NewStats: 3,259,582 , 8,170,554 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 04:14 PM 721t2h

Kenmatt:
I did not even see Ugbene Ajima on the list.

Please if you're from Uzo-Uwani, let's connect "jor" and leave the people that were typing what they know not.

From Adani.

duwdu:


Only those born on Nigerian soil at birth can qualify to vie for the specific position of the President of Nigeria. That Constitutional provision does not apply to any other political/elective position nau, haba.

And just for your further education, similar provisions are in fact made in the constitutions of some other countries, including the United States.

So if that much is still not clear to you from all that's in our Constitution and highlighted severally on this thread alone, then I don't know how else to help you. Please look elsewhere/to someone else for help - maybe of a different kind. "E don do, abeg."

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I thought you are a lawyer and I am here to be educated. You must give me the quotation in Nigerian constitution before I can believe you.

duwdu:


In the Constitution. The relevant sections have been posted several times all over the place already - particularly since the story broke. Check them out.

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P34c3
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I want you to pin point it from any of those post where it is stated that only citizens by birth are qualified to contest for a political position in Nigeria.

garfield1:

Guy,why do you want to waste my time or stress me ? Please go back to the previous pages and search.several people posted it here.up buhari

I want you to pin point it from any of those post where it is stated that only citizens by birth are qualified to contest for a political position in Nigeria.

garfield1:

Guy,there are three types of citizens.birth,registration and naturalization.the law says only citizens by birth are qualified to be presidents.dont you understand.even the us constitution specifies same

Where in our law was it stated?

garfield1:

If so,is he a citizen by birth

Which ever way, he is a citizen once he can present his valid national ID card or International port. He has no question to answer, his ID will answer it for him. No one has the right to question him if has ID that says he is a Nigerian and there is no second ID proving that he is from another country.

garfield1:

(1) The following are ways to gain citizenship in Nigeria
By Birth
By Registration
By Naturalisation
By birth-namely - (a) Every person born in Nigeria after the date of independence (October 1, 1960), either of whose parents or any of whose grandparents belongs or belonged to a community indigenous to Nigeria;
Provided that a person shall not become a citizen of Nigeria by virtue of this section if neither of his parents nor any of his grandparents was born in Nigeria.
(b) Every person born outside Nigeria either of whose parents is a citizen of Nigeria.
(2) In this section, "the date of independence" means the 1st day of October 1960.
By registration: 26. (1) Subject to the provisions of section 28 of this Constitution, a person to whom the provisions of this section apply may be ed as a citizen of Nigeria, if the President is satisfied that -
(a) He is a person of good character; two people to testify to that which one should a Religious minister...
(b) He has shown a clear intention of his desire to be domiciled in Nigeria; and
(c) He has taken the Oath of Allegiance prescribed in the Seventh Schedule to this Constitution.
(2) The provisions of this section shall apply to-
(a) Any woman who is or has been married to a citizen of Nigeria or every person of full age and capacity born outside Nigeria any of whose grandparents is a citizen of Nigeria.
By naturalization: 27. (1) Subject to the provisions of section 28 of this Constitution, any person who is qualified in accordance with the provisions of this section may apply to the President for the same of a certificate of naturalisation.
(2) No person shall be qualified to apply for the grant of a certificate or naturalisation, unless he satisfies the President that -
* (a) He is a person of full age and capacity;
* (b) He is a person of good character;
* (c) He has shown a clear intention of his desire to be domiciled in Nigeria;
* (d) He is, in the opinion of the Governor of the State where he is or he proposes to be resident, acceptable to the local community in which he is to live permanently, and has been assimilated into the way of life of Nigerians in that part of the Federation;
* (e) He is a person who has made or is capable of making useful contribution to the advancement; progress and well-being of Nigeria;
* (f) He has taken the Oath of Allegiance prescribed in the Seventh Schedule to this Constitution; and
* (g) He has, immediately preceding the date of his application, either-
(i) Resided in Nigeria for a continuous period of fifteen years; or
(ii) Resided in Nigeria continuously for a period of twelve months, and during the period of twenty years immediately preceding that period of twelve months has resided in Nigeria for periods amounting in the aggregate to not less than fifteen years.
28. (1) Subject to the other provisions of this section, a person shall forfeit forthwith his Nigerian citizenship if, not being a citizen of Nigeria by birth, he acquires or retains the citizenship or nationality of a country, other than Nigeria, of which he is not a citizen by birth.
29. (1) Any citizen of Nigeria of full age who wishes to renounce his Nigerian citizenship shall make a declaration in the prescribed manner for the renunciation.
(2) The President shall cause the declaration made under subsection (1) of this section to be ed and upon such registration, the person who made the declaration shall cease to be a citizen of Nigeria.
(3) The President may withhold the registration of any declaration made under subsection (1) of this section if-
(a) The declaration is made during any war in which Nigeria is physically involved; or
(b) In his opinion, it is otherwise contrary to public policy.
(4) For the purposes of subsection (1) of this section.
(a) "full age" means the age of eighteen years and above;
(b) Any woman who is married shall be deemed to be of full age.
30. (1) The President may deprive a person, other than a person who is a citizen of Nigeria by birth or by registration, of his citizenship, if he is satisfied that such a person has, within a period of seven years after becoming naturalized, been sentenced to imprisonment for a term of not less than three years.
(2) The President shall deprive a person, other than a person who is citizen of Nigeria by birth, of his citizenship, if he is satisfied from the records of proceedings of a court of law or other tribunal or after due inquiry in accordance with regulations made by him, that -
(a) The person has shown himself by act or speech to be disloyal towards the Federal Republic of Nigeria ; or
(b) The person has, during any war in which Nigeria was engaged, unlawfully traded with the enemy or been engaged in or associated with any business that was in the opinion of the president carried on in such a manner as to assist the enemy of Nigeria in that war, or unlawfully communicated with such enemy to the detriment of or with intent to cause damage to the interest of Nigeria.
31. For the purposes of this Chapter, a parent or grandparent of a person shall be deemed to be a citizen of Nigeria if at the time of the birth of that person such parent or grandparent would have possessed that status by birth if he had been alive on the date of independence; and in this section, "the date of independence" has the meaning assigned to it in section 25 (2) of this Constitution.
32. (1) The president may make regulations, not inconsistent with this Chapter, prescribing all matters which are required or permitted to be prescribed or which are necessary or convenient to be prescribed for carrying out or giving effect to the provisions of this Chapter, and for granting special immigrant status with full residential rights to non-Nigerian spouses of citizens of Nigeria who do not wish to acquire Nigerian citizenship.
(2) Any regulations made by the president pursuant to the provisions of this section shall be laid before the National Assembly NIGERIA
CITIZENSHIP: Citizenship is based upon the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, dated 1989. (UKC-Commonwealth Nation) Those born before or on the date of independence, October 1, 1960, whose parents or grandparents were born in Nigeria and who were legally residing in Nigeria at the time, are considered citizens of Nigeria. BY BIRTH: Birth within the territory of Nigeria does not automatically confer citizenship. BY DESCENT: Child, at least one of whose parents is a citizen of Nigeria, regardless of the child's country of birth. REGISTRATION: The following persons are eligible to become citizens through registration: A foreign woman who marries a citizen of Nigeria. Person who is of adult age (17), born outside Nigeria, any of whose grandparents is or was a citizen of Nigeria. A foreign child adopted by Nigerian parents. BY NATURALIZATION: Nigerian citizenship may be acquired upon fulfillment of the following conditions: Person is of full age (17), has resided in Nigeria for at least 15 years, is of good character, plans to remain in Nigeria, is familiar with Nigerian language and customs, has a viable means of , and has renounced previous citizenship.


This is what our constitution states about citizenship.there is nothing like plebiscite here.those that ed nigeria from the camerouns were not legally incorporated automatically into the country.they should have officially naturalized but didnt do so.the apc team is deadly

From the day Nigerian International port was issued to him that was the day he became officially a Nigerian by law. None Citizen don't hold port.

DavidEsq:

A vice president is not elected. He is simply a running mate. He doesn't win or lose an election; he only inherits/benefits a win or a loss of the actual candidate. That is why he is not sued by the losing candidate when his principal wins. When Buhari lost the polls to Goodluck, did u see Buhari ing Namadi Sambo in the case? Heck no!

Do you know that Atiku is a Nigerian immediately he was issued a Nigerian International port. Once he provides that nothing makes him a foreigner in Nigeria.

Ezi1993:
loooolz Atiku is a Cameronian from Adamawa...hehehehe this Nigeria funny no be small

And he has Nigerian port. Hahaahaa laugh wan kill me here

Help1993:
Hello nairalanders, I have to create a new to just communicate this because I have been having too much discomfort. I still don't know what is wrong with my body especially my private part which gets very dry, itchy and scaly.
I have done several test like HIV, syphilis, blood test and lots more and the result came out negative and I've also spent quite a lot of money getting medication and test which prove abortive.
Please any experience doctor in the house should please help with on what is wrong with me and how est to get rid of this because it's becoming embarrassing.
Thank you for your help and please mod, move this to front page and my life depends on it.

Look for Dermatologists because they know better. It might be that you have Atopic Eczema.

RichBoy247:


How many cars have you bought for your school teachers?

How much dollars have you paid into your lectures' s?

I bought a car for my old primary 5 school teacher and my family doctor. What is a big deal about it.

MissJoy29:
Them no born you well make you carry man come my papa house then. This man gave me an ear-reconstructive slap one evening when he heard I went to visit a guy. Chai! Aside blinding headache the next day, I had earache & red swollen eyes. After that, you must really hate yourself if you attempt to bring someone home.

Even now, he still kinda embarrasses my friends. I ain't gonna introduce him to any man again until it's time for the main meeting.

Who are you calling THIS MAN? Your own father can't be your THIS MAN as your own mother can't be THIS WOMAN.

Okoroawusa:
There is nothing like "Fulani herdsmen".Ask Benue ppl.


You ppl have resumed again. You tell us u don't care about them anymore since they voted Buhari yet u r the one that will be masturbating over any killings in the Middle Belt n push on the internet any mishap to just ur hate



If u do something for 4 years u no succeed,u no go change tactics?

DON'T WORRY BRO... IT WILL REACH YOU SOON. WE ARE IN THE NEXT LEVEL.

Lot13:
my brother, corruption breeds poverty. Sixteen years of PDP corruption brings us to where we are today and as such, every Patriots must not see Atiku as option to Buhari.

That is your opinion, our opinion is to send strong signal to all politicians that getting two term can only work if you work for the good of all Nigerians. Buharia has failed, no right thinking person should vote for him. We all have to hands and vote him out and let another person continue. If Atiku fail us we will send him home in the next four years.

devigblegble:
No matter how rich I become, I’ll never in my life spray money at a party or concert .. I’d rather lavish my money on the poor or needy or just build a hospital in a rural place for free health care

Oh people will still call you a ritualistic, 419, drug pusher and so on.

Sarkin:
what's your point?
Didn't I say the man is not perfect?
Or can't you read?

Who

Sarkin:

I seriously hate leaders that are corrupt.
But I hate the foolish youths that beat their chests for them.

I keep telling people; "we must never let PDP rule us again" some people think it's a fallacy.
But that's the truth, that PDP is devils party.

I learned that they lured the recent defectors to their party with "juicy carrots" what else could that mean if not promises like;1) they will never be prosecuted if the party ever wins
2) they can loot but loot wisely
3) immunity...
And the likes. That's why that party is a safe heavens for bastard criminals. A party that is repugnant to progress to the extent they feed their satanic desperation buy sponsoring killings across the nation.

to the honest and truthful we all know Buhari isn't perfect but he's better than all the meat & blood(people) of PDP. Vote Buhari in 2019 if you want all the corrupt vagabonds locked up and the keys thrown in the ocean.

Don't you see that criminals like Reno Omokri are afraid to come to their motherland.
Before 2020 Nigeria will boast of 22/7 power.
Things are getting better slowly, it can never be fast.

I swear I never think that your kind exist, you can decisive yourself but not me and others in the majority. We say no to massacre, human right abuse, disunity, ethnic and religious cleansing, evil hidden agenda, impunity and corruption. Your party is evil and let that Buhari rule you and your entire family not Nigerians. He will not be president after 2019 mark it somewhere. We dash him to you alone and your family, let him take care of your life in Jesus name, say Amen so that God will give him in charge of your life.

Meanwhile, Nigeria is our Fatherland and not our Motherland. It is in our national anthem.

Rob and drink little natural crude oil and it will disappear in minutes if it spiritual, if nothing happen take him to skin clinic and it will go away within a week or two.

poseidon12:


Don't mind the self-centered ladies. She concealed her concerns until she got to the church. And the guy must have spent a lot of money. Why not say no much earlier.

You understood me correctly.

I hope women will also understand when a man stop cold on the steps of a church & say, "This is more than cold feet. I can't marry HER".

centboy123456:


it a men's world but woman rules it

But some of the women are still complaining. I mean those calling themselves Feminists. They don't know that men does not benefit from their labor, women owns every thing.

Nedfed:
Every good mother deserve that,
Which my mum was alive

What about our fathers, everyone here is always talking about mom, mom, mom, dad is an Aaron, men done suffer.

GlorifiedTunde:
Thieves porting from one armed robbery gang to another...

There is different between the thieves. All steals but one kills farmers and grab their lands and the other does not kill.

MarieSucre:


Uncle leave all this your shouting talk. We would say the same thing if it was a woman came to tell us her husband is suspecting her of cheating. The man needs to check himself and cut off all those things that are making him look suspicious. He should humble himself and do the needful for his marriage.

EVERY MAN MUST HUMBLE HIMSELF FOR PEACE TO RAIN IN HIS FAMILY. THAT IS SO TRUE... I HAVE TOLD O.P TO GO BACK HOME AND MAKE IT WORK AGAIN. PEOPLE SHOULD STOP DIGESTING WHAT THEY HEAR OR SEE ONLINE BECAUSE THAT DOES NOT REFLECT WHO YOU ARE OR DESCRIBE YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND.

Nihilstjnr:


you clearly don't have kids.

eod.

I HAVE FOUR KIDS. AND MY LAST CHILD IS 5 YEARS TODAY.

I WILL NOT WISH MY CHILDREN TO LEAVE TO DIE IN AN ILLNESS WHEN THEY ARE MARRIED BECAUSE I AM AWAKE THIS NIGHT NOT BECAUSE OF THIS THREAD BUT BECAUSE I AM KEEPING MY EYES ON THE ONE THAT IS SICK CHECKING HIS TEMPLATURE TIME TO TIME. ONE IS HAVING A BLOCK NOSE AND I HAD TO USE NASAL DROP TO RELIEF HER. LATER THEY WILL NOT TAKE CARE OF ME AT MY OLD AGE, GOD FORBIDS. WHY DO I HAVE CHILDREN IF THEY WILL NOT TAKE CARE OFF ME WHEN I NEED THEM. MEANWHILE, I AM USING THIS THREAD TO KEEP MYSELF AWAKE FOR MY KIDS.

MarieSucre:


Uncle the only reason we know she is from a well to do background is because he briefly mentioned it, he did not even bring it up as a reason for their quarrel. He said the main reason for their quarrel was because he was doing somethings that made the wife feel he was cheating on her. Face that one and stop all these other jumping up and down. The man needs to check himself and limit whatever action is making his wife feels she is cheating on him. My 2 cents.

THE MAN HAS NOT DONE ANYTHING WRONG THAT BROUGHT UP SUCH SUSPICION. THE WOMAN MIGHT HAVE HEARD SO MANY BAD STORIES ABOUT BAD HUSBANDS ONLINE AND PUT HER HUSBAND IN THE SAME SCENE.

I AM SAYING THIS BECAUSE I EXPERIENCE THE SAME ACCUSATIONS MANY TIMES WHILE I KNOW I HAD NEVER STOPPED A WOMAN SINCE I MARRIED. NOW I AM USE TO IT, I NORMALLY OVER LOOK IT AND KEEP MY MIND OF FROM THE NOISE. I UNDERSTAND IT IS A MEANS TO KNOW IF I AM STILL IN LOVE AND KEEP ME IN CHECK.

Nihilstjnr:


If you think abuse is the reason for this mess, you're clearly in denial or deluded.

The alleged abuse is a symptom of the a much deeper malaise in the marriage - the wife had clearly recognised her husband's capability for greed and cruelty.

If you're able to analyse properly, you can see that at every stage, this woman took steps to protect her investment because she knows who she married.

They made money together, but hubby decides he wants to use t profits to fly his dad out of the country for medical treatment, as well as build a house for his parents. The woman realises that this man is ready to take full control of, and squander their t funds, so she demands a split.

A sensible man with kids would know that his first priority is to his kids and would have first focused on putting a roof over his children's head. Instead he left his kids under rain and went to build a house for his parents. No surprise he walked away from those kids in the end.

Next, the woman builds the house in her name, again because she knows who she married. If you genuinely think that it's a mere coincidence that the man tried to order her out of the house, then I have a bridge to sell you.

Think about it, the man is claiming to be annoyed that the deeds weren't in both their names, yet he stold her to get out of a house, where as far as he knew at the time, she was listed as a co-owner anyway.

This is a guy who wasn't concerned about her rights in the first place, and the woman clearly recognised these tendencies and took steps to protect her neck.

Steps that have been justified in the end.

I believe there's a lot that hasn't been said yet, but if you think that her insulting his parents is what triggered this wahala, then mehn...you're inexperienced in life.

YOU ARE WRONG...

TAKING CARE OF ONE'S PARENT IS NOT A BAD IDEA, MEN DO IT FOR THEIR INLAWS AND IF THEY DO THE SAME TO THEIR PARENTS THAT SHOULD BE ENCOURAGED, HIS WIFE WAS ANGRY ABOUT HER IN LAW'S FINANCIAL DEMANDS, THAT IS SELFISHNESS. THAT OLD MAN THAT WAS SICK HAD IN A TIME SPENT HIS LAST KOBO TO BRING THAT HUSBAND UP AND HELPED TO BUILD UP TO A MAN SHE MARRIED. IT IS VERY BAD FOR A WIFE TO TURN HER HUSBAND AWAY FROM HIS PARENTS.

HERE YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT PUTING UP ROOF ON THE CHILDREN'S HEAD AND TAKING CARE OF THEM. WHEN THEY GROW UP AND MARRY AND O.P. WIFE GET THE SAME ILLNESS WOULDN'T SHE EXPECT HER SON TO FLY HER OVERSEAS TO GIVE HER THE BEST MEDICAL TREATMENT. THIS MAN CONTRIBUTED HEAVILY IN BUILDING THE HOUSE AND USED THE LEFT OVER TO BUILD FOR HIS PARENTS.

NOTE THAT HIS WIFE PARENTS ARE FINANCIALLY SUFFICIENT.

Evathyst:
Yeah! She confirmed he's a good man but didn't put his name as the owner of the house ab initio? Bros, you dull o. All those he's a good man title, na format. The wife already knows she's dealing with a totalitarian, hence, she gave herself a back up plan.


For your information, I'm happily married. So, it's not because of any bad experience that I'll typing this. I'm just advising a fellow woman not to fall victim to the latest marriage scam you men play. Besides, I'll like to ask; 'which law stipulated that a woman can live in a house built by her husband but the husband can't live in the same house built by his wife?'.

If you can't answer that, then, advise your egotistic brother to jejely move into his wife's house whilst paying maximum respect to his landlady. Else, he's just a bloody crook seeking to possess another person's possession.

YOU SAID YOU ARE MARRIED AND I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF YOU HAVE RESPECT FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR NOT?
IT SEEMS TO ME THAT YOU DON'T TRUST YOUR HUSBAND AND THAT SOUNDS VERY BAD. IN YOUR MIND 'HUSBANDS ARE SUSPECTS', YOU CAN NOT LIVE IN PEACE WITH THAT MIND SET. YOUR HUSBAND MIGHT BE SUFFERING, YOU THINK YOU CAN DOMESTICATE A LION, IF IT DID NOT ESCAPE THE CAGE IT WILL DIE OFF. A MAN MUST BE A MAN OTHERWISE IT WILL LOOSE IT'S TASTE.

Nihilstjnr:


there's no point.

I don't feel that I'm particularly drawing from my experience as a married man to recognise what is actually going on here...

I suspect the woman may not be particularly good looking, or may have some sort of inferiority complex because she's clearly conflicted about whether she can do better...

divorce is not the taboo word it once was, and she shouldn't immediately assume the responsibility of holding the family together for the kids, when it was the man who made the decision to walk away from those very kids.


This man is a leech who has gotten the woman so emotionally dependent on him, that he feels he can demand anything of her and reasonably expect to get it.

That's exactly the same concept of Yahoo Yahoo.

PLEASE READ THIS COMMENT.

Kayyy:
Having read both sides of this issue, i think a lot of people are so fixated on property drama much more than the major issue going on in the house that resulted into this which is VERBAL ABUSE, abuse of any kind is the beginning of end of a marriage, words spoken cannot be taken back, continuous words spoken breeds hatred, resentment , anger and then anger explodes leading to this.

Husband is being abused in his marriage due to insecurity and suspected cheating, abuse becomes continuous and venomous including abuse to family, background , parents and all, then husband acts immaturely and major secret is in opened. now husband foolishly thinks probably all this abuse is because this lady has had it all figured out for herself and planned herself to be control no wonder she insults and abuses anyhow so the solution is either the property is his name or he gets accommodation outside for himself and his kids, if she like she s them in HIS own accommodation or she carries her house for head. after all she wont have to abuse him every now and then in HIS own house.

Wife like most women with her comfortable background and also knowing most of the goodwill husband has enjoyed in the marriage was courtesy herself cant handle insecurity issues and results to abuse, and insults and degrades husband and his family even infront of her husbands cousin, and when when husband made the biggest and most foolish mistake of threatening her, goes on to make mockery of the man by letting him know the house he taught the family owned belongs to her. now trust is broken both ways husband is thinking if we both sat down and made a decision and agreed as one, but now u see it has i spent my money on my family while you built then what more should i expect to see you do or twist, wife is thinking thank God the property is in my name if not so you could actually dare to send myself and our kids out if you built it alone?.

This is what abuse in marriage activates, a never ending and continuous issue that could turn to a huge bomb, we tend to speak on verbal and physical abuse on this section, but sometime we don't get to see reality of what it can grow into like in this case, also ego from either or both spouses in marriage often lead to situations like this. let us get something straight the man has not even viewed the documents and probably thought his wife would do right in it as they are one and took decisions together and even he contributed his little portion to the house, and if this man had discovered the document in the future, it would just have been a case of discussion between both of them and they would settle to a decision without any ego in play.

I just thought i make people not focus too much only on the property itself but see how ego, abuse , insult and total lack of respect for each other can open lead to dire consequences in marriage.

Evathyst:
Bros, this world we're all living in isn't a place to trust completely o. I have seen and heard a lot! Let's shudder to think, why would the man want the property to be in his own name only?

That reason alone makes him dubious to me. Haha? He didn't even consider a scenario where the family can throw the wife and kids out if he dies under the excuse that 'Na our son property'. Also, if not for ego, who says a woman can live in a house built by her husband but the husband can't live in a house built by his wife?

So, you see? The whole idea of partners being equal in marriage is a hoax. Husband & Wife have never been equal to start with. If the woman wise well well, let her hold on to her house o. Else, I see her as the ultimate loser in this case....

READ WHAT THIS PERSON SAID THAT YOU MAY UNDERSTAND.

Kayyy:
Having read both sides of this issue, i think a lot of people are so fixated on property drama much more than the major issue going on in the house that resulted into this which is VERBAL ABUSE, abuse of any kind is the beginning of end of a marriage, words spoken cannot be taken back, continuous words spoken breeds hatred, resentment , anger and then anger explodes leading to this.

Husband is being abused in his marriage due to insecurity and suspected cheating, abuse becomes continuous and venomous including abuse to family, background , parents and all, then husband acts immaturely and major secret is in opened. now husband foolishly thinks probably all this abuse is because this lady has had it all figured out for herself and planned herself to be control no wonder she insults and abuses anyhow so the solution is either the property is his name or he gets accommodation outside for himself and his kids, if she like she s them in HIS own accommodation or she carries her house for head. after all she wont have to abuse him every now and then in HIS own house.

Wife like most women with her comfortable background and also knowing most of the goodwill husband has enjoyed in the marriage was courtesy herself cant handle insecurity issues and results to abuse, and insults and degrades husband and his family even infront of her husbands cousin, and when when husband made the biggest and most foolish mistake of threatening her, goes on to make mockery of the man by letting him know the house he taught the family owned belongs to her. now trust is broken both ways husband is thinking if we both sat down and made a decision and agreed as one, but now u see it has i spent my money on my family while you built then what more should i expect to see you do or twist, wife is thinking thank God the property is in my name if not so you could actually dare to send myself and our kids out if you built it alone?.

This is what abuse in marriage activates, a never ending and continuous issue that could turn to a huge bomb, we tend to speak on verbal and physical abuse on this section, but sometime we don't get to see reality of what it can grow into like in this case, also ego from either or both spouses in marriage often lead to situations like this. let us get something straight the man has not even viewed the documents and probably thought his wife would do right in it as they are one and took decisions together and even he contributed his little portion to the house, and if this man had discovered the document in the future, it would just have been a case of discussion between both of them and they would settle to a decision without any ego in play.

I just thought i make people not focus too much only on the property itself but see how ego, abuse , insult and total lack of respect for each other can open lead to dire consequences in marriage.

Kayyy:
Having read both sides of this issue, i think a lot of people are so fixated on property drama much more than the major issue going on in the house that resulted into this which is VERBAL ABUSE, abuse of any kind is the beginning of end of a marriage, words spoken cannot be taken back, continuous words spoken breeds hatred, resentment , anger and then anger explodes leading to this.

Husband is being abused in his marriage due to insecurity and suspected cheating, abuse becomes continuous and venomous including abuse to family, background , parents and all, then husband acts immaturely and major secret is in opened. now husband foolishly thinks probably all this abuse is because this lady has had it all figured out for herself and planned herself to be control no wonder she insults and abuses anyhow so the solution is either the property is his name or he gets accommodation outside for himself and his kids, if she like she s them in HIS own accommodation or she carries her house for head. after all she wont have to abuse him every now and then in HIS own house.

Wife like most women with her comfortable background and also knowing most of the goodwill husband has enjoyed in the marriage was courtesy herself cant handle insecurity issues and results to abuse, and insults and degrades husband and his family even infront of her husbands cousin, and when when husband made the biggest and most foolish mistake of threatening her, goes on to make mockery of the man by letting him know the house he taught the family owned belongs to her. now trust is broken both ways husband is thinking if we both sat down and made a decision and agreed as one, but now u see it has i spent my money on my family while you built then what more should i expect to see you do or twist, wife is thinking thank God the property is in my name if not so you could actually dare to send myself and our kids out if you built it alone?.

This is what abuse in marriage activates, a never ending and continuous issue that could turn to a huge bomb, we tend to speak on verbal and physical abuse on this section, but sometime we don't get to see reality of what it can grow into like in this case, also ego from either or both spouses in marriage often lead to situations like this. let us get something straight the man has not even viewed the documents and probably thought his wife would do right in it as they are one and took decisions together and even he contributed his little portion to the house, and if this man had discovered the document in the future, it would just have been a case of discussion between both of them and they would settle to a decision without any ego in play.

I just thought i make people not focus too much only on the property itself but see how ego, abuse , insult and total lack of respect for each other can open lead to dire consequences in marriage.

You said it all.