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Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

God doesn't want you to kill an unborn child. but if you insist and go ahead with it, the price will be hefty, and this will come to bare about 10 years from now. Tell her to keep the baby, take care of her (not romantically anymore), and when she gives birth, find a way and take the baby from her to your mother or sister for now.
Both of you are cheats.

How do you people impregnate girls carelessly? Wild!

pocohantas:


Amin!
And sons too.
They are not scared of things greater than pregnancy. Just cross-knacking.

well he thought she was nacking only him😂😩

Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

One thing about premarital sex is that it puts you in trouble one way or the other. Had it been that you never slept with her, there's no way she'd pin the pregnancy on you.

AmbassadoR100:
Advice her to carry the pregnancy and deliver. Then go for DNA test to know if you're the Father. If you are.. Take care of your child but if you are not.. Go your way.

Run away from abortion. It may not end well.

You said my mind


Just let her know you are going to go DNA

Don't complain about how expensive it is

Don't reconnect her back. Except you want to father a child that is not yours. She is obviously wayward. Don't get back with her again!!!

brain54:
If it's confirmed it's your pregnancy...

Then I think it's not right to abandon her. You ought to be responsible for your actions. I can never advise anyone to abandon a woman carrying his baby. Even though I am sure you aren't ready to keep it.

To think she made that statement about pinning the pregnancy on any guy she sleeps with is quite chilling. It says a lot about the kind of person she is.

Who knows if she is trying to pin the pregnancy on you?

The way some of una dey see things sha..didn't you see the part she said she can easily sleep with any guy and pin it on his heard?that pregnancy(if any)isn't his own so make he just leave that Olosho way..

Ishilove:

It was Mangala

are you sure?

The pregnancy might even belong to your friend.

OBIDIENTNAIJA:

If she's pregnant, the pregnancy may have occurred last year November.

Exactly 💯

Na im good for d lady.....yeye people no go gree agree 4 d person wey go take care of them but rather dem go agree 4 person wey just want only their pussy cat and dats all.....This guy just obviously want the babe pussy cat alone and now kasala don burst. Abeg make i , no come jam me o

The number of bastard children some men are raising could make someone have high bp in this country. Oga, the Coast is clear according to her statement, abi you be SIMP?

Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

i will begin on Curious note, how are you sure she is even pregnant, yeah she talk am but any proof, did you confirm it

Like your friend's advice, you shouldn't have cut ties with her yet, well you can still reconnect, do you know any of her close friends you can use to reconnect and do some findings, if you sabi whyne

Try reconnecting, that's the 1st step, other decisions are left to you

Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

You feel guilty?lol dey play..you know what you HEARD the night she was getting fvcked by her main Abj bf..she just wants to collect money from you in the name of abortion..a girl who could openly tell you that she can easily fvck another guy and pin it on him is the girl you are thinking is carrying your child?oboy open your eyes..as for your friend saying you shouldn't have blocked her that one na yeye talk..that girl na Olosho,serious hkup for Abuja na im she de run..

Truth is wether or not it's your pregnancy, she sounded like someone who sleeps around.

Can't trust her.

"madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded."



By their fruits utterances ye shall know them.



OP you just dodged a bullet, that girl is irresponsible.

Guys usually buy Postinor-2 and force the babe to take the two pills at once in their presence,, so as to avoid unwanted stories...
This definitely will cause the lady to shed some blood..

But with the blood, both of them are sure that nothing will enter.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home.
if you bought it ?
then she should take it before she leaves your place.....
the higher the hrs before she takes the pills
the lower the chance of its effectiveness

Fahvvy:


Here we go again making excuses for women's bad behavior ...

Why don't this "hormones talk" when she's at a military check point or direct this energy towards her boss at the office? ...

Why are women able to keep themselves in check around certain people but yet rant like headless chicken to others? ...

It's simply because they know that around certain people like you, their fo.olishness would be tolerated and folks like you, will make excuses for them ...

Pregnant or not, verbal abuse (abuse of any kind) is a choice! And should not be tolerated ...

@OP...
Unblock her and if you find out that the child is yours, don't abandon that child ...

You don't have to marry her, God forbid you do, but then, you do have to take responsibility for your child - IF it is yours ...

That one na simp na..I just read his dumb response and shook my head..it's guys like him who make girls like her behave that way..enabling bad behavior and dumb excuses because it's for a female.

cr7lomo:


Don't be a fool.... if she was in r shoes , she would be extremely ruthless ... that woman is out to ruin u... don't ever let her back in ur life or u will regret it for the rest of ur life

All the story about forgetting to take the contraceptives is just cock and bull...she was already pregnant b4 u banged her .... she just see u as the mugu that will accept cos she knows u are soft , reason she insults u

Op this is the most rational comment I've read so far. The girl was already weeks pregnant when she sexed you that's why the contraceptive obviously wouldn't have worked. So the only excuse she could give was that she forgot to take it. And I'm also surprised that others failed to mention the other guy she was with when you called her. He was obviously one of the guys she's been sleeping with. Most girls during service are lured by guys of different calibre and sleep with different guys. It's a well known fact. Everything in the story points to the fact that she was setting you up to father a pregnancy you were not responsible for. She probably met a random guy during service and got into sexual relationship with him, got pregnant for him. The guy denied it and since she knew she and the guy might not long be physically together, she saw you as the fall guy. She quickly travelled to see you and had sex with you with that aim. I think you did the right thing. She's for the streets.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

Woe betide yòu if you that Whørē.
It will definitely end in tears and sorrows.
Don't say I didn't warn you.

Gotocourt:

Early this year is January, which is last month. It's too early for bump to show, it's not your pregnancy. Forget the Werey girl

One month pregnancy ooo.

She see say the guy na ozuor

Omoawoke:
First go for std tests

This is the best advice here since the lady is so loose.

brain54:


Well, I don't think I am making excuses for her per say...

A baby is growing inside of her. It's unfair to think she isn't pressured. She isn't like the op who is here deciding whether to abandon the consequence of their bad decision. The consequences of their bad decision is growing inside of her. She can't abandon or run away from it.

It's also not fair enough to judgement based solely on what op has said. we have not heard her side of the story yet. It is only fair to try to balance our judgment by cutting her at least a small slack.

Lastly they have been together for 3 years and he didn't specify whether she has been this irrational in the past period. Or acted carelessly with her comments. So I take it its her first acting that way hence I attributed it to hormones. (By the way, women do act out of place in the presence of others including their bosses, sometimes people just don't pay attention to notice)

If she has acted irrationally in the past 3 years and it had been a constant behavior and he stuck with her till now only to abandon her now she is pregnant for being irrational then I think he is been the irrational one here.

Life is not always a straight line. That's why we must at least try to balance things... Especially life judgments!

Oga brain ! on a 2nd thought, what if she is not pregnant, its just her word did she drop any proof.

e be say woman never lie use pregnancy collect money for una hand, one side chick nearly give my married friend Hbp last year with fake pregnancy, turns out she just wanted money buh we thank God cos that one wife for just use pestle kill am over nite


Naa real pregnancy you fit abort, naija gurlz can be very funny did you say hormones fr hw many month belle, nigeria women will be luck to have you

My bro, the pregnancy no be yours,,
The same games she's playing with you, she's playing with the guy she's also seeing...
What so ever comes out to a cheating partner is well deserved...
Be a hard guy and look away!
Suspect that guy you call friend in this game..

You guys will abandoned simple use of condoms and be seeking advice when wahala happens.
Your doubt now is, why if she sleeps around? Same as what if she share infections around?
You guys should learn to protect una mental state naaaa.
Bro, pregnancy na your own. The other guy was just holding forth for you any time you have issues with her.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

@OP,
your first mistake was given the girl the
contraceptives to take at your back, let her take them in your presence.

why will she call you at past eleven at night and sounding tease why she knows that she was with another guy. think about it, she was the one that initiated the call. what was the reason behind it.

Blocking her in all platform is not the solution to the problem at hand.
she can easily pin the pregnancy to anybody she wish to, as she has boldly declared,that alone speak volume about her kind of person.

consistent usage of your CD would have save you from all those emotional and phycological stress.

So unblock her, give her a call and ask her about the pregnancy. if the abortion goes wrong God Forbid, you are the one that brought that suggestions.

Rule One : Let the girl take those contraceptives in your presence

Rule Two : before Rule num one, Always use ur CD.

Rule Three: if your CD is not handy, practice withdrawal method.
Withdrawal method is an art on its own, and you have to master the art.

brain54:


If it's indeed yours...

Then do the right thing. Not for her sake but the blood - your blood, she carries.

Who knows if it was her "hormones talking" pregnant women are known to act erratically or irrationally sometimes.

Don't punish her with the pregnancy especially if you know she can't afford to "take care" of it herself!

This is nonsense actually , stop making silly excuse for women… they know what they’re doing , you’re not a woman, you can only talk based on what they tell u..
Why dem no go knack head for pillar or close eyes cross road since they’re irrational when they’re pregnant ?
..if a woman tells me that kind thing, she alone will take care of that pregnancy until she born am and I go do dna afterwards..



Do you even know how heartbreaking that kind of utterance is? Or cos he’s a man, he should just chest am?
Not me sha.

If you didn't want a pregnancy, and she decided to keep it, let her shoulder the full responsibility. Keep yourself away from her and the child. Entrapment by pregnancy only comes from an enemy and conniving survivalist. Tears await you should you proceed.

I know you will likely not heed my advice.

Bobo next time, ensure she uses that contraceptive before she leaves.. if you can’t find it immediately after sex, delay her until you get it. 9/10, you’ll be blamed if anything goes wrong. Women are not always able and responsible..

Solution now na two
1. Wait till she born and do dna afterwards
2. Arrange meeting with her and go for the abortion. tbh I don’t always abortion except push comes to shove. I believe every baby deserves living. it’s why I don’t joke with contraceptives if I fire raw.. just pray nothing goes wrong while doing that o.


For solution 1, start dusting your hands and start husling like madt cos bro, you’re about to become a daddy .
For solution 2, just pray, go for the best doctor and hope for the best…
Good luck ..

Don't get married out of Pity or circumstance.. the baby is not a disgrace if it's yours.. I've added a responsibity ni if it's yours

How did she confirm she was pregnant? Dud she show u the test?

She did take the contraceptives as at when due? How old is she? is she a kid? I think this is a scam or she just wanted to get pregnant intentionally.