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First meal

Connect online (Facebook preferably) to Good tidings bible church next Sunday (6th September) by 7:30am (1st service) or 9am (2nd service). It is Miracle water services every first Sunday of every month.

Get a fresh bottle water for the service.

Your faith will make you whole again.

...and they forgot that Peter Obi is a staunch Catholic. The votes of the Christians will arguably work for PDP. Catholics are larger in number compared to that of Redeemed Church.

Oga,

People set life targets for themselves, and this is one of hers. She wants marriage and you cannot delay her.

You are a business man, and making reasonable income while she's also working with reasonable income.
The only way I would have advised you otherwise is if you found something bad about her.

If you are clinically compatible, please start marriage preparations, it may take you one year but you will be glad you did.

If you aren't ready, free her.

I love her sincerity,

Someone who lost much money and owing people is asking for 700k to start again?

Ask yourself these questions
1. What did he do that made him lose his business and money?

2. What was his worth when he was doing well?

3. How sure are you about your relationship and its progress?

4. How long do you think he will pay back 700k?

Let me tell you, someone who is starting again won't need 700k from you, he will waste it. It is such a big amount to start up again, those he owe will fight back harder.

You can only lend him 200k, and nothing more. Then watch him after one year.

Another advice, stop letting your partner know your real financial (cash) worth except you are married.

Shine your eyes.

Hello Mr,

I know you feel hurt, deceived and may soon be depressed, it is no reason to keep having nightmares and dream of death. I tell people that the happiness we look for is within us.
From your story, your wife's happiness is your peace. She may have lied to you, but yet she loves you. Glad that she is not cheating on you cos that will depress you more.
Those tears that wet her pillow are your nightmares. Women are stronger than us men, their spiritual position is higher than us. Have you been perfect in your own ways? Can you prove you haven't lied or cheated in your life?
If you divorce her and she commits suicide, can you live with it? Stop telling everyone the lies and all sort, your marriage is fresh and has a long life journey to go.

You made choice, let the lies go, forgive her, treat her good, love her. Speak good of her with your tongue, let her tears be only for your blessings not regrets.

Please ask God to help you, some men have seen worse, and some marriages are also experiencing bigger challenges. Make yours different so you can encourage others.

Shalom!

That's how one that met me on Facebook kept posting me. I was in Enugu then. I invited her to come to Enugu when they were on strike, she's from Enugu too. She ignored my requests, saying I should come to ph. But work couldn't allow me. I stopped asking.
Last year I was transferred to Abuja, she heard and is now asking me to say "come" and she will be here next day.
Now I don't do far away transactions, the COT is high.
Fruits and vegetables are cheaper in Abuja.

Guys believe yourselves. There are also serious girls. Leave the internet slayers.

When I visited Awka last, I learnt that unizik can enter lease agreement with you for hostel inside the school premises. You get some plots, build your hostel and manage for a period of years, after which it turns to school's property. Say about 20years.

To me, it's a good biz. Just make your enquiries.
Hotel will require more money, maintenance and close management, and there's competition, but it creates jobs for the unemployed.

You can build residential houses for your plots in Asaba and Enugu.

A very sound black Authomatic Toyota Corolla 2003 model, 100,000 mileage, for sale in PH. Asking price is N1.4m. Interested persons should call 07038107522 or 08185461102

A very sound black Authomatic Toyota Corolla 2003 model, 100,000 mileage, for sale in PH. Asking price is N1.4m. Interested persons should call 07038107522 or 08185461102

My simple advice is that you go the shopping with him. He may not wear what you buy, but with him in the shop, he could have multiple combinations to behold, and have colours to choose from. The experts there could help. You can go pre-inform them of your visit to help work on him.

A good shop will make it easier.

Check those stores at rumuola road.

marvelck:
My Research About Igbo Guys

1. Imo guys are handsome, caring & romantic, educated but most of them are players. They like to feel on top (boss) and proud of themselves. Can brag for Africa, but faithful once they marry.

2. Anambra Guys are very romantic and caring. And when they are dating, they can take you to all the ts in town, all the eateries (stingyness na their second name, but they have the money ooo), but giving their girls cash, na wah. Once it comes to marriage, they will turn to mommy's boy(Ndi mama anyi si). But when they were doing that thing with the girl in the other room, they didnt take permission from their mother.

3. Enugu guys are kind, they can do everything for their wives. They sabi marry well, but they are not romantic. Ndi obi akpor.

4. Abia guys are good but timid and naive when it comes to handling a woman.

5. Ebonyi is not available at the moment, please try again later *in a low voice, heard Ebonyi men beat their women*

compiled by Ms. Jenny

Enugu guys are good as described, but the aspect of romance you mentioned is what I don't know. If they sabi marry well, what else is missing?

I'm one.

sweettease:

Yey!!! Go October! When in October?

14th.

sweettease:
October

I'm October.

Fayvhur:
I tell this guy its my f**king first time and he's making it really terrible for me.

I can tell you I hate kissing....nothing there, just something Europeans do a lot for reasons I don't understand. My first kiss, totally horrible, the second and current one, really irritating! it gets the guy all excited sha, and I'm responding thinking "oh my God this is miserable existence".

Then the smooching big turn off!! he wants to rip off my nipples...hah!! it's not like he's an ugly guy oh..he's all attractive, smart, really popular....buh I hate d action. he's making me think I should be a lesbian, at least they will be gentle, maybe I will feel something I dunno...m not just a feeler.

I've never allowed him down there though, it could end up being really traumatic for me. maybe I should just end everything, and we'll be just friends. Thing is I don't think I could ever care for a guy that way, because I feel nothing, and its really not fair to lead them on....

Gimme ur advice

There is nothing wrong with you, I think it is your mind frame. You just have to leave him and build mind towards having attraction to opposite sex.
You can start by watching good romantic movies, read romantic books and see what it takes to convince the mind. A good man with a good heart, caring acts and who has got time for you will change all that.

Watching porn won't help cos it tells you the end is just sex. But good feeling or urge is a process that requires you identifying qualities( body build, athletic, voice, dress sense, sense of humour, attention and observation etc) you ire in your partner.

Try and build friendship, closeness and understanding first before engaging in sex.

gudbadgyal:
Hello Nairalanders, I wouldn't wanna bore you, So I'll just go straight to the point. I've been dating this guy for sometime now (just date oo) but his mom knows about our relationship and his sisters too. He's such a mama's boy and doesn't wanna work. He says he doesn't like Nigeria and he's waiting for his visa to get ready. He's dad is actually a white. He's idle and depends on me to foot the bills saying he'll reward me when things go well for him. He isn't willing to work and this is really pissing me off. However some one is gradually stealing my heart because he has been doing things my bf doesn't do for me, I'm so confused right now... Dunno who to go for
Need your advice please

How long will you continue to foot his bills?
How soon will the visa come?
How sure are you that he will remain in love when he travels?

Start giving attention to the other guy. He is really buying time with you.

sinaj:
Hehehe nothing person no go hear



Jss2?

What was a 13yr old doing with Amu ike

Well, she chose her path!

I wonder how she gonna Rip

you are really funny. odiegwu o

Cathony:

Yeah I get your point ...but she doesn't want a relationship now, although I've never asked her on a date...yet...; I'm not sure if I love her yet, but I just don't wanna lose her.
thanks man

The fact you are worried about her feelings shows you love her. Same thought going through her mind.

Nature has a way of helping us in our weaknesses. You are scared of making the move or the responsibility of dating. Ask yourself if she has what you ire in a lady.
If you don't make the move now and she finally decides to avoid you, you may regret using this opportunity.

Be a man, open up and dont wait till she makes the move.

She is avoiding you cos she will jump over you for more sex. Her thought has been about you, comparing you to other guys, weighing the options of having a serious relationship with u than just friends. She is in love already.
Do u love her to start a serious affair?
You have built trust, closeness and companionship since you became friends.
Now is the time to know what you want from each other. A relationship with her will be great. Think and tell her your feeling.
Cheers

My advise is that you should work on your family. Convince them on how important your happiness matters to you. Let them forgive your husband and show him love. When that happens, he will work on his own family.
For peace to reign, there has to be sacrifice. Let go of the past and seek happiness. The brave forgive.
You will see the result in few months.

Caprigal:

Tell me about it. The thought alone makes me want to vomit.

And he want me to swallow it too.

He actually wants to spit into somebody's mouth and watch them swallow it.

**pukes violently**

He's a weird being. It's better you let him know about it. You can't take it.
Since the day I threw up on that gal, she never tried it. I boldly told her it can't work. It took me days to kiss her again. .

If he continues after your clear explanations then it's for a reason. Nothing romantic or arousal about it.

Seriously I will feel bad at that. So disgusting. I had an experience when a gal used yoghurt while kissing. I threw up on her.
Tell your man that it isn't your fancy.

MaQuin:
she for sell am 1million

Hello MaQuin

Please stick to your current job. A free accommodation n transportation with 100k is far better than the other Job's offer. Work hard and learn from it. You can as well open a pension fund and an insurance where you save some money. If you can save 50% monthly, you will be glad with this decision in years to come.

Cheers

MaQuin:
it baffles me when some people say marriage is not important in ones life am here to tell you guys today that marriage is very important


if you are married, you may have discovered why marriage is so important and experienced some of the good that comes from it. Or, maybe marriage was hard for some of you and you’re no longer married. However, there is hope. But that hope starts with realizing that marriage can be more amazing than you have experienced or even thought.

Marriage can be amazing as well as very hard sometimes Marriage eliminates loneliness and both partners can work as team you will agree even the holy book say one will chase a thousand but two will chase ten thousand

God has created marriage to reveal more about Him and how awesome He is. And this is revealed through many of His purposes for marriage.

Here are 5 reasons that explain the importance of marriage:

1. Beginning
Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment [Tweet This]. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church.

2. Oneness
When a man and woman get married, the “two become one.” Marriage is a bond like no other. It gives us a life partner, a teammate, as we move through the challenges of life together.

3. Purity
Marriage is designed for purity. We are under assault by temptation nearly every minute and from many directions. The bond of marriage gives us the to defeat that temptation by engaging in deep, satisfying love—a love that gives to, and receives from, our mate physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

4. Parenting
When a marriage produces a child or receives a child through adoption, it is one of life’s greatest blessings. Roughly 40% of children being raised today are in a home without a father. The effects of that fact are staggering. Father absence causes increases in mental and behavioral disorders as well as criminal activity and substance abuse. But when children are raised in a healthy marriage, they get a front row seat to see and experience the lasting benefits of strong family.

5. Love
Marriage is designed to mirror our Creator’s unconditional love for us. It’s a love that will always be there and will never leave us or forsake us. When a man and woman love one another with that unconditional love, contentment follows and joy abounds.


if you are a married you can drop your experience below

Good points listed. I'm not married yet.
It will be a wonderful life experience.
Are you married?

I'm barely a month in Abuja. Haven't experienced much but that of VIO yesterday evening at Berger, even engers started running. And I was meant to believe that hustle is everywhere not just in Lagos, Ph or other cities.
Op u didn't mention pedestrian Bridges at night, that was the first security alert I got. Lol

Trina0936:

Ok. But I meant a relationship/marriage counsellor so you mustn't be married before doing that!

Yea. I help when there's need. Thanks.

Ejemehn:
For the sake of your younger siblings and the sake of the unity of the whole family you have to forget your age in this issue and handle it like the man you'll one day be proud of.

There's a reason why God has let you in on all this.

On a wonderful night while everyone is asleep, call your mum to the sitting room and talk to her. Let her know the imminent danger she's putting you, your dad, your siblings and the family at large. See, there's no good in infidelity. The Bible says there's a way that seemeth right unto man but the end thereof is destruction, and one of such ways is infidelity. Let her know she'll only tear the family apart with her current ways. Whether she's had sex with the man or not she erred big time. Going to a place and lying. Not to mention she went their without informing your father.

On another night. Call your dad and also talk to him too. Tell him to work on himself. Probably there are things he might need to work on.

After sometime, on another night call the two of them and sit them down and talk to them pointing out reasons why the family must stay together.

I tell you the truth. Your parents will never see you like a 20 year old again.

A broken home is not the best. Do your best to mend this crack.

God shall strengthen you. Go to him for wisdom.

Wish you the best of luck

Here you have your response. You can bring the unity your family deserves now. Cheers

Personal brilliance? I don't think so. But luck, it's part of it. Where brilliance works is ability to test your partner during courtship and know what to cope with and not and he/she understands your position. Luck is having one with manageable bad character.
Above all, prayer helps you when you ask for wisdom to choose the better person who gives you more peace.

Hello Sir, I will kindly advise you to copy those recordings in a safer place. Have a meeting with your parents, and siblings. Your family should come up with better ideas on how to handle this case.
Obviously your wife's elder sisters are evil minded and have succeeded in affecting her mindset. They envy your family and wants to ruin it. But if you are smart, you will laugh last.
Concerning your single testis, it's no problem cos your daughter is an evidence. You will have more even with another woman.
Please compose yourself well at home and at work. Relate with her siblings as usual and be vigilante to monitor them and gather more evidence.
Above all, ask God for wisdom. You will laugh last.

Trina0936:

Wow! Thankyou so much. This is the best advice so far. Ever thought of being a love doctor?

You are welcome. I try to help as much as I can. would be a love doctor when I am married and wify is comfortable with it.

Lady, I understand your feeling. Believe me that you are having thoughts about him by sharing. The guy knows you aren't interested in him but keeps making ways to get your acceptance. He may be wrong by asking for marriage when you haven't accepted dating yet.

If I were you, I would sit your sis down and ask her to explain the reasons why she said you shouldn't give him chance. Knowing fully well that she and her husband know the guy well. Hear from them and know more about the guy in question.

About not wanting to date now, its a choice. Just remain a friend and spell it out to him what you you really want now not marriage.

Cheers