NewStats: 3,259,308 , 8,169,783 topics. Date: Saturday, 24 May 2025 at 04:58 PM 276r2o

Persephone1:
Yes it is, sending kids errands, calling kids or asking parents to send their kids over so you can send them errands is downgrading and disrespectful. It's like you reminding them of their condition and rubbing it in. For a minute think of this from the woman's perspective! No mother will be happy with that not even you! I'm not misconstruing, there's absolutely nothing to misconstrue here we are simply seeing from different perspective. So not indulging is a wise decision.

Yes nothing wey person no go see for Nl, because lot of you in of Op will act exactly the way the mother did and even more if you were in her position. Help and forget! If you can't, make it a business deal with clear and conditions. Don't make someone go to bed in tears because you decided to "help"

Leeches? Again i ask, was Op held at gunpoint to help? In times she couldn't help was she resented for it? Leeches you say! This is terrible!

So you have never sent kids on errands?
the hypocrisy of peolpe here i alarming

Ginaz:


but she calls me on phone to ask me if i have food at home that she's sending her child to me.

what do we call that? entitlement or not?

Poster what i can deduce from your story and responses is the fact you think everyone thinks and has a good intentions or pure heart like you.
people fail to see the pains of the poster here and its really sad, this a a woman who sacrifices her comfort, finances and groceries to help her friend and kids, and now she is suddenly enslaving the kids for sending them on errands? what is wrong with you people?
If the poster decided to adopt one or convinces the parents she wants one of the kids to live with her and take full responsibility would she not go on errands?

Suddenly we are all acting like we are not Nigerians, we all grew in societies where every child can be sent on errands by ant adult who lives there and gets disciplined by neighbors much more kids you cloth,feed and access your private chambers at will.

Dear poster, your good don do, focus noe on yourself as god sees your heart, if you ca, relocate to another neighborhood, but you were too quick to block her and not pick her calls...you should have gradually cut ties with her, i sense you also have anger issues and a little pride, work on it.

victooman:
hello dear Nairalanders,, have been dating this girl for two years now and l am thinking of tieing the knot next year,, she has all the quality l want in a woman and l really love this girl...
When we meet she told me she dated a guy for six years in which her parents did not accept her relationship with him when he came for introduction,, l told her to make sure she have gotten over the guy before dragging me into something l dont know..
just yesterday night when she came to my place during love making a number was constantly calling her,, when l enquired she told me it was her ex calling l got mad and surprise she is still in communication with him..
l told her she have to make the decision between me and that guy now ,, long story cut short ,, she was begging that the guy was the one disturbing her and she called him in my present to tell him to stop calling her ...
seriously my trust for this girl is almost gone and l am seriously thinking on ending this relationship,, l need ur input my lovely Nairalanders.

BRO, ARE YOU SAYING YOU ARE NOT IN COMMUNICATION WITH ANY OF YOUR EXES?

continjue

Cruise777:




Concealing evidence

Soka reloaded

As an Ibadan indegene, and a residence , I am extremely careful and don't deal with Alfa and Pastors for any damn reason

I can pray to God myself using psalm, or Quran and midnight salat

Oh 16 Odu Ifa corpus, 5th to 7th book of Moses... Pick what works for you

Your spirituality is you


.

Does it work for you?
Do you harm anyone in the process?

paulosan:
Hi Nairalanders,
I had to use this new moniker for the purpose of this post.

I have been going out with my lady for 7 months now, and the relationship has been beautiful with everything falling in the right places, she has most of the qualities i have always desired in a woman.

I traveled out of town for two weeks, i got back yesterday, she opted to make me something before i got back so she went to my house earlier yesterday to prepare food.

I noticed that since I got back she has been texting on her smaller phone and has been carrying the phone everywhere while leaving the big one on the bed or anywhere. She work up this morning and continued texting on that phone, i have been acting like i am not seeing all the moves so that i can actually find out what it is.

I am trying so hard to be calm in other not to make her realize and wipe anything that might be as a pointer to evidence.

I have been having different thoughts as to have to handle it:
1. I was thinking of checking the phone, depending on what i see, i will ask her who she has been texting, i will after a few days like i did not see anything.
2. The second thought was i ask her who she has been texting and request that she opens the text and we see together.

I don't want to jump into conclusion until i see what it is. I really don't know what to do, i am confused and i don't want to make mistakes with my marital life as i plan settling down.

Please advice me, criticism is welcomed as i know some people will come at me.

How old are yo?

@poster

This is why I dont like reading stories here, you start what you cant finish

That young man was right.

Obideints and Igbos would rather this country burns to the ground just because the crook of their choice did not win instead of the betterment of the country.

This kind of heart is synonymous to witchcraft, if you dont want this country to get better how then will your life and household be good? Whatever, they wish this country will befall them 100 times over.

Opanka44:
Let me go straight to the Point.

I'm dating my Boss's younger sister who happens to be the last born from a polygamous Background. We've known for almost two years. She claims to love me so deeply and she knows I also love her in return.
In December last year, I saw a chat on her WhatsApp. A chat with her acclaimed ex-Boyfriend. Before I saw the chat, I had been complaining about the constant communication between her and same ex because each time I checked her call log, I would see same guys calls everyday. So when I saw dis chat, I told her that I had broken up with her. I made it clear to her that, it would be an act akin & tantamount to stupidity if she's multi-Dating while I'm loyal to her and her alone. I can't share u with anyone. She begged, cried , knelt down and apologized. I was so scared that day because she almost died in my apartment. She has a health condition (A Hole in the Heart) and whenever her mood is affected, it triggers a negative response. It's a very sad medical condition. And doctors have told her that she can die at any time. But I've always encouraged her that there's nothing God cannot change and there was no point getting worried about the situation. I went further to tell her that, in Life everybody is a walking corpse. We'll all die at some point in our lives, it is only the date of our death that we don't know. I forgave her that day and we reconciled.
The main issue now is that, I have introduced this same girl to almost everybody cos I'm so proud of her even though she still behaves like the last child that she is. My neighbors, friends & few family . This girl said we can get married and build our lives together and even if it's garri, we'll drink and keep pushing. However, her attitude and actions seems to be in direct contrast to her words. She has never introduced me to anyone as her guy. She also works in her elder sister school. We both work in same sch. Our colleagues are aware of our relationship. So I told her that we are adults and whatever we are doing should be made know to her elder sister who she is currently living with. I asked that she tells her sister about our relationship since her sister is the one to approve or disprove it. I have a very good working relationship with her elder sister who is my Boss and the elder sister had jokingly told me last year to hurry up and pay her sister's Bride Price and that "Any devil that will stop me from paying her sister's bride price is a Bastard". We just laughed over it.
This girl has refused to inform her sister , she has never introduced me to anybody. When she comes to see me at my house, I can't walk her to the road cos she said she doesn't want her sister's Husband to accidentally drive and see that she visits me.
She hasn't allowed me to have sex with her. She claimed to be a virgin and that I must wait till our wedding night. I make her happy in bed, I give her head, suck her pussy, suck her breasts so well but she can't do same to me. At the end of the whole thing I won't be able to cum and my scrotum will start paining me due to excessive accumulation of Semen. What she does is to tighten her both legs & ask me to climb her and use my dick to rub her clitt so I can release. But I don't release at all. I also doubt if she's a virgin cos she can't allow me to penetrate and her claim. She is 28 and I'm 33yrs. I noticed she masturbates a lot cos any time she comes, she always want me to use my fingers on her clitoris and ensure she cums. I do everything she wants but she can't reciprocate. I'm fed up with everything. I cannot boldly beat my chest and say she's my girlfriend and she hasn't ever told any of her friends about me. I'm handsome and well-educated, neat, honest and have almost all the attributes she wants in her man. So why is she not Proud of me??
I have decided to break up with her and I've warned her never to come beg me or go to my friend's to tell them to mediate between us pls. I'm too good to be in such terrible state.
The psychological impact alone is really very Terrible. She makes me feel less of a man.

Op @33 you are supposed to be retiring from being a player maybe partially.

Back to the issue, let her know your true worth.
First, never engage her in any form of sexual activities, dont touch,kiss and romance her for the next 3 months..I know you cant but for the records dont.
Why?, you are trying to break the wedge and bond while you focus on having other girls for your pleasure.
Limit the communication with her, send a c;ear message you are no longer interested without saying it because sje knows if she cries or beg you will take her back.

Lastly, dont break up with her but rather prepare her for the inevitable break up with the abpve, over time she will get it.....she is not a virgin and she is fucking someone else..how does a virgin have an ex? except the first guy who broke her virginity.

Odin13:
Wake up bro...

You’re in the wrong ride.. you’re for keeps.. love is loud.

She don’t love you .. and you know deep down.

My G..no lies

obembet:


That's the bad decision and I wil advise u never to try that.

Your wife must know your , in fact you must not hide anything concerning your phone or Bank details to your wife... Your wife must be your beneficiary

If you are marrried, is your hisband your next of kin?
if not will you husband be?

right now does your partner have access to yourphone?

Akwamkpuruamu:
Jews are blessed people. They have the highest percentage of Nobel Prize winners.

Palestinians are fighting a self inflicted war by Hamas.

Unfortunately, they're no match to Israel

Not to mention being backed up by the US.

EleventhWeirdo:


Are you Itsekiri? If not, shut the F up. I can only discuss with you if you're Itsekiri or yoruba

full fledged itsekiri
royal member of Ginuwa 1 ruling house

EleventhWeirdo:
Lol. Why bring tribalistic reasons into the topic? Does the Amaju not know that Itsekiri are a yoruboid ethnicity i.e. a .yoruba subgroup? Originally, Itsekiri are Ijebus. No need for division at all

Na your papa be Ijebu

Samantha124:
You want me to comment and say what?

Isn't it that you guys have already made your own conclusions about SA men? So what do you want from me

I am hoping your man is not one and you must condemn their irrational act.

What do you mean by onclusions?
Are we the ones killing and raoing your people on a daily basis?

Arent these facts?

@samantha124

Why are you not commenting?

hope your fiancee is not a violent one too..aggression and violence is genetically embedded in SA men.

IconicR:
Assumptions no good

He asked an harmless question but from what I understand with some either ebony or light complexioned people is their natural glowing skin even if they use vaseline their skins still glows, I am lucky to be like that.

Yankiss:
Very interesting. Are there fetish practices in such schools? Do churches object to their being there? Is money paid by the parents of participants? Is the initiation school still popular as in the past or is it undergoing modernism-induced attrition?

She is just being vague with you people here,

Thie initiation she is talking about in what they call the mountain is the traditional way of CIRCUMCISION,.. unlike every other sane people who caries out circumcisionion to male kids immediately after birth or 7 days with respect to christianity, South africans do their when a guy reaches the age of 16/17/18 and above...In this barbaric practice a lot of them die in the mountain during this initiation...the call it welcoming you into adulthood what er experienced as infants, imagine the unbearable pains of cutting the foreskin with unsterilized local equipments,

Till date they still have grown ass men in theor 30s with uncircumsized dicks.

@Samantha124 did i lie?

Samantha124:
I feel nothing... When I'm walking, I'm more focused on where I'm going rather than who's looking at me.

No one looks at your yanch Sam, na girls with yanch guys dey turn look..

Samantha124:
You're right, your brothers are married to SA men's leftovers... These are the kinds of women that SA men don't see worthy of marriage, they'd just use them for fun and dump them.

Not only do they marry SA men's leftovers, they also take care of SA men's kids just for the sake of the green card, something they're failing to do back in their home country Nigeria...😂😂😂

In your country you want virgins as wives, but in SA you specifically go for prostitutes as wives.

It's good that you guys are removing those street girls from the streets and making them your wives... God bless you..😂😂😂

Which useless green card?
do you have green cards in SA?
we pay heavily to get our pemits through home affairs without the help of your huns here.

Left overs? yet they cry and send us messages begging and swearing
The stoop so low in the clubs pretending to be cousins to their gf to drink free drinks ;Dat the end we take the girls home and they call and cry all night.
Honestly, your men are no match for jollofs, those uncircumsized men with dick size of an index finger when erect?
men who drink 2 litres of coke daily?
lazy me who depend on your women for stipends and feeding after hook ups with Nigerians?

Yes we have some foolish Nigerians married to women with kids from deadbeat dads but did we not improve the standards of your women, built their self esteem so much so you huns with locals even envy them?

Nigerians are naturally givers and yes I don women with kids because I only Bleep coloreds here and strictly single girls without kids fresh from varsity and well to do. Seen yor ic and I wnt look at you twice,,God forbid.

Beremx:
Political appointment loading.... He has insulted Igbo people enough to get appointed by Tinubu.
Congratulations to him

Oh but at first you guys said he was a banned from Nigeria na..

Badguy77:
This guy just go disgrace naija for that place.. No be everything be play stick to one profession and stop confusing your helpers.. Wetin be this,? At first I thought it was a Photoshop or something

LOL you are a novice in the entertainment and comedy industry..Josh is an house old name for over 5 years now, as a matter of fact he runs his own comedy on auditioning and all he performed there he had done years ago already..you just dont get it he went there to catch cruise and gain more popularity and folllowers..he will make more money ing it on his youtube and all.

Samantha124:
I don't care what you Nigerian men say... .. I'm content and at peace with my SA brothers.

I wouldn't be in a relationship with a Nigerian man even if he was the last man on earth... Even SA ladies are just tolerating you guys because of your money, they don't love...🤣🤣🤣

LOl so its your buthis who love you
? yet they kill, lynch, abuse and rape you every hour in the townships right?

The amount of Nigerians married to a SAn is over 1m not to talk about baby daddies.

if you like go and kill yourslef..

Dont please a woman ooo if you die on top her today trying to please her,she will sleep with the available man next day.

But once in a while sha try make her come, if need be use better agbo.

Samantha124:
When I tell your brothers here that those SA ladies who go for Nigerian men only want their money because you guys are free givers, they think that I'm bashing them.

And I've never been approached by a Nigerian guy before, I only heard stories from other ladies who dated Nigerian men.

Its either you are not beautiful with a big yanch or you are in a area dominated by buthis who are highly xenophobic.

dem nor go last,,,a battalion from naija go unseat the military abi?

And one goat from Anambra wants to be president in Nigeria when he cant solve insecurity in a state less than 10m people? Gof punish obi

Andrenalin:
Peter Obi is very very wise, he knows something like this will happen, so he sue them on his own name and with lp. The case file shows that LP and mr Peter Obi sue Tinubu and INEC. So if you knock LP out, Obi is there to hold you on your left leg…. I laugh in Swahili

ode...there is no case without a political party

Caseless:
What's funny? They were over-laughing.

Its a laugh of shame and pain, dude smashed both of them.

Kemadealadire:
He loses out at the end of the day.

How almost a month apart?
He prolly slept with both of them already.
Trust me should he come back with a bigger lie, he will smash them again..girls love challenges.

PapaNnamdi:
I knw this lady, her photos are used by different scammers, she is not even Nigerian, stop the mis information

She is. igbo

Oyerinde16:
I rented a house, allowed my friend stay with me cos we still de hustle, got teaching job for him same school, earning 35k each... I no quick realize say na only me de buy food, my friend just de buy cloths, bought bold or curve 5 then, began sleeping with our land lady... They both planned to evict me...

I just travel come back, my guy say land lady has rented the room to him and land lady say she no wan see me for the house... I think say ma joke until my guy lock up de give me attitude asking me when am I leaving cos him babe the land lady say so... Being ask am, guy I housed you o... Where u wan make I go, him tell me Oha... Say him no de, make I sort my self... Las las land lady pounce on am later... E no go better for you Johnson...

LOl this one na lie abeg.