NewStats: 3,261,906 , 8,175,506 topics. Date: Friday, 30 May 2025 at 11:48 PM j5c65

Talismann:
no woman, I repeat no woman will ever love you unconditionally. It has never and will never work that way. Even your own biological mother will dance to the tune of that child who provides the more for her. Don't allow anyone deceive you. As a man, it's better you live with that truth or die in self denial. Even God will despise you if you can't solve issues in his house or useful to him.

Now that being said, there a few real, trustworthy ladies.but the paragraph above is still engrained in their DNA regardless.

As a man what to do. You need to make money, you need to keep working hard. A man paying his bills earns serious respect from everyone.

Once you can't pay the bills, even your dog will whine and grind it's teeth at you when you can't buy it's food.

Avoid gold diggers btw, you should get a woman who is purposeful and going in the same direction with you obviously. But live with the fact that the moment you can't provide anymore, things will likely go wrong.

One love

You have said it all. Thanks.

Hermaphrodite2:
Gave my whole self to this girl as a new lover boy for almost 3 years. Atlast, she got pregnant for another guy

Simp me was even ready to accept it even though I knew it was not for me 😂
Thank God she didn't pin on me

Since then, nothing like love in my life again

you are delivered

icankel:
evaluate the relationship to know if you can walk out now before it's too late to do so. Mine cheated and came back for forgiveness and I forgave her and accepted her in my life. My worst mistake that I don't know how to come out from it. 4yrs relationship.

Omoh this girl thinks that she's wise. She uses " you know the important person I lost because of you and what I've ed through because of you" to stick around. Last time she said, I also mentioned the VVP I left for her, and she was thrown into confusion. I just want it to happen spontaneously sha

Like I said earlier, It only broke dudes that will always think ladies don't deserved to be pampered or spent on.
How can i be stingy to the mother of my wonderful kids?
Even our Religion preaches women should be pampered and we'll taken care of.
Unless you are not luck with the ones you are with case closed.

Llight101:

This' deep.

Story of my life. I used to get all the love imaginable when I was broke. I had a gf who wants to cook for me with her money, I had another who buys me clothes....and another who gives me handouts.

icankel:
not lies ok. Men going through a lot over women just that most of men hardly speak up. Woman will manipulate you to the last and still be crying over your head

You need not explain yourself, people will believe whatever they want to believe.

Jesus Christ!

Omo, you deserve the man of the year in nairaland!

Best response i came across.

Kudos!

Talismann:
no woman, I repeat no woman will ever love you unconditionally. It has never and will never work that way. Even your own biological mother will dance to the tune of that child who provides the more for her. Don't allow anyone deceive you. As a man, it's better you live with that truth or die in self denial. Even God will despise you if you can't solve issues in his house or useful to him.

Now that being said, there a few real, trustworthy ladies.but the paragraph above is still engrained in their DNA regardless.

As a man what to do. You need to make money, you need to keep working hard. A man paying his bills earns serious respect from everyone.

Once you can't pay the bills, even your dog will whine and grind it's teeth at you when you can't buy it's food.

Avoid gold diggers btw, you should get a woman who is purposeful and going in the same direction with you obviously. But live with the fact that the moment you can't provide anymore, things will likely go wrong.

One love

FitCorper:
Giving my commitment too early, but I learnt d hard way, now I only show care until I Bleep u, then I’m back to lone mode, if u like call me 50 times or cry blood professing hw much u love me, I go just de look u de sip my monkey tail. If u mumu finish u go find another guy deceive. My biggest fear is that I may never love again, I just take people as they are and the biggest way to make me run is talking about love or relationship. My guy said I’m experiencing the hoe phase.

I get this thing where I unconsciously withdraw when the lady starts mouthing the love word to me .

I feel like I don't wanna get caged with that word ...

jojothaiv:

You need not explain yourself, people will believe whatever they want to believe.

who e never happen to go think say others dey lie or dem no no smart

Faposky95:
Nobody wan write Nyash ..big big ones....only to see the real thing......Lauuuddddd.

artificially packaged breast only to see the real thing and get irked ..

This thread is an eye opener

1b8m:


Story of my life. I used to get all the love imaginable when I was broke. I had a gf who wants to cook for me with her money, I had another who buys me clothes....and another who gives me handouts.

I can ralate with this

Awon oniro oshi
Lies everywhere

G0odharddick:
Understand that women are only with you because of what they're benefiting, it could be your attention, money, gifts etc

You don’t win a woman’s heart by doing things for her. You win her heart by making her do things for you

What do you mean by making her do things for you .

lenghtinny:
Never put a woman on a pedestal abi na pedestrian

That sh*t hurts than labour pain

Have u ever experienced labour pain? 🤔

Never plan your life in line with what would be please a woman... THE ONLY FACTORS YOU SHOULD CONSIDER IN YOUR LIFE'S PLAN IS WHAT WOULD BE PLEASING TO YOU

Perocom:


I was getting interested until you left me in suspense. How do i make a woman do things for me?

assertive communication

Double texting

Putting her on a pedestal

Begging for affection

Prioritizing her over my goals

G0odharddick:


Allow her to invest in that relationship. Let her use her money to come over to your house, buy most things herself with her own money. Cook for you, doesn't bill you stu.pi.dly, even when she does, don't give her, let her give you 100% of her time, like she should be the one constantly calling just to check up on you even when you are at work ( women are keepers in nature)

Let her fight over you, some times tell her you don't have money and watch if she'll do everything possible to help you get out of that situation, she can do this by advertising your goods, or market to people online or physically etc.

Bro, let her invest emotionally in you, let her invest her time in you too. Any girl who do all these for you will never leave you, she'll feel pain and cheated if she wants to leave.

I am saying this out of experience. But sadly today, most guys are quick to spend, send money or airtime to a girl just because they want to impress her. This is why you see guys online crying of heart breaks while the girl no even send at all because she invested nothing in him or in that relationship

Chakam 📸 I’ve screenshot this cos I don’t want to forget. I think this one my solution 💯💯💯

THIS IS THE BEST NAIRALAND THREAD FOR 2025 NO CAP 🧢

Akano5:
This thread is an eye opener

NAIRALAND THREAD OF THE YEAR

It's a misconception to view women—or anyone—as primarily motivated by material gifts or to label those who give generously as "simps." Relationships are built on mutual respect, emotional connection, and shared values—not just what someone gives materially.

Assuming that "women do not respond to logic" is not only unfair but also incorrect. People, regardless of gender, are influenced by both emotion and logic depending on the context. Emotional intelligence is just as important as rational thinking in relationships, and reducing one gender to being "illogical" dismisses the complexity of human behavior.

It's also worth noting that getting more from others when you "invest less" may reflect a shift in your attitude—from trying to buy affection to being more confident, authentic, and emotionally available. If that’s the case, it’s not that women are illogical—it’s that they respond to genuineness over performative generosity.

ClassicEvilSpir:
I thought I was impressing her by giving her things, meanwhile there were bigger simps giving her more. Nowadays, I invest less, but receive more. Women do not respond to logic most times.

This mindset is not only disrespectful to women, but it also reflects a fundamental misunderstanding of human dignity and relationships. Suggesting that women need to "struggle" to have "useful brains" or "break a coconut in their heads" is not only degrading but also absurd.

Plenty of women already work hard, pay their own bills, families, and succeed in fields from science and business to the arts and public service. The "dignity of labour" is not a gendered concept—both men and women deserve respect for the work they do, whether it's in a boardroom, a hospital, a market, or at home.

Throwing money at someone to buy affection is indeed a poor foundation for any relationship, but the answer isn't to swing to the opposite extreme and promote bitterness, punishment, or control. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, equality, and shared effort—not dominance, resentment, or financial manipulation.

If your goal is to build something real and lasting with someone, start with respect, not cruelty disguised as tough love.

Ruke1991:
Buying expensive things for any woman or throwing cash at them is the biggest mistake any man can make in this life or in the life after. Allow women to struggle and pay their personal bills alone, so that the stress can help them break the follow-come coconut in their brain. Until that coconut is broken, women cannot know the dignity of labour and their brain can never be useful

I fell in love with the wrong person

This comment reflects a lot of pain, defense mechanisms, and mistrust—but also a need for healing more than harsh judgment

FitCorper:
Giving my commitment too early, but I learnt d hard way, now I only show care until I Bleep u, then I’m back to lone mode, if u like call me 50 times or cry blood professing hw much u love me, I go just de look u de sip my monkey tail. If u mumu finish u go find another guy deceive. My biggest fear is that I may never love again, I just take people as they are and the biggest way to make me run is talking about love or relationship. My guy said I’m experiencing the hoe phase.

What you're describing isn't strength—it's hurt talking. It's understandable to feel guarded after being hurt, but turning pain into a lifestyle of emotional detachment or using people as a way to protect yourself doesn’t lead to healing. It just spreads the damage.

Pulling away after intimacy, ignoring someone who cares, and calling vulnerability “mumu” behavior may feel like power in the moment, but long-term it builds walls so high that even real connection can't get in. That "hoe phase" your guy mentioned? It's not some badge of honor—it’s a sign you’re avoiding the very thing you still crave deep down: real love and trust.

You say your biggest fear is that you may never love again—that says everything. You’re not heartless. You’re hurt. And numbing yourself with detachment won't make the fear go away—it’ll just make it your reality.

Healing doesn’t come from making others pay for what someone else did to you. It comes from doing the work to unlearn the bitterness and rediscover who you are outside of the pain.

Una well done ooo.... Nigerian online Alpha males, na una know the category of women una dey talk about because, me and some of us no send men. I make friends both genders and I present my worth even before I was married, I was too busy to double date. To go out on dates na war cz I don't wanna "eat" your money. I spoil myself in little ways I could.

I've benefited more from women, all the good jobs I have ever had were given to me by women. I won't say I haven't asked a man for favour, I do, if you want... You grant me, if you don't want, you decline... It's your choice.
I borrowed some huge amounts from 4 men last year for a business and paid back within the time I promised to, that's keeping your dignity and respect. Not feeling entitled there by bringing yourself down.

No nah, those that know me physically... knows how kind hearted and respectful I am to everyone and how strict I can be at same time.

So I marvel at the way most of you generalizes your sick experiences.

aribisala0:
What does toxic mean?
That is a word a lot of unintelligent females who listen to other females online use. Presumably they believe it makes them sound educated but achieves the opposite effect

My honest advice to you after today avoid that word. It is what cheap instagram models use
Their usual vocabulary if a man is not BROKE , he is TOXIC or CONTROLLING

unproductive parasitic set of people

Hmmm i like what u said, being unapologetic but at thesame time u kind of sound harsh

icankel:
not lies ok. Men going through a lot over women just that most of men hardly speak up. Woman will manipulate you to the last and still be crying over your head

Is any of the woman forces you?

You change Ur statement to...MEN PUTTING THEMSELVES INTO A LOT BECAUSE OF WOMEN.

LeeSmart:

Hmmm i like what u said, being unapologetic but at thesame time u kind of sound harsh

Lions eat meat and goats eat grass.

I am a lion and cannot apologize for that . If you don't like it why not go chew some grass?

Going ahead marrying her even after seeing and her telling me how lazy she is and suggesting a Maid, now I can't pay the maid again and she's gone Now I've turned to the Maid in the house 😢😢