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SAMBARRY:
Maybe he put his words wrongly. I am sure he doesn't know the meaning of wickedness. Instead he should have said be kind but have boundaries

If you have boundaries people still see you as being wicked. You don't know this country we are living

If you are kind, you are kind. No matter how people respond to the kindness.

It's when you pretend to be kind because you wanted something from the "fake" kindness you are showing that you say things like this.

Father4all:
That Oladotun Sunday is a goat

he is very right.
There's nothing good about being wicked.
Adekunle could have used another word but not wicked.
I was once wicked but later realized there's no atom of good in being wicked and now i am a changed person.
Be kind to people but know when to draw the line.
Not being wicked.

paxonel:

If you have boundaries people still see you as being wicked. You don't know this country we are living

that's where the carrot and stick approach comes in.sometimes use cane to flog them sometimes give them a warm and affectionate hug

Fiscus105:



Nothing to add more sir.

Yoruba adage says,......what people turn you to, is what they would use to mock you.

The provision seller that use to sell on credit, when the business collapses as a result of bad debts of the customers, the same customers would be the ones to mock, that she can't not do anything successfully.


What about lady that, every guys in neighbourhood have slept with?

the bolded is a fantastic example, people will come to a food seller, beg and beg that they haven't eaten and that once they have some money they will come and pay, immediately they get the money, but instead of paying they will go and use that money to buy and pay cash from another seller, and will e mocking the first seller as being foolish.
we have gotten to a stage where we see humility and kindness as stupidity and foolishness, and we see meanness, arrogance, and aggressiveness as smartness and good intelligence. like i was told then when growing up, my brothers would say "The boy is good, the boy is good " that what it means is the boy is stupid.
if you ever notice, Nigerians like people who are mean to them, they like kids who are rash and talk anyhow, but when you are humble and meek, na you everyone in the neighborhood go send all sorts of errands

I just helped a friend who was in so much need of help.....he paid me back by blocking me n warning me not to call him again

excanny:


He's foolish for not thinking his thoughts clearly to the point of being misunderstood.

Being kind doesn't equate to being naive and not figuring out people's true intentions.

Being naive is what is dangerous not being a good person.

If you are not naive, they will say you are wicked. You don't know this country you are living in

Abi Verywickedman, nor be so?

DyshApp:
Nigerian musician, Adekunle Kosoko, popularly known as Adekunle Gold, has stated that kindness makes one turn to a foolish person.

In a post shared on his social media on Monday, the singer stated that it took him a while to come to this conclusion.

According to him, a sprinkle of wickedness is needed to thrive in the world.

“Took me a while, but I can confirm now that in this life, you need a sprinkle of wickedness to thrive. Kindness go turn you to mumu,” he stated.

One of his followers has however disagreed with the singer’s analogy.

The follower identified simply as Oludotun Sunday, described this analogy as a big fat lie.

He maintained that kind people never regret being kind, and added that they also do not wish to be wicked.

He stated, “This is a hot fat lie

He maintained that kind people never regret being kind, and added that they also do not wish to be wicked.

He stated, “This is a hot fat lie

Kind people are kind and never regret their kindness. If you are wicked, you are wicked. If you are kind, you can never wish and do not need to be wicked.

Kind people never nurse that idea, only wicked people can be two-faced.”

😂🤣😂🤣😂

Whats the difference between........ punishment(to bring correction) = a necessary evil (to bring correction)

lanre316:
Wickedness is wickedness. Little or not. It's sad that wickedness is being promoted as new normal.

You don't have to show kindness to everyone, but it doesn't mean you are supposed to be wicked, in little ways.

The world is built by evil people , you need to have a little bit of wickedness in you in order to thrive , even God killed a lot of people in the bible ..

I’m not saying you should stay wicked but set boundaries or they will take you for granted

Taste and see that the Lord is kind and those the Kind Lord loves he disciplines. Those discipline seen as punishment are necessary wickedness or evil right?

Baronthecelebri:
He's right

He's not right at all but foolish.

I know exactly what he's trying to say and I've been there and done that but....


If you're making such statement you must explain it well enough so people don't take you out of context.

No hard feelings. He's doing well, I'm doing well too. His money, his life but it's in the public so we must comment.

paxonel:

If you are not naive, they will say you are wicked. You don't know this country you are living in

Abi Verywickedman, nor be so?

Well, for someone who is planning to use, scam or cheat you, they will always want to say that.

But offer help to people who truly need it and are not lying to scam you.

I think is wickedness is not to be be wicked but to just kala to give out your money even me self am planning to be kala somehow i think me self need it small because people are so wicked they will take you for granted

saintkel:
I just helped a friend who was in so much need of help.....he paid me back by blocking me n warning me not to call him again

This story is not complete. What did you do that he blocked you? What transpired? He can't just block you unless he's having a mental problem. Na mad person? If he's not mad then this story is most likely a lie. Something must have happened.

Is your friend in a psychiatric hospital or something?

Fryx:


The original meaning of wickedness is not a bad thing. It is actually a compliment.

For context, I am wicked. But not evil.

I will ensure you follow the rules when appropriate. I will also punish you appropriately.

But I dont just punish. I also consider you when making decisions. However, I will ensure the right things are done even if it makes you uncomfortable.

However, I don’t wish bad things on you. I wish for your progress and I am not jealous of you.

That’s being wicked.

Being unnecessarily nice is foolish. It destroys us all.

Most women are nice because it is their nature. Most men are wicked because it is necessary to create a balance.

None is evil in its original form. But once selfishness and vengeance began to sip in, even a nice man can become nice with the intention of evil. That’s evil.

Wickedness in Yoruba - Buru.
Evil in Yoruba - Alaida.

Big differences.

I understand you but that principle can work in oyinbo countries where people are compelled to follow rules and discipline no matter who you be because there's always immediate consequences for good and bad actions but in nigeria people will willfully and intentionally flout the rules and when you want to ensure they face the consequences of their actions they'll come and beg with aburo eni. Omo kole burutiti kalefekun parents,egbon eni. Oun malosanwo schoolfees e,aunty eni, oun malonu idi e nigbatokere, broda eni, oun lo bae tolu mumy e and if you dare call their bluff and enforce boundaries say no you must face consequences they'll label you wicked because they'll say ta ba gbagbe oro ana, ani reyanbasere.

Hence the lawlessness, chaos and impunity. No boundaries at work and even in the family. You will see some inlaws with no manners or decorum they will just badge into the room of the couple without knocking or just visit without prior notice and if you talk they'll say otiburu ju,tie tipoju. So it's basically everywhere

otipoju:
We live in a time where kindness is taken as weakness and is prone to be exploited util you are financially, physically and emotionally drained.

Learning to say No even if you can help is ultra important...abd that is what to naturally kind people feel as wickedness.

The disadvantage of being kind all the time us that you unconsciously teach people to you only when they want something...and once they unconsciously label you as that...they will never turn up for you when you are in need even if they have the means.


This December I just dey ignore all the different requests wey I dey get...and it will be like that for a very long time.

It's time to focus on me and me alone. Takers never stop taking.

Givers never lack but i hear you, you’ve given a valid and verifiable argument but a sprinkle of little comion sometimes will go a long way especially when its inconvenient and tough. The world is a weird place anyway.

Fryx:


The original meaning of wickedness is not a bad thing. It is actually a compliment.

For context, I am wicked. But not evil.

I will ensure you follow the rules when appropriate. I will also punish you appropriately.

But I dont just punish. I also consider you when making decisions. However, I will ensure the right things are done even if it makes you uncomfortable.

However, I don’t wish bad things on you. I wish for your progress and I am not jealous of you.

That’s being wicked.

Being unnecessarily nice is foolish. It destroys us all.

Most women are nice because it is their nature. Most men are wicked because it is necessary to create a balance.

None is evil in its original form. But once selfishness and vengeance began to sip in, even a nice man can become nice with the intention of evil. That’s evil.

Oga you suppose write your own dictionary, cos your descriptions no follow

wicked means being unresponsive to another person pain, or just unconcerned

wicked could also be termed your action against others, like what Tinubu is doing

Wickedness is bad because its either causing someone pain or leaving someone in pain.


"Nice" should be a way of life, and their is no such thing as "unnecessarily nice" .. people wont need you if its not necessary, i cant have food in the house and still come to your door to beg for food
people are unnecessarily nice when they have interior motive ... check well

i wont say women are nice lets just say they are more comionate, women are naturally "takers" nice entails doingss

do what you can do and what you cant leave it .. as long as my conscience is clear i am gud

Restraint instead of wickedness would have been more appropriate......for a fact ....when people percieve u to be too kind I bet u ....they will take u for granted,they will think ur weak, ur death even comes very quickly...........


See the bible is even against kind calm nd good people.........

Goodluck Jonathan...how far

Peter obi how far

Yaraudua how far

.................these kind people are disrespected nd not crowned for their meakness........



Tunubu........foolish nd wicked is still living
Babangida .. though still living partially
Wike .....current minister....y suswam is relegated
Buhari ..... celebrated old age yesterday
Obasanjo .... living partially...
Dokubo,tompolo in charge of oil contract


Lesson........be vile nd brute . People don't respect quite people

if you fight for Nigerians and you are arrested, they will be the first ones to ask you, who sent you to be fighting for them
mko abiola comes to mind

paxonel:

If you are not naive, they will say you are wicked. You don't know this country you are living in

Abi Verywickedman, nor be so?

temitope27:
Kunle is not making sense here

I pray for you today make you no jam bad people… you go understand better


I can relate with him VERY well

Kind o, wicked o, na God know wetin dey everyone's mind.

But you will reap whatever you sow. So try do good with a sincere heart.

That's why wisdom is the principal thing.

temitope27:
and you be wetin

your fathe .r

The guy literally described me this recent years. People are wicked more than you can imagine, upon your help and genuine assistance for them.

I non be wicked person, but I don get sense and tactically know how to say no. OMO!!!

AirBere:


This story is not complete. What did you do that he blocked you? What transpired? He can't just block you unless he's having a mental problem. Na mad person? If he's not mad then this story is most likely a lie. Something must have happened.

Is your friend in a psychiatric hospital or something?

it's gonna be a long story to tell ....but it's fine ...I moved on though ...I left him with his conscience n God

geoworldedu:


There was a time I actually spent far more money on people than on myself. I so much love human beings then, such that even when someone stole my stuffs, I will say, "Well, it is okay, so far the person is going to use it to meet his need, it is good."
When we went for a field trip, I spent my money feeding a course mate morning, afternoon and evening to the point that the course mate told me that he will like to give his sister to me to marry. When I asked why, he said," So that he can chop my money finish."

That same colleague, I borrowed him my last cash, promising he will pay back the following week. He didn't pay back and when I asked for it because I was totally out of cash(I don't even know how to ask for my money back in those days) the guy began to shout at me and call me names.

Fast forward to a decade after, I have become one of the stingiest person on earth. Till date, the transformation still baffles me to the extent that sometimes I try to give by force but I can't just see myself giving. This one shock me o. Now I realize that kindness, wickedness etc can be learnt and unlearnt. It is not necessarily a natural thing.

I'm afraid that cant be true, calculate how much you have spent on your sef vs what you spent for outsiders these year ... you cant be on deficit

Bro, i can relate, in my university days i have 6 boiz squatting in my 2bed apartment and i provided food for 3yrs, at the end some even said did they force me that i just wanted to show off .. but people rarely get to me cos i have very very low expectations of humans,

I wont say my generousity have paid off, but bro nothing fit change "who i am" ... if i dont help as a friend just know say e no dey that moment
if you are stingy cos that it your nature i respect that, but allowing people change who you are, Nah !!! i rather change circle.

I just hope there's no issue in your marriage to warrant this post

otipoju:
We live in a time where kindness is taken as weakness and is prone to be exploited util you are financially, physically and emotionally drained.

Learning to say No even if you can help is ultra important...abd that is what to naturally kind people feel as wickedness.

The disadvantage of being kind all the time us that you unconsciously teach people to you only when they want something...and once they unconsciously label you as that...they will never turn up for you when you are in need even if they have the means.


This December I just dey ignore all the different requests wey I dey get...and it will be like that for a very long time.

It's time to focus on me and me alone. Takers never stop taking.

You make it sound like giving is the only act of showing kindness.
Poor people with nothing still show kindness.

By wicked he meant firm and unyielding. And yes, I feel one has to be a little wicked. If you don't revenge a little, do a little something, some people will continue killing you.

I loaned 100k to a woman on the street selling clothes, I barely knew her. She paid half and was even treating me like a fool. Left half. Today she sees me ing by on the street and is not moved, even if she hasn't paid me. I can't call police on her, can't do anything to her, like wreck her shop or something. If I don't ask for my money she too says nothing, doesn't call to explain, nothing. She still owes me 77k.

This woman still enter me. If I am delayed on the street or anything unfortunate, she would then be happy to greet me and be calling my name out loud and laughing. If I travel, arrive back in that same street, she no go do anything to pay the remaining money. I call, her children will be subtly mocking me that I can't do anything to make their mother pay. And she used pity of these children to make me feel I did something good for her back then.

So, why shouldn't I learn wickedness. You think if I see a random tomorrow I will ever be nice to that person? Everything people have been accumulating for me, I'm packing it, and absorbing it, and at a point, I will definitely never be the same, it will be a combination of niceness with a hidden vault for wickedness if need be.

purples25:
By wicked he meant firm and unyielding. And yes, I feel one has to be a little wicked. If you don't revenge a little, do a little something, some people will continue killing you.

I loaned 100k to a woman on the street selling clothes, I barely knew her. She paid half and was even treating me like a fool. Left half. Today she sees me ing by on the street and is not moved, even if she hasn't paid me. I can't call police on her, can't do anything to her, like wreck her shop or something. If I don't ask for my money she too says nothing, doesn't call to explain, nothing. She still owes me 77k.

This woman still enter me. If I am delayed on the street or anything unfortunate, she would then be happy to greet me and be calling my name out loud and laughing. If I travel, arrive back in that same street, she no go do anything to pay the remaining money. I call, her children will be subtly mocking me that I can't do anything to make their mother pay. And she used pity of these children to make me feel I did something good for her back then.

So, why shouldn't I learn wickedness. You think if I see a random tomorrow I will ever be nice to that person? Everything people have been accumulating for me, I'm packing it, and absorbing it, and at a point, I will definitely never be the same, it will be a combination of niceness with a hidden vault for wickedness if need be.

The amount of money you can't forgo" dnt ever loan person, no matter the condition of such person.


Even ordinary 2k, it would still come back to hurt you if you loan Nigeria poor people.

Fryx:


Perfect.

Now, judge yourself.

Adekunle had a bad experience being a nice guy. He voiced his pain. But instead of your nice crooners to sympathize with him, they say he is evil.

Are they responsive to his pain?

Well. For me, not matter the situation, I consider the point of whoever is responsible and try to judge based on their condition rather than based on sentiment.

The nice crooners here are irresponsive to Adekunle pain. So we can safely call them wicked.

They add salt to his injury. That’s not how to judge. You see, refusing to use your brain all in the name of nicety only complicates things.

Let me tell you, people appreciates my brutality more than me being unnecessary nice (thinking people). It hurts, but it makes them better.

Moreover, the meaning of Wicked as used in England is exactly as I said it. The general meaning is different from its original meaning and use.

who dey do good wey never recieve fair share of backstabbing, you think don jazzy or olamide no get stori

Adekunle lost empathy the moment he promoted wickedness, if he thinks wickedness his what can profit him, he can go to CAC.

You seems to muddle up things a lot, being nice should be a norm, yoruba adage says oré ni won i.e kindness get limit
We are not saying be kind at your own detriment, if my friend i visit cant pay his rent why will i watch is landlord kick him out when i can conveniently assist, if he doesnt appreciate e dey pain but the inner fulfillment i get will suffice.

I dont still understand your idea of "unnecessarily nice" is that what adekunle told you , you think people around appreciate your brutality that because being rich will shield you, pray you dont have problem or go broke you go know whatsup