NewStats: 3,259,527 , 8,170,425 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 01:07 PM i4y4z

FireUpNow:
Threaten her with divorce and see her reaction and attitude towards you.tell her that you can't stand this anymore. Tell her if there is any other man she wants to be with she can go and meet him. Enough of the game.

If I show any form of threat, she saying things along the lines that I should break up, date another woman that she regrets marrying me.

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

You have to keep telling her to her hearing so that the day you will take your final decision

Nothing can change your mind from it

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Tone down the love, affection, jokes, 'care', even provision. If you can focus more on yourself (work certifications, building projects, higher degree's/diploma's, go for them); so that you can have a good lullaby why provisioning may temporarily decrease. But whenever you choose to reignite the love, affection, jokes, 'care' et all, do to her as is expected.


If she draws to you while you are pulling away, don't distance yourself. Give her all she deserves.


Don't ever tolerate disrespect. Also don't apologies too much, even when you are wrong and especially if you're not wrong.


When you don't understand human psychology in this 'woke' generation, women that don't deserve you will frustrate your destiny.



Edited: women love a form of adventure. Even if you are already 10X better than someone she thinks is developing themselves while you aren't doing same, she'll start comparing you to them and may find it difficult to see your positives while never seeing the negatives of others.

Divorce her...any partner that will not give you peace of mind, whether na man or woman, divorce them. The only thing u need as you grow older is peace of mind.

TheGift:


Insecure and purposeless-less man talk. The first thing you need to deal with is yourself and how it is affecting you, this applies to all kinds of relationships.

How is it affecting you?


Did u not choose to marry her?


If she is naughty, give am back to back what you paid for in the other room.


you are a man, let her misbehave, it means I will be spending, less and less and lesser time with her.

I cant be in bad company.

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me.

How can I deal with this?

Check him on Twitter
@jon_d_doe

You will find an everlasting solution.
And will never be disrespected again.


MODIFIED

Don't worry, break his No DM rule
But apologize before starting your story.

He'll keep you anonymous and you'll get advices that will help you

Beat her so hard enough she loses her memory

Bedwetter:
Beat her so hard enough she loses her memory

NO LISTEN TO THIS BOY HERE.


ONLY BOYZ BEAT THEIR WIFE.

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

She has lost respect for you.

- Call her and address the matter with her in a firm manner.

- Check yourself and if you don't find grounds for all that nonsense.

- Walk away from the abusive relationship for the sake of your peace and blood pressure! It is verbal and emotional abuse aimed to eat away at your manhood and make you a useless dickless male.

Walk away... if you think the situation is bad enough. Otherwise, Out- quarrel her and put her in her place.

legitnow1:


How is it affecting you?


Did u not choose to marry her?


If she is naughty, give am back to back what you paid for in the other room.


you are a man, let her misbehave, it means I will be spending, less and less and lesser time with her.

I cant be in bad company.

Spending less and less and lesser time might be good for your immediate peace of mind but not for the long term growth of the relationship.

All I am saying is that you need to confront yourself and your emotions first before confronting the other person.

Sometimes it is just our over inflated ego that is making us take things as disrespect or making us unable to address actual disrespect in a constructive way.

TrainPark:


She has lost respect for you.

- Call her and address the matter with her in a firm manner.

- Check yourself and if you don't find grounds for all that nonsense.

- Walk away from the abusive relationship for the sake of your peace and blood pressure! It is verbal and emotional abuse aimed to eat away at your manhood and make you a useless dickless male.

Walk away... if you think the situation is bad enough. Otherwise, Out- quarrel her and put her in her place.

THE BOLDED IS CORRECT.


DONT WALK AWAY WITHOUT CATCHING HER FIRST IN THE OTHER ROOM.


IF U ARE NOT STRONG IN BED.


DO BDSM, IF THE THING SWEET HER TOO MUCH, KOBOKO HER YANSH.

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

op we we done leave our own wife to God,now we dey single again, avoid a nagging wife and quaresome

edunaragold:
op we we done leave our own wife to God,now we dey single again, avoid a nagging wife and quaresome

SEND YOU R WIFE NUMBER COME, LET ME GO AND KNACK HER FOR U.

legitnow1:


SEND YOU R WIFE NUMBER COME, LET ME GO AND KNACK HER FOR U.

Go and do something with your life, useless man.

legitnow1:



NO LISTEN TO THIS BOY HERE.


ONLY BOYZ BEAT THEIR WIFE.

SIMPSON SPOTTED

nairaland23:

If I show any form of threat, she saying things along the lines that I should break up, date another woman that she regrets marrying me.

take it easy

DMerciful:
Why do women advice men to remain in unhappy marriages?

You'd rather he jeopardize his home?

Why do some men give up easily, and advise other men to do so whenever challenges arise?
For how long are you going to keep starting over, especially without trying to work things out?

MadarasBlade:


Go and do something with your life, useless man.

MAKE HIM SEND OUR WIFE NUMBER COME, NA WAHALA? ABI U DEY JEALOUS NI?

ahnie:
Have you divorced yours?the way you people after smoking throws the word divorce on this forum eeh ..I pity anyone that takes advise from you

But she can nag the hell out of Him and make everything miserable abi?

If he can't cope
Separation is adviced to keep his sanity intact

A lot of women behave like this
Always nagging

ahnie:
Op majority of those addvicing you to divorce your wife are bunch of frustrated lots.


If you follow their advices your name na sorry.

Kindly keep correcting your wife
Women are dramatic,always keep that in mind.

I don't those advisors who are shouting divorce

But if the tables were turned and it was a woman complaining about her man, I sincerely hope you'd give this same advice with this your "men are dramatic " bear that in mind line

This is a case of a man who has lost the respect of his woman despite taking care of the bills according to him...it'll take an extra touch to win it back...if at all he can.

Bedwetter:



SIMPSON SPOTTED

DONT EVER HIT A WOMAN, IT IS UNNECESSARY.

I LOVE THEM GIRLS NAUGHTY, BECAUSE, SOON SHE WILL BE MOANING AND SCREAMING LOUD.


AFTER DAT SERVE ME BREAKFAST.


BOSS!

nairaland23:

If I show any form of threat, she saying things along the lines that I should break up, date another woman that she regrets marrying me.

You conveniently didn't tell us anything of what happened in the relationship to cause this sorts of reactions though. Tell us the truth or at least tell yourself.

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

she sees u as a mumu man, women like harsh men who can look into their face n cut their excesses

B a hard man for one month n u will see d difference, don’t give in to emotional blackmail with words like “u have changed” “ u are no longer d man I married”

If Someone else isn't feeding her and shes behaving the way she behaves, it's because u are tollerating and encouraging her. If she's naturally like that, from her father's house then you either be patient or u split. If u don't understand her at all then Oga run. One day she go jus Kee u.

Kobojunkie:
You conveniently didn't tell us anything of what happened in the relationship to cause her action though.

SHE IS A WOMAN.

SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED, I DEDUCE.

MOST MEN TO REALISE THAT WOMEN ARE SEX FREAKS NATURALLY.

SEX RULES THEIR WORLD AND DETERMINES THEIR RELATIONSHIP EVEN AFFECTION.

THE MINUTE YOU STOP HAVING SEX WITH HER, MARRIAGE ENDED AND NEXT U GET TO MEET QUARLSOME BITCHY MENOPAUSE LIKE PERSON.

nairaland23:

Yes, we have

I am fulfilling my financial obligations

make sure you're a stud in za oza room. Women like drama unfortunately and if everywhere is peaceful for a long time, they'll create that drama by force. I also learned by force that women will only take a man serious if other women have interest in him. I'm not an advocate of adultery but I'll advise you a gym and get into shape (if you're not) then get some new trendy clothes for yourself, stay out late and receive some strange calls (you don't need to date o, just hire a girl for this purpose ie 1kn recharge card once in a while) Any woman worth her salt will ask you how far. By the time she cries shege two times, you'll then let her know her bad character chased you outside. DON'T CHEAT O, just pretend to cheat

hasyak:

Divorce her immediately, life is too short to live with negative people..

Why do I find this advice very 🤣

nairaland23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

Bros. i pray this doesnt finish you soon. First, i feel she doesn't really love you like that and getting alot of people into your marriage may calm the issue for the moment then set the marriage more on fire. Time on stand your ground as a man else you will grow older than your age. Maybe you are too calm

legitnow1:
■ SHE IS A WOMAN. SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED, I DEDUCE. MOST MEN TO REALISE THAT WOMEN ARE SEX FREAKS NATURALLY. SEX RULES THEIR WORLD AND DETERMINES THEIR RELATIONSHIP EVEN AFFECTION.
THE MINUTE YOU STOP HAVING SEX WITH HER, MARRIAGE ENDED AND NEXT U GET TO MEET QUARLSOME BITCHY MENOPAUSE LIKE PERSON.

Abeg carry this meaningless ramblings of yours waka me o'jare!

nairaland23:

If I show any form of threat, she saying things along the lines that I should break up, date another woman that she regrets marrying me.

Some people will just wake up and be advise rubbish

Home is about the wellbeing of the people making up the home and not necessarily about the idea that the people are staying together irrespective of whether its healthy.

People make mistakes in life and choosing a spouse is no exemption. No matter how far you've traveled on a wrong road, you best bet is to change direction to the right road rather than proceeding in error.

If you divorce, your experience will help you in choosing the next spouse because you wont take warnings for granted. We're not asking for divorce upon the first challenge but when differences becomes irreconcilable, why will you advice a man to die there?

Besides, its not compulsory to remarry.

mariahAngel:


You'd rather he jeopardize his home?

Why do some men give up easily, and advise other men to do so whenever challenges arise?
For how long are you going to keep starting over, especially without trying to work things out?

Your wife is having an emotional imbalance issue,it is demonic which you can handle if you are a believer . The devil wants to cause emotional breakdown for you so as to destroy the marriage . Bind every demon of anger and strive in her life and cast it out in Jesus name. Your case is as simple as that .