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So you come out in public to discuss the issues... charge and bail.

NSNO:

Jollof bros? This is my first time hearing this. Is this what south Africans call us?

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I personally know quite a handful and about three have been consistently bugging me for a sexcapade but unfortunately for them, I don't do married women 😎

People are getting married for the wrong reasons to the wrong persons

Vergovert:
If your husband refused to touch you, were you forbidden from touching him.


Is he not your husband?

This one just made me laugh lol

Chilipepper:
Divorce lawyer reveals a fraction of the things her eyes have seen

...more of one person living and one person trying hard to survive

DrAda:
Much ado about sex. There are many more important things to worry about like physical abuse, emotional abuse and financial abuse.

Sex is not much ado oh, it is a necessary lubricant in marriage. It is like a car without engine oil. and now you say there are many important things with the car like brake, gear e.t.c , however that car may be on the way to knock without engine oil all other things working fine. Except on mutual consent and physical distance , lack of sex is a symptom of defect in the marriage.

eazzzy1:
The same couples going through it are usually the ones advising people to get married.

Exactly. Misery loves company.

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

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Chilipepper:
Divorce lawyer reveals a fraction of the things her eyes have seen

What have men told you on divorces?

EmperorIsaac:
You just told us what a women say, how about men? You are part of the problem, madam lawyer.

Ask Google, She is not Part of any Problem

Sunmolar:
What led to her been untouched for 2yrs. Blame game tactics that ends in crocodile tears

When the hubby finally finds out her dirty habits, behaves like a log of wood in bed or never takes the initiative, the dude will tire.

Especially if you left a good girlfriend, to marry current one due to tribal or religious preference, the dude dey regret.

In any case, in our clime, love has no place in marriage. It has become a transaction. So, most are doomed from the beginning.

People really think divorce just comes out of the blue, it is a build up of marital degradation, either the wife becomes undesirable through her physical and emotional traits or the man becomes undesirable due to his nonchalant and emotionally inept behavior!

Marriage is not all about sex, it starts with communication, if you spend majority of the day ignoring each other or fighting, how will you be comfortable in the bedroom enough to do the do?

As a woman, you want your man to touch you but you dey nag all day and behave like witches from your village, you don't shave, your PH is out of whack and so on!

As a man, you want your woman's touch but you killed her mood, she dey smell Amaka's perfume on your body and saw lipstick stain on your shirt, NO BE JUJU BE THAT?

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

I am proud of my Naija brothers who are chasing legit money over there in SA and spoiling their wives to the extent that even Souties knows them as ballers.

chinchum:
Sex is not much ado oh, it is a necessary lubricant in marriage. It is like a car without engine oil. and now you say there are many important things with the car like brake, gear e.t.c , however that car may be on the way to knock without engine oil all other things working fine. Except on mutual consent and physical distance , lack of sex is a symptom of defect in the marriage.

If there is no love or mutual respect, if the man or woman is physically and emotionally abusive, then what exactly is the sex intended to achieve?

Well...most people marry because it is time, by societal/family definition, to do so. So, they end with available partners not people who truly align with them.

Imagine deeply caring for someone you do not really care about after the euphoria of getting married has died down? Haaaa.....e no go easy o.

After this our generation, may God help the next generation do better

DrAda:
Much ado about sex. There are many more important things to worry about like physical abuse, emotional abuse and financial abuse.

Is deprivation of intimacy not mental and emotional abuse?

What has she done for him to touch her? Some women just fear them. Before marriage they are something else from after they begin to show themselves. Some men too get their own.

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

The strength in making money alone is very demanding. Expecting the same energy in sexual rendezvous is a difficult task. Please men are not machine. It is not easy to balance both equation.

Sex na food?
The Man dey hustle make the family chop ni now

Samantha125:
But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

There's a big truth in your words. It's also true that a general relaxation of moral standards has led to situations such as you've described.

In these modern times everyone who wants to marry would be well advised to seek out a partner of equal status not just financially but in other such as beauty, psychological balance, moral rectitude, family background and such. It takes time so the earlier the search, the better.

In the past marriage was ALSO a social mechanism for spreading wealth when males were the predominant providers due to muscle mass and general physical strength.

These days the advent of brain work has made women economically viable. The problem is that despite their improved status and further potentials, even high earning women still INTINCTIVELY seek out men who earn more.

Never will you find a high earning female banker or doctor married to an elementary school teacher or roadside vulcanizer. Most times women only marry their financial or social equals when the man is extra handsome OR the woman herself is not so beautiful or past prime marriage age. These are realities all around us.

So what is the solution? Life is a bargain. Trouble comes when a party to the bargain tries to alter AFTER securing certain benefits and privileges.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

Chai

Brilliancepower:


Hmm... Unless the man is a porn actor, once a woman disrespects you or monitizes her private part it kills the affection of a real man. Making love is from a loving heart, fucking without emotions is a different ball game!

Gbam!!

Samantha125:
But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

Mowing the wife black panthers too

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND A TOPIC, REMAIN CALM AND READ OTHER PEOPLE INTELIGENT RESPONSE TO ISSUES OR TOPIC ON GROUND.

Women have sold themselves cheap out there that’s why many ladies in there homes are sex starved ,this days a married man keeps more girlfriends than even unmarried people,what else do you expect a man to do when he had someone,not one or two but more who satisfy him sexually,who are even young and adventurous,who show him affection and love ,some of this ladies complaining once damaged someone else’s home and karma is back ,

DrAda:


If there is no love or mutual respect, if the man or woman is physically and emotionally abusive, then what exactly is the sex intended to achieve?

you are a wise woman.

Chilipepper:
Divorce lawyer reveals a fraction of the things her eyes have seen

So where has she been fuuuuckking since two years?

EmperorIsaac:
You just told us what a women say, how about men? You are part of the problem, madam lawyer.

Exactly my thoughts... The female lawyer mumu no be small

Why should she tell us only the women side of the story without telling us the men side of the story

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

Always chatting off point.

You must not comment if you don't understand her POV