NewStats: 3,264,925 , 8,185,103 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 07:55 PM 3v4r5w

eyinjuege:


Were you peeping at her when she was bathing or you squeezed her breasts?
You're very evasive and it will be hard to advise you if we're not sure of what exactly you mean by invasion of privacy and swiping her.

Hmmm. Well, not peeping … more like starin', deliberately. My mind was racing and I was rooted to the spot.
No squeeze. Few fingers on one hand only so it is nothing near squeeze.

armyofone:
Intentionally swiped her breast because you weren't able to decipher the thin line between siblings and lovers since you both didn't live together right ?

Leave her alone and you should move out of there too. You swiped her bare breast!! You intruded her privacy and as a brother, it is embarrassing.

Apologize to her and leave that house.

Yes, yes. You are correct. I will.
I resolved not to go too close even if it may be forever.

MeghaneMorgane:
I was also physically assaulted by a very close relative of mine. He was like a brother to me. We were still in secondary school and all of us used to share a room both boys and girl. But we slept on bunk beds. This my relative was in secondary school just like me but for some reason he was exposed to all these sex things but I was very naive. I reported to my parents and they separated the boys and girls room but our relationship sort of changed.
I have forgiven him a long time ago but things are not really the same. He didn’t rape me but he touched me in very inappropriate ways while I was sleeping. Anyone who has been physically harassed or assaulted has been scared and needs time to heal. Op take it easy let her take her time and heal. But don’t expect her to let her guards down because she did it ones and you betrayed it.

Okay. I'm counting on it so I don't raise my expectations.
I can't even apologize. Take heart.

MikeAterezzi:
It is said you do not choose of your family.

My younger sibling and I were separated due to a family feud involving my maternal and paternal families. It would later take us a couple of years to behold each other again. We used to have a promising relationship as siblings at first but things are not the same way now.

Our relationship may become the next standard for Fahrenheit temperature scale if care is not taken.

I do not understand how someone can say 'I don't hate you' for people to hear, but will not acknowledge your existence throughout the day, or want anything to do with you. And if I try (goodness knows I do) to get close to her, she gets up and walks away or locks herself up somewhere till I'm gone. Almost every time you ask a question about something she keeps mute or gives flat out responses like 'mmm', 'i don't know', 'yes', 'no'. Even when she hears the questions correctly she acts deaf and this almost always puts any conversation (or monologue, because I will be talking to myself) on a bad footing.


I'm not without fault. Sometimes I don't see myself as a sibling because I don't think I'm up to the standard. I have dealt with feelings of humiliation and degradation in my former settlements, and I really hoped to see my nuclear family, so I can get away from these feelings of lowlifeness taking blame and ridicule upon myself.


All I wanted was to experience what I saw other siblings and their parents (those who even had one) share but I seem to have received the biggest shocks of my life:


1. Because I didn't live with this family from a tender age I am almost seen as an alien, or a spy, or generally treated with very soft suspicion. Whether I was thought to be an ally to their 'enemy', or I am a reminder of a chapter that should be closed, I do not know.

2. Because the manner and environment in which I was socialized differs from my current family (female dominated), there is a lot of friction and misunderstanding, like one party expects the other to follow rules or 'go through the window'. There are also similarities.

3. Since I have witnessed what family division can do, and how it has impacted marriages, behaviour and generations of both sides of my family negatively, I just wanted unity and felt sorry for my families, but they don't seem ready to patch things up. So I look odd in the family.
I can't blame them though. I just fear for the younger generation.



Now regarding my sibling: I'm not sure if I'm preoccupied or obsessed but it baffles me that we don't relate. I thought that was how siblings behaved but it brings fear and sadness that we may never be together.

TAKE NOTE: "BE TOGETHER". Those words made me afraid for I wasn't sure if I was bonding with a sibling, or a lover. This invisible line did not help matters at all, and it made me do things which put me in a difficult spot. We had a few fights and I had done an immoral act to her, or should I say, physical assault, and this has put me even under more scrutiny in the eyes of ma maternal famille
These things make me feel like a predator, say a rapist or a paedophile. I do not wish to cause harm to her or anyone, as it is not a sign of true sibling charity. These feelings make me doubt myself. You may imagine how a convicted thief would feel if we held our purses tight everytime.

I even felt angry when nothing was done about it; it was brushed under the carpet like nothing happened. It only opened my eyes and reinforced knowledge as to why families do not report incidences of domestic or sexual abuses. Had I the final resolve I would have coolly walked into a court to face the law. But then I learned what it meant to be merciful.

If I thought about what people did to me I might become unforgiving. I may make life difficult for people who asked for forgiveness but I don't think I wanted to do that. I just wished unity and good will reigns in our hearts.

This sibling has chosen to pretend like it's okay but I can sense the disgust and loathing reeking from her masked politeness. Any attempt to discuss or communicate is met with resistance and the eagerness to make me feel sad. I tried meeting in private, but hey! 'Do you want to repeat what you did'? Is the question on the hearts of observers in the house. If I try to make a public approach then I will seem to cause tension before others in the family. So there is almost no chance of ever communicating.

Now, the catch is we see each other everyday and this means constant shunning, constant entreaty for forgiveness, constant hurt, constant reflection, even constant (avoided) temptation as some actions gestures my relatives make only make me question my ability to become better. Almost all I see is people trying to deal with their inner bias and prejudice but waiting for signs of relapse so it can be said of me: "Ehenn! I said it."

IF I WAS AN EX-CONVICT, I'D PREFER GOING BACK TO PRISON.

People should learn from this story.

There's nothing like blood relationship being more superior than any other relationship. The bond you share with people depends on how close you are with them and how well you relate.

Any sibling that did not grow together in the family will hardly ever get bonded with the family.

OP couldn't see his sister as his blood because they never grew up together.

This also happens when fathers separated from their wives are reunited with their daughters. Abuse is most common.

Even if someone is not related to you by blood but you lived with them in the same house all your lifetime, chances are that you will see them as blood relative and will have zero sexual feelings towards them.

The poster should desist from forcing union with the sister. This is a forgone relationship for life. Life is too short anyway so while you are waiting and hoping that you will get a better relationship with your sister, you both may grow old and or die.

Look outside for a relationship. No matter what, she is your blood sister! So take your mind away from her if you are still harboring sexual feelings for her.

Keep off, Mike!

MikeAterezzi:


Yes, yes. You are correct. I will.
I resolved not to go too close even if it may be forever.

You're disgusting. Hope this obsession with your sister won't kill you.

Stay away from her you sick f*ck!

OP you deserve to die actually. You raped your little sister and probably injured her severely in the process now you want her to accept you in her life so you can finally kill her. You’re a selfish fellow and a peace of shit. All for your desire. I hope u never find a partner, I hope one day your sister has the liver to call you out. This goes for every rapist out there. Shane on your family for covering the case and bringing u back inside that home. Forget it, you can never amount to anything. Useless peace of shit. If u can’t handle your sexual urges what else can u handle in life. Leave that house !

MikeAterezzi:


We only met about twice, but we were very little. Now that we had reunited I was a bit confused in distinguishing the line between sibling, friend, irer or even mother figure
Mtchew I'm disgusted as well.

even if she was a friend. Is that how u do to your female friends? Who raised you? The person failed. Try it outside with someone that’s not your sibling, your life and career will definitely be over. You go about grabbing women breast while bathing? Animal

Such a disturbing and sickening post.
You had a chance to mend things up but all your stupid self could do was sexually molest your OWN blood sister (It's bad enough to an outsider and an abomination ) now you need her close again to do what exactly
Finish off what you started?
Rape and impregnate her?
Marry her or what?

Leave the house because all you will be EVER be to her is pains , trauma and a sick lowlife blood sucking animal

You are from the gutter and that's where you should be till death!
God punish your soul and I pray you rot in Hell man!!!

Heartheart:
OP you deserve to die actually. You raped your little sister and probably injured her severely in the process now you want her to accept you in her life so you can finally kill her. You’re a selfish fellow and a peace of shit. All for your desire. I hope u never find a partner, I hope one day your sister has the liver to call you out. This goes for every rapist out there. Shane on your family for covering the case and bringing u back inside that home. Forget it, you can never amount to anything. Useless peace of shit. If u can’t handle your sexual urges what else can u handle in life. Leave that house !

Such a useless family. I'm boiling!!!
Hope they cover up for her too when she finally poisons him.
It's the audacity to wake up every day , seeing and knowing he has caused her an eternal emotional scar and still wants to be forgiven and pampered.
I pray his life gets ruined and dogs eat up his flesh !

MikeAterezzi:


Smooch? It was just a raise of the hand and a swipe, that was all.
I have to agree I had the wrong impression from her. So it was kind of deliberate.
We were not close o, unless you mean geographically. In fact, I was still frustrated with the way things were going in our bond (it was not the idea I had being little. I did think siblings worked or played together, at least from the people I saw when I was tender. So it was like a false storyline to see it wasn't working like I imagined).

You sure have some psychological disorder, pardon my assumption, but your choice of words left me no choice. You wrote as though you did beyond a 'swipe' and a 'slap'
Did you rape her ? Did you molest her ? How deep was the physical assault ? You said no to the former questions and insisted it was just a swipe
You are just too dramatic for your sister . Allow time to heal both of you, I think you are so on her. Build the relationship gradually. She will come around , really. Why did you hit her ?

Heartheart:
OP you deserve to die actually. You raped your little sister and probably injured her severely in the process now you want her to accept you in her life so you can finally kill her.

We are about 20months apart. It didn't happen. No injuries. I think I had been adviced to go with what was decided. Someone made it clear that a lot had probably happened in her life at that period, and I understand.

Heartheart:
You’re a selfish fellow and a peace of shit. All for your desire. I hope u never find a partner, I hope one day your sister has the liver to call you out. This goes for every rapist out there. Shane on your family for covering the case and bringing u back inside that home. Forget it, you can never amount to anything. Useless peace of shit. If u can’t handle your sexual urges what else can u handle in life. Leave that house !

Well, If I were one. But really it also seemed unpleasant to be in the same place after the incident and I apologize for not considering how it may have affected her.

Heartheart:
even if she was a friend. Is that how u do to your female friends? Who raised you? The person failed. Try it outside with someone that’s not your sibling, your life and career will definitely be over. You go about grabbing women breast while bathing? Animal

Sorry, I do not 'go about'. I shouldn't even 'go' in the first place.

poshestmina:
Such a disturbing and sickening post.
You had a chance to mend things up but all your stupid self could do was sexually molest your OWN blood sister (It's bad enough to an outsider and an abomination ) now you need her close again to do what exactly
Finish off what you started?
Rape and impregnate her?
Marry her or what?

I didn't want to do any of these. The thing is I'd wanted to try to ease whatever stress or tension there was between us and someone (even you) did mention what might have happened to her life. But what did I start? That's the problem.

poshestmina:
Leave the house because all you will be EVER be to her is pains , trauma and a sick lowlife blood sucking animal

You are from the gutter and that's where you should be till death!
God punish your soul and I pray you rot in Hell man!!!

I'm not pleased too, you know, because it makes short work of precious attempts at bonding and reduced them to square one, or even ground zero. Show some mercy, a little.

poshestmina:
Such a disturbing and sickening post.
You had a chance to mend things up but all your stupid self could do was sexually molest your OWN blood sister (It's bad enough to an outsider and an abomination ) now you need her close again to do what exactly
Finish off what you started?
Rape and impregnate her?
Marry her or what?

Leave the house because all you will be EVER be to her is pains , trauma and a sick lowlife blood sucking animal

You are from the gutter and that's where you should be till death!
God punish your soul and I pray you rot in Hell man!!!

I don't hope to be a constant pain and all that. Not sure I can bear it.

poshestmina:


Such a useless family. I'm boiling!!!
Hope they cover up for her too when she finally poisons him.
It's the audacity to wake up every day , seeing and knowing he has caused her an eternal emotional scar and still wants to be forgiven and pampered.
I pray his life gets ruined and dogs eat up his flesh !

What you say about waking up everyday had me thinking. It's hard, I know. This is why I'm saying I hope it's not that bad (I don't even know how 'bad' it has been, which is very worrying for me).

Pinkzebra:



You sure have some psychological disorder, pardon my assumption, but your choice of words left me no choice. You wrote as though you did beyond a 'swipe' and a 'slap'
Did you rape her ? Did you molest her ? How deep was the physical assault ? You said no to the former questions and insisted it was just a swipe
You are just too dramatic for your sister . Allow time to heal both of you, I think you are so on her. Build the relationship gradually. She will come around , really. Why did you hit her ?

So sorry about that. Was trying to be accurate without being too detailed in the description.
Well, if I am dramatic I would say it's because I made internal references to her continually while we were apart. Ever since I knew she existed I'd imagined what our meeting would be like.
"If it were us it wouldn't be like this", "if it were us it would happen like that". Sigh.

You're ing so many conflicting messages I don't even get where to start from. But this write-up is lucid. Very lucid. And... almost too perfect it seems you've whitewashed a lot of things, yet managed to set yourself up as a person who is self-aware and only after the good of everyone.

So, you're really talking about rape? Because you talked about walking up to a court of law to face the consequences for your actions, but didn't like how your family treated it and then still say you've learnt the act of being merciful or what's that?? I get very very odd vibes from your story. Very chilly. If you did rape that girl, SHE OWES YOU NO DAMN THING. You are not the one to be pining for forgiveness and mending broken bonds. Absolutely not. No. Leave that girl alone. Just leave her be and stay very far away from her. It's her prerogative to restore anything and if she chooses not to, even for eternity, deal with it. If you didn't rape her, then why would you want to go to court? Why would you prefer to live in prison as an ex-convict??
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There's so much gaslighting this post is doused in and it's so very absorbed in it it's hard to see. Damn! You do something, say it in unclear , people misunderstand and you go: "No. No. That's not what I mean. I don't know how to put it well 'cos others have fuked up my mind.' So basically your family are responsible for the way you are now, when your actions in the first place caused their reaction towards you? Your remorse is only skin deep.

You're really fuked, sorry to say (?). I'm blown. I can't believe I'm reading this, getting an almost virtual illumination into the mind of an ab?

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On another note, I remotely think you're taking everyone for a ride. Mtcheew.

Well, Enough with the crucifixion on the guy. This is one of the ills and after effects of broken marriages where siblings /kids are shared like Okpa among the divorced couples.

Reasons why the Almighty hates divorce. Also, shiits like this happens in other nuclear homes, some are as a result of dysfunctional family setup, curse or outright sexual pervertion.

Both the victim and the assailant are in pain. This is no time for blaming but for healing for BOTH!
This guy also need mercy!

Call a family meeting and sincerely apologize.
Make a decision to leave the house. At this point, you need to strive outside your environment. She is your sister, but you also need to heal and give her time to heal as well.

THIS IS A SECRET you must NEVER reveal to anyone except your God or a very reverred spiritual leader if you are religiously inclined.

Don't force her to forgive or love you, every once in a while, send messages to acknowledge how she's doing and how you're faring as well. If she returns it fine, if she doesn't then stop.

One day, things will change and you will have your peace.

Magnoliaa:
You're ing so many conflicting messages I don't even get where to start from. But this write-up is lucid. Very lucid. And... almost too perfect it seems you've whitewashed a lot of things, yet managed to set yourself up as a person who is self-aware and only after the good of everyone.

So, you're really talking about rape? Because you talked about walking up to a court of law to face the consequences for your actions, but didn't like how your family treated it and then still say you've learnt the act of being merciful or what's that?? I get very very odd vibes from your story. Very chilly. If you did rape that girl, SHE OWES YOU NO DAMN THING. You are not the one to be pining for forgiveness and mending broken bonds. Absolutely not. No. Leave that girl alone. Just leave her be and stay very far away from her. It's her prerogative to restore anything and if she chooses not to, even for eternity, deal with it. If you didn't rape her, then why would you want to go to court? Why would you prefer to live in prison as an ex-convict??
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There's so much gaslighting this post is doused in and it's so very absorbed in it it's hard to see. Damn! You do something, say it in unclear , people misunderstand and you go: "No. No. That's not what I mean. I don't know how to put it well 'cos others have fuked up my mind.' So basically your family are responsible for the way you are now, when your actions in the first place caused their reaction towards you? Your remorse is only skin deep.

You're really fuked, sorry to say (?). I'm blown. I can't believe I'm reading this, getting an almost virtual illumination into the mind of an ab?

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On another note, I remotely think you're taking everyone for a ride. Mtcheew.

Hello. I said something about the court of law because that was my honest opinion- that such a thing is a punishable offense, whether it is rape or something close to it. And the statement about being an ex-convict is like a metaphor describing where I had resided before moving to live with my nuclear family. In fact, I didn't just move- I bailed from there.

AmuAwusa:
Well, Enough with the crucifixion on the guy. This is one of the ills and after effects of broken marriages where siblings /kids are shared like Okpa among the divorced couples.

Reasons why the Almighty hates divorce. Also, shiits like this happens in other nuclear homes, some are as a result of dysfunctional family setup, curse or outright sexual pervertion.

Both the victim and the assailant are in pain. This is no time for blaming but for healing for BOTH!
This guy also need mercy!

Call a family meeting and sincerely apologize.
Make a decision to leave the house. At this point, you need to strive outside your environment. She is your sister, but you also need to heal and give her time to heal as well.

THIS IS A SECRET you must NEVER reveal to anyone except your God or a very reverred spiritual leader if you are religiously inclined.

Don't force her to forgive or love you, every once in a while, send messages to acknowledge how she's doing and how you're faring as well. If she returns it fine, if she doesn't then stop.

One day, things will change and you will have your peace.

Thank you.
Yes. Divorce by death, and death by fighting, hence the family feud. It explains why I feel bad seeing children without both parents if they are alive, or children with single parents. I tell you, parents have a case to answer for they base their commitment to the marriage based on trifle matters. Add the mentality of our society today about breaking up, having a string of ex-partners, abortion, adultery and pride to make amends, thinking it's all about 'finding' the right person.
People on social media platforms today can't even post without using vulgar words and spewing obscenities.

This OP should be a Nigerian Politician.

If after eight years he doesn't deliver on his manifesto, you cannot hold him able; you don't even understand the promises/commitment he made.

MikeAterezzi:


Thank you.
Yes. Divorce by death, and death by fighting, hence the family feud. It explains why I feel bad seeing children without both parents if they are alive, or children with single parents. I tell you, parents have a case to answer for they base their commitment to the marriage based on trifle matters. Add the mentality of our society today about breaking up, having a string of ex-partners, abortion, adultery and pride to make amends, thinking it's all about 'finding' the right person.
People on social media platforms today can't even post without using vulgar words and spewing obscenities.

What you did was an abomination, BUT there was some kind d of restraints, thank Goodness. But it's not something unforgivable, and I think you've allowed your guilt so overwhelmed you and it's become an obsession to get her love to like a sister should a brother... She is still taking it the wrong way. She is still seeing the' molest ' and you AGAIN!

You need to heal, stop fighting to be forgiven and loved. Stop waiting to be accepted. You both have been through a lot already.

Divorce by death, by physical assault will affect the psyche of any child. And it's affected you both, and it's so sad things turn up this way.

Fortunately, there's a clear road to Redemption, for there's dignity in acknowledging ones guilt and setting out to live a more honorable life, and YOU can still have that, and even a better one with or without her in the pics.

Like I said make a family meeting and talk about your fears and tears, may chose to invite a reverred person to be included to ease the hurt a little. But please leave the house for good and start life afresh. You deserve it.