NewStats: 3,259,485 , 8,170,268 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 09:05 AM 66m31

mamagee3:
My older brother enjoys being mean to I and my other sibling when we were younger and he still hates us still but this time, we got older and we don’t allow him to talk sh!t to us anymore, he gets a bit scared. He made the house a nightmare while growing up.

We grew up in a single parent household...my other parents ed on when we were younger.

May hell visit him!!!

stop visiting the past ... if he try it again treat his bleep up

lekki1444:
i learnt that this world is nothing and is very fickle. nothing matters anymore. no need to be unhappy because goals have not been achieved because at the end of the day ? those goals dont mean nothing. in all things acquire wisdom knowledge and understanding. nothing else matters

now i walk around wiith bathroom slippers and dont care what the world thinks. Bleep the world. its fickle and dont mean nothing. in 2020 i have seen men of dignity and of means turn wretched right before my eyes. everythng is a front

you spoke my mind guyyy .... everything is an illusion . wisdom has left me with permanent peace . I've seen life for what it is .

GodWrites:


Wow.. Looks sleek. I don't even know how to do filter. I just roll it like that lol

My supply just finished, and I want to stay two weeks before ordering.

Lemme call it a tolerance break.

do me a favour bro i need to have a taste of this your Australian supply oi ... na grass dem just dey sell give boys . ur write ups always have one or two lessons

gistray:
You're a foool.


I am 23 and still a student and earn 400-500k monthly free lancing


Oga quit that nonsense and learn a either web development..graphics design or ui design.

.I called u a fool because you're a graduate with just certificate and no sense

oshey wise man .... you must been have born with a plastic spoon na why 400k dey freak you . Ediot

bosman50:
Send me a mail with details of the transactions...all the proof.
Let's see if we can buy time by paying of the 20k before 7days.
The money will be paid the their only in your behalf . How you see'm?

Thanks for helping him out ... your expectations will Never be cut short before this year ends.

ollymooreagain:
My husband set me up.

There is this man who began chatting with me around April. The man is handsome and with money. He began showering me with nice messages and slowly graduated to gifts.

We hadn't met but finally we met and I liked him more. Slowly we began planning on some romantic out and finally we booked a hotel out of town. I took myself there, weekend daytime. I had lied to my husband am going to visit a cousin of mine who lives there.

We got to the hotel and went to the room. We showered and we got to bed. However just as we began having romance, the door got banged so hard. The man seemed scared but went to open the door.

My husband came inside and found me naked. He told me: now I have proven that you aren't faithful to me. He told me it was all a set up to try me since he has always suspected me that I would cheat given the chance.

The man itted it was true he was hired to try me. He dressed up and both my husband and him left. I felt so much ashamed I didn't go home but went to my mothers place and haven't told her why am there. The children are with my husband.

How do I solve this one? Am so confused I blame myself though.

Pls leave your comments in the comments section.

So sad ... start looking for another husband asap ... cos if you back na hell be that .

No stay there till e begin use Red Soap baff. gals no need advice na lessons dem need

milky3:
if you are so unfortunate to find love does that mean you should hate others who do?

unfortunate ko ... wen I'm running away from you bitches ... guy's ain't desperate like girls nowadays . hope you are pretty cos ....

Jodha:


I'm a lovely person already... Love is endurance...I can't be in love with someone and can't overlook some things....if I can't then I don't love that person..

Love too is an illusion. cos it must end in heart break.

COURVOISier:
Na people wey follow this op advice dey smile.

guy abeg ur book u are selling is it educational or fictional books you write

Jodha:



I'm not really looking for who to mingle with... I'm looking for true undiluted love in it's real self... someone that'll love me unconditionally...not just for how I look...or for my body ...or what I say or do ...but just to love me for me...


As for the expectations and standard....i don't think I can go below my standard.... it's personally what I want....

when you become a lovely person you wud attract ur spec one day . just only fall in love with hu you can endure

Lovethaa:


Ofcourse ,if being a simp doesn't pay ..your dad won't have met your Mom who gave birth to you.

LoL to find a soul mate no be child's play oi
.... you guys are brothers and sisters not husband n wife.

mad oi being a SIMP pays in the long run.

Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

just increase the cycle of ur male friends (Real Gs) u wud get used to the street .... life ain't fair atimes so u don't always need to be fair always . I had alot of principles but after some life experiences I flushed em all . just avoid attachment ... read stoic books and minimalism.

chew ginger and garlic and drink tumeric juice to wash it off ur system .After that start reading the Bible or listening to messages devil will induce a good sleep to prevent you.

where dem dey find fork sef na so so hoes we dey see

ubunja:
How Commitment From Men Creates Orgasms For A Woman.


LET'S START AT THE VERY BEGINNING.
Women control sex. Men control commitment. Because women have the pussy and men have the money.

Women are choosy with the men they sleep with. While men are choosy with the women they commit to.

Men are choosy in commitment because a man's commitment is costly to him in that he bears the financial costs of the relationship so who he commits to is a carefully made decision.

Women, on the other hand, are choosy with who they sleep with because sex carries so many physical, biological, psychological and societal risks for them. Everytime a woman sleeps with a man she risks Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) which tend to be more aggressive towards women and some of which can destroy her womb, she risks pregnancy which can go wrong if she gets an STI that can to her unborn baby, she risks physical harm on her delicate organs from sex with aggressive partners and she also risks dickmatization if the dick proves too good, driving her nuts and messing her up mentally.
A woman also risks socially when she has sex because sex with the wrong men - men who are judgemental and talk too much - will ruin her reputation in her community, church, school or workplace and bring her ratings down as far as marriage is concerned. So who a woman has sex with is a carefully made decision.

WOMEN AND COMMITMENT.
In sex women are invested and they have a lot to lose because their bodies are on the line, but in commitment they are not invested because they don't bring much to the table financially (the table being the relationship or the marriage), hence women initiate the most divorces.

Because they came empty-handed women don't lose anything by walking away anytime. A woman's power in a relationship is that she can walk away anytime, because she's not invested the way men are.

No matter how irresponsible and careless a married woman is, she's never the one who has to watch her life savings go down the drain as the marriage breaks down. It's the men who invest their life savings into a marriage. It's them who lose the most when relationships break down.

Most often men are irreversibly ruined financially by a divorce while a woman can simple marry another man.

MEN AND SEX.
When a man and a woman start a relationship all the financial costs, by default, fall on the man. He's the one expected to pay for the dates, buy the gifts, pay bride price, fund the wedding, organize a home, put food on the table and make sure the woman is provided for. Which means for men relationships costs money. And since a relationship can only happen if a man is committed to a woman, then commitment costs a man money. And because money is something a man works hard for, he has to choose his girlfriend and wife carefully or risk losing it all if he commits to the wrong woman who'll abandon him.

But on the other hand, men are not invested in sex because their money and their bodies are not on the line, and all they stand to lose during sex is some pocket change (since sex is as cheap as a loaf of bread), some sweat and maybe a tablespoon of sperm - hence men screw anything in a skirt and it is virtually impossible to get a man to take contraception seriously because he can't get pregnant no matter how careless he is with sex.

No matter how irresponsible a man is with his dick, he's never the one left carrying a baby. And STIs are generally kinder to men than they're to women. And even if an STI was to be so aggressive as to destroy a man's fertility, a barren man is less a catastrophe than a barren woman.

So men are careless with sex, while women are careless with commitment.

And men are careful with commitment, while women are careful with sex.

WHAT SEX MEANS TO MEN AND WOMEN.
For men sex offers maximum benefits (orgasms are always guaranteed and their bodies don't get ruined) while offering minimum risks - but sex is hard to get for them.

For women sex offers minimum benefits (many don't even orgasm) and maximum risks (pregnancy, disease, bonding issues with future men and it ruins women's bodies) but is easy to get.

Men go through life begging for sex. Women go through life turning down sex.

Men come from a place of sexual scarcity. Women come from a place of sexual abundance.

Men come from a place of sex without fear and without concerns because in sex men are not risking much. But women come from a place of sex filled with anxiety and concerns - due to the risks sex presents to them.

WHAT BLOCKS A WOMAN'S PLEASURE?
Although women get sex easy, the sex act itself is very dis-empowering for them. A woman is powerful out there when she's teasing men with her scanty clothing and tempting attire. But the moment the bedroom door closes behind her and the clothes come off and that dick slides into her pussy, the man has all the power. Never is a woman more vulnerable, more defenseless, more exposed and more overpowered, than when she has a dick buried inside her. Her pussy, heart and mind have all been penetrated and taken captive by the man - someone with so little to lose from the sex.

The man, hardly invested in the sex, controls the sex. The woman, she who has everything to lose, has zero control of the moment. If the man decides against condoms he'll most certainly get his way. If his dick is too big for her hole - too bad, she's going to walk funny and sit funny for the next couple of days. If the woman changes her mind and wants the sex to stop - too late, this train doesn't stop till ejaculation! If the man desires to come inside her, there's nothing to stop him.

When a woman is having sex with a man who doesn't love her and who's not committed to her in any way, she shoulders all the risks of the sex all on her own. Whatever the outcome of the sex - pregnancy or disease - she's on her own. She may use contraception but she knows no contraception is 100%. She may have the option to abort any unwanted pregnancy but most women don't feel okay with murdering unborn babies plus abortions carry their own risks. So whatever safety nets and measures exist to minimize the risk of sex for women they still feel exposed to many dangers.

And so, during the sex, while the man is lost in the bliss of intercourse enjoying the ecstasy of copulation, the woman's mind is restless with worry: "What if something goes wrong?", "What if the condom breaks?", "What if he doesn't pull out?", "What if I get pregnant?", "What if I get sick? Who will help me? Will this guy help me? But he doesn't even love me! Yes he gave me money to fvck me, but if I get a baby or a disease that money is peanuts".

Now, these thoughts are very distracting for a woman. They draw her mind away from the act she's participating in.

Instead of focusing on the action between her legs and savoring the sensations, the woman's mind is all over the place. On things that can go wrong. She's wondering what she'll do if things go sideways. Knowing fully well the man fvcking her won't be there for her should the worst happen.
All this brainwork drains the magic out of the sex. It negatively impacts on the woman's experience. It blocks her pleasure. She's too preoccupied analysing worst case scenarios to mentally relax and enjoy herself. She can't reach the highest highs of pleasure with these worries weighing on her mind. And so the sex ultimately never quite fulfill or satisfy her. Her mind is not present in the moment. She's too worried to enjoy anything. And days and weeks after the sex, she'll still worry about other consequences of the sex that may yet surface.

UNLOCKING A WOMAN'S ORGASMS THROUGH COMMITMENT.
NOW, when a woman is having sex with a man committed to her, who loves and cares for her, who values her and who has abundantly made it clear he is willing to shoulder the risks of sex together with her and has sufficiently invested in her as proof, it reassures her and gives her the confidence to cast her worries to the side. This casting away of worries, this alleviation of concerns, this neutralising of fears, this building of trust and confidence, this relief from anxiety - all this puts a woman in a safe and secure mental space. A good place. A happy place. This mental space, this good place, this happy place, is where a woman's orgasms come from.

The difference between committed, loving sex and uncommitted, casual sex, for a woman, is the STATE OF MIND she's in during the sex which in turn affects the amount of pleasure she can derive from the sex. Committed loving sex yields more pleasure.

Because sex, enjoyable as it is, has the potential to ruin a woman's life in so many ways, it is when a woman fully trusts her man to co-shoulder with her any undesirable outcomes, that sex becomes amazing for her. When a woman fully believes that a man will stand by her in dealing with whatever might happen to her because of the sex, her mind is free to let go of all worries and to focus on actually enjoying the sex - it is then that the orgasms will hit. And they'll hit more and more frequently for her.

When there are safety nets, a woman soars and touches the sky.

Inside a relationship, when it comes to sex, It's not so much the size of a man's dick or his sexual prowess that makes sex amazing for a woman, but it's what the relationship represents to her: security - courtesy of the man's commitment.

Her man's commitment to her enables the woman to cast her cares upon him, freeing her mind to fully partake of the moment.

"MONEY MAKES ME WET".
And it's not just the vanquishing of worries specific to sex that makes sex great for women. Women are historically poor and many struggle financially even though they have a job.
The worries that come with not having enough money - worrying about the bills, about food, about the cost of beauty products, clothing, her future, etc, all these are pleasure blockers in that they keep a woman's mind preoccupied - even during sex.

When a woman is a married virtually ALL these fears are allayed. She's at peace and her mind is free. This is fertile ground for women's orgasms.

Men think safe sex is condoms. And that's true. But for women safe sex goes further than just condoms. It includes financial aspects. Aspects that have NOTHING to do with sex. But aspects that, for women, have an immediate and direct effect on the sex.

And on condoms, if a woman has to use condoms to have sex with you already she views the sex as risky and already her pleasure has been blocked. Women hate condoms. And not because they enjoy less with the rubber on or they're allergic, but because of what the rubber symbolizes: "I don't trust you and we shouldn't be doing this, so let's keep our flesh from touching". Which makes the sex cold, detached, unromantic and mechanical - like sex between a man and a prostitute.
Women don't get joy from this kind of sex because it's not intimate. Because there is no skin to skin touch and no exchange of bodily fluids that build that connection and that bond where two become one.

Safe sex for women is sex where they don't have to use condoms because everything is safe . Sex that is happening at the right time with the right man in the right environment for the right reasons.

A slut who has given sex to many men for many years without getting so much as one orgasm can have her first orgasm in marriage with her VIRGIN HUSBAND. Not because virgin husband has superior skills. But because of the circumstances of the sex. The environment. The reasons. That in turn determine the quality of the sex.

QUANTITY VS QUALITY.
For a woman - as far as sex is concerned - the choice between being a hoe and being in a loving relationship with one man is the choice between QUANTITY and QUALITY. Where hoering offers high quantity sex, but a loving one-man relationship offers high quality sex.

A woman who has chosen sexual quantity is an insatiable black hole that consumes and consumes and can never have enough because unrestrained female sexual appetite is bottomless. Also a woman who, in general, orgasms easily during sex is likely to choose to be a hoe. Because she doesn't need that safe and secure mental space (which a relationship creates) to get the most out of sex.

THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN.
But, as with all things sex and romance, men and women live in different realities. Opposing realities. And sex and commitment is yet another area of opposites: while sex with commitment is the best sex for women, sex WITHOUT commitment is the best sex for men.

A man enjoys sex best when he has no regard, no respect and no care for the woman he's screwing. The woman the man holds in high regard whom he respects and cares about, sex with her doesn't quite blow his mind. It's that whole Madonna-Wh0re thing. Where the respected girlfriend or wife is loved but the debased hoe is lusted.


# MGTOW
# TheRedPill

just form a religion u go get followers ... I read ur previous write ups and you are really blessed with knowledge and understanding.

which kind newspaper be this evening

still available .......

Still available ........

I have a suitable self contained for rent within owerri the main capital ... light 24/7 and water . send me a pm if interested ... note : for only female corp .

Amna1:
So I'm a student of botany(level 2)and I'm doing quite really good as I'm on a g.p of 4.6,so along the line everyone i meet keeps condemning the course like it's not worth it and completely a waste of time....



So i tried retaking jamb,of course to change my course.then i realized starting afresh will make me lose precious years and age is not in my side, it's a health course it'll take me about 6 years, inclusive with ASUU strike around 8 years to complete please nairalanders what do you suggest should i continue with botany and aim for first class or switch to the health profession.





Someone said in nigeria the degree doesn't matter but rather the certificate.

abeg if u get the ission for any medical course pls go ... send me a pm i wud convince you ... my mates in medical college we ain't mate after graduation .
read a professional course ... be like u be unilag student ?

Juanmike:
menopause is fast approaching.and Shiloh 2021 might not hold.

wicked savage ... LOL

Jake19:
Good evening Nairalanders. I am sorry to bother you. I opened this newly just to seek for your advice as my heart is too heavy now. Me and my boyfriend have been dating since November 2018. We both love each other. He is working and I work too. We do not stay in same place but I visit him every weekend. Recently I found out that he is a little withdrawn from me with his attitude. He rarely pick my calls and rarely call as before. Infact our communication level has dropped. When ever I ask, he gives this excuse of his busy schedule. I have never caught him cheating before and he has not cheated on me either. 3days ago, I received the most heartbreaking call of my life when my friend told me that my boyfriend just engaged someone. I thought she was joking until I saw pictures of my supposed boyfriend on his Instagram page engaging a girl. I have been down and devastated ever since.
This is someone I gave my all to. Someone I ed financially to open a side business. Someone whose siblings I assisted sometimes. Call me names , insult me, because I know I deserve it, but this is someone that made me carried out abortion 2times. How do go about this because I feel really heartbroken as I type. I m losing focus right now even in office.
Please I need your Advice here.
Sorry for my English

hmmm u aborted twice for him ... u terminated two destinies to please ur mumu boyfriend . He don see you finish that's why he dumped you... no need to marry you again .... just move on

slawormiir:
damnnn niggarrrr

Oh lawd....
When a real niggarr heave a sigh of relief and he is about to light up another tie of weed thinking he has seen and heard enough about accidents then boom another shit pops up

can a real niggar do yayo ?

KBORN:
Good evening nairalanders,
This lady i intended to marry and we love each other reasonably.
The father of the lady approved but the mother said over her dead body that she is not in .The father told me again not to worry.
My girl and her mum attend a white -garment church.So she told me that her mum did not approve because she got a "message" that we cannot marry;that there will not be child between us.Now my girl is pregnant and i wonder how possible.The mum sent her packing to my place and refused to change her mind.What could be happening somewhere that i don't know?
#Advice me.
#nobodyisallknowing

just keep mute concerning the marriage issue ... after delivery send her back to her mum ... that your own prophet saw a vision that the child is not yours.

Meedon:
This life no just worth it. Goodbye friends and romanceranders.


I gbadun you all.


Till we meet in heaven.


How can I suffer like this and I did not enjoy small, there's God.

wia be ur burial venue sir

Ewedegubbler:
I hold a Mauritius port. Best decision of my life.

how did you get it ... that's my dream Land