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JASONjnr(m): 10:40pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

I dated a girl for 7yrs and when she was posted to abj for her NYSC, that's when the relationship ended... She was a decent girl but Abuja took that away.

Point is, she was pregnant before coming to sleep with you...

Or she's not pregnant but wants to get money from you.

If she's pregnant and she knows you are not ready to father a child, she wouldn't have kept it from the beginning.....

Women are manipulative and don't be scared.....

Avoid her and she will sort herself, I promise you.... She will use her allowee to get drugs...

Also, please don't forgive any cheating gf. Because she'll keep cheating....

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FashionTrend: 10:40pm On Feb 10
NEUDUDE:
grin guy man don marry okpo grin
Thats insensitive to say

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FashionTrend: 10:46pm On Feb 10
I believe blocking her was way too much but the deed has been done.


One would have asked you go to a lab together to confirm the pregnancy and how month it is and calculate based on when last you guys met.


Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

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Azazyel: 10:46pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.


You better let her be since you don't need the child now. Let her go and pin it on the other guy then continue your life. The child might not be yours sef. Get another fresh babe bros. No time to check time but stop pouring akamu inside o grin
234GT(m): 10:50pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

The girl is not pregnant.
You can take my word to the bank.
Let her remain blocked and forget about her.
Jaycee07(m): 10:55pm On Feb 10
Ops,

It does appear that you're dealing with a very manipulative and dangerous woman.. Just for the sake of the unborn child who's completely innocent, Please take care of her till the baby is born. After the baby's birth, You can conduct a DNA test without her knowlege. Depending on the DNA result, you can make an informed decision.Don't take a life that you can't create. that life begins at conception and it's sacred.
I wish you all the best.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.
MrRemedyAlagbo(m): 10:57pm On Feb 10
James4358:
My wife can't even get pregnant... And I'm reading this. Chia... 'Inside Life'
check my signature to reach me on Whatsapp
peropoliet(m): 10:58pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.
that pregnancy was never yours just that you are the foolish one
flokii: 11:11pm On Feb 10
You should have used protection.. the girl was probably pregnant before coming to visit you, hoping to pin the pregnancy on you after intimacy without protection and you fell for her tricks.
Thr ladies of nowadays are something else, the most innocent looking ones can be the deadliest.

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MrDoGood(m): 11:19pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

That person you called your friend is not your friend. Abi Na him get the pregnancy?

Anyway, you did the right thing.

She's trying to gaslight you and act like the victim. And maybe the pregnancy was never yours.


The manipulation is on another level. I've been in a similar situation like this. She might not even be pregnant. Just want to extort money from you and spend on the broke Abuja boy she's with. I'm in Abuja too and so many funny things in this city.
NYSC girls are so easy to get and they just want to go raw with you. Especially when you're a married man.

In all, never say to a girl to abort and never be a part of it. Protect yourself king and don't let some girl stress your peace of mind. And if pregnancy happens just like this one, just tell the girl you're not ready and don't suggest abortion via call or text. It can be used against you under the law or the child will in the future if not terminated
onadana: 11:30pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

Being together for three years is not a panacea for her not to pin another guy's pregnancy on you.Women need only a second to cheat even if you both live in the same house.Know this and get sense.

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phemmyfour: 11:33pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.
Even without any preggy, you can't trust her now or in the nearest future. She's a true 304 boasting about her prowess
slimjohn2k5: 11:37pm On Feb 10
You have been hearing that background voice. Na just situation make u hear well this time.

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capnies: 11:39pm On Feb 10
SHE WAS ALREADY PREGNANT BEFORE COMING TO YOU FOR SEX

EVEN THREE MONTHS PREGNANCY IS NOT OBVIOUS

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Gandrova: 11:43pm On Feb 10
Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.
Chairman been together for three years is not the issue, your girl she's sampling another dick.
Don't allow crazy and useless girl to pain you down because of pregnancy.
From your last statement you heard a male voice art the background and she ended the call is the that not a single of unfaithful lady despite you asked her to come clean.
Bro , don't feel guilty about your actions CEST fini

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DDDDDav: 11:50pm On Feb 10
Homeboiy:
One of my girlfriends tried that with me
I simply told her to born the child but I will not marry her

She ran away and pinned it on another man
The man gave her money for abortion

I didn’t even bother myself

After her abortion we continued knacking


She now have a new boyfriend but I still de knack her anytime I want

Just make sure she also tastes any pepper soup she gives you to eat.
twilliamx(m): 12:04am On Feb 11
Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.
Oga block her destiny
dustmalik(m): 12:08am On Feb 11
BluntCrazeMan:
Guys usually buy Postinor-2 and force the babe to take the two pills at once in their presence,, so as to avoid unwanted stories...
This definitely will cause the lady to shed some blood..

But with the blood, both of them are sure that nothing will enter.
I am very surprised that he allowed her to leave without taking the drug. When I was in the world, I used to buy the drugs, bring water and make them take the drug in front of me.
ChiefDelegate: 12:12am On Feb 11
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Smilleydr:
nawaooo men dey suffer oooo, and that one na fit dey pamper her, he no go know say dem still dey give her free doggy outside
I no no where we o men de jam this kind women undecided
purples25(f): 12:37am On Feb 11
BluntCrazeMan:
Guys usually buy Postinor-2 and force the babe to take the two pills at once in their presence,, so as to avoid unwanted stories...
This definitely will cause the lady to shed some blood..

But with the blood, both of them are sure that nothing will enter.

I don’t know about blood.

I think that taking the pills and ensuring the use of condoms is what any serious guy would do. I heard of serious guys and celebrities doing this.

I don’t know how a guy sleeps with a girl and pours as he likes or even pours outside but watches this girl walk away. As in, you are serious about your future.

And you did not make sure she took the pills in front of you.

And you did not make sure she was given money for pills, or make sure she had the pills.

Living a life of adventure in a world of consequences.

Later she got pregnant and you are pouring the blame on her for the destruction of your life.

Omo…


Your own life that no one will care about more than you. You watched a girl walk out after sex, without making sure that every measure has been taken to avoid pregnancy. You probably had sex when you have no money to buy postinor.

Just watching the two of them. Time and suffering will teach patience and carefulness. I can bet.
imagrg(m): 1:30am On Feb 11
It's obvious you are the father to the unborn child.

Go and apologise to the lady.

She deliberately allowed the pregnancy.
seanery: 1:49am On Feb 11
Some idiots will use emotion to give advice here.

Op move on; u did well.
Tht baby na bastard...!!!!
Not ur child
seanery: 1:51am On Feb 11
Oga tht pregnancy never reach to dwy mk her talk like a mad woman.

AND DNT BRING HORMONE BULLSHIT COME DA MATTER




brain54:


If it's indeed yours...

Then do the right thing. Not for her sake but the blood - your blood, she carries.

Who knows if it was her "hormones talking" pregnant women are known to act erratically or irrationally sometimes.

Don't punish her with the pregnancy especially if you know she can't afford to "take care" of it herself!
Edusouls(m): 1:59am On Feb 11
Go and take care of ur baby and leave all these excuses bro, you don pregnant person daughter come here Dey yahn nonsense
seanery: 2:00am On Feb 11
I tell u. Hin don go marry basket of a wife


NEUDUDE:
grin guy man don marry okpo grin
seanery: 2:01am On Feb 11
pocohantas:


Amin!
And sons too.
They are not scared of things greater than pregnancy. Just cross-knacking.

Shut up
Wayward mentioned
Queengee: 2:05am On Feb 11
That girl name must be precious
Na then Sabi do this kind thing
IamAsiri: 2:16am On Feb 11
Mopeola:
I don't think you owns the pregnancy right from when l was reading your chat and she stated one thing which l wanted you to know that she can pin the pregnancy to who ever she wants and it's a clear sign for you to know you r not responsible

No, it's not a sign. It's just a sign that she's desperate at this point.
TossTos(m): 2:33am On Feb 11
She want to pin the pregnancy on you , she will never forget to use the pill as you guys always do , saying she forgot was lies . Bluntly speaking, the unborn child isn't yours . No go think am o
IamAsiri: 2:40am On Feb 11
Deepthoughts:
Guy I will suggest you do this,call the girl in question and give her this option,if she is very sure the pregnancy is yours then let her keep it but after delivery she must accept a DNA test to clear all doubts,if the DNA test returns positive for you ,you pay her #2m but from now till when is would be ready for the DNA test she is completely on her own.This doesn't mean you must marry her though,give her this option n start looking for money,her choice would give you your answer

Are you sure he has that kind of money? Or is it now everyone online that is now rich?
mukthar2000(m): 3:04am On Feb 11
I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla,




Op you shouldn't have block her,
It could be network problem that lead to leastin to a guy voice.
When my own girlfriend then, but my wife now with kids was in school then.
Their was day I called her and exactly this same thing happened, that another voice interrupted our conversation undergroundly that year, but had it's being I don't belive her that day could have go roungly.

Do u understand that communication work with Airwaves? and Air and gens goes together that make it very easy for any gens to interrupt ur communicate with her or the wave Carrier mix up ur communication with someone else together.

Op Unblock her, care for her and go for DNA test later instead of abortion to kill someone daughter.
Hotspurs: 3:35am On Feb 11
wetin be dis grin grin grin
Homeboiy:
One of my girlfriends tried that with me
I simply told her to born the child but I will not marry her

She ran away and pinned it on another man
The man gave her money for abortion

I didn’t even bother myself

After her abortion we continued knacking


She now have a new boyfriend but I still de knack her anytime I want

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