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Letdemsay02:
Poverty is dealing with me seriously. You can insult me fine call,me all types of names no problem infact laugh at me. But all I know am not a lazy person. I Don hustle well well oo. I have worked hard all my life. Starting from when I'm small about 9 years start living with people who are not my parents. I started hustling for money when I was in junoir secondary up to tertiary education just having one certificate. I didn't further ahead. I had to drop to face life. Na me be last born for my family as everybody don Bleep up, them come put hope for me say na me go make am. I go raise the family from poverty. Though the signs were there, cause I take life serious . My pattern was different from my elderly ones. I have this hustling spirit that have never been see in my family. Sometime family used to tease my mom if she is the one that gave birth to me or she adopted me.
Today here I am hopeless, I lack morale, weak zero zeal. Facing health and emotional challenges. I have grown to be a man now, no wife, no kid.no investment no steady source of income. I can't even take good care of myself. I'm just retrogressing, selling some of my property to feed. I'm asking this questions? did I took the wrong path to life? Are there unknown forces like spirituality controlling my family? I just wonder how a whole full family come just poor finish from A to Z nobody fit make am. To even do well small, nobody. Or did i made some wrong decisions in life that have kept me like this?

Guy, give up. You don try.

Letdemsay02:
Poverty is dealing with me seriously.

Poverty might deal with you more if you failed to do what someone like you should have done earlier in your life. When I said "someone like you", I mean your background and family you found yourself. We are not all born with silver spoon but we can create a life for ourselves.
Now you are 34yrs old, imagine you have enrolled yourself to a car mechanical or electrical or car painting training at the age of 18? By now, you must have completed or almost complete your own house by now, have a small car and a family.
My advice is this: even at your age, enrol for a training and acquire a skill and have a change of life when you are 40.

xperiencelove:

Poverty might deal with you more if you failed to do what someone like you should have done earlier in your life. When I said "someone like you", I mean your background and family you found yourself. We are not all born with silver spoon but we can create a life for ourselves.
Now you are 34yrs old, imagine you have enrolled yourself to a car mechanical or electrical or car painting training at the age of 18? By now, you must have completed or almost complete your own house by now, have a small car and a family.
My advice is this: even at your age, enrol for a training and acquire a skill and have a change of life when you are 40.

you're right Sha. I should have learned a skill earlier. But when you think of the other side it wasn't really not my fault. Two weeks after my mom gave birth to me, she got separated from my dad. My mum struggle to take care of me and the rest of my siblings. When I was a little bit older she started ing me around her family because the burden of taking care of 8 children was to much to bear so she had no choice. When I was 16yrs started living on my own. So i couldn't afford to learn a skill then, because I feed for myself, pay rent sponsoring my education then. Education was my priority then. That is why, I say maybe I took the wrong decision

Just don't give up. Keep striving to live a modest life.
However, not everybody that will marry or buy cars or build house before they die.

Not everybody! But you can still enjoy life However.

This is sad.

The saddest truth is realizing that hard work alone isn't enough. One question I ask when recommending a trade or career, whether to myself or someone else, is: "What is the most that the most skillful and talented person in this field has ever made or achieved?" Then I restructure my plans accordingly.

Hustling without growth in any career is even worse, you'll just end up frustrated. I hope the Op can retrace their steps and make things right this time. In my opinion, you'll have to sacrifice more years to learn a skill and be smart about it. Start saving, and maybe distance yourself from your family if necessary. I truly hope things work out for you.

Letdemsay02:
@50 you still never settle down. You're a big liability to people around you. Let me make clear sir. Chances that a 50 yrs old will it make currently in this country is very slim. I don't mean rich just to provide for his basic need and care of his family will be very hard. At 50 he should be facing health issues. Except he is doing it, the illegal way it.he will find it hard to stand on his feet. At 50 nothing to show for your existence you will be mocked and ridiculed. Infact depression will set in. From there your health problem start. Ok, are you telling me if a 50yrs old single man should come for your 20yr old daughter for marriage you will be ok with it. Or if you have a firm you will employ 50 yrs old to work a staff not as a security guards. Oga stop to they cap anyhow. If future go better na today you go know.

Are you addressing the poster or me?
First, I don't know how old you are or what level you are on anything, I am not actually interested, but one thing I do know is that you are not better off than all your age mated and all your age mated may not be better than you, any 50 year old person that gave up on life is a weakling, BTW there are millions of over 50 who are thousands of miles ahead if you in every single thing, who are better than you both financial, in intelligent and will do far better than you in bed with any woman and be everything that you can't be to that 20 year old girl you are talking about, that you say that a 50 year old man not married is a liability to those around him sums up your overall intelligent and maturity

Letdemsay02:
you're right Sha. I should have learned a skill earlier. But when you think of the other side it wasn't really not my fault. Two weeks after my mom gave birth to me, she got separated from my dad. My mum struggle to take care of me and the rest of my siblings. When I was a little bit older she started ing me around her family because the burden of taking care of 8 children was to much to bear so she had no choice. When I was 16yrs started living on my own. So i couldn't afford to learn a skill then, because I feed for myself, pay rent sponsoring my education then. Education was my priority then. That is why, I say maybe I took the wrong decision

It is not too late. Take the above suggestion seriously and learn a marketable skill that will not require much capital to set up yourself. Most especially the type that can give you the opportunity to use the same skill to earn by the side (e.g Painting in which you can get small contracts, create time to do it and earn without causing issues with your oga).

The future of many Nigerians born today in the next 20 to 30 years. Children will kill their parents for making them Nigerians then.

uncleck:
Listen young man. ,two years ago I was your age in this same situation. But last year I bought a car.
I made a promise to myself. If I get a contract, I shall not eat a dime from the money till I complete the project to the satisfaction of my client. The result is that I have never had issue with any client. Instead, my clientele base keep increasing and more money keep flowing because I'm building a reputation of honesty, trust and reliability. Learn from me

Most tradesmen in Nigeria will make more money being honest and reliable rather than being competent and dishonest. Honesty and reliability are rarities in Nigeria, so even dishonest people prefer them.

Gerrard59:

Most tradesmen in Nigeria will make more money being honest and reliable rather than being competent and dishonest. Honesty and reliability are rarities in Nigeria, so even dishonest people prefer them.

I see a lot of people in my line of business that make huge profit in a job but would stay for a very long time before getting another job. While executing any job, I always ask myself: will this person recommend me for another job?

Letdemsay02:
Poverty is dealing with me seriously. You can insult me fine call,me all types of names no problem infact laugh at me. But all I know am not a lazy person. I Don hustle well well oo. I have worked hard all my life. Starting from when I'm small about 9 years start living with people who are not my parents. I started hustling for money when I was in junoir secondary up to tertiary education just having one certificate. I didn't further ahead. I had to drop to face life. Na me be last born for my family as everybody don Bleep up, them come put hope for me say na me go make am. I go raise the family from poverty. Though the signs were there, cause I take life serious . My pattern was different from my elderly ones. I have this hustling spirit that have never been see in my family. Sometime family used to tease my mom if she is the one that gave birth to me or she adopted me.
Today here I am hopeless, I lack morale, weak zero zeal. Facing health and emotional challenges. I have grown to be a man now, no wife, no kid.no investment no steady source of income. I can't even take good care of myself. I'm just retrogressing, selling some of my property to feed. I'm asking this questions? did I took the wrong path to life? Are there unknown forces like spirituality controlling my family? I just wonder how a whole full family come just poor finish from A to Z nobody fit make am. To even do well small, nobody. Or did i made some wrong decisions in life that have kept me like this?

hmmm boss you get WhatsApp number?
Na my story Yuu dey post sooo oo and same age and all the hope family had on me as they thought I was the messiah has been dashed

uncleck:
Listen young man. ,two years ago I was your age in this same situation. But last year I bought a car. This year I contributed handsomely to my father's burial and I will marry before this year runs out. Listen again, I was hopeless at 34 just two years ago. I'm not a rich man yet, but I live a more stable life now, I'm no longer selling my properties to feed instead I'm replacing the ones I sold.

I didn't do yahoo. I didn't do money ritual. I only focused on one particular thing, became the best at it and gradually money started coming. I'm a roofer, all my clients recommend me to their friends and family who need my service because I don't disappoint.

My advice? Pick something, give it your 100% and stand out in it. Money will definitely come.

I made a promise to myself. If I get a contract, I shall not eat a dime from the money till I complete the project to the satisfaction of my client. The result is that I have never had issue with any client. Instead, my clientele base keep increasing and more money keep flowing because I'm building a reputation of honesty, trust and reliability. Learn from me

you made a made a move and had a skill/business which you ventured in and it led to your success.
Not me wey be 34 like this and still answering a graduate and teaching kids in a school and earning 30k per month.
No be life be this bro

njelrapheal:
wetin i wan talk for here. first off. the economy no de smile.. one thing i know for certain first be say person wey never fit stand no de back person. keep it grinding bro.

the economy too isn't helping matters.
Person no fit save again with increasing bills

Nazgul:

Don't talk like that.

It's extremely difficult to make it in this Tinubu's istration most especially if you weren't lucky to have a stable foundation.

Even if the OP gets a job tomorrow that's paying him 200k, how far can such amount of money take him considering how inflation keeps rising everyday?

Those earning well are complaining, how much more those who are still trying to find the feet...dont condemn people who you do not know personally, cos you might not know the efforts they've made to breakout of their current situation.

You said it all boss

ICTspecialist:
you made a made a move and had a skill/business which you ventured in and it led to your success.
Not me wey be 34 like this and still answering a graduate and teaching kids in a school and earning 30k per month.
No be life be this bro

Do you know that there are skills you can learn and perfect in six months? Do you know that there are skills that you can learn free of charge? Do you know that there are skills that, if you acquire them you can get your tools with less than 5k? Do you know that there are skills that, if you acquire them, your tutor will be hiring you until you start getting your own contracts? Do you know that there are skills that will allow you to set up your workshop inside your bedroom with minimal capital and be getting your clients online? How much does it cost to become property agent?

Do you know that you can make money if you start posting other people's wares online? When you get a buyer you take them to the seller and get your commission. How much does it cost print on nylon bags and Tshirts? How much does it cost to learn and start making perfumes? How much does it take to learn how to Barb? Etc

Letdemsay02:
you're right Sha. I should have learned a skill earlier. But when you think of the other side it wasn't really not my fault. Two weeks after my mom gave birth to me, she got separated from my dad. My mum struggle to take care of me and the rest of my siblings. When I was a little bit older she started ing me around her family because the burden of taking care of 8 children was to much to bear so she had no choice. When I was 16yrs started living on my own. So i couldn't afford to learn a skill then, because I feed for myself, pay rent sponsoring my education then. Education was my priority then. That is why, I say maybe I took the wrong decision

A family of EIGHT children?
I am sorry but all parameters shows you were set up to fail right from birth. I doubt you were ever nurtured or even cared for.
When we shout that people who give birth to too much children are perpetrating multigenerational poverty, ndi "be fruitful and multiply" will not allow us hear word.
It is well.

WINDSOW:

Guy, give up. You don try.

Letdemsay02:
you're right Sha. I should have learned a skill earlier. But when you think of the other side it wasn't really not my fault. Two weeks after my mom gave birth to me, she got separated from my dad. My mum struggle to take care of me and the rest of my siblings. When I was a little bit older she started ing me around her family because the burden of taking care of 8 children was to much to bear so she had no choice. When I was 16yrs started living on my own. So i couldn't afford to learn a skill then, because I feed for myself, pay rent sponsoring my education then. Education was my priority then. That is why, I say maybe I took the wrong decision

I keep emphasising it that having fewer children will do a lot of Nigerians good. It's the easiest way to fight poverty. Quality education comes next. It's why I don't oppose abortion or widespread of contraceptives. Even though low birth and marriage rates are being recorded across the developed world, I people, especially women, delaying or letting go of childbearing rather than perpetuate poverty.

If your mom had two children or max children, things would have been much better because the scarce resources would have been shared with each getting a bigger pie than for eight children.

In today's Tinubulation, no family should have more than two children. Anything more than that, please have money. Raising children isn't cheap.
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/6035550/nigerians-poverty-certain-acts-perpetuate

uncleck:

I see a lot of people in my line of business that make huge profit in a job but would stay for a very long time before getting another job. While executing any job, I always ask myself: will this person recommend me for another job?

That's the first step to successfully running any business - basic customer's satisfaction to earn a referral.

tensazangetsu20:
The future of many Nigerians born today in the next 20 to 30 years. Children will kill their parents for making them Nigerians then.

Can you stop? 😂😂😂😂 Make nobody kill me abeg. I did the best I could.

Gerrard59:

I keep emphasising it that having fewer children will do a lot of Nigerians good. It's the easiest way to fight poverty. Quality education comes next. It's why I don't oppose abortion or widespread of contraceptives. Even though low birth and marriage rates are being recorded across the developed world, I people, especially women, delaying or letting go of childbearing rather than perpetuate poverty.

If your mom had two children or max children, things would have been much better because the scarce resources would have been shared with each getting a bigger pie than for eight children.

In today's Tinubulation, no family should have more than two children. Anything more than that, please have money. Raising children isn't cheap.
https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/6035550/nigerians-poverty-certain-acts-perpetuate

I don't know why they don't see this.
What are you using all the plenty kids for?
Resources aside, your body no dey tire as a woman?

8 children? 8!!!!

pocohantas:


Can you stop? 😂😂😂😂 Make nobody kill me abeg. I did the best I could.



I don't know why they don't see this.
What are you using all the plenty kids for?
Resources aside, your body no dey tire as a woman?

8 children? 8!!!!

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kip kwaiet and use those childbearing hips God gave you

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kip kwaiet and use those childbearing hips God gave you

Omo, I no fit o.
I have seen enough to know it isn't a good one. This young man was setup to fail from the start.
😩😩😩

pocohantas:


Can you stop? 😂😂😂😂 Make nobody kill me abeg. I did the best I could.



I don't know why they don't see this.
What are you using all the plenty kids for?
Resources aside, your body no dey tire as a woman?

8 children? 8!!!!

if naa to chop man money or chop food like person wey see work for nafdac lab body no dey taya this one ...

children wey everybody dey tap tap like hamster e reach this one turn o'n waa representative orlè ochi

mbaise1000:
I think if the poster is serious, he is born looser, a failure, his poverty is follow come, and if anyone will by mistake give him a billion money, he will squander it too an give up again, imagine giving up at the age of 54.
Even if the poster made serious mistakes in the past, so what? How many successful people haven't made serious mistakes in their life, there are 54 year old people who haven't even married and are still hoping to marry and still hoping to be successful, the poster is weak since it is said that when the going gets tough, only the tough get going, since he stopped, that's the reason he is a failure. Mr poster you are a failure already because you have given up ALREADY, you can prove me wrong if you are not

You’re an hediot. A very big one at that.
If you have nothing nice to say..it’s very okay to shut up! Stupid fellow

Letdemsay02:
Poverty is dealing with me seriously. You can insult me fine call,me all types of names no problem infact laugh at me. But all I know am not a lazy person. I Don hustle well well oo. I have worked hard all my life. Starting from when I'm small about 9 years start living with people who are not my parents. I started hustling for money when I was in junoir secondary up to tertiary education just having one certificate. I didn't further ahead. I had to drop to face life. Na me be last born for my family as everybody don Bleep up, them come put hope for me say na me go make am. I go raise the family from poverty. Though the signs were there, cause I take life serious . My pattern was different from my elderly ones. I have this hustling spirit that have never been see in my family. Sometime family used to tease my mom if she is the one that gave birth to me or she adopted me.
Today here I am hopeless, I lack morale, weak zero zeal. Facing health and emotional challenges. I have grown to be a man now, no wife, no kid.no investment no steady source of income. I can't even take good care of myself. I'm just retrogressing, selling some of my property to feed. I'm asking this questions? did I took the wrong path to life? Are there unknown forces like spirituality controlling my family? I just wonder how a whole full family come just poor finish from A to Z nobody fit make am. To even do well small, nobody. Or did i made some wrong decisions in life that have kept me like this?

Where is your location ? What have you been all these while? You need to drop the victim mindset immediately !

mrjojo:


Where is your location ? What have you been all these while? You need to drop the victim mindset immediately !

I'm in Lagos currently. I have never mentioned or heaped blames on anyone that is the cause of my struggle. So I don't see where the victim mentality is coming from. I'm a guy who get fed up of life. Even with the 100 percent effort, descipline and hunger I have towards life.

Letdemsay02:
I'm in Lagos currently. I have never mentioned or heaped blames on anyone that is the cause of my struggle. So I don't see where the victim mentality is coming from. I'm a guy who get fed up of life. Even with the 100 percent effort, descipline and hunger I have towards life.

what were you doing before , I saw your lost your last job

mrjojo:
what were you doing before , I saw your lost your last job

I work as an operator in a factory before. I quit the job cause of my health. Now I am getting better now. Though I am doing a part-time job for now.

Clevagal:


You’re an hediot. A very big one at that.
If you have nothing nice to say..it’s very okay to shut up! Stupid fellow

When you resort to violence and insult, you ALREADY lost, if you are a little more intelligent, all you would have tried to do is bring a superior argument if you think I am wrong and not resort to insults, those that start the way you do are those that are what you are trying to call me. You can still try to think up something reasonable, but I will not expect that because it takes brains to reason and apparently, you lack that.
BTW, I stand by what I said and the person I was replying to seem to have taken one or two things from what I said but you? A retard

Letdemsay02:
I'm already a failure I agreed.

^^^
No you are not.

Each new day holds promise. Always that.

Ignore that poster who is firing what he thinks are 'tough love' missiles at you - without knowing your mental state. He has no idea whether you are standing on a bucket with your head just under a noose while reading his comments.

Concentrate on the other posts that actually gave practical ways to get back in the game. That's what you should focus on for now...and at the same time, build your mental strength back. Every man's mental and physical health has its ups and downs.

Hope springs eternal.

mbaise1000:
BTW there are millions of over 50 who will do far better than you in bed with any woman and be everything that you can't be to that 20 year old girl you are talking about

^^^^


Millions?

Where?

Men who this very minute are probably taking their anti-hypertensives, blood thinners, anti-inflammatory drugs and assorted medicines to deal with the many ailments that come with getting on to the 'fifth floor'?

Men whose bedside cabinets are probably bursting at the seams with cartons of Sildenafil - without which their 'equipment' will not 'rise' to the occasion? These are the men who are going to be 'everything' to some 20 year old girl who still has a lot of gas in her tank?

It doesn't work that way.

mbaise1000:

When you resort to violence and insult, you ALREADY lost, if you are a little more intelligent, all you would have tried to do is bring a superior argument if you think I am wrong and not resort to insults, those that start the way you do are those that are what you are trying to call me. You can still try to think up something reasonable, but I will not expect that because it takes brains to reason and apparently, you lack that.
BTW, I stand by what I said and the person I was replying to seem to have taken one or two things from what I said but you? A retard

Stfu! You talk too much! Even God rested!