NewStats: 3,259,507 , 8,170,367 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 11:44 AM 5yi14

If you don't want to feel bothered anymore or don't want your bother to escalate after this thread, you've to know that there's a difference between:

- Caring not about what people think or say about you

And

- Doing what you know is right and not care about what inconsequential/small-minded/biased people think or say about you

The former will make you become a controversial person; of course, it takes crassness and expediency - opportunism - to sustain a controversial lifestyle. Unfortunately, behind any controversial person you see, anywhere, is a customer of depression and unhappiness in secret - forget about whatever cheering posture they may display to the outside world.

Meanwhile, the latter will give you inner peace, fulfillment, confidence, etc. Your open critics will be your greatest ires in secret. However, unlike a controversial person, who'll have a lot of sycophants and frenemies masquerading as ires and friends giving them a false sense of importance, you'll likely walk alone or with a few reliable people in this lane. That's the price you'll pay when you take to conscientiousness.

Now you know this, choose for yourself a path that suits you well.

That woman doesn't have an altruistic interest in you, so discard her with immediate effect, even if you have the wherewithal to solely and comfortably cater for a family; unless you're the type of man who takes pleasure in using servility, trick, or brutality to sustain a relationship. Funnily, if you tell her "as the head of the house" to resign from her work, or forget the idea of taking up a job that will make her spend more time away from the house and will prevent her from taking good care of the home and offspring, she won't and will call you an oppressor.

Fairness can't be good enough to her, and she'll resist oppression, so you'll sustain the marriage with servility for peace to reign, that's bad, thereby subjecting yourself to emotional and mental unhealthiness. You'll unwittingly become a nag. She's your frenemy.

bukatyne:


Ha! Abeg o! I am still a very young lady .

Happy Sunday to you also.

Lol, I knew beforehand that the phrase "even before Nigeria got her independence" would horrify you.

Stay blessed.

bukatyne:


Since you decided NOT to respect yourself and solicit sex from her, enjoy your disrespect.

You have not controlled and respected yourself, you are looking for respect.

Mama de mama, who's been making sense even before Nigeria got her independence; Happy Sunday.

You're a biased child. The position you've taken suggests that you're in of your mother doing anything she desires, regardless of whether or not her desires are good or bad and even if they will affect your father negatively. Only a man - or woman - who's sick will condone the opportunistic actions of their spouse towards them in particular and others in general - servility is a disease. Perhaps, you don't know the value of dignity and peace of mind.

Well, let your mother know that freedom without decorum is a disease. It's sick people who exercise their freedom outside the confines of conscientiousness in the name of owning a right to their liberty, and it's equally also sick people who them.

Meanwhile, perhaps, it could've been palatable if your father had retaliated differently, so I don't hold brief for him. Advise both of them to take to conscientiousness to enable mutual peace of mind for all involved.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I obviously didn't quote you. So, I wonder why you had to jump into my mention to get my attention, which of course I won't be dignifying. I know you seem pained from the last fracas we had, but then, I cannot be faulted. You asked for it, and I gave you in full dose.

Don't use derogatory words with me because you don't want us to go down that lane. You will get badly burnt. And this is obviously the last time I will be granting you a mention. Have a great day.

Lol. Truth hurts. Besides, I don't having a fracas with you or any other inconsequential element; I mean, if I were to have a fracas with anyone, it wouldn't be with someone who's among the worst elements around. "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it" - George Bernard Shaw.

hollah123:
I really won't blame u,your father was a simp so u see it as no big deal but where I come from it's a taboo.
there are better ways to show love than ridiculing yourself

Let me indulge you once more. A man who won't wash his woman's pants when she's terribly sick, for instance, without an alternative option in sight, is worse than an idiot. Bumpkins like you do make me laugh.

Meanwhile, if a man of advanced age with a firsthand mountainous global relationship experience and who has neither experienced heartbreak from a woman nor fallen to a woman's manipulation before is what it means to be a simp, then I'm a proud simp. LOL.

hollah123:
your wife will agree with you now cos it's to her advantage but she will never her own son washing another woman's pant.

Did u see your dad washing your mom's pant while growing up?
will u b proud to wash your mom's pant in d presence of your mom?
or better still,if u tell your mom u wash your wife pant do u think she will be happy?

Direct your questions to small-minded people like you or to the bumpkins who brought you into this world.

mariahAngel:


What about a conscientious girlfriend?

Lol, the difference between a conscientious girlfriend and a conscientious wife is the absence of conventional/cultural formalization of the former, so she deserves it.

Personally, it's not a big deal, provided that he's done it voluntarily - it could be part of him being a conscientious husband. However, only a conscientious wife deserves such treatment, so if you aren't a conscientious wife, shame unto him.

Chief Emmanuel Iwuanyanwu is his brother-in-law.

TheRealProphet:
wetin dis man mean na say "women dey dangerous and make men dey careful"

No, I didn't say that "women" are dangerous; instead, I said that "opportunistic women" are dangerous - of course, opportunistic men are dangerous too. By the way, opportunistic people aren't to be feared but either crushed temporarily or permanently.

I doff my hat to all conscientious people.

The worst thing that will ever happen to any man who has a good intention is to wine and dine closely with an opportunistic woman - be it a disingenuous or haughty one. In her small-mindedness, her expedient actions and inactions make her a clever woman.

The spiritual and marital aspects of your problem notwithstanding, are you a CORBON member?

Self-absorbing people - from both genders have always feel pained about rejection since time immemorial. In fact, his intention to give her a pricey award with her toxic character shows that he isn't just only small-minded but also servile and undiscerning.

The reason is simply because you haven't conquered yourself emotionally - you've low emotional quotient.

FFK is a well known self-absorbed man - self-absorption and opportunism are inseparable; so, his crass and expedient actions haven't been a surprise to any discerning person.

If you've good intention, wine and dine closely with an opportunist - be it a disingenuous or haughty one - at your peril.

An environment doesn't inherently change someone's ethical leanings. I wager more than 99.5% the people who've given you advice are either subjects of their host countries or haven't crossed the shores of Nigeria. Know thyself and make sure you're going into equity with clean hands - if real marriage is your target with her - then hack her mind and know her true character. If her ethical leanings align towards conscientiousness, marry her, provided that you're ready to stay conscientious.

Don't base your interest in her on material things or what you intend to gain from her; rather, base it on your continual ability to cheerfully maintain and sustain her core interest in you, because that's the surest way to have a wife who'll move mountains for you.

Meanwhile, discard her if you observe any trace of self-absorption in her, even if she doesn't mete out such against you at the moment, because she'll definitely do in the near future, unless you derive pleasure in servility. Don't mortgage your liberty because of paper, because you can easily get one at a cheaper rate with your liberty intact.

onyechez:

So because of 50,000 naira was gifted to her that's why she went on social media to announce to the whole world. Mumu people full Nigeria.

A typical product of failed education; I don't expect a bumpkin like you and your ilk to comprehend my post. Now you can direct your further mention to the bumpkins who brought you into this world because I won't dignify you with another response.

Elder0001:
Taking simping to a whole new level.

He's even a better version of you because, unlike you, it seems he's a bit financially OK. Whenever I see someone like you, who was killing yourself over my reject, calling another man "simp," I do feel irritated. Only men who have conquered themselves have the right to call other men simp. Emotional, moral, and psychological low quotient men like you should always be ashamed of yourselves. Bumpkin.

An opportunist like her can only have her way when dealing with undiscerning or servile people.

Quasi-balderdash! Only a conscientious wife deserves fairness or royal treatment - the good thing is that she won't take pleasure in insulting you, provided that you're conscientious. Paying the bills, as a husband, should be done for the pleasure of it as it's the right to do not because you want to dominate her. However, an opportunistic wife - be it a haughty or disingenuous opportunistic wife - deserves no fairness but continual slap, physically, emotionally, psychologically, and financially.

If you must pick the bills before you can dominate your wife/your wife will submit to you, you simply have a frenemy and should always treat her as such.

MondayUche:
Thank you so much please as long as is something that will help my life please help because my heart is very heavy right now and I can as well do anything to make sure I defeat this poverty that is taking over my family. Tell me about the cryptography please here is my whatsapp number 08070751915 please explain to me and I will grab immedately thanks

Your basic knowledge of it is the prerequisite of what I intend to teach you from afar, so the absence of it - as evident in your reply - means there's nothing I can do under the circumstance.

Stay strong and focused; there's always light at the end of a tunnel.

Let me know if you've basic knowledge of cryptography so that I can tell you what to do to change the financial story of your life immediately.

Credible election, partially yes. Unfortunately, it won't help much to elect credible leaders. The sure way to organize credible elections and elect credible leaders lies with the ability of the masses to eschew expediency and embrace principle. We've fundamental problems.

Submission is of the wife, while love is of the husband, and deference is of both towards each other.

An MSc in Petroleum, Energy Economics and Finance won't hurt, especially if you intend to return to the country immediately after your studies. And depending on a few factors, your wish for an MSc in a school in the US, Canada, or Australia could become a reality, your obvious insufficient funds notwithstanding. Let me know if you're not above 22 years.

The sin of familiarity is as bad as the sin of self-absorption.