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When you marry a wife who doesn't respect you because she contributed significantly in the house building, properties etc and her folks know her contributions, guy you have no absolute control over her, who comes or goes cos your permission is totally insignificant.

But if you build your own house or pay your mortgage and furnish same before importing a wife, guy you become the commander in chief and nothing moves except you order it

Never sell your Pride to a woman.

You better stop her or else those charlatans will deplete her/your financial resources all in a bid to secure for her deliverance or worse still one of the deliverance expert might convince her into adultery . Both of you should go for medical evaluation then counselling to reset her already tampered inhibitions. Therafter both of you should pray fervently for Gods supplication in the area of marital fruitfulness and finally….

Do your work well and hope for the best.


Noto bene: I didn't mean you should stop her going to church, I meant she should stop patronising seers.

Modern day church has changed from the pattern of the old. Nowadays pastors use proceed to build new branches, open educational institutions for the rich, go into well funded businesses and live affluent lifestyles buying exotic cars, private jets etc.

In the old, church proceeds were channeled into pure evangelism in rural areas, building of orphanage homes, award of scholarship to deserving peasants, building of rural education centres making them free, health facilities, rehabilitation centres just anything that could affect the downtrodden in a positive manner.


I was in a catholic church yesterday for a wedding and the church lack air conditioning system but using the old fashioned ceiling fan with the attendant heat it generates when filled to capacity yet the monsignor of the church uses 2012 model of honda….. (thinking) #honda rivalry to the toyota venza.

She is too young to understand relationship.

Here in America, the legal age is 18.

Op, a white man gave you the cold shoulder doesn't translate to racism. In every society there is class or better put social stratification and should we juxtaposed, it then portrayed the white man as seeing you beneath his social status for consideration. In African society it is prevalent even on nairaland ,some persons feels high and above some monikers so they think such monikers doesn't deserve mention.

If the white dude has made derogatory comments towards you after you'd greet him, throw banana at you or stick, then the word 'racism' can be justified but he ignores you and you went on an emotional tantrums displaying anger and inferior complex.

You already built a mindset, deal with it.

Daniyemi:


baba...you only wed once.
And make sure u do it right. Try as much as possible to make it glamorous.
How can u have a gloomy ceremony n call it a wedding? How can your wife look so gloomy and dull?
Baba..calm down!!!!

Christian weddings shouldn't be all expository and glamorous. Except you mean other forms of weddings, a true christian will exercise moderation in exchange of vow.

The quality of a wedding does not guarantee happy marriage. it is ideal one plan for a marriage instead of a wedding cos weddings are generally cosmetics control.

bigtt76:
Issues such as this involving personalities and their families ought to be thoroughly verified and not investigated to avoid libel suits.

She probably pays freelancers for news items thinking she'd be first out with it. same happened to her with Yvonne Nelson and others... She nor de gree learn.

Verified and investigated are in pari pasu as regards this case. The case in question is authentic but Kutis disapproval is on the use of his children picture.

Come make we go wedding, if you catch the flower, there and then I go propose.

bigtt76:
If no ulterior motive, why dig up 8 years old news and post on our blog without confirming from the person involved?

So surprised she didn't carry the news of oppression at MMIA where one man single handedly shut down clearing leaving millions of naira worth of goods at de mercy of the weather

First she is in business before entertainment. It doesn't matter how old the news is, if it is captivating… then it's news worthy. Then again, who solicit the verification or approval of a worthy news before going to press? One can do an investigative journalism but wouldn't seek approval from a 'news maker' to go to press because it may never be granted.

tivta:
You are slow thinking, why would she bring up a matter that happened over 8years ago? Haven't you heard of stale news? Yet she used his biological children as screen picture. Am ashamed of you.

No news is old or stale. As a matter of fact news like this get to be recycled to educate the populace of the need to uphold moral virtues in marriages or face the attendant repercussions which Femi exemplified.

Journalists dig up pictures to give their stories a representation so I don't see where she goofed except the attendant critics it is generating

ccaramel:
She has shamefully deleted the post from her blog....nonsense blogger. Who posts pics of kids all in the name of gossip? Mgbeke will always be an mgbeke. No decorum at all.

Low life.

Why is everyone up against Linda Ikeji? Femi Kuti didn't deny the said story but was only protesting the use of his biological children recent picture to give the story a pictorial representation. The incident happened 8 years ago which Femi collaborate.

Black thread on a black friday.

nduchucks:


Excellent point. I'd even go a bit further. If he had fathered and loved these kids all these years, why not simply keep loving them and treat them as his adopted children? These are not artifacts from a shopping mall; they are children who have loved their father since birth through no fault of theirs. Why destroy them?

Femi is probably just as guilty as the kid's mothers in this case...... As Femi was screwing around, they too were doing the same. So Femi, how many kids have you fathered out of your immoral acts? ehn?

I'm sorry to say that Femi is a heartless baboon!

Fooolish assumptions.

Why will a fertile man father illegitimate children from a deceitful woman? HE CAN ONly be responsible to children he genuinely brought into the world and not one a women deceitfully made his. Since the woman is no longer part of him, she should accept her makings.

incrediblestev:
Femi Kuti himself does not look like he has been responsible himself, he has children from three different women and expects that he wont likely meet a gold digger from one the three children....scheeew!!! Some men need to start taking responsibility for situations that are a direct result of their past reckless life. Don't remove yourself from the situation and act like every woman is a bitch of some sort. If when you were young all you want was a b!cht you will get a B!ch. The only people that should be vexed here are the unfortunate children that are involved with stoopid parents.

Speculations just to apportion blame is inappropriate in this context. The bone of contention now is the matrimonial deceit of an ex wife which in its stead could be the probable condition that necessitated the separation. Until there is a counter claim of deceit from verified source of Femi Kuti escapades and irresponsible behaviour, we should as a matter of moral obligation en this quest in the need to curb promiscuity in our matrimonial homes.

With this trend and our women being abreast of technological improvement to determine absurdity, I think it will go a long way to ameliorate the decadence of spousal fidelity.

Me: "honey I want to have a DNA test of the kids
Wife: "what sort of stopid thought is that? Are you indirectly calling me a LovePeddler?
Me: No darling, I just can't fathom why Dylan is a block head. You are pretty, fair and intelligent and I am handsome, fair and intelligent. Why is our other kids doing well academically and chocolate complexioned dylan isn't ?
Wife: You worry too much. I told you my maternal grandpa is black maybe he took after him. You how I told you the story of him not getting education because of his blockhead? I think he ha reincarnated in our son.
Me: I am just confused!

tpia5:
I pray you stop attacking pastors and their families.

Thank you. Only a true Christian will justify your worthy cause.

Don't be deterred by people who have inferiority complex to express their reservation but hides under mockery to be accepted.

This was an adult audition for our new film: Butty Ccum which took place at a costal park off the popular Miami Beach in Florida USA.

The guy is the legendary porn star, Mr. Travis Trumwell. I took my turn after him.

General Kenneth Minimah should get ready to shoot anything that doesn't look or act like Goodluck Ebele Jonathan on the presidential seat on Thursday and equally seize the government.

whytet01:
what they dnt knw they dnt knw...wike

i bet anything in my life pdp will defeat apc any day any time..you all should watch out

wike will pick an ogoni man as deputy and use someone from kalabari or okirika as campgain director..i talk with fact

if u want to go by upland/riverine issue let me inform u that jux d 4 ikwerre lga alone is 45% of rivers state vote xo if wike picks an ogoni man is over..someone should quote me when is election time.u wil what i said.

Oyibo Local Govt won't vote Amaechi and his cronies. He built a refuse dump factory for them in the heart of the town and the people died with various health complications

Unconfirmed reports has it that the south south committee has obeyed Wike instruction and disqualified me from contesting for the Governor of Rivers state under the PDP.

Reason: I am not a PDP member.

This is madness. I am not a PDP member after I raised hundreds of millions for the party, donated a multi million naira media centre to the national HQ and participated in all affairs of the party I was invited to? Not a member but you collected millions for PDP form. If this decision is true, this marks a low in our state's politics. I will confirm for sure later today but our source are pretty reliable.

My options are to

1. Appeal
2.Quit politics altogether
3. Stay in PDP even though they say I am not one of them
or
4. Go to another party (not APC) and run

While I ponder on the options let me state that my commitment to Good luck Jonathan reelection is strong, PDP or not.

In addition to disqualifying me, Nimi Wilson Jack, Bekinbo Dagogo Jack and Dumo Lulu Briggs were also disqualified just to mention a few.

Tonye Princewill, A Rivers state guber hopeful just updated his Facebook with this report.

chibwike:
Yeah, why wont i correct her....the most important thing is not to sound rude, disrespectful or insultive...buh still the message accross...

And thanks for the compliment, may God bless you sire.

I don't think you have that gut Mr. nice guy.

Amefrica:


Okay bruh!

seem am unsettling your girls. Maybe I should leave

joseph1832:
Mr think tank, might I remind you that in vociferously expressing your opinion you just broke a rule, that is 'do not insult the s'.

I really do sympathize with you, having woken up this morning and discovered the thread was deleted, however, I wasn't really surprised!. People react differently to different situations. The truth is bitter, so with this, many hide under the basic fail safe device built by our emotion: 'DENIAL'. I tell you, the fact that your thread was deleted proves that it was the undiluted and unadulterated truth.

So no need coming here and throwing insults at the mods, if people want to celebrate people who can't abide by simple rules when there is absolutely nothing at stake, let them, I believe that same person they celebrate will come back and bite them in the ass when there's something at stake.

We as nigerians don't like the truth, we hide and shy away from it, and whenever you tell the truth the way it is, people see and call you 'bad belle' or they even call you 'hater' or 'pessimist'. This is the way it is outside social media and even in social media for like I said in the thread that was deleted: "Nairaland reflects the emotions of nigerians on social media and it is bias, bigoted, nepotistic, tribalistic and full of religious sentiment.

More guys like this and this country will change

Amefrica:


Form?

Go for the kill

Amefrica:


It's all fun bro, c'mon!

Dey there dey form.

chibwike:
i heard my name

Chibwike, I got a lot of respect and iration for you when I read your Mr. Nairaland answers to the questions. Do you know I trained myself in secondary up to university levels and graduated? Big up man and remain steadfast in whatever you are doing to achieve your dreams.

My problem with you is that a young handsome guy like you should exude a lot of confidence and independence. Be bold and assertive like a man.

Let me ask you, Can you confidently correct mizmycoli online if she does something inappropriate? Here is where I like Naijaboiy.

Amefrica:


You my man are the only badt guys Smh for you!

The two ladies got plan for you. Don't dull this opportunity: D

Kachisbarbie:


Aii
Is that all Sir?

Trust me, I don't know how to sugarcoat this life. Fair and Justice is the rule.

Amefrica:


So you're married?

Did she say so herself?

#Guy code# Pretend you didn't hear and bleep!

Kachisbarbie:


lolz...I am fine.
Bobo, I was ready. Very readyyy____ I knew they would come for me like a pack of wolves...so, I 'lan' as fast as my k-legs could carry me and hid in a cave......hahahahahahaha.

Who and who are pack of wolves. I guess those who criticise you to bring out the best in you and not those who azz lick you.

Are you that comfortable when there are no one to point out your mistakes and make you a better person or you felt your life is above mistake and should receive good will all the time from the likes of Chibwike who is an azz over nice without control. I read where naijaboiy girl caution him for being a bottom.

MizMyColi:


LoL
It's okay.

Trust me.
I hold nothing against you nor him.

Before quoting him, I made up my mind to forgive him for whatever insults he would hurl at me.
I'm good.

Very good

Thanks for the vote of confidence btw. That was kind.

Aww my beautiful Adannaya! Who could believe I wooed this lady on the last wooing contest and won. If anyone should be azz licking, it should be me but I am too mature not to say my mind.

Baby girl, I hold nothing against you trust me. I can't compromise my principle for anyone. Just treat everyone equally and respectfully not minding who you share offline convo with.

For the altercation, I wanted to see how far you can go.

Cwaya:


You this levels ... this thingz na just for fun.. dont show ur immaturity here.

Immaturity is when she called me out and addressed me as a school boy cos she wanna protect a friend and you saw all that but mute.