NewStats: 3,262,895 , 8,178,490 topics. Date: Wednesday, 04 June 2025 at 12:55 AM 152v2n

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

I do not think the woman is your problem.
The problem is just you. In short, you are your own problem.
You are complicating things.
You cant make a firm decision.

What is the point of marrying someone you dont like.

It means you dont know the meaning of marriage/husband and wife. You ppl just make rash decisions instead of asking questions.

At this stage. Ogbeni, focus on your life. Ask questions,
Starting from the begining.

Am I really the father of the child. If yes, then

What is my gain in this marriage.
Am I really happy.
Am I just a money dispenser to some ppl
Is there an alternative to solve my problem predicament
What are the implications of divorce if i take this step.
What would happen after divorce. Etc.


Am I really the father of the child. If no.
Game over.

Disclaimer: its just my viewpoint. My viewpoint may be wrong but i dont care. It is not an advice or a suggestion.
If anyone feels offended, please settle it with yourself. Thank you.

Adigun055:
Greetings everyone.

Can i use personal for visiting visa if i am self employed?

Yes.
You just have prove ur business well and make sure you have enough money.

TosinKate:
Hello.
Can anyone break how to get to IOM office in Ikeja from Ibadan with public transport.

Kindly a novice and first time traveller.

Thank you in advance.

When is your appointment?

TosinKate:
Hello.
Can anyone break how to get to IOM office in Ikeja from Ibadan with public transport.

Kindly a novice and first time traveller.

Thank you in advance.

Use train.

Train station at Moniya or omi ado to Babatunde raji fashola Station at agege.(3k)

Use uber from there to iom or take public transport

Guys can explain the public transport part

Goodiegirl:
DHL Has just been giving me headache

Hi,
How long did your visa process take?

Sukovick:


Benin Republic is a visa free to Zambia.
Can she come in through seme boarder ?
How possible is that

Bro...No let woman cause you to break law o. Make una no end up for jail.

Try the visa..she go enter

Sukovick:


You mean her coming here is not 100% guaranty ?

Yea..it is grace.
Just state a better purpose.
I don't know the documents they ask foreigners coming to naija but using other countries as reference, you should send her an invite letter, tell her to get a police report, and tell her to give a reason why she would go back to her country (similar to home tie).


The chance of getting it should increase.

Mod: I just . You can also go there as long as you guy have port.

Sukovick:
Good morni house, I have been in a relationship with my Zambia GF for almost a year and she's intending to relocate to Nigeria so we can live legally.
What is the surest way to bring her to Nigeria. Thanks

Like someone said, go with visa on arrival.

Don't book any flight. The security is extremely tight in Nigeria. If no reason to be here in Nigeria, they will send her back.

Note that to get into naija legally is very difficult.
Make sure you state your purpose well.
Will advise you not talking about marriage sef or else they won't give you.

Righteousness2:
True Repentance means turning away from your evil deeds.
Repentance means making right your wrongs.

Read The Conversion story of the tax collector in Luke 19 Zaccheus .

You cant remain with the sin and claim you are saved. You are deceiving yourself.

A Sinner is not a Christian. 1 john 3:8
A Christian is not a Sinner 1 John 3:9

True repentance of a man with more than one woman will entail him settling all his sin partners , sending them back to their parents and making peace with his 1st legally married Wife.
This is true Repentance.

Any other thing is you Deceiving yourself.

Lol..Pele o Judge.

Maybe you should read about the 'law of man' and the 'law of God'

NairaGPT:
point of correction. Lori harvey is being finnessed. She’s known as a around these days

Exactly.

Rokiat:
I knew from the get go it was a lie. marjorie harvey Is hypergamy queen she would never date down ever.

We talking about Lori Harvey mama for God sake.
This woman raised Lori Harvey on how to finesse all these men and never settled.

But people like to grab fake news and run with it like their lives depends on it smh.

This woman raised Lori Harvey on how to finesse all these men and never settled.

You are right, they never settle. They jump around. What a life.
From my source, the news is real but the divorce is not, still one has to save his face even though it wont last.

Iboyx:
Hi guys,
So I'll keep this as short as possible hoping to get your advice.

So I landed a software engineer role in one of the most popular fintechs in Africa, a remote role and it pays about 200k for a start.

I also have a fully funded scholarship to the UK(biological sciences) with stipends of about 900£ monthly but you must come back to Ng if at the end of the programme you do not already have a job.

I know that all things being equal in the software job in a couple of years say 3 years I should be able to triple that amount, I know guys that have done similar.

The risk of going to the UK is being stranded at the end of the programme. Worst part is the msc is not in the I.T industry. I know guys that have picked up second msc degrees cause of no job and they don't want to come back

I'm very ionate about the IT industry, I literally thought my self

What do you guys advice.ooking forward to your input. Thank you

Go with uk fully funded. You will have more experience over there and can easily get job in to tech company, although it wont be easy, but it is better.

If you stay in this country because of 200k with the current situation in Nigeria, you might regret.

Jejely carry your load and go to UK, restart your life.
If at the end of your eductaion, you were not able to get a job, move to canada or australia or new zealand "directly".

Effizybozz:
As I guy I'm always shy around my fellow guys I don’t know why, im trying to overcome the shyness is not just working I act a little bit feminine but not all that girly tho, I’m always shy that they will monk me or say something I wouldn’t like…

How do I overcome this shyness, it actually ki!!ing Me, im an introvert because of this. There are some guys I’m not comfortable around them, when I’m with them I want them to go, secondly if I see group of guys, I will be shy to there… if I walk into a place sometimes and I see lots of guys I will be shy at first, then when I look at their faces, the shyness will reduce a bit

What do I do? Is it normal.. I need advice please from

Matured minds only

How can a guy be shy of other guys. You should start thinking and working on yourself. Its not normal even if you are a guy that have feminine trait.

You will faint when you meet plenty girls be that.

Prime1:
Please does anyone have a biometric appointment tomorrow 28th?
Will the holiday affect them at the canadian visa application offics tomorrow?

Please, I need answers

Abeg o

Please, I need answers

Please does anyone have a biometric appointment tomorrow 28th?
Will the holiday affect them at the canadian visa application offics tomorrow?

Please, I need answers

Abeg o

West0099:


Nope, i just got my ission pls i need guide on how to move on with the visa process

same here. I just submitted mine yesterday. is it for fall 2023

Endtime11:
Omo I don turn William Shakespeare on top many matter, If you're not mentally strong no near relationship as a guy, I don turn to big brother, the father, councilor, provider, corrector, guider, initiator, protector, problem solver and many more

Is this what people face for a successful relationship to take effect

Very soon, you go be the manipulator

West0099:
alright bro

have you seen a group

Bobomaigida:


The funds won't be enough for a two-year course

Tuition fee = 20,000
Living expenses = 20,000
Flight = 2,000
Miscellaneous = 3,000

Even though you are supposed to show at least a years' living expenses, we aren't that lucky with IRCC. The funds to be sent by your sponsor will cover only your tuition.
if your sponsor is willing to give you documents to back up his income sources, then you can submit his documents and state that he will provide more funds for the second year.

Thanks Bobomaigida

zubizareta:

Let's assume your sponsor has taken care of your tuition, does your own personal SOA cover your 2 years living expenses and miscellaneous?
And if sponsor is to submit his SOA, he has to properly explain every lump sum.

thanks zubizareta

zubizareta:


Who is the sponsor to you? That's a huge sum he is about to let go. So you really have to convince the VO on why he or she would let go such amount for your education. If sponsor is your parents or sibling then it makes it a whole lot easier r

You will also need to prove source of income of your sponsor whether he transfers the money to you as a gift or submits his SOA.

thanks for the response
Sponsor is my Sibling.

Kind-hearted Nairalanders,

I kindly request your assistance in resolving this minor issue.

My sponsor has 22,000 pounds in his .

My sponsor is willing to gift me 10,000 pounds, which is equivalent to 9.3 million Nigerian naira and 27,000 Canadian dollars.

After this transaction, my sponsor will have 12,000 pounds left in their , equivalent to 20,000 Canadian dollars.

If I provide my bank statement along with my sponsor's bank statement

Is the above amount sufficient to grant me a Canadian visa?

Note: I am enrolled in a 2 year course that costs 10,000 CAD per year. (2 years is 20, 000CAD)



Please kindly provide suggestions if there is an alternative solution.

Thanks

U of sask is not fast.

but
U of Alberta is very fast, got mine in 2 weeks.

Slimboss042:
the reasons was based on finance even though I submitted my sponsor bank statement but the money in my bank statement then wasn't much. So I fund my , paid 1 year tuition fee then reapplied.

Hello, slimboss. Could you kindly provide the approximate amount in your at the time when your visa application was initially denied, as well as the range of funds you had when you reapplied? It would be helpful for me to understand how I should handle my own finances. Your response would be greatly appreciated.

West0099:


idk, pls add me if you see or make any
08122595228

I never see o. just got my ission yesterday and I am looking for group that can help me with the next steps and info aside nairaland.

West0099:
Good day all, anyone going to University of Alberta for fall term?
Is there a group one can ?

Yes..is there a group?

MikePaulGh:



How? it's not from any of my family

oh. sorry. I did not know that.