NewStats: 3,264,872 , 8,184,958 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 04:26 PM 37d3w

@ Ugo:

The two are of equal impotance to me. But perhaps love slightly more than work. I know definitely that I can not survive as housewife, infact that love will quickly fade cos I will be so bored, But I also know how important it is to have someone to share one's dreams and aspirations with. So for me, both are of paramount importance, the challenge is how to balance the two succesfully.

Both! A succesful career without a happy home equals a not completely happy person, and vice versa. So I'll go for both

@ White Nkem: 10x!

@Abstarr: "Nobody that's strong in their faith would want to see their kids grow up otherwise"

Hi Abstarr! Tell me, because Justice Oputa was a distinguished jurist, should he have forced Charly Boy to become a lawyer? Because I believe strongly in something should I force my child to believe in it too. Beyond the requisite responsiblity of the parent to teach the child to walk, I think the choice of the style of walking should be left to the child. Meaning; having taught your child to love, trust and honour God; difference between good and bad etc you've done your part as a dutiful parent, leave the child to his or her destiny for God's sake. Why should we play God in our children's lives. Children are God's gift to parents for them to love and care. GIFT ok? Not PROPERTY or BELONGING that you have absolute power over.

However, this is not to say that I do not realise the challenges an inter- religious marriage would pose for both the couple and their children. Both of them need to arrive at an understanding( before marriage) on how they both want their children to be raised, how to they intend to express their individual beliefs within the marriage etc. Yes I agree it will need some ironing out, but what I'm saying is that virtually every marriage has/ had differences that have/had to be resolved. It's not possible for two people with different backgrounds, characters experiences etc to come together without some issues arising. Religious difference should not be treated as a grandmaster problem but like every other problem that arises between a man and a woman, c'est finis!

@Aishatu: I get the feeling you're starting to consider letting go of the second guy. ou say he's not a fanatic, I don't think you are too or you wouldn't have fallen in love with a christian, has he asked to change your religion, are his family saying after marriage you have to change? Well,you're the one wearing the shoe and you know where it pinches. All the best!

Seun, pls what I need to know is how to start a thread. I thought i just did now; previewed and all that but I don't know where it entered. The moment I changed the page I couldn't find it again.

Well Aisha, it's clear that you are very much in love with this second guy. Quite alrite, especially since he's been around for four years. That to me is enough time for any guy to mess up if he will. I understand your family's stance because I'm also a muslim and I know how much muslim parents want their children to marry within the religion. Especially if your parents are respected elders within the muslim community, men, you should get ready for second world war.

But if the guy is worth the trouble, I will fight that war and damn the consequences. After all you are the one who will live within the marriage, not your family. Your happiness comes before any other consideration. The rule is love your neighbour (in this case, your family) as you love yourself, not more than you love yourself. So don't turn yourself into a victim of circumstance, go after your happiness. When Bianca fell in love with Ojukwu, her father practically disowned her. Today, has he not resigned himself to fate? Meanwhile has Biance not been happilymarried all these years? My dear forget sentiments. If for the sake of religion you go and get married to someone you don't love and live an unhappy life till you die, God will ask the angels to flog you for sacrificing the gift of love that he gave you.

If this will help you, I know an Ibo lady(catholic) who went to serve in Maiduguri and fell in love with a muslim guy from the sultanate family. They both insisted they would marry none else but themselves. You know; the Sultanate and Knighted Catholic family- you can imagine the fireworks. These young couple stood their ground. That was 20 years ago. Today, they are not only happily married with children schooling abroad, the guy hasn't married another wife- which you know is most unlike Hausa men.  That's how far love can go,

Thanks a lot Dumsky. Just please tell me (forgive my ignorance) how do I get in touch with the s department?

Hi guys! You don't know how much I've longed for this kind of discussions. Thank you for creating it and for being part of it. Let me warn you in advance that I'm about to launch an avalanche of questions, sorry!:

!. I bought a number of IPOs last year starting with Wapic, Intercontinental and I haven't recieved my certificates. What's the maximum time limit for these certificates?

2. How do I access my cscs online to what what's in it and so on. My broker in Ibadan bought a small amount of UBA shares for me in secondary market and claims to have inputted it in the cscs he claimed he opened for me. Problem is I moved to Abuja shortly after and I've not laid my eyes on the physical cscs form. I've asked him to email it to me or send by courier; no show. He texted the number to me instead saying I can check it online but I don't know how the heck to do that. A friend in another firm here tried to check it for me and said the number is funny, doesn't tally with the usual ones they have. Now I'm trying to give my Ibadan broker the benefit of the doubt cos he's like a family friend.  The shares is not so big for me to start suspecting foul play( atleast I don't think he's that hungry)but I need to know what's goingon with my share. So what do I do?

3. I bought Guaranty's very first IPO many years ago through a First Bank branch in my school then. Till now I not received any single correspondence regarding the shares. No share certificate, bonus certificate, nothing. To compound the problem, I can no longer locate the copy of the teller I used to pay the money. In addition, I've since left school and am now far far away. But seeing GTB now rise to N30+ drives a knife into my heart. Imagine the number of bonuses over the years and how much I should be having therenow. Pls someone tell, is there anyway I can trace and claim these shares of mine?

Sweet T, your posts were quite thoughtful and nice, but you messed up in one aspect; you shouldn't have bothered to reply Ferlie.

Hi all, mine's B.A. Linguistics with a couple of years experience in the electronic media

Hi guys,

I have a question for Cchild. Now that you know oil coys pay so well, would you go for it even if it's an entry level position you are offered?

Hi all, am new here and am trying to find out how to post replies

Hi, i have a B.A in Linguistics and would jobs in the line of corporate affairs/ communictions