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This is exactly the problem! After paying all these for marriage, if the husband started treating her badly, the family will start complaining whereas, you sold her to him..

Exactly why a dad said he won't collect a thing called bride price on his daughters.. cuz he ain't selling them.

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Exactly 😂. The next thing, you are accused of rape. Then you are doomed🙂

burp18:
spent quality time together just staring at each other and smiling. It feels like first time everytime.

Exactly!. Just true love that's all.

Yankee101:
Let’s say comfortable, not broke
Don’t go and carry another man’s daughter into suffering.

Exactly some girls are doing well before getting married, all for them to get married too the guy that's not doing so well, and they end up being totally miserable. No parents wants that for their daughter.. It's all parents happiness for their daughter to have a peaceful marriage. So they should stop saying girls are marrying guys that are rich or whatever. It's not necessarily too be rich. But just be a little good on your own. That's all..

And yes, it’s much much much harder to marry when rich, especially if you have no ulterior motive ( like marrying a girl that jilted you, or the prettiest girl, or a rich or connected man’s daughter etc)

IamKizzbrown10:


i disagree with you don't mention every woman, because girls on their early twenty don't even care about love all the want is money to live like their fav so don't be decieve

Y'all should stop saying "all girls". How many girls out there do you know . Everyone gets what they want. If you want a partner that will be with you no matter what situation you are, You will definitely get it... So stop attacking anyone who lay out their opinion, you all have the Right too your opinion. And everyone opinion is respected. Stop being rude. You guys here, think any girl that comment here is going through some shit. Y'all should stop that mentality Ok!

LilX:




If you ain't jealous, you won't have commented . The truth is bitter

Point of correction "jealousy" isn't supposed to be used here. What exactly brought about this "jealousy" you keep talking about.. and besides, I commented cuz I was in "awe" when I see you are actually proud of that.. it's just a common sense to be proud about being a better person in life. Being the kind of person that motivate others into being how you turned out.
Not being an example of "sex tool"



End of discussion
Thanks

omooba969:


Na man go still knack you, na him go still chest your bills - na man go still give you belle.

Not those asshole of men tho...

If you have money and you don't know how to use it, you are gonna end up penniless. Cuz you will keep using money to find power and you will always end up being ripped off... Just take a look at the "olden days" the most respectful elders are not respected because of their money.. they are respected because of their power. No one can dare too disrespect them, cuz they all know the consequences. And they can also aquire money if they want too, but they just don't have so much desire for that. Cuz they think it all amount too nothing at the end of the day.

Papayaayasager:


You should be worried cos soon the E/A ladies will soon take us all o!

Why would we be worried..?? I still have to worried about myself.. why would I be worried about someone else.??

Jeon:


Yes, they have to be proud..
This is also the only positive good news about them.

Exactly 😂😂 since they are called scammers, drug addicts, gamblers, killing, using someone else for ritual, stealing, abeg the name plenty. So they really have to be proud....

LilX:



What have Nigerian women ever been complimented about by other countries if not for greed, money! Nothing! Keep being jealous

😂😂 Jealous of who. ..? Who is looking for y'all compliment..? Just keep dreaming....

Goodnigga:
that is my domain though. Law of biological attraction is actually different from law of mental attraction. You don't necessarily get what u are like cos polar opposite attract. However, for law of mental attraction to work for you, you have to possess these qualities yourself .

Well I do think you are wrong tho. Human aren't animals. And besides the "law of attraction" am talking about isn't about that. Polar opposite do attract each other but does the attraction last You see lots of abusive marriage, the husband is beating up the wife this minute, and the second minute they laugh it off like nothing ever happened if he apologized to her. Like Tf.?? People will start saying how can a woman marry an animal and call it a husband.. but you don't have to judge, all you have to do is look closely and you will see they kinda have the same attitude. Whatever the husband attitude is, you also see part of it in the wife also. And so does the wife attitude too. The couple that aren't compatible one bit, are the one's that end up killing one another. Cuz one has too be gone for the other too be free. If you see any couples that are together till date just know that they are compatible in one way or the other.
So back to your question. If you does not possess the qualities you are looking for in a partner, you will never be compatible for each other. And if you aren't ready too be in a "life and death" situation always go for the person that is similar to you in so many ways, that way both of you can come to a understanding on particular stuffs.

Goodnigga:
brilliant response and fantastic qualities. Do you have those qualities and can you provide them in a relationship?

Do you know a thing called "Law of attraction"
It means you only attract what you are like and will definitely get what you are like.

I guess that answer your response.

Goodnigga:
what else do you want from a man yourself as a Nigerian girl apart from the above mentioned

I don't want s*x from you. That doesn't define shit.
Respectful
Humble
Confidence
Honestly
Ambitious
Reserved
And your love for me
That's what I want from a man. How can sex be part of qualitys..? Sorry but if you think what all girls want from y'all are sex you need to be Specific Ok!.

Jeon:



Who are the you? And who's complaining?
[color=#000000][/color]It's because of those things I avoid y'all like plague .
So next time please be specific OK! .

Exactly you are right. They really need to be avoided. She is complimenting them for having sex around and they are proud of it..??
Tf..? Does that even count as a compliment?. And she also mentioned generosity. What exactly are they generous about ?? She needs to be specific. Complimenting someone for sex means that's the only thing you are good at not for anything else. And they are proud about it .?

talk2hb1:

Those are my Opinions in Bold

I think we have another sane person here🥲

Cypress042:


Don't let anyone deceive you, boobs and ass are never qualities.

You are the only sane person that reply to this post🥲

flexlatifa:
E be like nature cheat his girl ooh

😂😂 Cheat who.?? Dey play 🥲

Hope they are still guys that sees other quality's in a woman than ' breast and yansh" . No matter where they were asked , "90 percent" will say those two. They don't even wanna know if she has morals, good behavior, reserved, smart, humble, there are a lot of quality one can look for in a partner, but sadly what most Nigerian guys sees is those two. I don't even know the essence of having those two in excess. When at the end one is used for "Extraction" the other is used for "Breastfeeding". I just don't know their problem with someone else's body.

Well that's just how some girls do. And believe me they don't only do it fo

Lurdd:
So there's this girl I approached three weeks ago
She's pretty, we've been speaking on phone, I have already taken her out.. we've been chatting very often, we confessed love to each other.
Now the problem is she always flash me,
For once since we started speaking on phone has she call me with her airtime.. I've recharged her 1k airtime 5 times since we met still
She always flash me...she can flash me up to 15 miss calls at once and anytime I want to pick up the call, she'll immediately cut it. It still baffles me what this girl does with the whole airtime I've been sending her. And She works too. Even as I write this she has flashed me now. I confronted her to know what's going on. Her only excuse was that she uses her airtime to sub for data.
Seeing all of this has already turned me off
I stopped calling her on Saturday to know if she'll change and for once call me with her airtime..
But no she proved me wrong
She's still flashing me up till date.
I like this girl but this attitude of hers is so irritating.. and this is a very big red flag for me
Am already loosing interest in her
Landers advise me on what to do

Well that's just how some girls behave, and believe me they don't only act that way towards their boyfriend, they also do it for their girl friend too. And Tbh it's very annoying, I kinda find time to call and talk to you, but you can't do the same? That means you don't value me as much as I value you. So just let it go. You can try talking it out with her, but if it still doesn't work.. just let it go fr. It's just not gonna work out. Have seen a lot like this, it's gonna end with a break up if you don't end it , after she decides not to change that attitude.

Romanoff:
Women dey marry rubbish abeg.

I swear. He isn't even grateful that she and the baby is alive and well. All he is talking about is his " money" and " respect" how can a man be thinking about respect when what matter most now is the health of the child and mother.. he even used the word "tame" that is use for only wild animals. How can you tame a person. Your wife for that matter? Some men are really asshole. Now he is here asking for advice. Like who give a f*ck??
All the woman need right now is much love. And he can't even do that for her and he is talking about respect. Respect ko respect Nii. Shior.

rockyh:
then you are not ready for marriage ,if you are then you submit your totality to your husband. Accord your husband the respect he deserves and don't be deceived by feminist attitude.no man marries a woman he wants to enslave truth is that you see correction as slavery because you don't want to accept his position in your life.if you are married to someone like me that dislikes piercing and you insist to it then the marriage is gone,you defile my authority and I will always see you as a prostitute that is how I see ladies with two upper piercing on their ears and I will see you same way.this is an example of what yo see as slavery but you forget that it is called sacrifice and respect to your spouse and not slavery as you see it.

Ok now you talking about piercing. If I told you to stop betting. That I hate betting would you stop.?
And fyi I don't do all this piercing stuffs.. and it's not all about defiling authority or all those shit. A wife respect her husband but does he respect his wife opinion.? You guys aren't just ready to accept the fact that African men doesn't listen to their wife. They think they are the king and the wife is some minions. As a man you must respect a woman. But that word "respect" is long gone now. Not now that they see woman as a slut and some other shit words. A woman body belongs to her no matter what she does with it, it's her body not for some asshole to judge. Then that wives respect their husbands, their husbands also know that all this world stand because there is a woman, without a woman there is no world. But now men calls woman all sort of word like they aren't brought into the world by one. That's why you know those asshole people by their words, their is no need to reply them. Just leave them be with there madness.

The lady in question here doesn't know what she want. Maybe she thinks the guy has money that's why she went for a visit, and only ended up being used to the guys satisfaction. I don't know why ladies nowadays don't give values to themselves. Even if you guys are dating you shouldn't just give access to your body that easily,unless they see you as a LovePeddler, slut or those kind of shit. It's because nowadays because of materia things girls are willing to open there leg for whatever. But that's wrong, that makes guys think we have nothing to offer than s*x.Tf*..?? Hell no. As long as you owe him nothing, he also owe you nothing. Just because you are dating doesn't mean he have to take care of all your needs..? You have your parents to do that for you and you also have yourself. Why must he carry your burden you are not married and even if you are married, you still got to take care of yourself not waiting for another person to do that for you.
And back to the question. Is not about marrying a man who can't afford what you can for yourself. Are you expecting him to do miracles.? Even when you can't afford something for yourself, why must he be the one too..? You must be doing okay yourself before looking for a man that's as okay as you.. that's the only way the equation can balance. What if he can afford it but he doesn't love you.? What if everything you do irritate him? Is not all about money. Loves comes first , then you can talk about money. Not the other way around.

Michelle55:
Wahala for those in relationships! Those of us sleeping soundly with a huge smile on our faces, let's gather here mbok.😂😂😂🌝

Like seriously 😂😂 na peace of mind 🥲

Jeyun:
this one na one of them. From their utterances u shall know them. Abeg better u remain single or at worse u marry a white man leave our culture and heritage for us potential divorcy. Africa is Africa Europe is Europe they cannot rap us in everything under the guise of civilization. U can marry your fellow woman if u don't mind it part of their way of life.

And this are the part of ones that sees a woman as slave. you can never see a fellow slave. You can be on the lookout for one maybe you will see. Nonsense who is talking about civilization here. Am talking about understanding. I think you really need to fix your brain. But there is no need too. there is "law of attraction" in everything so you shall see your type there is no need to pour your mentality here.

rockyh:
An unsubmissive lady whether educated or not is the major reason for divorce from a man's perceptive.

Exactly. What men want is a slave that will do whatever is told to do. Am no slave and you aren't my master. Marriage is all about understanding but Nigerian men doesn't want that, they think it all have to be them that make the call of whatever that's gonna happen in the house. And that was then, when men think they are king and women are slaves but that era has ed it's better to break up than to be in a " master and slave relationship".

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A lady must marry the person who loves her not the person she loves. That's the only way she will be treated better. And besides as a lady how will you marry a person that has no source of income or some that doesn't even want to do anything than looking for women that are already wealthy?. As a lady you must be financially okay on your own before marrying, unless the man that's okay when you married him will go on saying you married him because of his money. If you are doing financially okay yourself you can't marry a man that's lower than you financially. That's it
And that's why must wealthy ladies can't seems to find the right husband cuz most of the "so called husband" are just out to scam them. Most black men aren't happy when there women are doing okay than them. They say she ought to be "arrogant". That's why they want a woman that's lower than them so she can be obedient and do whatever she is told to do. In the fear of he won't be giving the little money he ought to give for feeding. That's just men's mentality. And until you see a man that truly loves you, it's better to just stay single.

It's not that relationship is that hard. It's just that no one wants to be the victim. Men think most girls now are prostitute and on the lookout for better one's. And as a ladies you don't want to marry men that as nothing too offer. They smoke, bet, drink, sleep with whatever comes their way and some aren't even financially stable. Ladies ought to get married but men's have the mindset that no matter how old they are it's not too late for them. So how is it supposed to work out??
Everyone is just on their own.

Think9ja:

Because it's my birthright as a potential family man
Nature has bestowed on me that privileged to break at least one cherry. I don't need to do anything else.

No hymen, no marriage

😂😂 You guys are really funny.. "nature has bestowed bla bla... Y'all think a girl that's a virgin is everything. What about victims of rape? What about those that were deceived? What make you think you guys can have sex with whatever in skirt and be running your mouth anyhow online? That all girls are" bla bla bla". Just shut it and face reality you can't have your with girls and hoping to settle with the best of all.. It's not gonna happen the only guys that deserves a girl "virginity" is the ones that are in their right mind. That doesn't sleep with anything at anywhere. The ones that keeps themselves reserved and know they want a partner just like them.
Those are the only that can dream of having a virgin. the other ones that has lost the number of their body count should keep dreaming about what they will never see .

Think9ja:
First things first..

Is she a virgin?

Is the cherry intact?


I don't give a fvck about any other thing.


Give me the only thing you can give to only one man in this life.

Anything else is inconsequential

Why do you think you deserve it..?

Tzar:
Comparing Male & female promiscuity is more complex than that.
I agree that you should not deliberately pick up women, deceive them into loving you and giving you their bodies, then dump them.
However, one of the key qualities women desire in men is sexual experience. This experience is acquired mostly from having real time sex and voraciously learning about the body of a woman. No woman likes an inexperienced man in bed.
On the other hand, men love when a woman is sexually inexperienced, but willing to learn from her man. Too much sexual experience from the woman is usually a turn off for most men. Simps don’t really mind, because every sexual encounter is like they have won a lottery. But for high value men, they cannot deal with a woman with a history of promiscuity for long term relationships. Women usually love a man they can learn new things from… especially in bed. On the other hand, a man will feel insecure if it is his woman that keeps teaching him stuff in bed. Even the woman will get tired of teaching.
So my dear, you see why men may want virgins or sexually inexperienced women. It boosts our ego to be the teacher and leader. It does not look fair that promiscuity is judged differently, but it is what it is.

so what if you are the one that dis virgin her... It has no meaning just because you are "her first" doesn't mean she wouldn't have sex with tons more. Is it only sex you can teach your wife..? Must you lives revolve around "sex".? Must you sleep with tons of woman just so you can teach your "so called wife" in bed..?? That mentality is wrong. I can never settle for a Man that is "body count' can't be named. He has nothing to offer you than disease.

Tzar:
Males & Females can not be held to the same sexual standards because we are different. Women are supposed to be the prized and valuable party that men are supposed to a hurdle to get. Will you go through thick and thin for junk?
As a man you are expected to
1.Make enough money and status to be attractive to women
2 Initiate conversations with women
3. Develop the skills to woo the girl to like you
4. largely fund the relationship
5. take the lead when it comes to how to make the relationship interesting, progressive and worth it for the woman.
6. Be ready to protect and provide for the woman, even at the expense of your life as a man.
7. Accept many rejections from women regardless of these efforts.
If you can’t do these as a man most women will leave you. Some women are masculine enough to take the lead in getting a man, however, such dynamics doesn’t make a healthy one because it is unnatural. Most simps loose their women eventually, because women quickly get tired of playing the masculine role.
Now imagine going through all these hurdles as a man, only to realize that the woman you slaved to get was a community tramp?

You are right. As a women you can't allow just anyone inside of you. Like why the hell would you get inside of me..?! But you forgot something as a man.. you can't just have your way with a lot of girls.. do what you want with them and dump them when you want, and in the end when you want to get married you are looking for a virgin.. You can't see that cuz "what goes around comes around" And Note* no well trained woman and respected one would ever settle down for a man that you no he is the worst asshole ever in the past. So any man that sleep around with anything that has skirt can't expect to marry a good woman cuz in the end you only attract your like.