you only marry for love, there would be a time when the love wanes, so what happens when all these diminishes? Marrying solely for sex or children might be a bad reason to go into marriage.

People who got married with the sole purpose of getting the sex they wished for anytime they want it in most cases ends up being disappointed. I'm sure you've read a lot of FP stories about wives or husbands complaining about how their spouses is denying them their conjugal rights. You made good points though.

In ancient days, people don't marry for love, or just to have sex, they marry to keep their line of family going and also to the power possessed unto to their next generation and it lasted. So what went wrong with this generation?

The use of social media and portrayal of romantic movies has made the statistics go higher. Myths like love at first sight, the soul mate, the special one was made real using these medium.

In this current age, a typical 15-20 years old girl might be dating 3 guys and they won't ever find out. It's crazy. The lack of regulations of these medium and irresponsible parents is also one of the leading causes of this common trend.

In this current age and time, people get married for various reasons. Some because of materials, some because time is catching up with them, some because of sex (to avoid sin), some because they can't put up with the pressure their family or friends is making them through, some because of being tired of their wayward life, some due to social media craze, some because of revenge or to entice etcetera.

Only few are actually getting married for the sake of it, i.e. for the purpose of building a strong family foundation, and that's why only few are surviving.

Apt! But yet, some people still weren't able to comprehend OP's post. In addition to what the OP said, never ask a woman out twice. If she doesn't at least give her out during the first conversation, or showing you the uninterested signal, leave! If she finds you interesting, trust me she will willingly give her out and also willing to work things out with you without stress.

Don't make women your mental point of focus. It will end badly for you. Focus on yourself because women don't roll with losers or a person who doesn't have anything to offer. Become the chooser not the chosen.

If only women knew that men are doing them a favour by asking them out, because you are still going to invest more if you're considering marriage, but surely they also cannot accept every man that comes their way.

Women in most cases always keep their options open. You as a man should have other options too because a man without options is a man without power.

If you have multiple cars, you can easily swap them when one breaks down or stops working. But if you only invest all your savings on a particular car and it broke down, you can imagine the trauma you'll through.

And besides, women love competition. If you treat a woman like she's the only girl in your life, she will treat you as one of many options in her life.