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Samueltemi337:
Ok sir

🙄

God created women for procreation.....but if you can't procreate, then you can choose adoption or remain single all your life.

This generation of women will inflict unbearable pains to simps who failed to take heed.......learn game or perish 🔥

AlphaNugget:
God created women for procreation.....but if you can't procreate, then you can choose adoption or remain single all your life.

This generation of women will inflict unbearable pains to simps who failed to take heed.......learn game or perish 🔥

💯💯

Dizzyyish:


This 2025 is to the strength for what we want and perseverance to keep aiming for it.

Happy New Year.

LordIsaac:

Thanks bro....wishing us all the very best of the new year!

Thanks bro. Appreciated.

luminouz:


But the Ajoku nigga is still capping bullshhiiit...by not making women take responsibility. That mûmû girl could have returned that money but she kept it...so she is a hoe and is priced as one.

Men need to be men again. Some conspiracy theories suggest there are some hormone disrupting chemicals in many of these modern things we use from herbicides, to foods, to soap, toiletries, drugs etc that's why we have weak men acting like women.

That in a study, conducted in river, male fishes were exhibiting female traits & having female organs after some chemicals used as fertilizers got into the river.

In another NL news again making it to the top today. A woman is seen destroying her intimacy gadgets as a guise of turning a new leaf. The so called, 'women have less libido' mantra.

Dalil8:




Worshipping and glorifying your mother more than your Father makes you a simp too. A brain washed simp. There's no difference.

What happened to the fathers?


Mothers are highly manipulative, they'll do anything to make her Kids think their Father's don't love them.


You wanna be a real Man, love and glorify your Father. It's that simple.

You never know his struggles until you get into his shoes.

Agreed 💯

Many simps who presume their girlfriends are nawalt would be so fuçked up, distraught, and grieved if they check their girlfriend's phones.

Streak47:


Men need to be men again. Some conspiracy theories suggest there are some hormone disrupting chemicals in many of these modern things we use from herbicides, to foods, to soap, toiletries, drugs etc that's why we have weak men acting like women.

That in a study, conducted in river, male fishes were exhibiting female traits & having female organs after some chemicals used as fertilizers got into the river.

In another NL news again making it to the top today. A woman is seen destroying her intimacy gadgets as a guise of turning a new leaf. The so called, 'women have less libido' mantra.

There is some truth in that. Oestrogens are more in men than 50 or 100 years ago

Falling in love is scary mehn.....last year I wanted to marry this girl but it all went downhill after some issue.

Now I am just focus on building myself.....this journey is personal.

AlphaNugget:
Falling in love is scary mehn.....last year I wanted to marry this girl but it all went downhill after some issue.

Now I am just focus on building myself.....this journey is personal.

Care to elaborate?

luminouz:

Care to elaborate?

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

AlphaNugget:

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

AlphaNugget:

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

Tears full my eyes 😭

Samueltemi337:

Uganda.....I when this shit 😁

PJtech:


Tears full my eyes 😭

😂 Clowns

AlphaNugget:

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

And then you turned redpiller. Praise jai yord

AlphaNugget:

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

I'm glad you shared this and I am sorry about your ordeal.

I applaud the decision to go someplace else to start over and planning to go over to the another country. You are young and hopefully will recover all you have lost.

Let me get this straight...did the mother attack you because you didn't have enough money or she knew you wanted to leave the country? I'm trying to know what exactly sparked off the issue?

luminouz:


I'm glad you shared this and I am sorry about your ordeal.

I applaud the decision to go someplace else to start over and planning to go over to the another country. You are young and hopefully will recover all you have lost.

Let me get this straight...did the mother attack you because you didn't have enough money or she knew you wanted to leave the country? I'm trying to know what exactly sparked off the issue?

Ok, let me make it more clear.

We had an issue which unfortunately escalated, my ex attempted to stab me and I called her mum on her....her mum took her home and I didn't ask about her for the first 3 days, on the 4th day I visited her and tried to talk her into visiting the hospital so as to commence antenatal, her mum raised issue that I was only concerned about the baby and that I have no plan to marry the girl, that I want to do only traditional marriage and travel out of the country to marry another lady. Her mum was forcing me to do Court wedding, I said no.
I also informed the mum that I will do the traditional marriage by November ending, her mum said that I should do both traditional and court, I refused.

I tried by giving her money on weekly basis for upkeep and medication. The third week of November I heard that the baby was no more.....I inquired and she said it was miscarriage, I said how will you get miscarriage when you don't engage in any stressful activities. People close to me said that it was abortion, that the mum must have told her to do so just because I refused doing court marriage.

I decided to end everything.....imagine the audacity to abort my first fruit because of what your mum said.

AlphaNugget:

Ok, let me make it more clear.

We had an issue which unfortunately escalated, my ex attempted to stab me and I called her mum on her....her mum took her home and I didn't ask about her for the first 3 days, on the 4th day I visited her and tried to talk her into visiting the hospital so as to commence antenatal, her mum raised issue that I was only concerned about the baby and that I have no plan to marry the girl, that I want to do only traditional marriage and travel out of the country to marry another lady. Her mum was forcing me to do Court wedding, I said no.
I also informed the mum that I will do the traditional marriage by November ending, her mum said that I should do both traditional and court, I refused.

I tried by giving her money on weekly basis for upkeep and medication. The third week of November I heard that the baby was no more.....I inquired and she said it was miscarriage, I said how will you get miscarriage when you don't engage in any stressful activities. People close to me said that it was abortion, that the mum must have told her to do so just because I refused doing court marriage.

I decided to end everything.....imagine the audacity to abort my first fruit because of what your mum said.

Damn..that's a lot to take in. What I will say is....the mum obviously call the shots in her family. Your motives about court marriage too was a bit unclear to be truthful. Though you are her husband by traditional marriage but they were pushing for court marriage before the baby was born...for legitimacy. I believed this is an issue your parents would have discussed with hers to calm their fears. She knew you were going out of the country and wanted to make sure her daughter won't be a single mama in case you ditch her. I understand her fears and how everyone scorns single mothers. Like I said, this was a case of your parents and her parents sorting things out.

The violence part was obviously not cool which I don't condone. All in all, I think it's best for things to end this
way. You both can move on.

luminouz:

Damn..that's a lot to take in. What I will say is....the mum obviously call the shots in her family. Your motives about court marriage too was a bit unclear to be truthful. Though you are her husband by traditional marriage but they were pushing for court marriage before the baby was born...for legitimacy. I believed this is an issue your parents would have discussed with hers to calm their fears. She knew you were going out of the country and wanted to make sure her daughter won't be a single mama in case you ditch her. I understand her fears and how everyone scorns single mothers. Like I said, this was a case of your parents and her parents sorting things out.

The violence part was obviously not cool which I don't condone. All in all, I think it's best for things to end this
way. You both can move on.

My parents tried to clear their doubts, my mum in particular talked to her mum and assured her that the girl can stay with my mum if she doesn't feel comfortable staying with her own parents when I travel.....and I honestly explained that I will do court marriage next year when I visit the country, she agreed initially but her mum just doesn't agree.....it is over, I have moved on

AlphaNugget:

My parents tried to clear their doubts, my mum in particular talked to her mum and assured her that the girl can stay with my mum if she doesn't feel comfortable staying with her own parents when I travel.....and I honestly explained that I will do court marriage next year when I visit the country, she agreed initially but her mum just doesn't agree.....it is over, I have moved on

Was it after it ended that you turned to AlphaNugget

Questions0147:
that novel own mad ooo...there's this church girl wey dey my DM....she dey read ana todd abi wetn dem dey call the author... Na she even make me realize say e get porn authors omooo..

Yup. Let these guys keep dreaming that men have higher sexual pleasures than women.

Women's sexual pleasures knows no bounds. Of course, like many men before and After them, the hard way is the only way they learn

Adasun:
lols, women orgasm from sneezing alone, what do you have to say about that?


guy, women like sex, especially if the guy is quiet good in bed. go around guys that have girls staying with them like in hostels and schools. gist and see how those guys are wailing that the girl want use nack finish me... and so many other talks. listen, when it comes to male and female dynamics, drop science and view it with ur experience... they were born, live and breath for sexuality-women.

As reserve and calm that i am, once they come closer and see that i am also a bad boy, they let loose. one girl once tore her panties to have a quickie with me in a factory i work... during break time. she saw that while i did not request for sex, my words and body language shows i know wasup... she made a hole in her v-ga area and rode me, the exitement and risk involve made me even cum quickly self...


those girls are always hot...

Well said. You live in the world. When these guys are done reading books, they'll us

AlphaNugget:

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

I'll be blunt, no matter the country you go to, this may happen again and again.

Men have HUGE egos. Men love to blame the girl, her mum or some outside forces for why their relationship failed.

I advise to ASK YOURSELF what you did wrong. Did you vet this girl properly? Is she from a single parent home? What is her relationship with her dad like? How long was the vetting process? Etc

All of the above are your responsibility to do. This girl should have NEVER aborted your baby if she knew you would leave. You should have set boundaries from the start including things like this.

If she really loved you (plus wanted the marriage) and still aborted the baby, then you weren't clear with your boundaries


Boundaries are top 5 most important things in relationships. If you do not make it clear, women will do whatever they like expecting you to be okay with it after plenty begging

A BIG mistake many red pillers and guys make is they see women as 100% adults. They think that there are certain things they should get as per matured adult. This is WRONG. Treat women both as children and adults. INSTRUCT her like a child, PUNISH her like a child, REWARD her like a child.

You must be clear with what you like.

I advise to understand women better while you work on yourself. Working on yourself doesn't mean you'll miraculously get better with women.

You have to do both. All the best

AlphaNugget:

Ok, let me make it more clear.

We had an issue which unfortunately escalated, my ex attempted to stab me and I called her mum on her....her mum took her home and I didn't ask about her for the first 3 days, on the 4th day I visited her and tried to talk her into visiting the hospital so as to commence antenatal, her mum raised issue that I was only concerned about the baby and that I have no plan to marry the girl, that I want to do only traditional marriage and travel out of the country to marry another lady. Her mum was forcing me to do Court wedding, I said no.
I also informed the mum that I will do the traditional marriage by November ending, her mum said that I should do both traditional and court, I refused.

I tried by giving her money on weekly basis for upkeep and medication. The third week of November I heard that the baby was no more.....I inquired and she said it was miscarriage, I said how will you get miscarriage when you don't engage in any stressful activities. People close to me said that it was abortion, that the mum must have told her to do so just because I refused doing court marriage.

I decided to end everything.....imagine the audacity to abort my first fruit because of what your mum said.

Bro learn about women to prevent a future reoccurrence. This is NOT just about her mum at all

You didn't vet this girl properly and clearly made A LOT of mistakes.

I'll write a thread on the status of a relationship soon. You should read it

Rizzputin:


Bro learn about women to prevent a future reoccurrence. This is NOT just about her mum at all

You didn't vet this girl properly and clearly made A LOT of mistakes.

I'll write a thread on the status of a relationship soon. You should read it

Please tag me when you are done 🙏

Iamblessed85:


Was it after it ended that you turned to AlphaNugget

Lol, this all happened last year, November

Rizzputin:


I'll be blunt, no matter the country you go to, this may happen again and again.

Men have HUGE egos. Men love to blame the girl, her mum or some outside forces for why their relationship failed.

I advise to ASK YOURSELF what you did wrong. Did you vet this girl properly? Is she from a single parent home? What is her relationship with her dad like? How long was the vetting process? Etc

Her dad doesn't live with the mum, although they are not divorce but they live apart. I vetted her for 13 months before I decided to take her serious last year January.
She is cool with her dad, during her stay with me she always finds time to visit her dad and give him some foodstuffs.....take note that I always accompany her on those occasions.

This girl should have NEVER aborted your baby if she knew you would leave. You should have set boundaries from the start including things like this.

I will put the blame on her mum, her mum literally deceived her and talked nonsense into her.....and unfortunately she succumbed, that is why I also blamed her for not trusting my love for her, because she was scared of ending up as a single mum.

If she really loved you (plus wanted the marriage) and still aborted the baby, then you weren't clear with your boundaries

She has been reiterating that it was miscarriage, but I told her that it is not..... because her mum threatened that she will forced her daughter to do abortion if I fail to do the court marriage, so I believe that she did abortion and it was not any miscarriage.

AlphaNugget:

My parents tried to clear their doubts, my mum in particular talked to her mum and assured her that the girl can stay with my mum if she doesn't feel comfortable staying with her own parents when I travel.....and I honestly explained that I will do court marriage next year when I visit the country, she agreed initially but her mum just doesn't agree.....it is over, I have moved on

Personally, I don’t know why people push for marriage (especially young folks) when they are processing traveling abroad. From my little experience, it doesn’t usually end well as the abroad-based spouse typically face issues of bringing over the 9ja-based partner and can easily cause strain in this kind of young marriages. Your ex’s mother had every reason to be paranoid for her daughter so her demand for court wedding isn’t out of place since foreign consular offices don’t acknowledge traditional weddings. Trusting your words of “doing the court wedding on your return” is a risky game for the lady (and her mother).

Like Liminouz said, it’s better it ended this way for both parties. As you continue with your study abroad plans, she (your ex) can also go back into the dating market as a “fresh” single lady. Best of luck with your endeavors!

USAfall2024:


Personally, I don’t know why people push for marriage (especially young folks) when they are processing traveling abroad. From my little experience, it doesn’t usually end well as the abroad-based spouse typically face issues of bringing over the 9ja-based partner and can easily cause strain in this kind of young marriages. Your ex’s mother had every reason to be paranoid for her daughter so her demand for court wedding isn’t out of place since foreign consular offices don’t acknowledge traditional weddings.

Like Liminouz said, it’s better it ended this way for both parties. As you continue with your study abroad plans, she (your ex) can also go back into the dating market as a “fresh” single lady.

I wanted to start young, wanted to build my family and have something to make me come back to the country......note that she had already done change of name and I indicated married in my marital status in my documents, which she was well aware of! It was not like I was cheating or hiding anything from her, I literally made effort to include her in all my things.

I understand the mum, but I was just not prepared because I wanted the court marriage to be done after childbirth.....but it is well, I don't see it as the end of the world, life continues, another woman will come and hopefully I will make the right choice.

AlphaNugget:

I wanted to start young, wanted to build my family and have something to make me come back to the country......note that she had already done change of name and I indicated married in my marital status in my documents, which she was well aware of! It was not like I was cheating or hiding anything from her, I literally made effort to include her in all my things.

I understand the mum, but I was just not prepared because I wanted the court marriage to be done after childbirth.....but it is well, I don't see it as the end of the world, life continues, another woman will come and hopefully I will make the right choice.

So your plan was to bring her over to you in the new country after? Or will she still be stuck in 9ja while you’re over there hustling/schooling? Tbh, such situation in a young marriage of less than a year isn’t ideal IMO. Except your game was to use the marriage as a “home tie” for easier visa approval then maybe I can understand that angle of pushing for quick marriage before Japa. In such scenario, you’ve to carry the lady and her family along with honesty. Anyway the mom had every reason to be paranoid so I can’t really fault anyone in this story. Once again, Best of Luck Bro.

USAfall2024:

So your plan was to bring her over to you in the new country after? Or will she still be stuck in 9ja while you’re over there hustling/schooling? Tbh, such situation in a young marriage of less than a year isn’t ideal IMO. Except your game was to use the marriage as a “home tie” for easier visa approval then maybe I can understand that angle of pushing for quick marriage before Japa. In such scenario, you’ve to carry the lady and her family along with honesty. Anyway the mom had every reason to be paranoid so I can’t really fault anyone in this story. Once again, Best of Luck Bro.

The plan was to bring her over with the baby next year, because we agreed that the baby won't school in Nigeria.....my parents also agreed on that. But her parents were hastening everything and I hate being rushed.

I guessed it was never meant to be, so I side with fate.

But it is well, I wish myself all the luck this world has in store....I really need it 🙏

AlphaNugget:



Her dad doesn't live with the mum, although they are not divorce but they live apart. I vetted her for 13 months before I decided to take her serious last year January.
She is cool with her dad, during her stay with me she always finds time to visit her dad and give him some foodstuffs.....take note that I always accompany her on those occasions.

I will put the blame on her mum, her mum literally deceived her and talked nonsense into her.....and unfortunately she succumbed, that is why I also blamed her for not trusting my love for her, because she was scared of ending up as a single mum.


She has been reiterating that it was miscarriage, but I told her that it is not..... because her mum threatened that she will forced her daughter to do abortion if I fail to do the court marriage, so I believe that she did abortion and it was not any miscarriage.

The blame isn't on the mum per se. That's the surface reason. Surface reasons rarely ever are true problem. They're like symptoms or complications. The real problem is underneath which is you


If you had set CLEAR boundaries (while reassuring her obviously), she would have disobeyed her mum to please you. A woman's primal instinct and urge is to get into a relationship with the best man available. That's the best power men have because we're custodians of relationships. So setting clear boundaries should be paramount

I'm pretty sure this is not the first time she didn't something wrong and came back begging & apologising. The way I see it, she uses this "Do then apologize later if wrong" to test what your boundaries are. The right way is for you to set and make it clear rather than having her "test" it herself.


Secondly, how long has her Dad been away from her mum? If it's a considerable amount of time, then there will still be issues. Let me explain why I asked you those two questions:


----Her Relationship With Her Dad. This is primarily about respect for you. If she respects her dad, his struggles and accomplishments then she has a good idea of what it takes to be a man. In that regard, she'll respect you too.


But that's not all. Respecting her Dad is not enough. So let's look at the next question:



-----Is she from A single parent or broken home. Clearly this girl is a product of a broken home. But why is this a CONCERN. Your story is a PERFECT example.

The reason why women from broken homes tend NOT to be marriage materials is simple: Whenever you have problems with her daughter, she will advise her based on her hidden resentment for the girl's father. She will be quick to paint you in a bad light because of the wrongs of her father

"This is how your father started with me. Don't make the mistake I made" "men are like this. I when your dad this something similar"

A problem between you and her daughter will be overblown by her because of the resentment she feels for her father


These are not all though. There's WAY MORE that goes into vetting a woman. After all, nothing quality comes easy.

From what I've observed, the problem came from your lack of boundaries most especially and then your vetting process.


Anyways, kudos to you for sharing this. Shows strength. It's a lesson to learn