yinkaOdutuyo:
Hello parents and guardians and health practitioners in the house, I want to ask can a 2year old bow legs straight naturally or only with surgery.
because her parent cant stand the look of the bow legs, many people are recommending surgery, while some said it will correct on it's own between her 3years to 4years as she grows.
pls her parent needed your advices to know which actions to take.
At about that age, my pictures showed that i had a slight but conspicuous bow.
well, i outgrew it and now even have a a slight K-leg which is the reverse of a bow.
But best to follow doctors advice if they have nothing to benefit from the surgery. I.e if they are only consulting and will not be in anyway associated with choosing the surgeons.
BreconHills:
I am of the opinion that anyone that rules a place must be
1. Personally invested in the state by reason of time.
2. Understand the culture of the place and not seek to undermine, blend, or substitute another culture for some one Nigeria nonse*se. One Nigeria is a consequence of the union between federating states, it is not the originating factor. Loyalty to state and region is not at odds with one Nigeria. No one would care who scored the winning goal for Nigeria in a world cup final!
So, the governorship of Lagos state is the steward of its economy AND it's culture. Anyone that would be governor in any statemust meet this criteria. It is not one rule for Lagos and one rule for other states.
This idea of indigeneship on the basis of slave returnee is seriously flawed. It is an elitist mindset that Lagos has broken free of and should not return to. Let me explain.
While Lagos was a slave port. It represented a very tiny portion of slave "exports" Most of these slaves were captured upcountry in.places now known as Ondo, Osun, Ekiti, Oyo, and Ogun because these was where the tribal wars were taking place eg the Kiriji war within the Yoruba confederation. These captured slaves RETURNED to Lagos and claimed lagos as their state by reason of long habitation( nothing wrong with this) however many of these people brought a western or south America culture which was fused on local culture - eg Lagos carnival which is basically
Brazilian. These were ways they reminded the
homeland and it became part of their culture.
The colonial masters loved working with these people
because they went to church, spoke good English, raced horses and lived out western culture which was "civilized" and not "bush" like the others.
They promoted these people and kickstarted the
educated meritocracy. They ignored educated people like Funmi Ransome Kuti, leaders of the Market women's strike, the railworkers strike, the miner leaders at Ivie vally in the East and the leaders of the Aba wonens riots as rabble tros, communists and
undesirable elements. Some of the national heroes
we have today are there simply because they were "righteously" westernized and no longer truly represented of the deep interests of indigenes including the right to develop and grow on the pathway of their culture instead of burning these boats in favour of western civilization.
There are exceptions such as J. Randle snr who fought
for the rights of lagosians until they fell into hand of
the more savvy one Nigeria politicians and the military.
So the idea of lagos indigeneship is murky which is
why the 2 tests are important. A lagos governor
cannot have dual state hood. He/she must be
committed to the economy and culture of Lagos over
every personal antecedent and every historical state of orign from their family history. He or she is not there to represent the values and culture of non lagosians under the guise of "one Nigeria". Lagos cannot be ruled by people that will not defend its interests over their family antecedents
and the voting public must be educated or re-
educated to understand the need for a 100%
commitment to the state; it's history, economy and culture. Iam unashamedly from Ekiti by the way, and though my father served in the Federal Govt from 1962-79 we never claimed Lagos indigeneship. We love Lagos but we cannot abrogate a history that we have traced back to 1815 in the region now known as Ekiti even though we have also have Nupe element by reason of ancestor marriage. To do so would alter our strengths and eventually collapse our history. Rewriting history is dangerous - it has to be 100% or as close as. Even the parts we may not like, because they are dark or unpleasant will eventually over time become important and valid lessons and warnings for future generations.
Long road for those who read.
Nice, Really nice thinking process.
I've missed that on this forum for a while now.
kettykin:
Jumia like Amazon is not supposed to be profitable. They should develop other strategy and streams of income like a cloud based business like aws. A streaming service etc. Warehousing and logistics business
You are largely correct.
Amazon as a retailer when analysed as a sum of its parts is loss making. What they have succeeded in doing is shifting majority of the retail to 3rd party to bear the loss, while they charge them fees for using their platform.
These fees are what is profitable. It can be compared to someone owning a market and collecting rent, while allowing traders compete at very low and loss making margins in the stalls.
esere826:
I need help in communicating
Donno where to post this, but I believe that folks in the family section are mature and experienced and could help
I have never been shy of talking when a subject excites me
In fact I love lecturing/speaking
My challenge is that recently, I have come to realise that I am usually short of words when explaining issues
I feel that this might be making me look unitelligent
The reason for this challenge is that I am begining to know/learn more and more broad and diverse subject matters
I am therefore faced with an issue of multiple vocabulary/jargons associated with such diverse range of subject matters
Also my brain is always spinning with analysis, measuring issues, identifying risks, oppurtunities, gaps etc
So when I stand to talk, i find myself grappling with the challenge of sorting and sifting through huge repositories for the right words to best articulate my point
I find it easier to write (maybe because I can fire away and come back to think through and edit)
I hate talking slow, and dont want to end up with the slow slurred commuincation associated with some Nigerian big men
As anyone gone through this challenge before? How did you overcome it?
I really need help, I do not want this present communication challenge to propel me towards being an introvert
Thanks
This was so loooooong ago
I'm now much better in choosing words that fit the audience.
Experienced framed me.
Some folks complain that they need a dictionary to understand me sha ,....... but ehmmmm
There is nothing wrong in providing these details.
You can create an alternative email address (ID), as well as an alternative phone number to provide to your employer if you wish.
Missing PVC for Okota Isolo LGA found in Nobis Hotel Ago palace way
If you were unable to collect your PVC at okota isolo local government you can rush to Nobis Hotel Ago palace way to check if your PVC is there.
Best they announce on social media names on cards they found. Those people will come pick them up, instead of saying everyone should come there to find their cards
Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread
My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.
Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.
I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.
This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.
I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.
This is not a problem naw.
As he said it's to meet Nigerians and to socialize not to date, you too will to meet and socialize with people. Tell him to take his time if he tries to stop you.
Sebi they say what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander?
pands:
Hello, I’m 23(M) years old, in my final year in one of the federal universities. I lost my dad when I was 14, lost my my mum when I was 3. Dad never remarried. Only have one jnr sibling who’s the only person I actually talk to.
My problem now is I’m depressed and broke. Due to no help from family I was forced into street(yahoo), it was paying before, atleast I was able to sponsor myself from 100lvl-300lvl now everything is hard for me. The school isn’t even helping matters cause I’ve learnt literally nothing, I just block my way through the different levels. I just only realized I have no meaningful relationship (both friendship and girlfriend). I was too busy hustling for money to survive in life. I have no hobbies and no personality. Lately all I think about is money and how to make money, due to my being sickly and not having any skill, the only way I can think of making money if through fraud ( I really want to change this about me)
I have recently developed this fear that after university, I’ll have a very useless and unproductive life. I actually need advice from elderly once here as I have no one to advice me, I’m just living life without purpose.
I actually have more problems I’d like to voice out but society has made me bottle up my emotions as a man. If anyone really wants to advice me or help please I’d really appreciate it.
Ps: had to create this today, cause I just had to voice out
I give folks advice that work, but guy, the issues you are facing are just too many for me to advice on.
It leans on depressive.
I worry that you are a big target for the forces of darkness that will seek to isolate you, then deal mercilessly with you.
My only advice to you, is that you need to take a walk with Jesus. Two of you need to talk.
I'm not saying you should be religious oo, or start giving your money to church, or suddenly become a good lad or start following prophets.
Just ask him that you would like his guidance.
He'll sort all of this mess out for you. That's his expertise. Do not worry.
It's finally here, the complete first episode of the long awaited series. I follow four Nigerian strippers operating out of Abuja as they let me into their world: money, fights, taxes, opportunities, crisis resolution, and more.
Call them what they are.
If you had family relatives that are killers, won’t you call them Murderers?
With all due respect sir. I'll respond for the sake of impressionable minds reading this.
You don't call women whores to their faces or say that about someone's woman (mum, wife, girlfriend, daughter, sister) to their hearing.
It's just like you don't call a child a bastard to their face or to someone associated with them.
Even someone that is very short, disabled etc should not be talked to that way in their hearing or the hearing of their loved ones without applying some caution.
It has nothing to do with facts. Just simple wisdom and duty of care.
Very different from calling a murderer what they are in certain circumstances. You'd need to ponder on the nuances.
That’s not an excuse, how can you double date when you are in relationship?
How many people do we know she is “double dating” and having unprotected sex with, hook up girls can also claim double dating.
And before they married, wasn’t she a fiancée?, how is she single then?
People don’t manage beaten that’s why there’s a name for it called “domestic abuse”.
Women marry up, so if your wife is marrying a poor person, she has ulterior motives.
Some manage a dull one like the OP, they need someone to take care of their child.
The man should manage his wife being a hoe, because she won’t stop bringing an illegal child home abi
The worse thing you can do for yourself is marrying a a single mother or raising another person’s child.
Weigh your happiness that your wife cheated and brought a Bastard home? How does that work?
Is it the cooking that’s giving the “happiness”, because as we see, we have many people that’s sharing OP wife
You shouldn't call someone wife a LovePeddler. It's impolite.
You have female relatives. You wouldnt want anyone calling them whores even if it was true would you?
If she can do it within 5 years of marriage, why can’t she do it again?
Your legally married wife is having unprotected sex till the extent of getting pregnant.
1) What if the child is same age as the marriage? Many people double date while single. Doesn't make it right, but it's a fact.
2) In relationships, everything boils down to what each partner can manage. Some people manage being beaten, some manage a poor partner, some manage a cheating one, some manage a dull one, and likewise they are also managed.
If you weigh your happiness against your sadness in your partnership, if your happiness is greater, why stop it? If your sadness is more, why stay?
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.
I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.
My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.
Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and , I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.
I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.
What do you advise me to do guys?
Marriage is a life long relationship, not just love in tokyo.
If currently, you're enjoying it, then go on.
But do call her aside and tell her the result.
It's really not a thing to be angry about. If she asks for forgiveness, that is no problem. You can and will forgive, but you are not God.
Make her know that you are alright today, but you don't know how tomorrow will be. You will continue to pray that God gives you the needed grace and strength not to let it not worry you in the future
No one asides the two of you need to know about it (plus maybe the kids dad if you both agree to that). If you're thinking of inheritance for your kids, raise all of them to be equal and to expect equal inheritance.
There are somethings that you humanly can't handle. God is the one that will give you the grace to forgive and march on. So don't let it worry you.
These politicians manufacture things from the air, then start running from one court to another making excuses for why they wrote untruths about their certificates.
Congrats to him on the real truth beneath all of this sha
porka:
Doctor of Business Degree (PhD)?
What does that mean?
Let us the see certificate issued and check how it is written on it.
The reason he is the first one since 1209 might be because the degree is perhaps not important.
And what's with the First Class Honours in a doctoral degree?
Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.
I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.
At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.
Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.
I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.
Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.
The way is Jesus. To be more precise, the Holy Spirit.
Not by a one way prayer channel, but by getting him to the knowledge and information that you need to navigate the maze you speak about.
But do you realise that you can practice some of your coding in your mind?
So after doing all that menial job, and your muscles are weak, you can sit back and mentally go through some coding logic without lifting a finger.
When you are rested and have some time, you can then test the mental logics that you spent time on.
How?
It's as easy as this complaint that you wrote.
You thought through it from start to finish, and when you had some time, you then physically wrote it out. That is why it has a flow.
I do that a lot too. I solve a problem mentally just before I sleep, then when i start writing out the solution, it looks very easy.
So you see that you already have the skill in you. just channel it to anything you love.
Maybe also try to figure out a way to monetize your fluid impressive writing skills. Maybe even add some of that to the tools you create.
Betterprospect:
Good day Nairalander. I'm single, 30 years old. I studied agriculture related course at University level, and I presently worked in that field and I earned about 120k monthly.
I feel unfulfilled and I'm lacking interest day after day. The unfulfillment brewed mostly from my bosses egoistic and narcissistic approach to his employee, the insane working hours, and the lack of liberty, and most importantly, I feel I could do better. Now I have a meagre 2 million naira saved up, small? I know. Buy I'd like to pursue my ion in tech albeit from ground zero.
Now my dilemma is:
1. Seeing that I'm old and already past my prime for a career change at 30 yrs old, does a pursue of another career make sense?
2. Knowing that 2 million is small and would not last long. Does is it make sense to just up and leave?
3. I have a small biz I ideal which I feel could give me close to 50k monthly, but thing is, this is Nigeria and I might be wrong.
4. Should I just suck it up and continue for another year or two? Everyone I asked seems to think I should.
P,S. I worked 12 hours a day and its impossible I merge the two together.
Start tech in your organisation
First start by learning excel and helping your teams build excel tools for their daily use.
Next move to building more tools with other laguages such as JAVA, python, sql, etc. That is what tech is all about.
You can then with the tech skills learnt and practised in your office move on to other places
I make 6 figure
I am good with my pay
I really have 5 years to work and 3 year to Bleep around total of 8 year to go dude
I am not looking for more responsibility
I make more money managing my stuff
I have close to 25 year in the tech industry-Insurance company to Banking industry to IBM to government
You definitely are worth more than 70k per annum then, except you are stuck in an old job due to loyalty.
In that case, you should be looking at moving right now.
True. but the opportunity is there.
The opportunity comes like a wind every once in a while, and if you are prepared, you just jump into the jet stream and it takes you effortlessly to that destination.
There is that opportunity at the moment with uk and US companies looking for employees.
Some are even doing 2 jobs at a go right now.
If one is not in the right circle, you may miss all of these info.
engrrichie92:
I'm a tech bro, I currently do 1.5M Monthly in Nigeria and I just got a job offer last month in the UK for 4K pounds monthly(after tax)
My guys there be complaining about bills and how hard it is to save and all over there
So, If you were me, which would you pick and why?
Modified: will also like to hear from those in the UK; what do you think guys?...Now that you know how it is over there, what would you advice?
Please help push to front page for more engagements
4k after tax is great in the Uk. Means you are earning about 75k plus per annum.
It puts you in the top earning bracket of that country. Hopefully its not in London, and even if it where, if you're not yet a family man, you'd do well.
If single, target accomodation of £700 per month.
Also negotiate work from home at least 2 days to save on transport.
Your feeding shouldnt be more than £300 monthly
Dont get tempted to buy a range rover on hire purchase like Nigerians do there
at the end of the month, you'd be saving about £2k per month which is equivalent to your nigerian earning.
Your working in uk will also improve your profile if you decide to search for a 9ja job
Your earning also makes you credit worthy in the UK which is a big plus.
.....*and by the way, take advice from only those who earn similar rates and higher in the UK. They know the track and will lead you aright.
Forex trading is as profitable as it is loss making.
You can make 20% or more monthly and can also loose 20% or more monthly.
It is essentially like people gambling on a football match. One side will win, while the other side will loose.
So don't listen when you are assured of only profits.
In this case, it was heavy loss making.
Actually, they owe him a lot. An interview is an engagement between two parties, an interviewer who has a job to offer and the interviewee who is looking for a job, if the interviewer fails to act in a professional manner, the interviewee will be justified in sharing his negative evaluation details of the company online. Glassdoor, Reddit and Trustpilot are forums that I have used to share details of my past negative experience.
That is it.
They should be polite, but they owe you nothing whether in Nigeria or in Scotland.
One of the major reasons why the organisation will get back to you in Scotland is because if they dont, people will leave negative about them like highlighted above and other good candidates will avoid them. It's called business justification, not emotional one
So if you and others do the same in Nigeria, you may end up forcing the companies to respond to unsuccessful candidates there. Not out of sentiments, but out of business needs.
That is how you make things happen by taking concrete actions like you've done and not moaning in a pity party like that looser mentioning my name in other posts.
You are saying bullshit. My guess is that you are definitely one of the useless Nigerian HRMs that lacks courtesy and ethics. Giving s to unsuccessful applicants is part of the job. Service fee kill you there.
You are a little fool
Inconsequential and a vermin probably typing from underneath a dirty mattress in a slum
A being who is unable to state a point without insulting is a sub human in my books.
Klass99:
Yet, when they receive the same treatment from candidates they start to breathe fire and brimstones, creating threads on Twitter and other social media platforms to hyperventilate and wail about it They don't like a dose of their own medicine at all.
I beg to differ, they owe you courtesy and fair treatment because;
1. You took time away from work to interview (if you are already working)
2. You may have even borrowed money or a suit to get there.
3. You may have also put your current job at risk by not showing up or lying that you are sick just to go and interview.
4. Interviewing can be a time consuming and money gulping venture in of transporting back and forth.
It doesn't take much to notify candidates about the status of their job applications, interviews and all. But, because most are badly behaved they act any how.
Nice, but think about it this way as a lady. i guess a beautiful one at that being toasted by 100's of guys.
1. He took time away from other toasting to toast you.
2. He may have even borrowed money or a suit to come toast you.
3. He may have also put his current relationship at risk by not showing up or lying that he is sick just to go and toast you.
4. Toasting can be a time consuming and money gulping venture in of transporting back and forth.
Does this mean that to be fair you have to respond to every guys that toasts you?
My guess is that you say yes to some, say no to some others, and for many others just let it slide past and face front instead of helping them calculate the stress they must have past through to come approach you.
esere826: 2:19pm On Jan 20
This was so loooooong ago
product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.