NewStats: 3,259,422 , 8,170,048 topics. Date: Saturday, 24 May 2025 at 10:24 PM 2r3y6y

Stayingalive:

If my prick will not stand why would she be referred mtchew. You made good point though

He means she might not possess the best attraction you want from a woman.

richmond500:
I disagree with ur number one point
Church is one of the best place to find decent ladies.

I also disagree with schools and professional event, these are the places to find a career driven woman that will help u soar. Events are the easiest place to find connections and a lady who attends professional events already has connections.

Also friends suggestions is not bad, my brother's wife was suggested to him by a friend and he married her as a virgin, very beautiful and well behaved

The guy is accurate, those women and men doing hookups also go for church activities and go back to their immoralities after the service

ediko5:
uchkochi the writer gave a very light description about the rebranded church girls.

To me, the rebranded church ladies are the worst set of ladies a man can marry. I'll prefer to marry a girl I met at the club because she knows I'm aware of her kind of person than to marry someone I'm not aware of who she is and she's also aware of this.

A person (male and female) who uses religions a cover up for her evil acts is a very dangerous green 🐍 in green grass.

Don't forget:

It's very difficult and rare for an olo - sho to retire rather they only take a break or change their modus operandi. How do you expect someone that have been used to 5, 10, 15 to 20 different cassavas per month to suddenly get used to one cassava in her life?

Nigerian niggas will never learn

The church is the original hook-up centre & oloshos don't retire,they only go on vacations

Kaczynski:
Go back to the village there are a lots of babes there , sweet plum and still fresh





find one mould am to your taste



or enter any of northern states christians full there , date any girl from the north . most of them never corrupt parse southern girls and they're very yummy


speaking from xp

Lolz, most girls from the lowest class to wahala o especially if man come clean them up finish

pansophist:
The best way to get a wife is through referral (AKA arranged marriage).

Let someone you know, that you trust, and have your best interest at heart help you search for a wife. If you choose a wife yourself, you are more likely to choose base on wrong reasons.

A woman that you find attractive can easily as a good wife. Especially when she knows you want a wife, and she may act as a camouflage of a good wife-to-be.

With referral, there is something called ''third-party ability''.The referral has a sense of ability to the outcome of your union, and it is in his best interest for the the relationship to work.

Also, referrers can see things objectively, they know you, and your potential wife, and can vouch for the suitability of both parties. A referrers will not look for a wife through social media for you.

It most likely will be a girl they have known for long, and everyone knows who she is. So you will have no fear if you are marrying a repentant public property. Referral by design will filter the rubbishes out.

The area that you might have to compromise on is on attraction, because a referred wife might not make your preek stand

But in the end, we will all settle. It is up to you if you want a beautiful marriage, or a warzone because you married a lady with a big behind.

This is the way it uses to be until the West poisoned us with fairy tales of Beauty choosing her Beast. It's not 100% the best way but it was a very good way of bringing families together. Today, people want to do it all alone and since they have gone it all alone, they can now see the effect today. On social media, you will notice how people ask the same questions, "don't you have elders in your family?"
People have abandoned family today and they are listening to social media advice.

The Indians are still keeping this practice and you must have seen it in some of their movies where a child brings a guy home and the family rejects it. It is because they don't know him. However, the dangers of family choosing for sons and daughters is INTERFERENCE. It doesn't allow the kids grow up quickly because the families are too involved, this ironically is also shown in Indian soap operas where families live together. A man must know how to create his own family and if he is not trained to be his own man, he will be the baby of the house.

Let's end with the positive. Women don't know they are putting themselves in serious danger if they marry a man you cannot report. He has to have someone in his family he can listen to, otherwise, he will manipulate you and hurt you if given the chance.

malaria:
..Dear poster one can get a good wife In a club and a bad wife in a church, Another may find a bad wife on sm and a good wife in market . Life has no rules live yours the way you want it . Its all about choice

You're right. There are no defined rules to get a good wife. Like I said earlier I prefer a club girl I know to a church I don't know. Most packaged demons are in the church and funny thing is Na the bad ones the show their face for church activities , the good ones are reserved.

As for match-making and dating apps, those ones are for simp men because 85% of the ladies on match-making and dating apps are those ladies that have been used, re-used, over-used and discarded by many men the ladies can't even recall.

Most ladies you'll find there are ladies that have tumbled their life some beyond repair, most of them in their mid and late 30s are the ones that were jumping around some years back saying 'men are scum' while jumping from one sugar daddy, married man and Yahoo Boy's bed to another.

Aggroundnut:


Na kitchen we go take find wife

Dey play

Lol

The important thing, Don't marry a stranger!!

Kaczynski:
Go back to the village there are a lots of babes there , sweet plum and still fresh





find one mould am to your taste



or enter any of northern states christians full there , date any girl from the north . most of them never corrupt parse southern girls and they're very yummy


speaking from xp

Nahhh!
Most village girls aren't plum and thick in the right areas, from what I've observed over the years.

They may be myopic, naive (not many of them are, BTW) and homely (not many are this, too) but this doesn't guarantee that you won't be marrying a ticking timebomb when it comes to cheating with the " city boys "

Trying out new things, she'll say.
How about her spiritual life? Can't she be a witch or possessed village lady/girl?

There's no right formula to selecting these ladies. Just hope on God to get a good one, and use your eyes wisely, too. Then, go for it.

TrackerSK:
This guy nah fvcking gambler

U no lie bro...

adeniyi65:
the guy's explanation is clear and valid. Though, it doesn't means it will work 💯% . There's always exemption in things like this.

If there exists exceptions to the rule, then it is faulty logic to conclude absolutely as the OP did, meaning that OP's claims are indeed invalid.

Love800:
Lol. You did not differentiate it for me. Abi are both the same? But if its arranged marriage you are talking about, i feel its the best. Because marriage is a business. Arranged marriage allows both of you to think well and provide amenities, responsibilities and be productive in the union. But that other one that you use love, feelings and emotions to enter, it will crash in a blink of an eye!

Una no dey like to learn... that na una major problem for this part of the world. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Love800:
Maybe due to partners decision to quit or not happy, due to a critical problem along the line.
And if the foundation did not start well, from the onset when they were ed together, it will still crash!

Storyland! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Pickieox:



Church is the best place to find decent ladies? Lol😂😂😂You never see anything...in the word of Ygritte to Jon Snow, "you know nothing."🤣🤣🤣

tell me ibe place better than church

I want to leave you with just a sentence.
"Love is very dangerous"

Kobojunkie:
Una no dey like to learn... that na una major problem for this part of the world. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Lol.
Alright. I appreciate.

Kobojunkie:
Storyland! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Wow!

I appreciate alot.

yemmit90:


Not the same thing. Match making is modern way of connecting two strange people by a neutral or professional person who may not know anything about them. It is often doing for business purpose.

Arranges/referer on the other hand is a situation whereby a close relative, friend or parent recommend someone to you base on their personal relationship with that person. This is often doing for love, and they are most like not to recommend a bad person because they must have had a good relationship with that person or the family the person came from.

Majority of women going to match makers to find husbands for them are retired prostitutes, divorcees, greedy women, very bad character women, etc, while majority of men you see there are mostly looking for sex or rich ladies to dupe and turn to single mother.

Love800:
➜I want to leave you with just a sentence. "Love is very dangerous"

Nonsense!🙄🙄🙄🙄

uchkochi:


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M2CnrXY9W/

Where is the right place then?

Rexymania:
You post problems you no give us solutions. Na where we go see good wife?

Maybe under our lonely pillows

uchkochi:


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M2CnrXY9W/

There is no wrong place

The girls on social media attends club on Fridays and worship on Sundays

Blitzking:
Looking for good wife na like playing 2 odds with your future..e fit enter and e fit cut.

Alright.

Thanks so much.

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense!🙄🙄🙄🙄

Stayingalive:

If my prick will not stand why would she be referred mtchew. You made good point though

That was clearly a humour, but normally, your preek suppose stand.

The point I was trying to is that any woman that is arranged for you may not be a product of your fantasy, but she will most likely be good to you.

Most young people are not suitable to choose partners themselves. Young people usually choose partners base on wrong things such as spec, attractions, and lack the experience your parents or uncle have with marriage and how to make it work.

I am not saying all arrange marriages works, all I am saying is that if you compare different method of finding a wife, arranged marriage so far is the best, and the historical date are there to prove it.

Mind you, arrange marriage is not the same thing s forced marriage. With arrange marriage, you can always say no, and ask for more girls to be matched with you.

richmond500:
tell me ibe place better than church

Oga no place better than church, and church no better any place. The thing is you can sight a woman anywhere. Women are necessary evil. They are like poison, you only choose yours slowly, or faster. For those who want to marry, goodluck to them ooo🤣🤣🤣

Pickieox:


Oga no place better than church, and church no better any place. The thing is you can sight a woman anywhere. Women are necessary evil. They are like poison, you only choose yours slowly, or faster. For those who want to marry, goodluck to them ooo🤣🤣🤣

I said church is one of the best place to find a good woman and u said it's a lie.

Oya tell me one place better than church, all these ur explanation no deh necessary

pansophist:


That was clearly a humour, but normally, your preek suppose stand.

The point I was trying to is that any woman that is arranged for you may not be a product of your fantasy, but she will most likely be good to you.

Most young people are not suitable to choose partners themselves. Young people usually choose partners base on wrong things such as spec, attractions, and lack the experience your parents or uncle have with marriage and how to make it work.

I am not saying all arrange marriages works, all I am saying is that if you compare different method of finding a wife, arranged marriage so far is the best, and the historical date are there to prove it.

Mind you, arrange marriage is not the same thing s forced marriage. With arrange marriage, you can always say no, and ask for more girls to be matched with you.

Arrangee marriage has some difficulty in it o, especially when along the line you now figured out things aren't as they seem and something people doing the recommendation are doing it at more interest of one person over the other, for example a mutual friend could be more loyal to the girl than to you. so that one sef dey.

it's better to choose yourself and see shege, knowing fully well it was only your fault

Stayingalive:

Arrangee marriage has some difficulty in it o, especially when along the line you now figured out things aren't as they seem and something people doing the recommendation are doing it at more interest of one person over the other, for example a mutual friend could be more loyal to the girl than to you. so that one sef dey.

it's better to choose yourself and see shege, knowing fully well it was only your fault

The only time when it is better you choose your wife yourself is when you have an objective data about your wife-to-be. The point of arranged marriage in its very basis is objective data.

By objective data, I mean knowing a woman in and out to a reasonable and satisfactory extent.

`Everything you know about her should not be only what she told you, but something that can be confirmed by those that you trust, who happens to also know her very well.

If she told you that she was abused as a kid, then someone that you trust, that also knows her should be able to confirm that. Women have a unique skills of painting themselves as victims so they can hide all the nonsense they have done.

Your average girl that knows you take virginity serious for example will mostly lie that she was raped, when in reality, she is the chairleader.

Women are judged with their past. What arranged marriage does is that it selects women whom the society are convinced that they preserved their value.

Since women are born with their value, you cant afford to marry a woman that have destroyed hers with all manners of things she engages in. If she is a virgin, the better.

Marriage is serious business. It is not something you enter becuase there is ''connection'', she is your spec, she can speak english and she is educated. All these things are secondary.

There are hardcore boundaries that a woman you should marry must not cross, and thats why objective data about her past matters. If you cant get it, your trusted family should help you.

Becuase when marital issues occurs, specs and all those artificial nonsense will dissappear. As a man, you should be able to beat your chest and declare that no man has had your wife at her best, setting the stage of what she will judge you it.

Your masculinity should never tolerate that, and thats why you need a thorough background check, and also why arranged marriage is necessary. If you intend to marry a virgin, then arranged marriage is the best method to get one.

Lots of men that have problems in their marriages didn't really know the women they married. For example, lots of men dont know that their wive's sexual videos being forked by different men are in her ex's phone and possibly online.

A statistic I was reading few weeks back shows that most cases of paternity fraud are done with men the women knew before she met her husband.

So her past will always be a dagger pointing at the man. What arrange marriage does is to drastically reduce the chances of marrying a wrong woman simply because you dont know her.

I am still scratching the surface while most societies in human history does arranged marriage, but I will stop here.

papyjaypaul:


This is the way it uses to be until the West poisoned us with fairy tales of Beauty choosing her Beast. It's not 100% the best way but it was a very good way of bringing families together. Today, people want to do it all alone and since they have gone it all alone, they can now see the effect today. On social media, you will notice how people ask the same questions, "don't you have elders in your family?"
People have abandoned family today and they are listening to social media advice.

The Indians are still keeping this practice and you must have seen it in some of their movies where a child brings a guy home and the family rejects it. It is because they don't know him. However, the dangers of family choosing for sons and daughters is INTERFERENCE. It doesn't allow the kids grow up quickly because the families are too involved, this ironically is also shown in Indian soap operas where families live together. A man must know how to create his own family and if he is not trained to be his own man, he will be the baby of the house.

Let's end with the positive. Women don't know they are putting themselves in serious danger if they marry a man you cannot report. He has to have someone in his family he can listen to, otherwise, he will manipulate you and hurt you if given the chance.

I have a divorced relative who married a lady no one knows except him. I dont know how they met, but after I have analysed the reason for their divorce (and the lady disappearing with his four kids to a place he doesnt know), I see why arranged marriage is important.

I also have another friend that have about at least 50 mutual friends with his wife before marriage. Most people that knows her, knows him. The multi=layer security in his marriage is top-notch.

He has so many people to vouch for the integrity and chastity of his wife before marriage, and she has so many people that will call her to order if she goes astray.

If the lady is not a good wife, at least one out of all their mutual friends would have told him not to proceed and give him objective data why she is not fit for a wife.

She cant simply disappear without also feeling the isolation that comes with being cut-off from all her social circle, most who are from childhood.

The probability for such a woman turning out bad is very low, extremely low. Also, arranged marriage has the highest numbers of successful marriages. The evidence is in the statistics.

Lots of women who have lived a rough life will move to a far away city, rebrand themselves and look for a naive, good man. With arranged marriage, you are protected from such women and their antics, because there is objective and confirmable data about her profile.

The worse method to find a wife is when you do it yourself, it sounds wrong, but it is the truth. The high rate of divorce and messed up dating scenes of today is because young people want to do it themselves, and discarded cultural norms.

Finding a wife on dating sites, on the streets, on a trip, etc etc. Such marriage might work, but I am speaking statistically.

To seek truth, we might have to rethink our belief in different areas of life. Even in the bible, there are many examples of arranged marriages. Fore example Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Leah/Rachel, Joseph and Asenath etc

I mean, before you buy something, you always look at the reviews right? So why cant we apply that to marriage? Its foolish to just go pick someone you don't know, or everything you know about her is what she told you. No product will talk bad about itself.

pansophist:


The only time when it is better you choose your wife yourself is when you have an objective data about your wife-to-be. The point of arranged marriage in its very basis is objective data.

By objective data, I mean knowing a woman in and out to a reasonable and satisfactory extent.

`Everything you know about her should not be only what she told you, but something that can be confirmed by those that you trust, who happens to also know her very well.

If she told you that she was abused as a kid, then someone that you trust, that also knows her should be able to confirm that. Women have a unique skills of painting themselves as victims so they can hide all the nonsense they have done.

Your average girl that knows you take virginity serious for example will mostly lie that she was raped, when in reality, she is the chairleader.

Women are judged with their past. What arranged marriage does is that it selects women whom the society are convinced that they preserved their value.

Since women are born with their value, you cant afford to marry a woman that have destroyed hers with all manners of things she engages in. If she is a virgin, the better.

Marriage is serious business. It is not something you enter becuase there is ''connection'', she is your spec, she can speak english and she is educated. All these things are secondary.

There are hardcore boundaries that a woman you should marry must not cross, and thats why objective data about her past matters. If you cant get it, your trusted family should help you.

Becuase when marital issues occurs, specs and all those artificial nonsense will dissappear. As a man, you should be able to beat your chest and declare that no man has had your wife at her best, setting the stage of what she will judge you it.

Your masculinity should never tolerate that, and thats why you need a thorough background check, and also why arranged marriage is necessary. If you intend to marry a virgin, then arranged marriage is the best method to get one.

Lots of men that have problems in their marriages didn't really know the women they married. For example, lots of men dont know that their wive's sexual videos being forked by different men are in her ex's phone and possibly online.

A statistic I was reading few weeks back shows that most cases of paternity fraud are done with men the women knew before she met her husband.

So her past will always be a dagger pointing at the man. What arrange marriage does is to drastically reduce the chances of marrying a wrong woman simply because you dont know her.

I am still scratching the surface while most societies in human history does arranged marriage, but I will stop here.

Yea those are the perks of arrangee, it's same in the job world, being referred to by someone internal or a network is many many times better than hiring strangers. And company first search within before going outside, a referral from a trusted network has much weight than random person.

Another thing like you said is if you know what you want you can still go out there and fish them out but then you stand against thousand unknown variable, one only get experienced over time but then marriage is once and sometimes maybe twice at most.

But one thing above everything is any route one pick, be ready to be responsible atleast that would mean you will shine your eyes

pansophist:


I have a divorced relative who married a lady no one knows except him. I dont know how they met, but after I have analysed the reason for their divorce (and the lady disappearing with his four kids to a place he doesnt know), I see why arranged marriage is important.

I also have another friend that have about at least 50 mutual friends with his wife before marriage. Most people that knows her, knows him. The multi=layer security in his marriage is top-notch.

He has so many people to vouch for the integrity and chastity of his wife before marriage, and she has so many people that will call her to order if she goes astray.

If the lady is not a good wife, at least one out of all their mutual friends would have told him not to proceed and give him objective data why she is not fit for a wife.

She cant simply disappear without also feeling the isolation that comes with being cut-off from all her social circle, most who are from childhood.

The probability for such a woman turning out bad is very low, extremely low. Also, arranged marriage has the highest numbers of successful marriages. The evidence is in the statistics.

Lots of women who have lived a rough life will move to a far away city, rebrand themselves and look for a naive, good man. With arranged marriage, you are protected from such women and their antics, because there is objective and confirmable data about her profile.

The worse method to find a wife is when you do it yourself, it sounds wrong, but it is the truth. The high rate of divorce and messed up dating scenes of today is because young people want to do it themselves, and discarded cultural norms.

Finding a wife on dating sites, on the streets, on a trip, etc etc. Such marriage might work, but I am speaking statistically.

To seek truth, we might have to rethink our belief in different areas of life. Even in the bible, there are many examples of arranged marriages. Fore example Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Leah/Rachel, Joseph and Asenath etc

I mean, before you buy something, you always look at the reviews right? So why cant we apply that to marriage? Its foolish to just go pick someone you don't know, or everything you know about her is what she told you. No product will talk bad about itself.

Wow I don't know what to say anymore.


Sir Is your name wisdom?

pansophist:

I have a divorced relative who married a lady no one knows except him. I dont know how they met, but after I have analysed the reason for their divorce (and the lady disappearing with his four kids to a place he doesnt know), I see why arranged marriage is important.

I also have another friend that have about at least 50 mutual friends with his wife before marriage. Most people that knows her, knows him. The multi=layer security in his marriage is top-notch.

I almost became that your relative until my eyes opened. Isolation can be dangerous. If given the chance, we human beings will act like tyrants if there is no one to check us because there are no consequences. Every single one of us has evil in us if allowed to show it. We may not know but it will come out if given the chance to act alone.

There are women/men that come from toxic families so they are alone. These are the type of people who can elope and marry you without family because they want to cut off the bad blood but you cannot run forever from your family, especially when children come in. The trauma will follow this person into their relationship. Hollywood and foreign influence really played their roles in deceiving us and today, it's social media. What our people can do is teach our culture and explain why to kids as early as possible. We may not understand the wisdom now but at least explain.

I tell men, if you want to marry any woman, no matter what is going on in her house, talk to the man of that house. Talk to the men. It is very important. Love is blind, it can never be enough. Men are the ones who understand what it is to build up and women are the ones who understand how to manage the building. If you don't do your due diligence with the men in her family, you will marry a bricklayer who claims to be an architect. Women will always be women, they have their ways and we love our good women but our makeup is different. Men understand the game and women know how to play. It's said that women mature faster than men and it's often too late for men to realize they are being played before they understand the game.

Any man who wants to take advantage of the woman and ignore the men in her family will eventually regret it one way or the other.


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