| twilliamx(m): 1:05pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.
A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.
Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.
When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.
When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.
The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.
When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.
The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.
She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.
Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.
, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.
The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.
Do you think he did the right thing??
brotherhood is proud of the guy
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| Zidac: 1:07pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
gunners160:
u sabi think i swear. How can the lady be working and sending the guy to school and the guy on the other hand will just go like that after the school. We are always quick to blame women without looking at the both side of the coin
Why did she accept the offer or better still why didn't pay for her own Visa
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| donbabsaint(m): 1:09pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
You haven't hear the lady's side of the story and yet you've already judge the guy in your earlier comment. I'm really bemused on how some of your reason.
correctyourself:
You're here talking, have you heard from the Lady's side of the story?
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| Jorussia(m): 1:12pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
ednut1:
Nigerians and mago mago. That was how a relative of mine did this and they still added a child that doesn’t belong to either of them to the application. When i heard it ehn i was weak. If she reports him he would get deported too
This level tire me nor be small chief.The kind things some they do to enter abroad nor be small.Personally, the guy himself nor clean and if she use juju wound am,the thing him body.
Marriage is no joke to so many persons and i presume this said lady inclusive.Why nor go do marriage with somebody him love?abi the guy done first get wife?
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| Bonab: 1:12pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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I have not pity for fools who think they are smart. She just got served. She would have done worse if she were in the guy's shoe.
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| ehikwe22: 1:12pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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The boy is greedy and wicked. He should have demanded for like little money from the girl instead that kind of big money.
The girl is also wicked. At least she should have tried to . Even if it's 20% of tuition each session
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| Cruzmaster: 1:13pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Atuero:
What exactly is the lady's advantage in the deal?
I can see that it is fear of village juju that made you bring this matter here.
The guy is a gonna if she takes the matter to her village juju.
This is deception on the guy side
Eeyaa. Funny enough, agreement is agreement
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| ruffhandu: 1:14pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.
when we hear from the lady, then we knew the story is balanced. But from your own side, I have few things to say:
1. How can you reject a woman's advances and accept her money, it is perceived as wickedness. Even if a man does this, he will be tagged 'foolish'. She had thought about it, and her friends had told her she was being used (and rightly so). She even made an attempt to come move in and he refused, meaning he had no single feeling for her, not even konji-quenching feeling. She had tried for paying 2k. She was only stupid to enter the agreement in the first place.
2. You are lucky she didn't drag you with her. She could have gone to immigration and exposed both of you. Once it is established, you may have been sent back with her.
3. I suggest you either stop having any form of communication with her, or send her some chunk as compensation to leave your tail. Else, women can do anything when feeling betrayed and hurt, whether right or wrong.
4. Thank your God you were smart enough to manage your immigration status with work, because if UK notice you work more than 20hrs as a student, you are going home bro
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| Free2Fly: 1:15pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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[quote author=KingintheNorth post=133400836
The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.
Do you think he did the right thing??
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This is all i was looking to see, and thank God i finally saw it.
Thank you.
No vengeance should be left for God whatsoever. Everything should be settled here on earth.
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| ejieddy: 1:17pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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Forgiveness is divine though. If the girl can it she did wrong, and is ready to pay all she owes, then forgiving her is right
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| advanceDNA: 1:19pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Beuberry:
What happened to women? Because say one person do am no mean say everybody dey do.
Men sef dey do worst.
1...U gender doesn't like being able for for anything....not even your own actions..
2...this scenario is even worse....the guy is expecting her to pay half of his tuition so she can remain in the UK....I know that's the agreement yeah!!....but there is no woman in this universe time and space that will pay that money after entering the UK...
..she will rather take her chances that she will get a sponsorship job within a year than pay half of a degree that her name won't be on the certificate ....  even you won't pay even off u signed an agreement....
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| beyep: 1:20pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
correctyourself:
The guy did not do well because at a point the lady wants them to be together and the guy refused! I think rhe story is more than what you wrote here.
The guy was not mature in handling this issue because students in UK also work while schooling the authority encouraged them to do so, lazy guy waiting for the Lady to pay all that money, contract can be amended base on situations. Black man's mentality of entitlement
We need to hear the Lady's side of the story!
learn to read simple comprehensive writing before u comment
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| advanceDNA: 1:23pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
JobAndVacancies:
your last sentence gave you away.
Dumb ass go read what you wrote again
U are the dúmb áss that doesn't know how to read hypothetical statements..... And I resist the urge to shalayè because you still won't get it...
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| dawnomike(m): 1:26pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.
A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.
Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.
When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.
When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.
The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.
When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.
The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.
She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.
Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.
, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.
The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.
Do you think he did the right thing??
He did the right thing...
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| Beuberry(f): 1:28pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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| emmy512(m): 1:34pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Oluwaseunomo:
Who cares about court wedding we are African rtraditional wedding is enough
Yes it is untill she wants to frustrate him in court
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| gunners160(m): 1:36pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Zidac:
Why did she accept the offer or better still why didn't pay for her own Visa
because she felt it was a good deal. Just the way fraudsters pleads to people greed. If the table was turn round would u have said thesame thing. That guy knew he would benefit the most so he looked for somebody gullible that he can use
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| luluosas(m): 1:37pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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Since na juju she depended upon to defraud the guy, let the guy summon her to the Almighty God, and let's see who wins at last
Ungrateful lady
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| correctyourself(m): 1:38pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
beyep:
learn to read simple comprehensive writing before u comment
Go and solve your headache problem.
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| DMCY: 1:38pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for ?
If reverse was the case, would she agree?
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| Omoawoke(m): 1:38pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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It will never be well with colonizers
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| Pootle: 1:39pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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all in the name of japa...i reserve my thoughts
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| Cheeryfeet: 1:42pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.
A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.
Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.
When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.
When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.
The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.
When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.
The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.
She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, ed all his courses and finished school.
Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.
, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.
The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.
Do you think he did the right thing??
Let her go and report. She will die there. You that's asking, you don't have sense at all. What do you expect
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| advanceDNA: 1:44pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Beuberry:
Na you know where you dey meet bad women.
Yeah....now it's bad women.... ......Yet y'all blame men for the adultery, paternity fraud and crimes y'all commit....
Beuberry:
Women are more considerate than men in issues like this. No doubt the reverse may be the case cos I don't trust the op
Considerate indeed !!! ....I speak from existing social realities we have seen in many issues like this when y'all need to be team players for something far lesser and your gender hardly come true....let alone paying half tuition of around 6k£ for degree she wont collect....
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| Free2Fly: 1:45pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
ItisWell22:
The guy was really strong, to have completed his studies with such disappointment.
As for the threat, because we believe in juju, let him be really prayerful.
If his mum is still alive, he should inform her.
You and who believe in juju?
There's no power behind that rubbish
If i have issue with anyone and s/he resorts to juju, s/he has already accepted failure and will certainly failed.
Na mumu dem dey use juju intimidate
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| Cheeryfeet: 1:47pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
correctyourself:
The guy did not do well because at a point the lady wants them to be together and the guy refused! I think rhe story is more than what you wrote here.
The guy was not mature in handling this issue because students in UK also work while schooling the authority encouraged them to do so, lazy guy waiting for the Lady to pay all that money, contract can be amended base on situations. Black man's mentality of entitlement
We need to hear the Lady's side of the story!
It's not true. It's people like you that sell their soul. They had an agreement, and his reason is so he can focus on his study. The girl wants to move in and do wifely, he doesn't want to knack. Is it by force. It's not an entitlement anything. It was a mutual opportunity, she failed her part. If she didn't want to,she would have declined. You people think sentimentally. What if the guy couldn't meet up with his studies and combining the extra work. You think everyone can pull it off.
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| AbuAeesha: 1:49pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
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i don't think any serious person should judge a story by hearing from only one of the two sides!
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| correctyourself(m): 1:51pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Cheeryfeet:
It's not true. It's people like you that sell their soul. They had an agreement, and his reason is so he can focus on his study. The girl wants to move in and do wifely, he doesn't want to knack. Is it by force. It's not an entitlement anything. It was a mutual opportunity, she failed her part. If she didn't want to,she would have declined. You people think sentimentally. What if the guy couldn't meet up with his studies and combining the extra work. You think everyone can pull it off.
Ok oo, she's not good for wifey but she is good to his education, with this your submission i the Lady.
Why didn't he do same arrangement with his own girl friend or wife?
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| correctyourself(m): 1:52pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Cheeryfeet:
It's not true. It's people like you that sell their soul. They had an agreement, and his reason is so he can focus on his study. The girl wants to move in and do wifely, he doesn't want to knack. Is it by force. It's not an entitlement anything. It was a mutual opportunity, she failed her part. If she didn't want to,she would have declined. You people think sentimentally. What if the guy couldn't meet up with his studies and combining the extra work. You think everyone can pull it off.
Ok oo, she's not good for wifey but she is good to his education, with this your submission i the Lady.
Why didn't he do same arrangement with his own girl friend or wife or sister?
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| Jetland(m): 1:54pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
KingintheNorth:
They married legally in Nigeria and she travelled as his spouse. Every process was legit. The agreement they had is just verbal.
They legally married in Nigeria, yet you said they were not intimate?
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| KingintheNorth(m): 1:58pm On Dec 23, 2024 |
Jetland:
They legally married in Nigeria, yet you said they were not intimate?
For travel purposes only.
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