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AdisaMighty:
Unsolicited advice alert!

Just look for an internship and grow from there.
Alternatively you can skip that, start something that solves a real problem and raise funds.

If I were to advise my younger self, I will pick the latter. You are very unlikely to ever become wealthy coding for a salary.

PS: I have been coding for almost 20 years, I have seen both money and lack thereof

Sire, I'm extremely appreciative of this your input. It's set me thinking for a while.

As someone in the game, you won't mind giving me your or a medium I could get closer to get your leads more abeg...

How to go about your opinion and stuffs like that look quite ambiguous to me.

Adonisty:

just know say he contributed that Y chromosome wey make you male. Think am.

Probably the man trained him up to bachelor's degree level and couldn't afford to fund him further. In a western world, once your papa train you up to high school, he has done enough. You should find your way. In Nigeria, once your papa train you to first degree level, he has done enough for you and you should find your way. The boy, has already cursed himself unknowingly and damaged his future irredeemably and I am sure his mother is the reason why he disrespects his father. No wonder he has no manners and is naturally senseless. Now I see where those inadequacies come from. A boy who has no respect for the man who trained him to at least secondary school level, na elders wey he see for road he go respect? Fear women.

tensazangetsu20:


Someone’s only son went to another country to study and the fool never sent his son a single dollar. Never contributed a single dollar to the trip and other idiots are talking on this thread. I see what other fathers do for their children here and shame Dey catch me. If it’s who to marry first, e Dey sweet body but when it comes to responsibilities everyone disappears. Even God considers an infidel of greater worth than a Christian man who can’t provide for his family.

Bro, you have to come up with other reasons to justify the way you talk about your dad here. I'm sure there are certain terrible things that explains your perception of him. This one's just silly ASF.

Even if you post this on reddit, Americans that are usually even disrespectful will see this as absolutely stupid and out of order. No offense.

I honestly thought you'd say he didn't contribute a dime in your upbringing. But the reason he's a fool is he didn't send you a dollar when you traveled to Chile for education. Aren't you like 29 or something. Like you had a career before this.

You seem like an thoroughly educated person. Hope it's not this same 'fool' that put you through primary, secondary and tertiary institutions.

Tbh, if you can't point to something crazy he's done and those faults are all you can say, it'll mean you're a total ingrate that should really be avoided. Hopefully not.

ChristoBam:

Bro, you have to come up with other reasons to justify the way you talk about your dad here. I'm sure there are certain terrible things that explains your perception of him. This one's just silly ASF.

Even if you post this on reddit, Americans that are usually even disrespectful will see this as absolutely stupid and out of order. No offense.

I honestly thought you'd say he didn't contribute a dime in your upbringing. But the reason he's a fool is he didn't send you a dollar when you traveled to Chile for education. Aren't you like 29 or something. Like you had a career before this.

You seem like an thoroughly educated person. Hope it's not this same 'fool' that put you through primary, secondary and tertiary institutions.

Tbh, if you can't point to something crazy he's done and those faults are all you can say, it'll mean you're a total ingrate that should really be avoided. Hopefully not.

My dad never paid my tuition fees all the way from primary school to university. When I was going to university, I didn’t go to university in Nigeria. He practically told my mom not to waste the money and she should use it to build house in the village. When I say useless, I mean useless. Of course he can’t call my phone cause he knows what he will receive.

I don’t know why Nigerians believe all fathers are good and deadbeat bastards don’t exist.

Gerrard59:

Chile is a wealthy society, so lower birth rates aren't surprising. Although, there hasn't been any non-wealthy country with a low birth rate, Southeast Asian countries are likely to form a trend where not so wealthy countries have low birth rates.

Apparently, having so many children is a sign of poverty.

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But the rate being so low (below 1%) makes Chile synonymous with South Korea. One common tie between both countries is extreme Ndi ifeminismi

South Korean ranked 105th out of 146th in ge der gap. Do you know what that means?

descarado:

South Korean ranked 105th out of 146th in ge der gap. Do you know what that means?

"Gender gap" based on Western concepts, not Korean beliefs. Western concepts are not universally binding. Women in Kano believe they are free, but those in Imo don't believe the same. The problem becomes when Imo women try to dictate to Kano women on what to adhere to.

As for "gender gap", a gender friendly society does not increase birth rates. The birth rates across the Nordics, seen as the most "gender equal" societies, are equally very low. Although not as low as South Korea. Japan, another society ranked low on gender friendliness, like South Korea, has a higher birth rate. Niger Republic is not gender friendly or equal, but has a higher birth rate.

In summary, feminism and gender friendliness lead to lower birth rates, not the opposite.

tensazangetsu20:
I don’t know why Nigerians believe all fathers are good and deadbeat bastards don’t exist.

Bros nor allow anybody tell you otherwise o ... my guy tear him father head with wood , the man self done too do when nor be only him they community . Las Las na all of us carry am go hospital go sew him head ....

Make father self they know say children nowadays them get mind finish ooo ..

Followed you, send me an inbox.

haybhi1:
Sire, I'm extremely appreciative of this your input. It's set me thinking for a while.

As someone in the game, you won't mind giving me your or a medium I could get closer to get your leads more abeg...

How to go about your opinion and stuffs like that look quite ambiguous to me.

tensazangetsu20:
I don’t know why Nigerians believe all fathers are good and deadbeat bastards don’t exist.

i understand 'alpha' males trying to discount or disregard women's experiences - but discounting the experience of your fellow man as well

“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.— Ephesians 6:2-3

Don’t give Satan an advantage. He’s always looking for legal ground and this thread is a good evidence for him.

tensazangetsu20:
I don’t know why Nigerians believe all fathers are good and deadbeat bastards don’t exist.

AdisaMighty:
“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.— Ephesians 6:2-3

Don’t give Satan an advantage. He’s always looking for legal ground and this thread is a good evidence for him.

bro don't be stupid, keep that religious bullshit away from here, he has a reason for saying what he said.

AdisaMighty:
Unsolicited advice alert!

Just look for an internship and grow from there.
Alternatively you can skip that, start something that solves a real problem and raise funds.

If I were to advise my younger self, I will pick the latter. You are very unlikely to ever become wealthy coding for a salary.

PS: I have been coding for almost 20 years, I have seen both money and lack thereof

Words on marble.

But he faces a chicken egg situation.

Learn code on an empty stomach or not.

That is to say without a means to survive he will find it very difficult to give learning to program the undivided attention it deserves.

Does he even have a laptop?

Access to the internet?

A stable accommodation?

He didn't say but you get my drift.

That said never were truer words spoken in response to his question.

Then the other issue.

It takes a while to learn to solve problems when school taught the majority to learn to follow directions. (The conflict between being self directed and following directions)

Finally, you need to realize that you will need to learn to solve several problems before you hit the one that is the equivalent of striking gold. He must bear this in mind.

Very rarely will the first problem you solve be the problem that results in a financial breakthrough

Same way I have a reason to say what I said. Let me exercise my right to be “stupid” in peace.

hammed71:
bro don't be stupid, keep that religious bullshit away from here, he has a reason for saying what he said.

tensazangetsu20:


My dad never paid my tuition fees all the way from primary school to university. When I was going to university, I didn’t go to university in Nigeria. He practically told my mom not to waste the money and she should use it to build house in the village. When I say useless, I mean useless. Of course he can’t call my phone cause he knows what he will receive.

Hmmmn...now I understand where the pain is coming from but God don bless you already that's all that matters. Just don't commit sin through your father. In your wedding day if your Dad shows up, I guess you won't pick someone from nairaland or Chile.

Gerrard59:

Look for a place to work for free. Abi such firms no dey Kwara?

So how do intend to combine remote work with medical education?

if you want to work and gain actual relevant experience, it is states that hare commercial hubs. sit in a civil service state and you will learn nothing and be proud o it unless you are thrust into a team where you suddenly find how little you really know

ChristoBam:

Bro, you have to come up with other reasons to justify the way you talk about your dad here. I'm sure there are certain terrible things that explains your perception of him. This one's just silly ASF.

Even if you post this on reddit, Americans that are usually even disrespectful will see this as absolutely stupid and out of order. No offense.

Tbh, if you can't point to something crazy he's done and those faults are all you can say, it'll mean you're a total ingrate that should really be avoided. Hopefully not.

I no dey like chook mouth for another person's family issue. All I have to say is: as young people yet to be married and be parents, I do hope we get to do better than our parents. And for this reason, we should have fewer children so we can focus on them not just financially, for non-materially as well. Raising children is expensive. Life is toff. People should not make it toffer.

tensazangetsu20:


My dad never paid my tuition fees all the way from primary school to university. When I was going to university, I didn’t go to university in Nigeria. He practically told my mom not to waste the money and she should use it to build house in the village. When I say useless, I mean useless. Of course he can’t call my phone cause he knows what he will receive.

All I can see here is that your mother is an evil witch. Apologies, but it is what it is. There is no way your father wouldnt have ed you to at least secondary school. A typical Anambra man will never deny his children of , except he is financially handicapped. My children's fees right from nursery to university were all paid by me through my wife's , but she has always made it clear to my children that their father has been the one paying their fees. I pity you and your future. A man who calls his father a fool in public is already condemned to misfortune. You are acting out of youthful exuberance, but you will learn the hard way. No wonder , you get rabbit teeth, as E be like say your papa curse done dey manifest.
Don't quote me because I won't reply you. Tufia gi. Abomination

AdisaMighty:
“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.— Ephesians 6:2-3

Don’t give Satan an advantage. He’s always looking for legal ground and this thread is a good evidence for him.

1st Timothy 5:8
But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Adonisty:

Hmmmn...now I understand where the pain is coming from but God don bless you already that's all that matters. Just don't commit sin through your father. In your wedding day if your Dad shows up, I guess you won't pick someone from nairaland or Chile.

When I do get married, I am only doing a court wedding and no one from my family will be there since I am not doing it in Nigeria and have zero plans to ever visit.

AdisaMighty:
“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.— Ephesians 6:2-3

Don’t give Satan an advantage. He’s always looking for legal ground and this thread is a good evidence for him.

Nigerian Christian are ridiculous.

In this same chapter you quoted, this is the verse 4 below.

Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and onition of the Lord.

Akpaamunsi:


All I can see here is that your mother is an evil witch. Apologies, but it is what it is. There is no way your father wouldnt have ed you to at least secondary school. A typical Anambra man will never deny his children of , except he is financially handicapped. My children's fees right from nursery to university were all paid by me through my wife's , but she has always made it clear to my children that their father has been the one paying their fees. I pity you and your future. A man who calls his father a fool in public is already condemned to misfortune. You are acting out of youthful exuberance, but you will learn the hard way. No wonder , you get rabbit teeth, as E be like say your papa curse done dey manifest.
Don't quote me because I won't reply you. Tufia gi. Abomination

You are a very stupid person.

The dude has a right to call any of his family anything he likes based off his real life experience with them, not you.


I have always maintained the opinion that child is a good thing, mind you, women pay it too. Women also pay alimony.

A lot of people are just too irresponsible to do the right thing.

If in another universe, If I become a president of any country. I would make child 30 percent of the income of who will pay it and make it mandatory till age 30.

tensazangetsu20:
I don’t know why Nigerians believe all fathers are good and deadbeat bastards don’t exist.

My father is a deadbeat.

I wonder why my mom had to marry him, there must have been signs.

Not just deadbeat ooo.

Hypocrite
Philanderer

Karleb:


You are a very stupid person.

The dude has a right to call any of his family anything he likes based off his real life experience with them, not you.


I have always maintained the opinion that child is a good thing, mind you, women pay it too. Women also pay alimony.

A lot of people are just too irresponsible to do the right thing.

If in another universe, I become a president of any country. I would make child 30 percent of the income of who will pay it and make it mandatory till age 30.

Another baastard has spoken. Dem plenty for this thread. This one go dey use slap dey wake him papa every morning. You will get your karma in this life, not in the afterlife. Anuofia

Deasegun19:


My father is a deadbeat.

I wonder why my mom had to marry him, there must have been signs.

My brother, truth is, a lot of young people find it extremely hard to choose a good partner.

Infact, if you put 10 good persons and 10 bad and ask some people to choose 10 times, they will choose the bad people 10 times.

This happens to men too but for men, you can just walk away.

It's really something I can't wrap my head around but it's real.

Akpaamunsi:


Another baastard has spoken. Dem plenty for this thread. This one go dey use slap dey wake him papa every morning. You will get your karma in this life, not in the afterlife. Anuofia

Omo you no get sense. Na akamu full that your brain.

Karleb:


My brother, truth is, a lot of young people find it extremely hard to choose a good partner.

Infact, if you put 10 good persons and 10 bad and ask some people to choose 10 times, they will choose the bad people 10 times.

This happens to men too but for men, you can just walk away.

It really something I can't wrap my head around but it's real.

I think it’s why women of our generation are much more ruthless especially after seeing what our mothers have ed through. See eh, I don’t blame them one bit. It’s why I can never abuse women cause women have so much to lose if they marry a bad man. Men can easily wake up and walk away. Millions of men abandon their family everyday in Nigeria and nothing Dey happen but it’s very rare to see a woman abandon her family.

tensazangetsu20:


I think it’s why women of our generation are much more ruthless especially after seeing what our mothers have ed through. See eh, I don’t blame them one bit. It’s why I can never abuse women cause women have so much to lose if they marry a bad man. Men can easily wake up and walk away. Millions of men abandon their family everyday in Nigeria and nothing Dey happen but it’s very rare to see a woman abandon her family.

They actually need to be.

Women are naturally attached to the children
Abandoning them is very very hard for them.

They also have too much to lose if a marriage doesn't work out.

For many reasons, I am happy I am a man.

Gerrard59:

I no dey like chook mouth for another person's family issue. All I have to say is: as young people yet to be married and be parents, I do hope we get to do better than our parents. And for this reason, we should have fewer children so we can focus on them not just financially, for non-materially as well. Raising children is expensive. Life is toff. People should not make it toffer.

some young people don't plan to have kids
young women are selling their eggs , young men are doing vasectomy

any woman having more than two children day try .

too

Deasegun19:


My father is a deadbeat.

I wonder why my mom had to marry him, there must have been signs.

Not just deadbeat ooo.

Hypocrite
Philanderer

our mothers were virtuous women

That’s between him and God, don’t mess up yourself and lose both ways.

tensazangetsu20:


1st Timothy 5:8
But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

tensazangetsu20:


1st Timothy 5:8
But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

People who try to preach the bible to you certainly don't know who you are.