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Enskynelson:
Where is the picture of the improperly dressed person?

MIM77:


There are no vacancies in south-east. These are replacements of PSs that have retired in those zones. It's one PS representing every state just like the Ministers.

SpatialKing:
Kelode
Seems Igbos are no longer part of this country

North East getting three PS appointments while none from south east

There are no vacancies in south-east. These are replacements of PSs that have retired in those zones. It's one PS representing every state just like the Ministers.

Sorry about your situation. She can never change because her narcissistic lenses are twisted. She is the one that will leave, because to her mind she won the battle. I married one and she almost like this, I got tired of everything, she literally stinks when I set my eyes on her. Eventually, she created a drama and ran with my children in a way I didn't figure out initially. This is three years, and half since she left.

noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they ed her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

Sorry about your situation. She can never because narcissistic lenses are twisted. She is the one that will leave, because to she won the battle. I married one and she almost like this, I got tired of everything, she literally stints when I set my eyes on her. Eventually, she created a drama and ran with my children in a way I didn't figure initially. This is three years, and half since she left.

noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they ed her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

You might have married a narcissist.They don't change, just run your dear life. All the best.=MyOleSolksjaer post=106474372]Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never ed the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered reg because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.[/quote]

MIM77:
Sorry about your situation. Its unfortunate, you married somebody with full blown NPD. Pls google it. I nearly died in the toxic relationship of nearly a decade. I realized what happened to me after she ran away. Im in my healing process from the prolonged abuse. Forgive yourself, its not your fault. Once again, google NPD and you will see everything that happened to you. Sorry and take care of yourself.

Ehyah! Sorry to all of us that suffered in the hands of this devious creatures. Mine ran away with my three kids. Just like you, I realized what happened to me after the discard. When I started reading about Narcissism on quota, it was like I was reading the biography of my life. It was a horrendous experience, but it educated me so much. I suffered Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder C-PTSD that almost killed me, if not for the knowledge I got from quora. I have so well now. May God bless quora.

Be wary of Narcissist, they are psychologically disordered human beings that will never change. There are 3 Stages:
Stage1 (Love bombing or Idealism stage)
When you meet at the beginning, they will put up good qualities that will make you feel you have met your soulmate. They will shower you with all manners of gifts so early that will make you say, this is too good to be true. They will rush you into a very serious relationship or marriage. After settling down in a relationship, within a month, you will start seeing the true villain in them. The moment you start questioning their excesses and holding them able for their wrongs, they will quickly swing to stage 2.

Stage 2 (Devaluation stage) At this stage they will start deploying their arsenals like, lying, smear campaign, manipulation, silent treatment, gaslighting, blame shifting, put downs etc against you to project you as the villain to the public including your family and friends. At this stage they have started cheating on you and will even accuse you of doing same. This stage will be full of psychological and physical warfare on a constant basis all in a bid to protecting the 'falseself'. The victim by now would have known the Narc inside out and that's what they hate because they hate truth with ion.

Stage 3 (Discard stage) The features of Stage 2 at this stage would have reached the peak and the Narc would have secured a new replacement. The Narc will now be planning on how to brutally discard the victim. The discard by the Narc is imminent to avoid narcissistic injury (i.e. where the reverse is the case).

Note: Don't be hasty, when a new partner is to fast, slow down the speed of the relationship and shine your eyes. They are very sneaky, subtlety devious and cunny.

R2bees:
Once you figure them out they will flee. Although I feel Empaths need them at some point in their life. They tend to speed up awakening/enlightenment in Empath. Did you notice how you become fully aware and enlightened after your encounter with one?. Now I have mastered their crafts, I can smell them from afar. Like you said a fully aware Empath is a Narcissist worst nightmare.

Their fleeing away is the 3rd Stage of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) called Discard stage. This stage is the terminal point of the entire fraud. Mine created a drama around 2am with all manners of abuses,lying, blameshifting etc as she had been doing in the last 8 years. She threatened to leave and i said let her be, surprisingly, she left to our neighbours house and cooked up lies about me. It was in the morning my neighbour was telling me about all the lies, by then she had left the estate. One thing about Narcs is that before they discard they would have secured another prospective victim who will also suffer what you have suffered. Life with a Narc is like hell on earth. Living with a Narc is like living in a toxic waste bin.

Sorry about your situation. Its unfortunate, you married somebody with full blown NPD. Pls google it. I nearly died in the toxic relationship of nearly a decade. I realized what happened to me after she ran away. Im in my healing process from the prolonged abuse. Forgive yourself, its not your fault. Once again, google NPD and you will see everything that happened to you. Sorry and take care of yourself.

Try this line: 08065414448

Bigajeff:
How old is Atiku?

He was born in 1946 (72 Years old).

The total number of delegates is 4000 and the total of the figures you have there is over 40000. Na wa for you wo!

Temporarily, baa! When he grows up and knows himself, he will trace his roots and will be responsible to know what name to bear. He may even disagree with you if you try to incite him against his father. Blood is blood.

vanbonattel:
APC online rats will cling on this straw to stay afloat, but APC losing in 2019 is sure.

Nothing is impossible with politicians. Anything your brain can imagine about them, it can happen. Bottom line, they are all the same.

Sleezwizz:
Nice


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obailala:
I couldn't find anywhere in that report where Utomi made the quote used as the title of this report.

Silly journalists imposing their interpretations and thoughts on people.

Was trying to correlate between the caption and the content when i got to your post because the posters b4 u dwelled on the caption instead of the content. Sentiments is the cog in our wheel of progress. May God bless Nigeria.

Trut:
The Nigeria Science & Technology minister looks like BABALAWO.

Are you referring to Dr Ogbonaya Onu or Adebayo Shittu?

greatmen:
Honestly I would vote Gej at list he had an economic strong team and it wouldn't be this horrible, we are heading to the abyss for the stupid ones trying to sugar coat it Nigeria has never been like this not even during military dictatorship

The then Coordinating Minister of the Economy, Ngozi Okonjo Iweala foresaw what we are going through now because oil price was in a continuous decline. Why didn't the strong economic team solve the economic issues bedeviling Nigeria? ANS: They couldn't because they were not in control of the price of crude oil which was and still the major foreign exchange earner. The same Economic team that was borrowing to pay salary when oil price/barrel was 65 dollars, more than 10 dollars above the budget benchmark of 53 dollars cannot do magic now.
The problem we are going through now stemmed from our over dependence on crude oil and over importation. The solution to our present predicament which is diversification of the economy does not yield result in few months or years. Even if you bring the best economic team in the world, things will not turnaround at the speed of light. May God bless Nigeria.

ugwusunday:
Amen oo, if una like make una sell am #200 per liter. God go dey provide money for me wey i go use buy amm

I love your mindset.

ZUBY77:


Really?


And all these while, I thought Surrey is in the UK.
How did she make it past New York Immigration undetected?

Its actually a mix up, even though i read one junk news somewhere that she went for the children's graduation in the US. Surrey is actually in the UK. Note that, wasn't trying to defend anybody but to across the information i got which eventually was a junk.

ZUBY77:
We want to see a copy of the email or we want to see Aisha in USA.
We are not interested in this hide and seek play.

Aisha was in US for her children's graduation from the University of Surrey. What about that?

otitokoroleti:
I think dat op is high on expired tramadol soaked in regal dry gin for giving credit to fashola on lagos-ibadan expressway. I ed that road twice a week infact I just returned from Lagos less than 2hrs today. GEJ awarded the contract & the work was going smoothly until bubu destabilized everything which makes work stop. Though RCC is back to work for the construction but they now use equipment & man power lesser than what we see during GEJ days

The entire Capital vote for the Federal Ministry of Works in 2015 Appropriation Act was N19, 812, 000, 000 (Nineteen Billion, Eight Hundred and Twelve million Naira). With this meager money for capital projects, little or nothing was paid to the contractor handling Lagos-Ibadan expressway, so they left site because of paucity of funds not that Bubu stopped them. Stop misinforming people because of unhealthy sentiments and gather your information before you talk on an issue. Visit www.budgetoffice.gov.ng and click on Appropriation Act 2015 to confirm the above figure and make your judgement on why so many projects naturally stopped during the 2015 budget year, bearing in mind that the projected revenue for FG was short by not less than N600, 000, 000, 000 (Six Hundred Billion Naira) because of the sharp drop in the oil price. The Projected oil price per barrel based on the 2015 budget was 53 dollar/barrel and between August 2015 and March, 2016 the highest oil price per barrel was 48.86 dollars and the lowest was around 28 dollars (Average drop in price was nothing less 10 dollars/barrel in 8 months). visit www.cbn.gov.ng, click on Statistics and thereafter 'crude oil price'. for oil prices/per barrel for 2015.

Peacetemi:
Islam is a religion of violence, it has been a religion of violence since the days of mohammed and it will forever be a religion of violence. All the terrorist groups in the world are islamists, yet some people will come out to say it's a religion of peace. Peace my arse!! As long as there is Islam, there'll never be peace in the world. Truth hurts.

There would always be Islam and Christianity in this world. None of the religions can convert the other 100%. As painful as this act is, there is no gain deepening negative feelings against eachother cos doing so can only breed more of such acts (God 4bid). Pray that God removes the negative feelings that give birth to this ugly act in Jesus name. May God bless Nigeria.

catlova2:


im trying to talk like a wailer sir

Thought as much, actually wanted to be sure of what you meant. Trully, the logo of a dogged wailer was flashing in my mind. Cheers, wailer!

catlova2:
This buhari sef. Hw can u blame jonathan for pdp crisis.


PDP wailers wetin una see abt this one oooo

Is it Ogbulafor or Buhari that is blaming Jonathan on Pdp's crisis?

chat2deen:
Defence-> Gen Olanisakin (North)?
Navy-> iral Ibokwe (North)?
FRSC-> Boboye Oyeyemi (North)?

Chief of Def. Staff>South
CNS>South
FRSC>South

In a period of dwindling revenue to all the tiers of government, instead of buying cheaper cars that have low cost of fueling and maintenance, our politicians are only thinking of living large. I pity Nigerian politicians with their patterns of reasoning. Imagine, my state, Taraba, whose IGR per annum is not up to an LGA's IGR in Lagos State buying Jeeps for Commissioners and House of assembly for 10ths of millions/unit. Meanwhile full salaries and allowances are not paid. May God change the reasoning patterns of our leaders.

slap1:


Keep making a fool of yourself.

There is no foolishness in his post. They are all facts, cos i vividly when all these were unfolding.

Diamond Bank.