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I've spoken to two different lawyers and I'm not getting straight answers so I'm posting here if anyone has been through something like this.
I think my case should be simple.

- Married 2016 (court)
- Last saw each other physically mid 2018
- Last communicated early 2019
- No kids
- I realised between the time we last saw and last communicated she got pregnant for her "friend".
- They had another child since then (I got this info from Social Media)
- She doesn't live in Nigeria and isn't Nigerian
- I've emailed a couple of times (copied all her mails I have) but she hasn't responded (the last lawyer I spoke to said I have to mail or speak to her to get consent for a divorce)
- Phone doesn't go through
- I want to file the divorce so I don't have any legal ties or connection with her.
Please if anyone has gone through this or has an idea of the process and cost please let me know

I will advise you to get across to her through her relatives.
I think you can still proceed with the divorce since it's more than 2 years since you saw each other without her consent.

I'm not a lawyer.

Don't sweat it out. You guys are no longer together and she has moved on. Court marriage is just some 'man made practice' that gives superiority to the court. Don't let it restrict you or give you sleepless nights.

I heard about the 2 year thing too when the whole thing started but it seems the lawyers I spoke to don't specialise in that subject.

Thank you.

Jogs1900:
I will advise you to get across to her through her relatives.
I think you can still proceed with the divorce since it's more than 2 years since you saw each other without her consent.

I'm not a lawyer.

We4all:
Don't sweat it out. You guys are no longer together and she has moved on. Court marriage is just some 'man made practice' that gives superiority to the court. Don't let it restrict you or give you sleepless nights.

It doesn't really bother me but she's..... somehow.
I don't want her waking to use it in a way I haven't thought about later.

dannywest:
I heard about the 2 year thing too when the whole thing started but it seems the lawyers I spoke to don't specialise in that subject.

Thank you.

2 years of separation is enough to divorce.

Very easy . Divorce her in absence. File paste it on her last known addresses . Wait no response court rules you guys have nothing to drag.

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Intergrated:
Very easy . Divorce her in absence. File paste it on her last known addresses . Wait no response court rules you guys have nothing to drag.

Thank you
I believe this means
- I can file for the divorce
- then post the filing to her addresses I last knew and if no response
- it just goes ahead?

dannywest:


Thank you
I believe this means
- I can file for the divorce
- then post the filing to her addresses I last knew and if no response
- it just goes ahead?

yes... She did not respond. Where una de see this kind women self.

Intergrated:
yes... She did not respond. Where una de see this kind women self.

Looooool you never know any one till you marry them I guess.
We knew each other for 7 years before getting married.

dannywest:

Looooool you never know them till you marry them I guess.
We knew each other for 7 years before getting married.

and she bolted and left you incommunicado? And forgot she married.

dannywest:

Looooool you never know any one till you marry them I guess.
We knew each other for 7 years before getting married.

and she bolted and left you incommunicado? And forgot she married

Intergrated:
and she bolted and left you incommunicado? And forgot she married.

The story is long.

What sort of lawyer do I meet to get started with this?

I reserve my comment

dannywest:


The story is long.

What sort of lawyer do I meet to get started with this?

Meaning you also have your faults but you'd rather let sleeping dogs lie? That's good and very mature of you

If you are in Nigeria, head to any high court around your vicinity and ask around.

Thank you.
Would do that on Monday
I made some comments on it late 2021 early 2022.

Biglittlelois:



Meaning you also have your faults but you'd rather let sleeping dogs lie? That's good and very mature of you

If you are in Nigeria, head to any high court around your vicinity and ask around.

dannywest:


The story is long.

What sort of lawyer do I meet to get started with this?

divorce lawyers. Just thank your God it went this way. If you had children you would have been broken by now.

Intergrated:
divorce lawyers. Just thank your God it went this way. If you had children you would have been broken by now.

Even without kids I wasn't myself for 2 years or more,
Lost so much being in my head practically had to start life afresh

Thank you .

dannywest:


Even without kids I wasn't myself for 2 years or more,
Lost so much being in my head practically had to start life afresh

Thank you .

lol . Lol ok pardon me to call u simp lol. Woman carry her problem go Abi na you sponsor the trip?

dannywest:


The story is long.

What sort of lawyer do I meet to get started with this?

Cc: Teespice.

She's really good.

Proserpina:
Cc

Folake4u

My madam, thank you.

I no longer handle divorce matters.

I've mentioned Tèespice to the OP now.

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Proserpina:
You run?

No problem... Thank you for referring someone to him.

Seeeeeee!!! I dust my slippers and RANNNNN!

Yeah. She'd see the mention.

You dated someone for 7 years and you guys got married but you don't know any of her relatives..... You no pay her dowry?? Something is wrong somewhere.

folake4u:


Cc: Teespice.

She's really good.

Thank you so much.
I made a couple calls last night after the first few comments but would reach out if they fall through.

dannywest:


Thank you so much.
I made a couple calls last night after the first few comments but would reach out if they fall through.

Alright then.

Are you still single

Or you've moved on but just want it over legally.