NewStats: 3,265,397 , 8,186,593 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 06:26 PM z172d

MEGA4BILLION:
You have to first of all forgive yourself, your post reeks of self guilt. Once you do that you will witness renaissance in your relationship with others

I think I have. It's just that I'd like all to end well with her. That is to say my mind may be at rest when she's err… fulfilled, successful, cheerful or something. If not, I may not be able to forg… well, I really hope for the best. Honestly.

descarado:

Dead till thy kingdom come even if she later forgives but the deed.....
Gosh,
The sister is a kid hence using the word pedophile. They lived apart for long and when they finally started Iiving together bros raped her.
I shudder.

Not rape. Breached privacy and molestation, if I'm accurate. Not living alone but with nuclear and extended family .
We are about a year and months apart in age

SportsHD:
Reed between the lines. If you don't feel wanted,
Don't you think it's because of what you've done to them in the past? Do you think everyone she should act like it never happened?

I think you should leave.

I should and I will.

SportsHD:

Wait what?? How did I miss that part


Bro, can you please explain this part further?

Ok. BEFORE NOW sibling avoided and wouldn't say what happened that I or anyone had done. I just feel I was the cause though I wasn't so sure.
Okay. Maybe I was a bit frustrated or focusing too much on her and any solution for this issue, so I became err… say attached in a negative way. But no rap occured, please.

Mindlog:
How your family is allowing you the ab, to still be under the same roof with your victim (sister) is baffling or are they ignorant of the fact that her continued seeing you puts her in a heightened state of anxiety, triggers flashbacks and re-experiencing of the abuse.

You are associated with the trauma she is going through and represents danger. Your family have given you a soft landing and she senses you are capable of repeating it thus her persistent avoidance.

You have no right to seek any form of relationship with her, do her good by leaving that house and her life entirely.

Hmm. My heart is heavy but what you say is for the best.

MikeAterezzi:


Ok. BEFORE NOW sibling avoided and wouldn't say what happened that I or anyone had done. I just feel I was the cause though I wasn't so sure.
Okay. Maybe I was a bit frustrated or focusing too much on her and any solution for this issue, so I became err… say attached in a negative way. But no rap occured, please.

Rape. Pedophilia are strong words, don't use them loosely. It could land you in jail.

MikeAterezzi:


I think I have. It's just that I'd like all to end well with her. That is too say my mind may be at rest when she's err… fulfilled, successful, cheerful or something. If not, I may not be able to forg… well, I really hope for the best. Honestly.

She needs time to recollect herself from the shock and the psychological trauma she went through. You don't need to pressure her into communicating with you. Just give her time

Kriss216:
The effrontery!

You raped her and still demanding to bond with her again

You want to eat your cake and have it. De ja vu


Go hang yourself, that's the best you can do to redeem yourself and your self guilt!

I have no right to take my life. I did not create myself, did I? I know it seems honourable and noble to do so. But it might make things worse for people.

MikeAterezzi:


Not rape. Breached privacy and molestation, if I'm accurate. Not living alone but with nuclear and extended family .
We are about a year and months apart in age

Your choice of grammar is disturbing.
Tone down on trying to impress with the grammar cos I know you don't understand what your contents means eg this one I quoted.

What is molestation in this context. Simply forcing somebody who is younger than you or a minor to have sex with you.

So what do you want people to believe when you are still emphasising you molested your younger sis?
Sigh.

Karleb:


Rape. Pedophilia are strong words, don't use them loosely. It could land you in jail.

The guy isn't truthful. He is trying to be smart.
I wish him well.
Can't deal.

descarado:

The guy isn't truthful. He is trying to be smart.
I wish him well.
Can't deal.

How did you know this?

Mindlog:


Sadly, if you get to work in a child and adolescent protection unit, such is what you get to face almost on a daily basis....older siblings sexually abusing younger ones, parents sexually abusing their children, cousins, aunts and uncles being the perpetrators and families insisting they do not want it to be treated as a crime that it is.....they re-victimize the victim for exposing the family!

I am not in of hiding these things. I believe in social justice and will not hesitate to stand against and expose such acts, even by myself. This is an ideal we as Nigerians should all have and we'll be able to fight back and restore order! It is this value that has helped me share this.

descarado:


Your choice of grammar is disturbing.
Tone down on trying to impress with the grammar cos I know you don't understand what your contents means eg this one I quoted.

What is molestation in this context. Simply forcing somebody who is younger than you or a minor to have sex with you.

So what do you want people to believe when you are still emphasising you molested your younger sis?
Sigh.

We were both above 18, but of what use is that.
Okay. Bear with me. I'm trying not to be too graphic. You see, it's something that has to do with being unclad and someone entering and, while still transfixed, touch… gosh. It happened very briefly with no repetition because abuses and hitting followed.

Karleb:


Rape. Pedophilia are strong words, don't use them loosely. It could land you in jail.

My error. Thank you. Was really trying to pinpoint my act, or maybe it's because of how I've been made to feel

phorget:
I was actually feeling for you until I read that rape or almost rape part of the story...
I would advice you concentrate on becoming successful please, if nobody like you then the worst you can do to yourself is not to like yourself. Move on bro, just be focus and when you become successful then you'll successfully build your own family.
We are on the same journey but mine is that I didn't try raping anyone.

I apologize for that. I can try. I just want a situation where there are less ill feelings, whether because one is successful or not, for some peace of mind, you know…

MikeAterezzi:


My error. Thank you. Was really trying to pinpoint my act, or maybe it's because of how I've been made to feel

You are not communicating, what with your Shakespearian grammar. Did you sleep with your sister, op?
I think you should leave that house and never return. The nerve of you to still live in the house and demand that she bonds with you. It's the audacity for me.

Scum like you should be in prison and never see daylight again. Pedo

MufasaLion:


It's really a sad thing. I don't understand how people are like that. Your sibling? WTF?

We only met about twice, but we were very little. Now that we had reunited I was a bit confused in distinguishing the line between sibling, friend, irer or even mother figure
Mtchew I'm disgusted as well.

MufasaLion:


It's really a sad thing. I don't understand how people are like that. Your sibling? WTF?

They visited when we were little. I mentioned something about family feud.

kneehighbootz:



You are not communicating, what with your Shakespearian grammar. Did you sleep with your sister, op?
I think you should leave that house and never return. The nerve of you to still live in the house and demand that she bonds with you. It's the audacity for me.

Scum like you should be in prison and never see daylight again. Pedo

No, I didn't do that. It was just a swipe at her bare chest. I'm trying not to be detailed about it because there's no pride in it. We were both standing inches or centimeters apart when it happened, by the way.

kneehighbootz:



You are not communicating, what with your Shakespearian grammar. Did you sleep with your sister, op?
I think you should leave that house and never return. The nerve of you to still live in the house and demand that she bonds with you. It's the audacity for me.

Scum like you should be in prison and never see daylight again. Pedo

Loool, this person is vexed. .

I thought AI was the only one that wasn't understanding his grammer.

MikeAterezzi:


No, I didn't do that. It was just a swipe at her bare chest. I'm trying not to be detailed about it because there's no pride in it. We were both standing inches or centimeters apart when it happened, by the way.

Okay you swiped her breasts?

descarado:

You have to read that part twice before it wil dawn on you what he meant.


He came from a messed up background. Seems like everybody have sex with everybody hence he was confused at first what he feel for the sister. And when family did nothing about it, he thought its OK so the sister should move on.

@op, what happened to you in the past?

I felt like I was missing something because I wasn't with my nuclear family. There was some rough discipline, witnessing family tension, children living life carelessly without appropriate guardianship/parenting, children with separated parents, joy-drying labour, Living in one environment then transferred to another where I went from bad to worse.
Sigh.

NoToPile:


Okay you swiped her breasts?

… Yes.
Deep sigh.

LilMissFavvy:
If your sister will ever forgive you, it will surely take a very long time. You seem to have tried every possible way to show your remorse. They are deeply hurt, you just have to keep hoping, could as well pray that God touches their hearts. It will take a long time, you can't blame them.

Oga you should have mentioned your age . Why did you really need to go back to that house? You can as well get your own home if you are of age and capable. It's of no use living there to keep causing pain. Hope you have her number, paraventure you rent a house, you'd be sending her goodwill messages/keep reaching out. You committed an abomination.

I will. Thanks. There are no places to go so we were all together, pending when one is settled or when something comes calling.

Did you sexually assault your sister?
Siblings fight and beat each other up. They can forgive and move on, even though it may take some time.
But if you sexually assault a sister, there can never be any relationship there again.
That family chord was cut when you were sexually attracted to your own sister.
She can never be comfortable with you anymore. She can never leave her children with you ever. Her future husband will always find you disgusting.
Whatever the case may be whether physical or sexual assault, apologise to her sincerely and let the relationship go. Give her all the space she needs and if she's interested in building a relationship with you again, let it be at her own pace and on her own .

OP in one word you have/had sexual feelings towards your sister. I think the feeling is still there, you would have had sex if she didn’t hit you when you smooched her.

Your obsession with your sister shows that the feeling may still be there, your sister is staying in her lane so you wouldn’t get the wrong impression. I’m sure before that incident you were very close and that was what made you think she had sexual feelings for you. The boundaries she has established are very healthy.

I have heard of people who had sex with their cousins and they all started from talking, playing and been too close till it happened. It wasn’t preplanned.

MikeAterezzi:


Ok. BEFORE NOW sibling avoided and wouldn't say what happened that I or anyone had done. I just feel I was the cause though I wasn't so sure.
Okay. Maybe I was a bit frustrated or focusing too much on her and any solution for this issue, so I became err… say attached in a negative way. But no rap occured, please.

Were you peeping at her when she was bathing or you squeezed her breasts?
You're very evasive and it will be hard to advise you if we're not sure of what exactly you mean by invasion of privacy and swiping her.

Intentionally swiped her breast because you weren't able to decipher the thin line between siblings and lovers since you both didn't live together right ?

Leave her alone and you should move out of there too. You swiped her bare breast!! You intruded her privacy and as a brother, it is embarrassing.

Apologize to her and leave that house.

MikeAterezzi:


No, I didn't do that. It was just a swipe at her bare chest. I'm trying not to be detailed about it because there's no pride in it. We were both standing inches or centimeters apart when it happened, by the way.

I was also physically assaulted by a very close relative of mine. He was like a brother to me. We were still in secondary school and all of us used to share a room both boys and girl. But we slept on bunk beds. This my relative was in secondary school just like me but for some reason he was exposed to all these sex things but I was very naive. I reported to my parents and they separated the boys and girls room but our relationship sort of changed.
I have forgiven him a long time ago but things are not really the same. He didn’t rape me but he touched me in very inappropriate ways while I was sleeping. Anyone who has been physically harassed or assaulted has been scared and needs time to heal. Op take it easy let her take her time and heal. But don’t expect her to let her guards down because she did it ones and you betrayed it.

MEGA4BILLION:


She needs time to recollect herself from the shock and the psychological trauma she went through. You don't need to pressure her into communicating with you. Just give her time

Thank you for your counsel. Modupe.

eyinjuege:
Did you sexually assault your sister?
Siblings fight and beat each other up. They can forgive and move on, even though it may take some time.
But if you sexually assault a sister, there can never be any relationship there again.
That family chord was cut when you were sexually attracted to your own sister.
She can never be comfortable with you anymore. She can never leave her children with you ever. Her future husband will always find you disgusting.
Whatever the case may be whether physical or sexual assault, apologise to her sincerely and let the relationship go. Give her all the space she needs and if she's interested in building a relationship with you again, let it be at her own pace and on her own .

Ok. Sage, kind talk.

eazzzy1:
OP in one word you have/had sexual feelings towards your sister. I think the feeling is still there, you would have had sex if she didn’t hit you when you smooched her.

Your obsession with your sister shows that the feeling may still be there, your sister is staying in her lane so you wouldn’t get the wrong intentions. I’m sure before that incident you were very close and that was what made you think she had sexual feelings for you. The boundaries she has established are very healthy.

I have heard of people who had sex with their cousins and they all started from talking, playing and been too close till it happened. It wasn’t preplanned.

Smooch? It was just a raise of the hand and a swipe, that was all.
I have to agree I had the wrong impression from her. So it was kind of deliberate.
We were not close o, unless you mean geographically. In fact, I was still frustrated with the way things were going in our bond (it was not the idea I had being little. I did think siblings worked or played together, at least from the people I saw when I was tender. So it was like a false storyline to see it wasn't working like I imagined).