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Divorce lawyer reveals a fraction of the things her eyes have seen

As a lawyer in Lagos, I have been involved in enough divorce cases to say this without blinking:

There are a lot of couples who are in s3xless, affectionless, emotionally bankrupt marriages. In fact hearing a woman say, “He hasn’t touched me in 2 years” is really unsettling.

And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

Unfortunately, that's the reality of many marriages

You just told us what women say, how about men? You are part of the problem, madam lawyer.

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

If you marry for money then more money must be made in other to keep the marriage going

But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

Nickisindigo:


If you marry for money then more money must be made in other to keep the marriage going

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

Jollof bros? This is my first time hearing this. Is this what south Africans call us?

Allot of women does not no how to act.

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

So it's every s.x that results to pregnancy

If your husband refused to touch you, were you forbidden from touching him?


Is he not your husband?

What led to her been untouched for 2yrs. Blame game tactics that ends in crocodile tears

NSNO:

Jollof bros? This is my first time hearing this. Is this what south Africans call us?

And they call the South African ladies who date us jollofina.
Well this is mostly online(fb,twitter and TikTok) and insta as well

Vergovert:
If your husband refused to touch you, were you forbidden from touching him.


Is he not your husband?

Nice question.

That’s true.

Hmmmm.... One man in my street lives like a co-tenant with his wife, the wife even get house help that only serve her. When you visit them they will change the look of their differences and appear to be a best couple in the world...... But baba no fit hid am again he has to tell the story to my old man

This is a sad reality many don’t talk about. A lot of marriages dey alive legally but dead emotionally. It’s not just about sex but about the deep disconnect that grows when partners stop nurturing each other emotionally, mentally, and physically.

To those in marriages, please don’t ignore the small signs. Talk, touch, forgive, listen, and be present. Marriage isn’t just cohabiting or raising kids together, it’s about growing together. Don’t let silence and routine bury your bond oooo. Abeg seek help early if things don dey drift.
Peace for home is worth fighting for.

Much ado about sex. There are many more important things to worry about like physical abuse, emotional abuse and financial abuse.

Very easy to tell on the woman...

She becomes very irritable and touchy..

Chilipepper:
Divorce lawyer reveals a fraction of the things her eyes have seen

Hmm... Unless the man is a porn actor, once a woman disrespects you or monitizes her private part it kills the affection of a real man. Making love is from a loving heart, fucking without emotions is a different ball game!

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

Ok come let me touch you and spoil you 😉

Love no dey anywhere jare. Only few marriages are genuine

The truth is that most “big boys” in lagos make their money through Gaybrielism. Ladies with big eyes then want to corner them for themselves and rush to marry them but you can’t change the status quo. Agege must be agege, thus the sexless marriage.

Another angle is the nature of life in lagos. Most mainland men wake up by 4am and are out of the house by 5:30am only to return home by 11pm and weekends are naturally for sleeping and to catch up with social activities. Most do not have time for segz and mostly chop colleagues on the go (I have a friend who chops his colleague regularly in the car park and toilet). Thus again, the sexless marriage.

But madam, why are you complaining? Isn’t your market moving?

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

if your husband doesn't approach you, approach him you have equal rights on each other especially as it regards to sexuaal satisfaction. Woman should stop lamenting

The same couples going through it are usually the ones advising people to get married.

tell dem ooo..you start asking for this and dat when its time to make love, as a man i go just pack you one side...make the lawyer also tell us what the men are saying too and not this one sided hogwash

Brilliancepower:


Hmm... Unless the man is a porn actor, once a woman disrespects you ot monitizes her private part it kills the affection of a real man. Making love is from a loving heart, fucking without emotions is a different ball game!

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

I'm not married so this might not count, but a man will only be interested in experimenting in the other room when he's at peace within.

To be a man is the biggest of all sin as the kind of responsibility and pressure on you is underscored. And this are societal pressure that everyone might judge you on. Some of us are not interested in marriage in lieu of this pressure. We'd rather enjoy the perks of singlehood and stay happy.

Did she stop doing what attracted him to her?

S3xl3ss marriage is almost a norm especially in the urban where the hussle is real

Men are biologically wired to get tired of their wives some years after marriage.
It takes an intentional man to keep the sexual and affection fire burning even after marriage.

When you stress a man so much before agreeing to marry him, one day he'll look at you naked and be like, Is this what I was chasing all over the place? Omo I mumu that year no be small.
Once that realization hits him its all over.

If you are the type that rations sex based on good behavior, one day he'll find alternatives and call your bluff.

Most men will not react to your bad behaviors.
They simply withdraw affection and intimacy.

If you are cheating physically or emotionally or living a smart deceitful life, one day he'll find out for himself and just reorganize his life and may never even tell you he has seen your deceitful life.

If you subscribe to online feminists, be ready to attain their marital status of Single and bitter or divorced and confused, soon.

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Samantha125:
But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

In a marriage, appearances can often be deceiving. The institution itself appears as intricate as the economic landscape of Africa. One undeniable factor that undermines this institution is the evolving perspectives of the contemporary generation.

If I want to chase money to keep the family running in a bid to escape the wagging tongue of a woman, and then the gardener decides to help in the other room, then I let him go ahead. Somehow, someone is mowing his lawn as well.