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victooman:
please help advice me, we both finish our Nysc service last year, luckily enough we started a pos business and and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis, The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down,, she told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger, please nairalanders did l do anything wrong? what is the best way to handle this issue?

are you scared of her having a degree more than yours? Cus I see no problem here. She said she no go ask u for money and u dey distrb am. Wait, wat if u guys break up tomorrow? So she lose u n masters. Uncle, say u just wan break up cause u don tire

victooman:
you can be right shaa, but it still boils down to her perception, but l sincerely believe this in most cases applies in area of her having more finance than you,, having a master degrees with no money in the pocket wont really change much, back then in he university a lot university girls dated and slept with all this business men who didn't even finish O level, I am not giving any excuses, people can change, but l honestly dont think having a master over a degree increases any level.

True Op, you know her personally more than us here just do your thing.

youngreezy:
you dey drink alcohol?if yes wetin be your brand make I order two cold(mortuary standard) bottles.....your sense too much abeg.person family never chop em dey carry woman matter for em head,woman wey fit don do introduction with another man behind em back.....

I no no say men with better sense still dey here. I think say na oloku men dey here. Una brain dey work wella jare. Every woman get plan B, so d earlier guys understand it d best for them

emmanuelbrown26:

I no no say men with better sense still dey here. I think say na oloku men dey here. Una brain dey work wella jare. Every woman get plan B, so d earlier guys understand it d best for them

anybody wey no wan wise for this nigeria dey on a long thing

Once again, R.I.P English

You will be missed.

Islandlady:
This your comment is absolutely unnecessary... can't you comprehend, is the op jobless to you

He is only showing his concern and opinion

it is necessary...u women don't like hearing the truth especially when it involves your gender .....please don't get wrong ..im just saying there are plenty sides to an issue ..kriss216 may be right from the angle has looking at it from


she wants to fund masters degree..weda it's here in Nigeria or abroad...it needs serious money for school fees and recurring expependiture like hangouts, transport fare, etc.
she tells her man she doesn't need his money...they are hustling together naaa.of course she needs their money..

two things are involved...she either has plans that doesn't involve the boyfriend(which kriss216 is saying)....
or she's just trying to form independent lady and will later start putting pressure on the guy for funds...

shege45:
are you scared of her having a degree more than yours? Cus I see no problem here. She said she no go ask u for money and u dey distrb am. Wait, wat if u guys break up tomorrow? So she lose u n masters. Uncle, say u just wan break up cause u don tire

scared of her having a second degree? what are you blabbing,, when has that become an achievement especially in this present Nigeria of ours, those ladies with master are they only dating or marrying men with masters, l am talking about a society were money rules, even if tomorrow we are not together l am teaching her to be self reliance and make money for herself instead of going back on the lies the society keep throwing at us about certificates, l am not tired of her, l am worried she isn't taking the right step, she is the woman l want to marry

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to ire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

Thank you

youngreezy:
anybody wey no wan wise for this nigeria dey on a long thing

As simple as ABC

victooman:
scared of her having a second degree? what are you blabbing,, when has that become an achievement especially in this present Nigeria of ours, those ladies with master are they only dating or marrying men with masters, l am talking about a society were money rules, even if tomorrow we are not together l am teaching her to be self reliance and make money for herself instead of going back on the lies the society keep throwing at us about certificates, l am not tired of her, l am worried she isn't taking the right step, she is the woman l want to marry

just because u dnt like her decision doesn’t make it wrong. If she chooses to go for msc, all you can do is her. This isn’t a solid reason for a break up. Unless I don tire for her ooo, but if it is this reason alone, bro no be am

victooman:
please help advice me, we both finish our Nysc service last year, luckily enough we started a pos business and and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis, The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down,, she told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger, please nairalanders did l do anything wrong? what is the best way to handle this issue?

Kindly her dreams and ambitions, that is what is expected of a good partner. She can upgrade herself while doing the POS business and I’d advise you do same too.
Nothing in this life is permanent, so don’t relax doing just one thing, things can change and government policies can affect one source of income, so you need to keep developing yourself for rainy days.

Xilsbridalhouse:

Kindly her dreams and ambitions, that is what is expected of a good partner. She can upgrade herself while doing the POS business and I’d advise you do same too.
Nothing in this life is permanent, so don’t relax doing just one thing, things can change and government policies can affect one source of income, so you need to keep developing yourself for rainy days.

must it be on pilling up certificate that is becoming increasingly useless,, l never intended to stay on pos forever, l will expand and invest in other businesses, if she had claim she want to try another business or learn a new skill this thread wouldn't have existed ,why straining herself over her ion when money has not been made?

shege45:
just because u dnt like her decision doesn’t make it wrong. If she chooses to go for msc, all you can do is her. This isn’t a solid reason for a break up. Unless I don tire for her ooo, but if it is this reason alone, bro no be am

No l am not tired of her, let her grow and sustain that business first, na money dem dey take do msc, in due time we will need to settle down have children take care of them, investing in msc that doesn't have upto 20 percent guarantee of any job is not a smart investment ,let assume she is interested in a particular skill or business do you think l wont fully her,, some of our ambitions are wrong and myopic but we wont know untill someone point them out to us,, anyway thanks for your advice.

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to ire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

So ya head fir work small so!!!

victooman:
please help advice me, we both finish our Nysc service last year, luckily enough we started a pos business and and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis, The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down,, she told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger, please nairalanders did l do anything wrong? what is the best way to handle this issue?

I made the same mistake with my ex... I planned for both of us... Meanwhile sh has her own private plans... Guy life is per head..

Leave her alone

youngreezy:
you dey drink alcohol?if yes wetin be your brand make I order two cold(mortuary standard) bottles.....your sense too much abeg.person family never chop em dey carry woman matter for em head,woman wey fit don do introduction with another man behind em back.....

This us pure fallacy and assumptions, let assume it is even truth, the man doing the introduction should be well aware that l have bleep his wife left, right and center, so na who lose?

victooman:
This us pure fallacy and assumptions, let assume it is even truth, the man doing the introduction should be well aware that l have bleep his wife left, right and center, so na who lose?

then why you come here dey cry if you know say na pure fallacy and assumption?who lose?hahaha!!! E fit be una post business money she take dey feed the man sef,the small money wey you dey hustle give her fit be wetin the man use dey feed and vice versa,my point be say no dey carry woman matter for head

My own just broke up with me about 40 minutes ago. I will miss her Sha

youngreezy:
then why you come here dey cry if you know say na pure fallacy and assumption?who lose?hahaha!!! E fit be una post business money she take dey feed the man sef,the small money wey you dey hustle give her fit be wetin the man use dey feed and vice versa,my point be say no dey carry woman matter for head

why not find out if l am giving the money as you erroneously assume, she is doing her business l am doing mine you should be well aware nobody is holding anybody back, so if a man has paid her bride price good for them, having a woman you love and cherish for mind ,no be carrying woman matter for head as u tag am, all of us must not be fvck boys, e get wetin person dey grow .

Wotoporiously speaking

Op this Mattias no commot road, listen and listen very carefully "Never in your life should you plan your life with anybody be it a woman or a man, because at the end of the day when una don go reach junction, road go plenty and everybody go wan go dia own lane and you'll be stranded thinking that who you planned walking with will take the same road with you.

Always have a plan A, B, C, D etc.

What you should is find a new girlfriend. Her tenure don expire.

victooman:
must it be on pilling up certificate that is becoming increasingly useless,, l never intended to stay on pos forever, l will expand and invest in other businesses, if she had claim she want to try another business or learn a new skill this thread wouldn't have existed ,why straining herself over her ion when money has not been made?

But do you truly love this lady? Or what exactly is your fear? Because I honestly see no reason why you can’t allow her further her education. Are you even married to her? How sure are we, that you will even marry her because no one knows tomorrow.


Best is to the dream of your partner else she could blame you in the future for not making her fulfill her dreams and ambitions.

victooman:
please help advice me, we both finish our Nysc service last year, luckily enough we started a pos business and and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis, The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down,, she told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger, please nairalanders did l do anything wrong? what is the best way to handle this issue?

You making 5k daily thinking u have seen money

Barely a decade ago, phone call business was thriving.
You think POS business will sustain u for life?
Please let her follow her dreams and as for u, u need to wake up. What u think is doing well for u may become irrelevant in less than 5 years. Additionally, 5k per day is still small money

Op let her be ..but be rest assured if she finishes her Masters degree she will look for someone else....improve urself too OP...don't stop at that BSc if u have d chance

victooman:
must it be on pilling up certificate that is becoming increasingly useless,, l never intended to stay on pos forever, l will expand and invest in other businesses, if she had claim she want to try another business or learn a new skill this thread wouldn't have existed ,why straining herself over her ion when money has not been made?

But why is it paining you when it's not even your money she wants to use?

victooman:
must it be on pilling up certificate that is becoming increasingly useless,, l never intended to stay on pos forever, l will expand and invest in other businesses, if she had claim she want to try another business or learn a new skill this thread wouldn't have existed ,why straining herself over her ion when money has not been made?

You stop that mentality that education is dead, it may be in Nigeria but not other parts of the world.
When she finishes her msc and gets a foreign scholarship or able to use her degree to migrate to countries like Canada and uk and begin to make what you make in a year In 1 month, or get opportunities to hold relevant positions in big firms. Then u will know education is not as useless as u think.
Not everybody can go to school and not everybody can do business, let her follow what she believes will work for her

She needs to break up with this your nuclear bomb grammar.
Learn the language b4

dazzlingd:


You making 5k daily thinking u have seen money

Barely a decade ago, phone call business was thriving.
You think POS business will sustain u for life?
Please let her follow her dreams and as for u, u need to wake up. What u think is doing well for u may become irrelevant in less than 5 years. Additionally, 5k per day is still small money

so going for masters and coming back home to remain jobless is better,, l made 5k a day so l will continue making 5k till eternity, l wont invest and l wont do other businesses? l am been realistic here you are here yabbing what l dont know, did u even read were l emphasize on her expanding her business and source of income before going back to school,, how many people with masters are actually making that chicken 5k a day as u tag, this is my woman someone l want to spend the rest of my life with, l dont want her to live in this illusion of pilling up certificate without an iota knowledge on how to make money,,,

She is LISTENING to someone else.
Move on!

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to ire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

Best advice ever!

They are not married, they are not entitled to each other for anything.

victooman:
so going for masters and coming back home to remain jobless is better,, l made 5k a day so l will continue making 5k till eternity, l wont invest and l wont do other businesses? l am been realistic here you are here yabbing what l dont know, did u even read were l emphasize on her expanding her business and source of income before going back to school,, how many people with masters are actually making that chicken 5k a day as u tag, this is my woman someone l want to spend the rest of my life with, l dont want her to live in this illusion of pilling up certificate without an iota knowledge on how to make money,,,

Because some weren't successful with their certificates doesn't mean it is general.

I have a whole lot of people doing very well with their degrees and the degrees earning them international jobs and immigration to canada, uk and us.
Stop degrading education like it is a waste.
U need to think outside of nigeria mentality