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correctyourself:
The guy did not do well because at a point the lady wants them to be together and the guy refused! I think rhe story is more than what you wrote here.

The guy was not mature in handling this issue because students in UK also work while schooling the authority encouraged them to do so, lazy guy waiting for the Lady to pay all that money, contract can be amended base on situations. Black man's mentality of entitlement

We need to hear the Lady's side of the story!

You don't have sense, no one is giving you any other "side" of the story.

Yes definitely, she messed up, she had no good intentions from the beginning than to get to uk and abandon the guy.

djon78:


Anyway she renaged on the agreement they had
Because if she had surported the guy to complete his academic work, she would have seen the best way/option on how to remain or improve her UK Visa status

So all the blame goes to her
She ran away when the battle was very intense
She shouldn't blame anyone
But rather learn her life's lessons

So the issue was settled?

Why are you bringing it here?
So they will know what you guys are doing?

Clowns.

Even the juju knows the truth it wouldn't do anything to the guy.
She messed up by blocking him, at least even if she don't have the money but communication can calm him calm at least so I don't blame the guy.

KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.

A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.

Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.

When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.

When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.

The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.

When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.

The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.

She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.

Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.

, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.

The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.

Do you think he did the right thing??

There are million other ladies out there waiting to replicate exactly what this hoe did.

Yet they'll always say they're different that women are not the same.

My guy use your 6, walahi talai, na the same thing every single one of them be!

Never ever help a Naija or African lady abroad, she'll shit all over you.

Enough fresh akata and white puna bokku for there to select from.

Don't sell yourself short, don't cheat yourself man, you deserve so much more!!!

Zidac:
It was actually a good deal all along because her intention was just to leave Nigeria and there was the opportunity.

Anyways u have ur reasons but I dont see it as a good deal but a way to be used. It was as if she did not pay anything for the traveling. Secondly going to a new place with a burden of taking over anoda persons responsibility is a NO for me. When one is opportune to move into a new city; one is starting all afresh and their are a lot of things involve. Things might work in your favour in the first three years and things might not be in your favour for the first three years; therefore, one is expected to avoid any form of burden. This guy on the other hand was developing himself and was building on himself while the lady on the other hand cannot do that because money which was supposed to be used for that purpose was used for building somebody else that is not ready to be with her. I belief the guy was eyeing one white woman to make things stew for himself. So, for me, it was never a good deal at all except she also had her own escape route planned out

KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.

A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.

Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.

When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.

When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.

The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.

When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.

The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.

She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.

Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.

, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.

The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.

Do you think he did the right thing??

she supposed to be in jail.. Not just in Nigeria. Next time make an agreement with anybody with the pen of a lawyer.

correctyourself:
The guy did not do well because at a point the lady wants them to be together and the guy refused! I think rhe story is more than what you wrote here.

The guy was not mature in handling this issue because students in UK also work while schooling the authority encouraged them to do so, lazy guy waiting for the Lady to pay all that money, contract can be amended base on situations. Black man's mentality of entitlement

We need to hear the Lady's side of the story!

You speak from a point of ignorance.

First you are not even encouraged to work, you are restricted to 20hrs and breaking it, is visa cancellation.

This rubbish is very common among Nigerians.
An agreement is an agreement, the guy was even nice and patient.

I can tell you this film, naa seasonal with different actors/actresses.

I personally know three different people in this situation.

In one situation, naa both of them lose.

Nigerians, an agreement is an agreement. Because we form smart or sharp, not knowing we are the dumbest mf..guy did well jare.

the guy even tried for 50-50...

KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.

A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.

Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.

When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.

When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.

The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.

When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.

The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.

She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.

Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.

, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.

The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.

Do you think he did the right thing??

You concluded by shaking the guy's hand, what else do you want us to say?
The guy has moved on, the lady should move on too.

He is on a long thing if he expected her to contribute 9k but she for try give am 3k her initial 2k. Him no owe her past the 1 year in any case.

Her village juju go fall on her head. Na entitled banny and most 9ja are like that na to use and take advantage of person them sabi.

The other side of the coin.

When you give someone an offer they can’t refuse even when it is not fair they will say yes and wait for you for front. Same as a used 50 to 70 year old ( not even sugar daddy that sugaring) diaspora man going to 9ja to marry a 20 something year old spring chicken and expecting her to go train and get a good job and hand over the money to him. Na palaver them they find kwo.

advanceDNA:
U get mind ooo ....u enter that deal wey involve huge money with woman.?? And you expect her to pay up ??

Nigga u funny

ItisWell22:
The guy was really strong, to have completed his studies with such disappointment.

As for the threat, because we believe in juju, let him be really prayerful.
If his mum is still alive, he should inform her.

which yeye juju. Hahahahaha

Una too funny for that Nigeria
The guy over patience

eazzzy1:
If after school they both go their own way, what is the benefit of the arrangement to the girl? Should she not start schooling while the guy pays half of her tuition too?

She should have exposed the scam to the home office before they told her to leave the country. They both would have been sent home.

The guy is the main applicant and the girl was supposed meet her agreement or she decline so the guy should look for someone else who is ready...

The benefit to the lady is enormous with 2 years post study she could achieve what she wouldn't achieve in Nigeria in 70 years

Don't paste this stuff on Nairaland, visa officers regularly check this place!

correctyourself:


You're here talking, have you heard from the Lady's side of the story?

Oga, always try very well to read and understand before posting nonsense. It was a third party that wrote this piece, narrated what happened. Neither the guy nor the lady has spoken. This is a third party narration

gunners160:
u sabi think i swear. How can the lady be working and sending the guy to school and the guy on the other hand will just go like that after the school? We are always quick to blame women without looking at the both sides of the coin.
If a lady was the one who did this same act, we start crying foul and here words like gold digger. From the comments I am seeing here ehn, I pity women who will end up marrying people like these

Do u know how many people are looking for this kind of deal at the moment?
Do u know what the guy through to arrange the proof of funds? Secure ission etc.

As at that time they left the 50% of the girl was just 4.5 million. Can 4.5m take u to UK today?
Going to uk on that same route cost over 50m now pr nothing

KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.

A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.

Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.

When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.

When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.

The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.

When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.

The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.

She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.

Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.

, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.

The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.

Do you think he did the right thing??

He over did the right thing. Women love to eat their cakes n still have it. That gender is wired to use anyone's head to get to the top. The earlier you cut the greed off, the better

Housing:
The of the agreement favours only the guy, the guy is very selfish and greedy is he going to pay her back the tuition fees after he might graduated or also sponsor her through school? If not the agreement will surely not be honoured.

The lady only accepted to the agreement due to desperation. Unless there were other details we don't know.

The lady should have done her own visa

Akwaokukuo:


Exactly the question iji my mind.
I'm a guy but I don't tolerate exploitation.
They agreement doesn't favour the girl at all.
What does she stand to gain from the deal?
If I were her.
We will go down together.
I will just expose him to the UK government and submit all necessary evidence to backup my claim while using very strong spiritual powers to deal with him as the UK government deliberate the matter.
Agreement is meant to favour both parties

You enter UK with full work visa for two good years and u are asking what she stand to gain?

I am here for a year and funds i have earned that through my is over 25k pounds.... Judge fairness with sense.... If that girl is wise that two years go build 2 storey building for naija

Atuero:
What exactly is the lady's advantage in the deal?

I can see that it is fear of village juju that made you bring this matter here.

The guy is a gonna if she takes the matter to her village juju.


This is deception on the guy side

I am in uk for one year.... Almost 25k has ed through my as funds i earned... One year fa not to talk of 2 years.

How much she kuku pay? Less than 2m then when pounds was 540...

That girl is evil

Jorussia:
This level tire me nor be small chief.The kind things some they do to enter abroad nor be small.Personally, the guy himself nor clean and if she use juju wound am,the thing him body.

Marriage is no joke to so many persons and i presume this said lady inclusive.Why nor go do marriage with somebody him love?abi the guy done first get wife?

Listen to ur self.
People do contract marriage in us uk for specific purposes ...
. People do arrangee marriage for japa it happens up to today...
.agreement is agreement. If she can't abide then allow the guy look for who will agree

ehikwe22:
The boy is greedy and wicked. He should have demanded for like little money from the girl instead that kind of big money.

The girl is also wicked. At least she should have tried to . Even if it's 20% of tuition each session

Let me be frank with u.. Same uk i de in less than 1 year i earned over 25k pounds... Before rax though..
Come talk of person weh stay 2 years... Make u na de reason.

Even the 50% then it was less than 4.5m when pounds be 540...

SDUG:


Some decisions we make in Life... Neglecting long time consequences. You Married someone legally, you called it contract

Guy he is forever married..

Calm down and travel and see contract marriages cos of document... Its happens everywhere.

advanceDNA:

Why did she come back after graduation to beg the guy with 2k£ if the deal wasn't going to favour both of them in the end...??

If it won't favour her at all...why did she take the deal....?? That means u don't get the deal..

What she wanted out of the deal is to enter the UK and stay....being a dependant to the guy meant she can work unlimited hours to make more money, gain experience, and get new sponsorship jobs......unlike the guy who can't work for more than 20hrs per week..

Technically, she's the one the deal favoured in of hustle and making money and quickly settling ....secondly she has more leverage in walking away from the deal since she has no tuition to pay, which she eventually did, leaving the guy stranded to sort the tuition that he can't pay with 20hrs per week worth of hustle..
If it had worked out for her like getting a sponsorship job, we won't be here....

no mind people weh no sabi anything

folks4luv:
The agreement was very silly to begin with, guess that's what desperation will do to people.
Apart from an opportunity to leave Nigeria, she was expected to help offset over 18k school fees while sustaining herself and building her future, all for a man that was neither related nor married to her? Likeeee, that's so silly. I'd still condemn her breach of contract but that guy was also a .

Aunty read the story... 50% she will pay for 2 years.

Meaning she will pay 4500 pounds per year...

I am in same UK i can confirm to u that over 25k pounds have earned. Not to talk of a girl in uk for 2 years.

If u no understand please avoid comment.

Give me 2 years visa in uk i will build a 3 storey building in my village in 1 and 6 months... I am in uk now i know what am saying

delishpot:
But why did she agree to the deal? She contributed to the processing, visa, tp and also his school fees. Why would he expect her to pay all his school fees again? That was greedy of him. They both were using each other and it's catching up with them. She agreed with his knowing that when she gets there she will do her own will.
He took vengeance blindly. If it were me I'll ask for half the school fees plus the 2k she was offering since they are just using each other.

Anyone on dependant visa works unlimited. As at 2022 dependant slot was sold for 5m and above.

I believe the guy gave him a soft landing but she wanted to outsmart the guy.

Do u know that if u don't ur course u can't allow to stau back?

The guy struggled to and now she want to be tagged on the next visa for why?

Usonkwu:
Op wanted the girl to co-sponsor the guy's education while not relatives? Na wa o. I guess the guy is Yoruba. See, I like Yoruba guys humility, but sometimes they act like without character.
I'm not exonerating the girl, but maybe, she entered the deal, thinking there might still be future for both, despite verbal agreement. There's a legal document stating so!

Future that u refuse tl share what u earned in 2 years.
Let me be frank that girl earned nothing less than 40k pounds for that 2 years she was in uk.

Her plan was to stay with the guy the guy Bleep her and she wont pay for rent, bills etc.


Give me 2 yeaes visa in uk i go build duplex..

TossTos:
E don happen already ..

You see ,in my perspective, she tried and at the other hand she fumbled .. for the lady to accept such , you said it that , she has feelings for you .. she acted accordingly because of the feeling, when you guys got there , she paid £2k base on the feeling that in no time you will accept her , you ignored her too , she got angry and forgot about you .. thinking she will never have anything to do with you again and all that . You also blocked her , this show her the more that you don't even care about her . But she had forgotten she might need your help in the very near future.. And I like the fact that you man-up and acted independently, I respect you .. but you may have shown a true leadership style of doings to her . You know , this will make her regret her action the more , you will have a say over her. And I am very sure she will never do such to you again and to anyone .. now you make her have some feelings that she acted right by doing all she did because you don't show her love ( she'll claim )..

Everything rises and falls on leadership

I don't know why you don't have a back up plan already , what if she fumbled.but anyways you've scaled through that ..

We even have some ladies that will not pay anything, but stay on your neck to still fend for them there and you will not have option than to do it with their tricks and cunning ways ..

She's sees what you did as a revenge and she also want to revenge..
That's why some say it is not good to pay evil with evil ..


Be prayerful ( if it requires you to fast , do ), move on , you may even call your people at home ( like your mom to pray a protection prayer for you )

My little path and how me go react to it ..

Yeye man.

Do u know that full time working class person in uk earn nothing less than 1800 pounds after tax per month? Remove 600 for rent. Cos i know that lady will share accommodation and pay maybe 350 per month or even ran to another guy to stay free accommodation..

Then multiply that money into 24 months and exhange it to Naira. Then see how wicked the woman is.


Dependant visa spot was sold 5m to 7m then but the guy did her a favour to pay 50% of his fee as she works over here.

advanceDNA:

Why did she come back after graduation to beg the guy with 2k£ if the deal wasn't going to favour both of them in the end...??

If it won't favour her at all...why did she take the deal....?? That means u don't get the deal..

What she wanted out of the deal is to enter the UK and stay....being a dependant to the guy meant she can work unlimited hours to make more money, gain experience, and get new sponsorship jobs......unlike the guy who can't work for more than 20hrs per week..

Technically, she's the one the deal favoured in of hustle and making money and quickly settling ....secondly she has more leverage in walking away from the deal since she has no tuition to pay, which she eventually did, leaving the guy stranded to sort the tuition that he can't pay with 20hrs per week worth of hustle..
If it had worked out for her like getting a sponsorship job, we won't be here....

Ohh, now I get the point. Thanks for the detailed explanation

correctyourself:
The guy did not do well because at a point the lady wants them to be together and the guy refused! I think rhe story is more than what you wrote here.

The guy was not mature in handling this issue because students in UK also work while schooling the authority encouraged them to do so, lazy guy waiting for the Lady to pay all that money, contract can be amended base on situations. Black man's mentality of entitlement

We need to hear the Lady's side of the story!

e no go better for you...very foolish human being!

ArcFresky:


You speak from a point of ignorance.

First you are not even encouraged to work, you are restricted to 20hrs and breaking it, is visa cancellation.

This rubbish is very common among Nigerians.
An agreement is an agreement, the guy was even nice and patient.

I can tell you this film, naa seasonal with different actors/actresses.

I personally know three different people in this situation.

In one situation, naa both of them lose.

Nigerians, an agreement is an agreement. Because we form smart or sharp, not knowing we are the dumbest mf..guy did well jare.

the guy even tried for 50-50...

Wihy he didn't use her sister or girlfriend?

eleniyan2020:
e no go better for you...very foolish human being!

Your mouth would Land you in a law Court soon!

correctyourself:


Wihy he didn't use her sister or girlfriend?

It seems you like people to be insulting you. Why can't you read from the other comments.

The guy sell part of his portion with an agreement to the highest bidder. If his sister or girlfriend has money at that time, he would have sell it to them rather than stranger.

I know you are underage, probably in your 20's.