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@ all4naija

"mere mind" - lololololol

ok - please forgive me - I got a little too excited in my response to you - my apologies - lololol - I did not mean to offend you

OK - a present is a gift

The poster has given her husband many gifts already - and wanted some different ideas

A party can't get ANY MORE TANGIBLE - it is a great gift (if he likes parties and people and celebrations) - also many times when a "surprise party" is given - people like taking part and playing different roles and being "asked to contribute" makes most of us feel very special.

Your mentioning my name on a site is an honor and I see my conversation with you - regardless to whether it is negative or positive - our interaction with each other is a "Gift" as well. I didn't meet you any other way - if you are overseas - we have an ocean between us and this forum gifts us to meet each other.

I see that as tangible as well.

Also - who here has had an o.rgasm and not seen that o.rgasm as being a gift? I for one do value them.

@ Long One


lololololol

all4naija:

I thought the original poster said present or gift. How can party falls into that category for some people is beyond me? I stand to be corrected!

and a big fat hello to you too   

anything you give to someone "is a gift"

So let me "gift you with this thought process"

party - can be viewed on ALL LEVELS as a gift - please expand your world by optimizing your grasp of communication

A PARTY IS A GIFT(S)

Never has he looked more masculine nor more sexy than when he has spent his money on me.

There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with spending money on your girl or your woman

I encourage it COMPLETELY

It touches me to my core when my man spends his money on me. I place great value in whatever he buys for me and I treasure it most highly.

Thank you to Roki for opening this wonderful and insightful and intelligent thread.

I salute you!

You have been married for a while so you have already given him the "traditional style gifts"

You have exhausted your ideas and want to do something creative, meaningful and different.

So you have to "reach" - ALSO here is a way to expand on your 200 and to get MORE slam FOR YOUR BUCK

This is what Shy would suggest to you:

A surprise birthday party for him:

[list]
[li]plan it as a theme party (maybe a 90s party or a 80s party - select a decade year that he talks about or reminisces)[/li]
[li]invite people (friends he hasn't seen IN YEARS) - 1st and Secondary and Uni school mates - people from his first job, neighbors from his first apartment[/li]
[li]ask each person to write a little something about him that each of them can read out loud to the crowd[/li]
[li]cook some great foods for him - with his family and your family[/li]
[li]have each guest bring a drink to share (alcohol or non-alcohol) and gifts to give to him - small not large gifts (as that shouldn't be the object - you want to fill the home and you don't want people to not show up because they didn't have monies for a gift)[/li]
[li]have a powerpoint presentation playing with music and photos of him all the way back to the day of his birth forward to today[/li]
[li]have your pastor give a blessing for the event[/li]
[li]have family give performances if they are talented[/li]
[li]get a board game and have groups of people play (taboo is a great game)[/li]
[li]the day of his birthday - take him out to a quiet candlelight dinner and let him think that is his gift[/li]
[/list]

Another good one:

Jaybee has great answers especially a get away weekend together or even an overnight at a hotel or a day spa - buy a couples day spa certificate - have a manicure, pedicure and full body massage together in the same room

take him home afterwards to a really great cooked meal - hand feed him, light candles - have some mind blowing s.ex with him - put in a movie - just have a really great quiet and meaningful time together away alone

Happy Birthday R231

Always enjoy reading your posts.

Have a wonderful time celebrating - but only in moderation

I can only talk about American Police officers - so sorry - but here goes

I dated a police officer in the U.S. - a black police officer

I will never date another one.  He was a good guy but because of his job - his views were really jaded - he didn't trust anyone and was very judgmental.

What I was how MUCH he constantly talked about his fellow officers and the corruption and especially the high number of officers who were and are women beaters on the force - not all but a very large percentage at his precinct - beat their wives and girlfriends.

The odds of me getting a "bad officer" - would be too high - for me to want to consider dating a police officer.  I detest drama - I have enough of it in my business life - I refuse to open the door to it in my personal life.

U.S. women - Love Intimacy

If you see their love for sex and equate it with being cheap.

Then hey - that's one man's opinion.

Just as Reality101 said - we HAVE FUN and see it AS FUN

We describe things on how we are "trained to view them"

I want to get married on a beach and I see that as romantic

My guy said if we marry on a beach - people in his environment (Nigeria) would see that as demonic

The majority of Life is "How You View It"

I didn't judge Nigerians after I heard what he said - I just saw a reality that our cultures really do DIFFER

We as Americans both men and women value different acts - Sex to a large majority of us is " very casual" compared to how many Nigerians see sex.  That is our environment.  Also - many of us don't place as high a value on money either as many Nigerians do - because alot of our public services are given to us freely on the front end - though our taxes actually our public services.

No one I know has ever seen a generator or knows what one even looks like.  Nigerians have to power their own homes/businesses.  SO many of them value money moreso than we do.

We just see things differently.

Seun:

Exactly. Also, good businesses almost never blame the customer.

phuck_NL:

If the name and don't match, the money should never have been paid in. PERIOD.
The bank is 100% liable.

I don't know about Nigeria - but in the U.S. - the 2 above writers are 100 percent correct.



In the U.S.

the bank "COVERS THE MISTAKE"

the bank puts the money back into your IMMEDIATELY - it might take some days maybe 5-7 days and it puts a negative into the other person's and that person would also receive a letter stating the error - but they would be charged an overdraft fee.

Regardless that it was your error writing a wrong number

The teller must check the number against the name.  The teller would catch that error prior to the deposit going through.

It has happened to me at 3 different banks - where I wrote my information down wrong. But they corrected it on their end.

At another bank - someone deposited into my mistakenly - I withdrew the money (it wasn't alot) - I was then given so much time to replace the money - I was charged a negative amount and an overdraft fee because as the bank stated to me - It is my responsibility to keep up with the amount I have in my at all times and they blamed me for spending money that was erroneously deposited into my .

The person who deposited erroneously into my didn't suffer at all and was reimbursed from the bank's own reserves, as it is the teller's fault for not catching the mistaken deposit because it was done at a teller window and not in a night deposit - I then replaced the bank's reserve amount.

I miss Mama190

That guy that is being beat up in the video - at the end of the day - when all is said and done - what in the heck do you see in a woman like that?

What kind of man-looking - big ol' butch woman keeps a man who behaves in that manner?

Who wants to sleep with that? What is gentle, loving, sexy and desirable about that woman who is scrapping in the middle of a street in front of all of her neighbors and friends - dragging him by his head, his neck, his shirt.

Good grief - God help my eyes!!!!



Absolutely horrible - I could not stand around and watch that, And neither can I stand around and watch a man treat a woman in that manner either.

@ LAX

I saw the suit - it is very, very nice - I agree with you. I will respond to you tomorrow further ok?

Mrs, Chima:

LMAO@she believing that him 


Leueuuuueufufu, you are good at fooling people.

It's not him Chima? How do you know? Really? Is it a movie star or a famous person? I don't keep up with all of that.

Lax75:


Is there a masseuse?

Roger that Ma'am!

They have an onsite masseuse.

Don't have to take any shots for Bangkok. And let's not talk about the food in Bangkok. Off the chain. For $15 a day, you will eat yourself into extinction!

Wowwww, a masseuse?  You aren't going to Bangkok - you are going to HEAVEN, lolololololol

No shots for Bangkok?  wowww, impressed - I have to take like 10 shots and pills everyday I am gone and then more pills for up to 2 or 3 months after I return from Lagos

$15.00 a day - you can eat yourself into extinction?  what?  lololololololol

How did you hear about this?  A wonderful, wonderful, wonderful find.  You are going to have a really good time.  I am jealous.

@ LefuLefu

You are a very handsome guy - but I love men who are conservative - you are too flashy for my tastes - no offense - do the chains hurt your neck and weigh you down at all? Just curious.

I love very masculine men who don't do all this type of profiling.

Lax75:

@ ShyOne

Sister Shy!

Sent you an email.

Was a technical engineer when I served in the US Army. Most of the responsibilities and skills learned were transferable to a civilian component. A flight to Bangkok would be about 17 hours. Don't quote me if that factors in the layover. But here's the link to the hotel

http://www.lebua.com/en/lebua-at-state-tower/hotel-images/

Good place for a honeymoon  

Wowwww, very impressive - I loved the room with the candles it sets ambiance, the lobby area with the baby grand----beautiful, the bath area----delightful, Bvlgari (I have all their scents), the pool area----is magnificent. You are going to have a great time. Very, very nice.

My dad was in the U.S. army - that has been many years ago. But you can achieve some great benefits - an engineer huh? You are quite the hardworker. I'll check the email in the morning - I am getting a bit tired so I am going to retire for the evening.

It has been my pleasure Lax. I really loved that hotel, Very nice - looks so relaxing and calming - a very good vacation. Do they have masseuse? That would top it all off. I would love that, The pool - the swimming area and jacuzzi area looks similiar to Tina Turner's home. I LOVE THE POOL AREA AT THAT HOTEL. The pool, the bath and the baby grand areas were my favorite of the website.

Thank so much for sharing. Now only if I can experience something similar in Lagos or even half that good - I hope to be comfortable.

Question - do you have to take a bunch of shots to go to Bangkok like I have to take to go to Lagos?

I can't fight a man - I just don't have the energy - That's real talk

I talk wild on NL because we are online - but in real life I know my place - I will run away

Even small men many times are quite wiry and very strong physically - I know that in some instances a woman can beat a man (my guy said that it happens in Nigeria enough and he has seen it) - but in most majority of cases women cannot beat men.

Also - if I can beat you - my interest in you sexually has just dropped to 0.

Lax75:

Oh you never heard about Bangkok and it being the transvestite hub of the world? You see, some of these dudes who just jump into bed with anything that wears a skirt will get themselves into the wrong kinda trouble in a place like Bangkok.

Lax is waaayyyy too paranoid to even fool with all that foolishness (hookers). Plus AIDS is REAL

I do have a picture of the suit that my friend got made for him for that price. Off the chain! Lots of business opportunities in the east. My business interest is residential construction. There is a huge opportunity for that in Nigeria

I would love to see the picture - Transvetite hub">

Absolutely not - I have never heard of that before.  I think about romantic themes and exotic visuals when I hear or think Bangkok.  How long is the air flight?  Residential Construction?  You are into that?  Do you mind me asking what you do in that area?  Are you also going to do that when you go to Nigeria or are you active in that field in Nigeria as well as the states?

I am intrigued to know more.

Lax75:

Sister Shyone.

I will tell you a thing or two about Lax, if you are comfy wth sending your email addy. It might help you not only in your ventures in Naij, but in life as a whole.

My email is posted on my profile - I have no secrets.

I would take the handsome arrogant man.

The ugly down to earth man might be too down to earth for me.

The handsome, arrogant guy can be revised enough to appreciate me and withhold much of his arrogance for the sake of the relationship.

Bottom line is that if you are not "Handsome to me" - there will be NO RELATIONSHIP.

I have to be honest with myself - can I roll over every morning and open my eyes to look at him - alot of times a healthy amount of "vanity" - can make those men rid themselves of bad breath in the morning before trying to talk their bad odor in your face.

I dated a "down to earth man before" - he was too "down to earth for me" - ing horrible gas in my presence, no etiquette after we were together for a while - he relaxed too much around me - would yell at me in front of others - too relaxed, too down to earth always ready to "Tell it like it is"

Well NOW his brash, abrupt - down to earth backside "ISN'T" - HE NO LONGER EXISTS IN MY WORLD. Thank God. Shackles off my feet I can dance.

Lax75:

@ Sister Shyone

Thanx. Trust me I've heard about "Bangkok" and o[b]nly customers of hookers should be worried about ending up with a tran. Not Lax. I'm way too much of a paranoid and cautious guy.[/b]

Was able to get a first class ticket for less than $500 thnx to a high profile buddy and will be staying for about a week. Will see about posting a thread in the travel section. Have a friend who was in Bangkok not too long ago and you should see the custom made suit he got for $160 (including cashmere wool material and labor). You lot should look at the east for business opportunities (Especially China and Thailand)

I'm glad that you have made arrangements with the US embassy in Lagos. Smart move!! How many hotels have you looked at in Lagos? Thing is, there aren't that many to choose from if you want a comfortable stay.

why did you mention hookers in your thought you typed above?  please clue me in as to where that belongs in the conversation?  I like to see how people think so I can learn them as a person.

500.00 round trip?  you are kidding me - first class?  How did you do that?  I am sooo jealous - FIRST CLASS?  Tailor-made for 160.00? You can't even buy it off the rack for that amount.  Why don't you look around for some business opportunities in the East and post a list for us - I would be very, very interested.  (Have money can travel)

Chima told me to get planted with the Embassy as did one of my "clients of significance" who is lifelong friends with the previous Ambassador Carrington. So I grabbed the referral.  How far is Ikeja from the Omole area of Lagos?

I love Asian music - the arrangements they put together are so exotic and so calming and so smooth - I love the flow - if you hear any music that is of note - send it my way, would you?

mitofag:


Forget about offending anyone on NL. Nigerians dont take stuffs like this seriously.

You know what, the wind is really leaving my sails - really it is.  I just read an email from my guy - he said that if we get married on the beach - it could be seen as "demonic" in his environment.

Am I in over my head?  Everything seems so different.  What I see as serious, is seen as "not serious" - what I see as romantic is seen "as demonic" - lolololololol

I must be fooling myself here.  But I am going to still go and see what it is like - this place called Nigeria

@ Lax

Also I appreciate your boldness, but you are a man and it is expected from you to be just that and people appreciate and ire bold men.  As a woman on a personal side and as a woman on a business side - my approach has to be much more humble - I need to restrain myself - because I just never know who will be my next client and also if my guy and I don't work out - I could be offending someone who God might have picked out to be my next mate or inlaw or even a neighbor - I could very well move into a home and the person I offended on NL or anywhere else on my daily route could be my new neighbor.

This is a very, very small world and men have it much easier than women.  They just do - people are more understanding and more forgiving of men then they are of women.

Those that you offend today could be the very soul that you rely on tomorrow.  And that is real talk.

Lax75:

@ Sister Shy-one

I have told you before to speak your mind and not give a damn! Let them think you are being stuck up. Who are they but a bunch of names? The hotels in Lagos ARE over-priced and they capitalize on the fact that there aren't enough 5-star hotels to drive the prices down. I plan on travelling to Bangkok this fall and staying at the Lebua Hotel (where they even pick you up from the airport in a BMW 7 Series and where they filmed hangover II) and guess what? This hotel is half the price of Sheraton Hotel in Ikeja! I have stayed at the Plaza hotel and its about $100 less than the Sheraton Ikeja or some other Hotels in Naij. Please be sure to yourself at the US Embassy (assuming you have a US port) once you get to Naij, this way, it will be easier to prove your identity if ever your port is stolen while staying at any of these hotels. It has happened to my brother once.

Its really pathetic.

Wow, that sounds really sweeeettt. Bangkok - quite exotic - I wish you well - you will have so much fun - I know it!! - Very beautiful place but be careful Lax.

I just got the port about 2 weeks ago. I have spoken with a previous Ambassador who has taken my information and forwarded it to the Embassy already and I will meet with an embassy representative once I land in Lagos.

Hey can you do me a favor and take pictures of Bangkok and post those please - open a thread and post them - I love the Asian continent - how long are going to be there?

@ Lax

Really?  just as expensive?  As the Waldorf?  I am seeing that the costs are crazy.  I wonder is it because of them being generator run - the electricity being an issue - makes EVERYTHING ASTRONOMICAL and not efficient.

You know what gave me pause for my money (meaning I didn't want to spend any money) - is that the Excellence has a name that stands for "a state of being Excellent" - but when I saw the photos - the chairs look cheap, the beds look cheap - it didn't look "Excellent" - then I saw the prices - the kind of room that you get in the U.S. that looks like those on the website of the "Excellence" Hotel - are rooms I would expect to sleep in at "Budget and Travel Lodge and Days Inn" and they want 100.00 for the cheapest room at Excellence.

I was surprised - because for a room compared to Excellence I would pay 50.00 in the U.S.

But I just was scared to say anything because I didn't want to come off as being "judgmental" or "stuck up" - IT'S JUST A FACT.  So I am still looking and am trying to work with 2 agents in Nigeria that I met on NL.

mitofag:



Ignore her. She is jobless. I told you, you ddint believe me.

Just ignore that trash!

I will have to ignore her from now on because basically I am tired of it - It also knocks me off track mentally and it does become upsetting in the end - it does.

Lax75:

Sister ShyOne.


Will you be staying on the Island when you visit Nigeria? It will be interesting to hear what you have to say from your observations once you are on ground.

You know what - saw a hotel called Excellence - I wanted to stay there for a few days while looking for a place to stay - but when I was online looking at the rooms I was a bit disappointed.

So I was browsing through r231's profile and saw the hotels listed in his wedding album with him and his lovely wife and I was very impressed with those hotels - so I think it will be one of those - I think they are on the island.

But then I saw that Lekki got flooded and I don't want to deal with flooded areas so I might have to stay at the Excellence until I find a suitable - longer term setup.

What would you suggest?

Mrs, Chima:

I don't need an apology from you.  I just want you to stop taking things personal.  

Really so I am taking things personal when you call Lax "My Cheerleader"

When you say to him that "He should win an Oscar" - meaning he is a Fake Actor who sounds genuine - you refer to him as that only when he was giving an explanation, "To Me"

But I shouldn't take your words personal?  Are you for real?

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/nigeria/topic-757157.320.html

And I quote "MBJ come sit next to me - you have ruptured my side"

Mrs, Chima:

I have told you many time that YOU ARE OVERLY sensitive and stop thinking just because someone respond to your comments don't take it personal.  

If pregnancy is the reason why women are overly emotional then YOU MUST BE PREGNANT because you was very emotional on the stingy thread.  

I didn't even quote you when I wrote my opinions about appearance and impressions.  So I don't know why YOU took it as we are at odds.  There are other chatters on the thread beside you.  

I have nothing AGAINST you and I am not the only person who thought that you take things too personal.  Even you itted in an apology thread to me that you were overly sensitive.

And if I am wrong - I will be the FIRST ONE to open another apology thread to you - I have God digging into my back and thighs when I am wrong, telling me to make amends and I will genuinely prostrate myself to you if I am viewing you wrongly.

@

Chima

You know what - I just ed that when MBJ was calling me filthy names you "wanted him to come and sit down next to you" - your side was hurting because you were laughing so hard.

But if another NL even seems to remotely see "a point of view that happens to come from my lips" - you deride them and call them "my cheerleader"

I don't even know what to think of you Chima.  I don't know if you are enemy or Fren-emy - It sounds like you have an issue with me that goes deeper than this thread.

If someone is in of your thoughts - you speak kindly to them - if they are in of my thoughts, you seem to go on the attack at that person, call them fake acting and deride them.

If you are having a bad day - can you have it without attacking others?  And if I am wrong and that is not what you are doing - it still appears as though you are.

Mrs, Chima:

You just said you agree with Lax and sensed that I was emotional.  Goodness!  Trust me we wouldn't have been in a slinging match because I have no intention on REPEATING the same thing to 22 pages like the other thread.  

And if you was comprehending anything I said on this thread you would see NOTHING I was in of men calling women whores because they dress like whores.  I simply said in the men point of view why would a self respected woman dress like a LovePeddler?  Just because a woman isn't a LovePeddler will NOT CHANGE a man point of view of a woman if she dresses or carries herself such as.  

Then your cheerleader went on and on about emotions because I was confused on what the bleep a fat bank has to do with a man's perception of a woman.  

But of course, you went on a tangent about something else and maybe you are still on the stingy thread and thought you was talking to MBJ and co.  

I am done with this.  Redundancy time waster.

My cheerleader?  What are you implying?  You are seeing things - NOTHING LIKE THEY REALLY ARE - Also - I used a man who looks poor but is really rich to kick down the As$-umption that Looks and First Impressions AREN'T RELIABLE.  Why are bringing in MBJ's name on any level?  I wish that had never happened but you want to get him started on me again?  Is that your angle here?  I'm not understanding why you are pointing at that more than once NOW.

Yes, you are emotional OVERLY SO - Also, many models dress skimpy for a fashion reason - but that doesn't align them with being some kind of LovePeddler.

Anyway - can we just MOVE ON PLEASE?  Just focus on the thread - I'm sorry I said anything at all.  Please.