NewStats: 3,263,236 , 8,179,486 topics. Date: Thursday, 05 June 2025 at 07:49 AM q46

If everything we did caught up with us in a horrible way, most of us would have given up on life.

It turns out that for some of our mistakes made while naive and young, they come back with multiple effects and grave consequences. Some escape things easily and some don’t. To everyone his/her karma.


Do not try to be the police of the world or the disciplinarian of the world. Also, do not try to take advantage of her over the matter.

It should and would resolve itself at the appropriate time. Given the chance, the child from the relationship has a better chance with the man she is married to. If we counted the number of Children, especially first kids, not being raised by their biological dads, it would be about 30 to 40 per cent. If you take actions that destroy the Marriage, three (3) children stand to be traumatized from the experience.

If the husband is meant to find out, at the appropriate time he would fine out. An acquaintance did not find out or suspect until he returned to NIGERIA after many years to claim his child to the US. Curiosity let to a DNA POM Test which revealed he wasn’t even the dad.

Things will eventually fall in place but one thing about life is at times you may need to do a little bad or look the other way to protect and guarantee a larger/bigger good. Especially when we classify bad as doing things which we ought not to have done, and not doing things we ought to have done. In this instance, do not do anything about this. And also do what Eva Green said in the movie Kingdom of Heaven.

At a party in the village.
Went for a wake keeping as part of obsequies for a very old relative. At night it turned out that all youths were exhausted in the family house after the dancing and singing and drinking.

Early in the morning while the event continued many others looked for where to sleep. A lot of us went to the main living room of the house and slept on the floor in the living room. It turned out that most of the girls were slightly intoxicated, ecstatic from the event, generally giddy and quite tired. While we all slept at various spots, corners and angles in the main living room which was a typical village living room, large and expansive, someone came to lay close to me. Apparently it was someone I couldn’t properly figure out, as the only available light came from the light outside by the bulbs attached onto the canopy frames for those still dancing, eating, drinking and talking. Noise from the generator and Music from the speakers also was quite loud.

Turned out that as we all took various manageable comfortable positions just to at least catch some sleep, I decided to lay close to the wall at one of the four corners of the living room. I noticed someone come lay close to me and the little space I had left between myself and the wall. Being a few distance away from me it was easy to spoon if I moved closer. Interestingly she was the one who moved backwards a few minutes later and snuggled with her back nestling against me.

In that night, under the dark, with the noise from the generator and music playing, we went silly and crazy. It began with a touch and light caress to see her response to a kiss on her neck, shoulder and her back. And from there my hands slipping into the burial T-shirt she was wearing to caress her boobs and gently and erotically lightly pinch and play with her hardened nipples. I eventually loosened the single “George” wrapper she tied setting it free . Laying on my left side, I used my right feet and thigh/knee to push open and widening her thighs apart, then shifted the edge of her already wet panties, while still kissing the back of her neck and shoulders. I eventually eventually, quietly kicked off my tros and taking her from behind while she turned her head to kiss and stifle her moans which wouldn’t have been heard anyway. With the noise I got bolder to take strong thrusts as we spooned. Eventually came inside her as she tried to break free when she felt my orgasm build up as my thrust got slower, stronger and deeper. She knew what was about to happen and I think she realized the risk. She initially wanted to break free. However, when I held her stiffly with one hand on her hips while caressing her boobs, nipples and clit with the other hand, she succumbed as I came inside her. She turned her head backwards to kiss and moan and breath into my mouth. We stayed glued for a long time and eventually she got up and disappeared into the night.

I slipped back into my tros and expected her to return because I felt she went to clean up. She never returned. However in the morning among many girls who are friends to my cousins, sisters and other relatives, I suspected a girl between 19-24 or 25 who had exchanged numerous glances with me during the wake as I refused to dance and would rather be on my own, sitting and watching. I typically do not fancy the idea of dancing during the burial of any person. Regardless of how old and how well they lived.

While I have no grudge against the drink and I also do drink alcohol moderately, I beg to totally disagree with the way and manner the article presents its case for the health benefits of this drink. This is not a properly written article.

Odogwu Bitters is a recreational alcoholic based drink. It should be left at that. If left at that I will not mind. However, it would be very dangerous and a disservice to the public if we promote the consumption of this drink based on false claims and pseudo-science on its health benefits. None of the research works were properly cited. Additionally, just because garlic is added into alcohol does not immediately mean such a combination is fully beneficial. Such t action combination could be synergistically toxic to a large degree. Something could be good for blood pressure but harmful/toxic to other organs.

If this drink is to be proven to be beneficial health wise, then it should be subjected to full research in its complete form. Proper double blind research in its pure form with adequate controls. Otherwise, let us leave it that it is an alcoholic drink with herbal extracts with the likely effect of improving libido. Simple. High libido does not equate overall health.

My advice to the public is DRINK ANY ALCOHOLIC DRINK AND EVEN WATER RESPONSIBLY.

The risk in having an affair with married women is high. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HER HUSBAND WILL REACT WHEN HE FINDS OUT. You may be staring at the barrel of the gun held a few inches away from your face.

Do married women and men have sexual needs? Yes. Not all marriages are sexually exciting for the men or the women. Will some try to satisfy these needs? Yes. Many will. People do things because they can. Forget all the bU llshit stories about the Whys . People do things simply because they can.

Now if this story is true, she is hitting on you
Because she can and wants to. Her motive is however not to be your concern. Do not listen to her why she wants you and what her husband is good and bad at. Knowing her motives will only validate your reason to go ahead. I say and will advise that you focus on the risks and the risks alone. A married woman is a risky venture. In many instances it has led to death and destruction. While it is highly mentally stimulating and fulfills the satisfaction of a fantasy - Conquering the Female of Another Male- it can be very very risky. I know the feeling of chasing down another man’s woman, conquering her and mentally subdue her to open and spread wide her thighs for me to thrust and plant my seed in her. This is one of the most highly exciting and mentally stimulating thing for a virile and fertile man. I know women I hunted down and due to the immense knowledge in the art of love making, had many breakdown when I felt it has become too risky being secret lovers. One would eventually sneak into my apartment at night when her husband travelled and while we were stark naked and fully inside her as she moaned and grabbed the sheets, spreading her thighs and lifting her hips to match every slow and deep thrust, a neighbor who I believe suspected and nosey came to visit at that same odd hour of the night to discuss something very mundane insisting on coming into my apartment. I had to stand my ground that he leaves any discussion till the next day. It became too dangerous. It is a very very risky venture. Also, I realize that it is better a man puts this energy into something with far better gain professionally and financially.

Additionally, it breeds its own emotional turmoil within you for ever, as you will eventually worry if someone else won’t do it to your wife as you easily did it to another man’s. Karma always says to us “ I SAW THAT!”

Finally, People do things because they can. And you will do whatever you like because you can. Eventually, make the wise choice because you can.

It could be viewed through this spectrum. Through this lense. I mean why not?!

Men control relationships and women control sex and procreation. A relationship is a business establishment. The man throws open the invitation to apply and head hunts or the woman sends in an unsolicited application. Eventually, the woman is hired with proper and conditions for the employment. These must be discussed and agreed upon to the finest of details as much as possible. It is a business venture. It is an institution with services rendered, income, profit, loss, benefits, brand growth etc.

The MD/CEO is the man and will always be the man. That is how I see it. Women can be CEOs too and if they get a man who is ready to be under their leadership, then why not! It is the man’s choice. However, personally, through education, training, dedication and perseverance, and by the help of God, I have guaranteed my growth and personal development , that I prefer to be the MD/CEO and hire a willing and professionally competent Operations Manager. I CAN NEVER BE THE ONE. BEING HIRED. She must be smart, trust my leadership capabilities and perform her duties effectively as I perform mine. When I get to the HQ, I do not want quarreling and nagging. Respect will be mutual and I will protect the organization with my mental and physical strength and capabilities. When I go out pursing income and business prospects, I expect to return to a comfortable Corporate HQ which I have provided. If she wants to go out and pursue income too , then it has to be in such a way that it doesn’t affect the operations of the HQ. If the Ops Manager will ignore the Corporate HQ in the name of chasing prospects and income outside, then such has to be modified otherwise it becomes a deal breaker.


I expect other staff (Children) to be well mannered and well brought up under the guiding principles, mission, vision, values and expectations of our great and esteemed organization. That is your job as Operations Manager. Your job is not to watch zeeworld all day Iike some staff do and achieve nothing. We have a target to build lasting wealth and happiness for ourselves and staff to guarantee a sustained high quality of life for all of us. To be happy and be able to afford anything that is healthy and progressive and give happiness, that money can buy.

I believe as MD/CEO/PRESIDENT of this great institution I am building, I have a dream, a goal and a plan of achieving this for the organization. Only an Operations Manager who shares this dream, trusts my leadership skills and knows her roles and responsibilities in the journey can follow me in this journey. On a lighter note, I might “CONSULT” and “INTERACT” with other Operations Specialists who are already hired or still seeking for positions, once or twice to hear their opinions. Did I hear you say the discerning ladies will come for me? Hahahaha….

Yes we can liken it this way.

From the existing prejudices available and assigned to various Nigerian tribes and ethnic groups, he probably would have been Igbo and from Anambra, Enugu or Imo.

I strongly strongly feel he would have been from MBAISE in Imo State or NGWA in Abia State.

Someone like Solomon would probably have been from Rivers State, Kogi/Benue, or any of the Western/Yoruba States.

Sayqueen:
Hey guys I’m need some advice with my relationship. So this year, I started speaking to this guy whose share the same familial ties as me. He is an American citizen. When he first approached me I wasn’t totally interested but over time I’ve fallen in love with him. He’s has all the qualities I look for in a man. Fast forward he went back and we have been speaking everyday for the past five months. Our families know that we’re speaking and it its getting serious. He’s hinted at marriage as well and he’s sent me money. However I feel like he’s attention has slowly been staring to get withdrawn and he’s been more confrontational then usual. I’m not sure if it’s me or maybe something bothering him. Please any advice would mean a lot

There is hardly anyone who can provide the reasons for his change in social and romantic behavior towards you.

Of course your claims are founded based on months of daily interaction with him, so you are most probably correct that he could have changed slightly. In such instance, please ask him nicely if anything is wrong.

The man could be looking for who to pour out his heart to but you may be interested in discussing your marriage you are hoping for and etc. Ask him if his worries, his fears, his concerns. Ask him, is it work? Is it YOU? Is it your family ? Is it his family? You are the best person to gently and politely get to him.

He is a man, be comfortable to hear his complaints and listen to his complaints. Be his er and listen to his solutions the problems while suggesting modifications to any crazy solution he proposes to the problem(s). Yes, MEN CAN BE CRAZY. Of recent, I know a man whose problems was his wife’s sisters invading their home. She would allow them into their home. They would disrespect him. Wear half nude clothes and making his life uncomfortable. When they are home he had to avert his eyes, close his room door, etc. After warning his wife many times about her sisters and she wouldn’t listen, he decided to make life uncomfortable by going after the youngest sister. The funny thing is he told ALL his family that he was going to sexually chase the girl and that was what he was going to do. They screamed and begged over the phone that is was a FOOLISH and STUPID IDEA. He went on to use that as a solution and it led a a bitter quarrel between him and his wife, but the sisters were eventually banned from the home. He achieved his goal but the solution and method was horrible. Men can be crazy. And men go through a lot and do crazy things in order to be men.

Now back from my digression. You are the best person to approach him and speak with him to know the problems. If he doesn’t speak of it on your video calls for instance, then chat with him. Let him know he can discuss and tell you anything bothering him. Perhaps when you know what is bothering him, we may then be able to give you tips in keeping a man faraway overseas, that other women are probably “eyeing” too.

It is a simple kink and fetish. However, given the type of society we live in, it would be good that you ensure it is just because of a simple kink and fetish and nothing sinister.

Many men and women have these things but are too ashamed or gagged societally to discuss or even mention them. He is open about it and if it irks and grosses you out and it is something you cannot condone, then know that it could be a deal breaker for a long lasting relationship. Do not try to manage it or tell him to stop! For such things the man will only look for somewhere else to live and realize his fantasies. I still know a lady who likes to have sex under the rain. A Nigerian girl. I know of one that fantasizes of making love on bed with pure white sheets and rose petals and had’nt seen a man to fulfill that desire or understand her fantasies. The main question to you is, let us assume he isn’t doing this for any diabolical or sinister reason(s), can you live like this with him and watch him do this regularly for years? You will be the one to decide how much he is into the act and how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with him being this way.

Having healthy sexual festishes isn’t a bad thing with two interested and consenting adults. However, no one should be forced to like or hate a healthy and unharmful kink.

that these kinks, fetishes, fantasies etc are deeply rooted psychological experiences through life and mostly from our formative years.

Please read the book “MY SECRET GARDEN” about real female confessions about their sexual fantasies and you will be amazed. And this was in the 1970s, where women couldn’t even openly discuss sexuality like is done today. That book documented some of these fantasies and kinks. Men and women have these desires, fetishes and kinks. They are just careful and ashamed about disclosing these.

Like they quoted in 13 Hours-Secret Soldiers of Benghazi , “ PAYBACK IS A BITCH, AND HER STRIPPER NAME IS KARMA”.

You are simply afraid of your actions against DHARMA and the KARMA that arises from it. The Sanskrit text says “Dharma destroys those who try to destroy it, and dharma protects when protected. Therefore dharma must not be violated, for violated dharma destroys us.”

I would advise that you allow nature take its course. However, your plans to lock up your daughter is what will make it even backfire worse that you expected. They would simply rebel and sneak out under your very nose, or they will wait till the 22nd years of life and go wild and crazy. “Choose your weapon” wisely. Who says when you lock them inside, a gate man or house boy would not fucckk them in the kitchen pantry or Bleep them at night at the backyard where the water tank and pumping machine is? Right in your own compound/property and under your watching eyes and very nose? Who says their teacher won’t bend them over in the school’s toilet and creaampie them there? Who says one of your own friends won’t f u c k them, bending them over the kitchen counter when you all are watching a football match in your house. Please do not play Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent. Those qualities are left for only one being.

As a parent we feel that our children are property and we can just do with them as we like. They aren’t. You were only selected by nature to bring that person into the world. Your duty is to

-Protect
-Provide
-Nurture
- Set a good example
-Teach life’s skills and lessons that will greatly increase their chances of survival and success.

Once you are doing this well and effectively as a parent, you must understand that as they get older they have their lives to live and decisions to make. Your influence over them reduces unless you want to turn them to prisoners.

Finally, if your conscience worries you over your treatment of girls, then stop your actions that put you in this emotional and psychological state of mind. However, it is not a road to the salvation of your daughters from sex crazed and starved men roaming about. This advise is for your own peace of mind.

To protect your daughters, you can only play the role of being a good parent and educating them early on about the ravenous men out there and why as ladies, they need not be deceived by cheap promises, they understand their hormonal changes as they get older and control their sexual urges, and the importance of keeping their chastity to gain respect.

How I realistically view it is that while there are facts in some of the responses by the individuals interviewed, another major fact which they failed to state remains that MOST if not ALL couples who have a sex drive higher than their partners/spouses CHEAT OR MASTURBATE. Where such individuals are afraid of cheating, which is the main reason they do not cheat, they M ASTUR BATE. Many of the men simply let peace reign at home and Ffuck other people outside. Same thing with a few of the ladies who have a higher sex drive than their partners/spouses. They do not want to be called sluts (slut shamed) at home.

The same thing with sexual exploration and the art of love making. I have seen ladies who were wild and knew various tricks , that turn to nuns when they got married, acting like they had never seen a penis in their lives.

I do not see the reason why those interviewed are making it be only about understating this or that and how they went for counseling before marriage, etc. Fact is most of them sleep with other people outside. Anyway no one wants to be the one to reveal such things in an interview. Especially in a society that is judgmental and hypocritical as Nigeria is today.

Yes. To a large extent, the biochemistry of vaginal fluids could trigger such responses in males. Just like the red lip stick on the lips of women subconsciously affects men and reminds men of the female labia thereby attracting the men to women who apply them.


It is the same way a male stag or lion can sniff a female in heat from a far distance away and sniff her out to mate. Many female species in the animal kingdom give off pheromones and other biochemical compounds to signify ovulation, high fertility state and high readiness to mate. The male sniff these out and seek the female. Most mature and experience human males would pick up the slight smell of the vagina fluid you rubbed on your self and it would subconsciously remind them of sex and trigger the desire to mate with you. This is purely natural. However, you must note that some men may think that you just had sex with someone and may want to avoid you too. Especially in the work environment. They may assume you just got bleeped in a office or a toilet, etc.


As a matter of fact, when you read books like Transcendental Magic by Eliphais Levi, you will come across where he mentioned that in the old days love portions were even made with vaginal secretions from bitches and other female animals on heat.

While this is made up, it is typically known that such seemingly taboo sexual scenarios, experiences and possibilities are typically laden and laced with excitement and more adrenaline rush.

In the course of aging and experiencing life, as a young adult, I have also had three experiences that relate to this.
First, I have had cousins and both were sisters. Then I have also had a wife(mother) and her twin teen daughters that I was helping to prepare for Jamb Exams. Then I have also had my sister In-law’s teen daughter from another marriage. But that was me as a much younger man. These things are not as uncommon as we think them. And all the people screaming and shouting here have simply not had the opportunity to commit these. Or they have but as usual, play their stinking hypocrisy for everyone to see.

As a more mature adult, I doubt I will do such again. Regardless of the excitement, it is not worth the risk. To me that is. However, the hypocrites on this thread are many and very hilarious.

He has been having her all this while.

Anyway, I wish them well.

Sister lnlaws usually want what their older sister is having. Especially if they have been unlucky in the area of romance and sex. Sister in laws will get jealous that their sister has met a good man or a better man.

They of course won’t ever ever ever come out to show these. It is even taboo to think it let alone mention it. But one thing is at times the jealousy and envy is so much that it becomes very difficult to hide. At that stage she starts wearing skimpy clothes. Starts allowing the man catch her with her thighs open. Starts sleeping nude with the bedroom door open. They start making sure they mistakenly bump into the man or their bodies brush the man’s body. At this stage most men cannot help it. They simply can’t. They go into chase mode.

Sisters have always wanted what sisters have! But it is taboo to covet your sister’s lover or your mum’s good lover or your daughter’s good husband. It is taboo! But the women think it. They wish it. They imagine being bleeped and dominated by the man their daughters, sisters or mum have. As much as it is taboo, at times the desire is so strong or they loose self control and their actions and intentions will betray the hypocrisy and secret jealously.


They will gladly spread their thighs and receive their sister’s/daughter’s/mother’s husband in between their thighs or ravish them from behind when the opportunity presents itself.

It is not new. Just that some things are best kept hidden in the minds of people so that the society is at peace. Because if it becomes a norm for all women to realize that their sister’s want what they have, the society would crumble with women poisoning one another!

Kalabari women definitely.

From my research into their culture, when you consider their fattening room especially before marriage .

My design specifications do not come with the ability to experience or appreciate the emotional feeling that will make me cry on my wedding day.

My mentality is I’ll always remain that MEN REMAIN STRONG. No human born of another human can tell me that as a man IT IS JUST OKAY TO CRY for absolutely no other reason than that I have decided to protect and provide for someone for the rest of my life as far as my strength can carry me.