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Some of the female bankers carry their shoulders so high. One of them, my close friend complained to me how her male suitors always run away, i thought that she has not found the correct man for her. Then i tried hooking her up with a relative of mine who was looking for a good girl because i used to know her as one back then. When my cousin started calling her he noticed she was not friendly and was thinking he was coming to toast her because of her money even though she did not know my cousin's status. He lost interest and went his way. Hardly you see any of them being friendly unless they find out your pocket is very heavy then you see them eyeing you.

I dont even understand what you mean as pampering. I my family no pampering for anybody we are so blunt and leave no stone unturned. My hubby is so strong and so i learnt. And its been working. For instance when we quarell no body begs or says sorry later we forget and move on. Although he still spoils me with gifts and good time when we are flowing fine.

Its the hormone. At times you feel depressed, disgusted, so hot inside, exhausted, irritated at things you used to like, the list continues.

Sexual urge is natural in us but as christian it has to be put in check before it leads one to sin. But for an un married person desiring sex is sin. It can lead to masturbation. For married person desiring sex with a person other than your spouse is sin and that can lead to extra marital affair.

It beats me whenever i heard one Adaure Achumba of silverbird then pronounce her name as adorachomba. No matter how wide i travel or live abroad i cannot change my accent when talking with fellow blacks. But when i talk with oyibo i speak like them for better understanding. Then when its an igbo person its native language direct.

That vow i took at the alter is no 1 becsuse i am kind of person that takes vows and promises seriously. If i know that i may not live up to expectations i dont take vows or make promises. When ever he offends me and i that i have taken the oat or for better or worse i forgive even without being begged. 2. Courage from God. My best verse bible verse phil 4:13 i can overcome all conditions by the power in Christ Jesus. 3. Awareness of the fact that he is human and can make mistakes and so do i. 4. Knowing that there are many realities to be faced and many challanges in marriage and facing them squarelly. I dont keep malice and cannot wait to be begged so also him. Most importantly when i rember i am a sinner but God forgives me and blesses me i will not have option than to let go. Prayer also. He still has his own strenghts that have kept us going. I thank God for keeping us together it has not been easy at all. We have faced many difficult situations but God has been seeing us through and has kept our love intact.

As a woman i do not even need my hudband to tell me to quit my job for the sake of taking care of the children. For me taking good care of my children is my priority. Before i take up any job, i check out if it will afford me ample opportunity for my children if not i leave it. I have made a lot of sacrifice for their sake especially now they are still small. I have other big plans for future which i know i will achieve as soon as my children can take care of themselves when i am not around. The kind of job i wanted i could not get but the tight ones even though the pay is good kept coming but i could not take them. So i end up with business and its also going very well. Some times the money we chase ionately does not give us satisfaction so we have to strike a balance. My advice is that both the husband and wife should harmonise the issue. The man should not force the woman and at the same time there should be an arrangement for an alternative job for the woman that will allow her some time. Its not easy to get an income earner to stay at home and do nothing.

May God help them and give them the wherewithal to take care of the kids. God is mysterious!

Wao i love this family. The mount zion films are so inspirational with a lot of lessons. God bless them for their positive impact on people's lives.

@ drunkardspatron

Case closed you hear. Sleep well because am already in day time here. Or better prepare for your day

@Skyllapatron

You are not worth my answer. Drunkardspatron! Even your name is sugestive

@Scyllapatron


If you think you are an elder with some experience you have to show it. Following your posts i saw irresponsibility even at you age. Its your kind of person that goes around pedling egocentrism all in the name of helping people sort their matital problems. At the end you lead them to destruction. I have said and still maintain that you are drunkard. Because your posts sujest it. Gone are days when women are so cheap for you to manipulate. Fool. Read other peoples post on this thread and and learn from men who know how to manage their family.

@ scyllapatron

i just checked you out. You are just a joker at your age. Anyway wisdom does not have anything to do with age, i pardon you. What is even your advice on this issue? May be that of a drunkared when there is free beer before him. I pity your wife

@Scyllapatron

We have heard from the man then what of the woman? Do you know that she might have a different thing to say as regards this issue. Not that i am taking sides with the woman because i am her folk no, some men see themselves as king all for the woman to be worshiping then and when you fail to do that the whole world would hear it. He should stop complaing and look into his life first to see whether he has problem. I am a married woman of many years and has helped people fix their marriages. Both the wife and husband has some work to do to forestall peace. Its not only a woman' thing.

@ op you still have to check yourself very well. Its not enough to be a bread winner, always bringing food to the house and buying expensive things to please her. Some men feel its all about that and they disrespect their wife and talk to her anyhow. Some men cannot involve their wife in decision taking in the family and when the woman talks its of less importance. Many men think its only their opinion that matter. You do not carry the woman along how do expect her to be happy. Again you sound like a man that keeps the wife at home so that when you are back your food already on the table. You dont think she deserves to earn some money because you are afraid that she can have access to the things you buy for her and as such would not be loyal to you. You tell her what ever belongs to you is for two of you but you pack your money in your pocket and spend the way you want and buy anything you think is good for her and wait for her to beg you before you give her some money. You ought to examine yourselfe very well. Even some men have series of dos and donts for the wife to follow diligently. Always excercising power and authority as the bread winner to a dormant wife. Then be ready for obstinacy, disrespect and nagging. For me you can buy me the latest car to show the world that you are the best husband as long as you do not carry me along, you are on your own.

I do not know why many people expecially non catholics bother too much about Mary. Why is it that some people are embittered even to hear her name? Can any one quote the scripture to show me where Mary offended them? Why the fuss then? If you think you do not have any business with her why not move on with your life. Just think of the way you will feel hurt when someone dishonours your mother, that is still how you are hurting Jesus dishonouring his mother. Read Rev 12 a woman God himself adorned with the sun, moon and stars then who are you to despise her. Also read luke 1:41-45 they scripture says that Elisabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit at the sight of Mary and she made those uterances. Biko if any one does not want to recognize her role in our salvation its upto the person. It is only a weak and lapsed catholic who is not acquaited with the bible that will even try to reason with you. Do yourself good and go to pegans and even nations that have not recieved good news and evangelize instead of brooding here. As for me Mary is my mother, queen, my friend, my love, my advocate and many more. Jesus is my Lord, savoiur, redeemer, king and many more. As long as you do not want to par with the truth even as you think you are wise continue to plunge deeper into utter ignorance.




Any one trying to quote me for dialogue or arguement, your name is sorry because i would not give a danm. Take it or leave it.

Buy op you have to travel because you are still myopic. When you travel you gain a lot of experience and understand better. Nothing seems too big to you again because you have seen it all. I only miss my family and friends nothing more.

For twins
Chikayima- chikamma
Chinyere - nnanyere
Ikemsinachi - onumsinachi
Ebubechukwu - ifechukwu

Be yourself. Dont be a braggart or a lier, show how serious minded you are in everything you are doing. He must be intellingent at least above avarage in academic endeavour. Tall and dark. He must be responsible and proactive. Able to appreciate and humorous. God fearing and having respect for self and others.

I hate getting angry so much because it hampers my happiness which i value so much. Then when ever i am provoked, and want to burst, i will just ask my self; is this enough reason for me to give up my hapiness? Imediately i will say i reject anger in my life and i will breath in and out. The next i will do is to direct that energy sourge to an activity. Then i will be free and happy as ever. This was how i learnt to stopped beating my children so often and also incessant nagging of my hubby. Anger can be managed because we are human with concience and not beasts.

@ Olubankemi, the Lord is your strenght. I will sure you in my prayers. Hugs!

Just want to share my experience with sisters ttc. Before i concieved my first child, one day i was going to the chapel to pray for God to make me fertile then i was having just N1000 in the house and my hubby travelled and things were not rosy for us as at that time. I took the money to look for change on my way because its my habit to always make an offering anytime i go to chapel. Upon all the effort i made no body was able to help me change the money. Then one mind told me since thats my last card i should not give at all because my husband will still take like one week to come back. Then it was like a battle going on in my mind. Then a voice told me "why do you hold unto this N1000 as if ur life depends on it. Try me and see what i can do" then i made up my mind to give that money as offering. After my visit to the chapel, i saw some people gathering at the church and asked them what was happening they told me that they came for a vigil because it was late in the evening. Then i went home and prepared for the vigil. When it was time for prayer points, the man of God said if you know you are ttc come out, i went out with other women. He prophesied on us that we would not see our period again. I faithfully claimed it and it did came to in my life. Now i have 3 lovely children. My sisters the Lord that did it for me will do it for you I strongly believe that no woman is barren and in due time babies will come. Just like man of God prophesied to me i prophesy to you. May this month crown you with your dream babies in Jesus name amen.

Not only them. We launched our 3rd baby few months ago with a 2014 honda crosstour. Yea all glory to God.

She is 27 and behaves childishly. She is taking you for granted. Send her home. One expo for you is this if you allow the woman you will marry tomorrow to disregard you like this, you will regret your life. This is a lesson for you. Marry an obedient wife because you are too soft.

Yea i have my room and hubby has his. But we mostly sleep in either rooms. Any time any day i want my own room.

No i did not cry. My mum and my younger sister were crying but i could not face them because i thought crying for me at that time was ironical. All i did was to go and wait in the car. Staying with my hubby who was away for a year and half was all i need. It was the day after that i cried when i went to my house and my kid sister just came and held me so tight, at first i thought it was just hug but when she refused to let go of me crying profusely then it touched me that i was leaving my best friends, my mum and my kid sister. And i cried uncontrollably.

I experienced this too. It was my cousins husband. And i and my cousin were so close like blood sisters.In my case i left their house the following day he made the first attempt. But i did not leave just like that, i talked to the man the way he never expected. He knew i was leaving because of that but i decided not to tell my cousin because of what it will cause for them. Again if i had told her she may never believe it and it will be that i wanted to ruin her family. And this is family issue nobody will ever reason with me because they will feel that something might have been going on between us. I swore never to go to their house again.

May be its because you are broke but its not enough reason naa. Have you forgotton your root so soon? Asi na nwa agu anaghi ata ahihia. Odikwa egwu. Urualla umu nnaa take heart.

Which area in benin city?

Because you always beg thats why its been like that. Try not to provoke him. But when gets angry dont even beg him. Ignore him and move on. Just do as if he does not exist. Then when he is ready to talk do as if nothing happened. If you think your happiness depends on your husband that means you have to be sad alwsys. Try to see every reason to be happy. Good a thing you have children. Dont stop preparing his food, just take that as sacrifice. Learn to overlook somethings he does and and says. You cannot achieve anything by worrying yourself. Men have thick skin if you are the one angry it may not even disturb him one bit. So take decision to live happily. The unmarried and widows still see reason to be happy and live long how much more you.

I expected ini edo's name to be on that list.

I guess your natural nails are far better than the attachements.