NewStats: 3,260,838 , 8,172,757 topics. Date: Tuesday, 27 May 2025 at 07:37 PM 5745l

iLegendd:
Most of my haters are depressed, so I like giving them something to vent their frustrations on and get some likes and shares to feel better about themselves.

Below are 3 pictures I took this morning for my abs to have something to talk about.

Oya, 1, 2, 3, go...

LoL this guy I don dey read ur previous post since like sey na Bible ... we share get the mindset ... but not on the same financial strata ... I gat learn many stuffs from you oi ....

missimelda01:
Okay, enjoy alone.

naso ...we no fit kill ourselves ... just be Happy and healthy .

missimelda01:

I hope you’re in Nigeria saying this

ya why won't ... IM A PROUD Nigerian � .
I have looked at all the folks I know abroad there is none Im envying/ look up to .... rather I pity them

missimelda01:
Our president has spoken.
At this point I’m just so weak and heartbroken..Nigeria can never be great
I feel so bad for the people who lost their lives fighting for a better country..may their souls Rest In Peace.

Who needs a buddy? Just take me out of this country

just stay in ur country ... Canada is just overated

missimelda01:

stop laughing I have changed my mind

missimelda01:

stop laughing I have changed my mind

missimelda01:
Gerrout

u have not yet come over to me you are already sounding harsh.

missimelda01:
Our president has spoken.
At this point I’m just so weak and heartbroken..Nigeria can never be great
I feel so bad for the people who lost their lives fighting for a better country..may their souls Rest In Peace.

Who needs a buddy? Just take me out of this country

I'm in Canada ... please just send me recharge card lemme be able to send you my address.

SirMichael1:
I have a tendency of being emotionally absent. Like I could be on now and in the next minute, I'll just switch off like an electric switch and could switch off for days. Then I can be needy, very needy of attention. Also, I have often shown that I am playful, lacking the luxury of seriousness.

naso i be bro ....

UyaiIncomparabl:


It's obvious you are still a kid, hence the constant need for some attention.

I understand the last part. Your bouts of occasional immaturity on this forum have made that evident - countlessly.

Team maturity ... Go use m collect loan for bank ....

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healthbing:
Mine is not much.. I love attention and order.. Respect Pampering

healthbing:
Mine is not much.. I love attention and order.. Respect Pampering ;
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you are an adult you don't need pampering

chai ... hu put buhari for this kind gbege like this

I think sey buhari na ur G ... papa adeboyr

No b konji the worry m ... another unsaid stuff na the issue .... if konji was d issue u for don treat m since regardless of ur belief.

IntersexSherry:
I was into a relationship with a yahoo boy, i didn't know he was into that. I fell so deeply and madly in love with him to the extent no man moves me again except him. I have different men hitting on me, i see lot of handsome guys but still i just can't get my mind off him. I think of him all the time, anytime i'm with a guy, i still think of him. I broke up with him because i don't like the job he does and he refused to stop, i don't consider him a good person. I keep hearing his voice in my head. I just want to forgot all memories with him. I want to be free of him. I have deleted and blocked all his but still i think of him.
Please i need to move on with my life and forget this stupid boy. I don't even know why i feel so much attracted to him, he is not even so handsome. I don't just know why.. I have had lot of way handsome guys hitting on me but still i think of him.
I need to be free. He has to leave my head. How do i forget him please And i'm not doing this again with anyone if i finally get free of him. I hate giving my heart this much to people who don't appreciate and toy with it. I was ready to do anything for him. I know how i can get really
addicted to something that really makes me happy. Better to get addicted to drugs than human beings.

the guy might have gone diabolical for you oi ... is not normal ... one nairalander here attested to doing that to his gf that broke up with him .... he said he regrets it because till now the girl is not married and he is married with 2kids

I have a business proposal / only viable around Lagos island or any good location in Abuja ... really lucrative so sad i have to let the idea out . Note only serious investors.
send me a pm

Vanzetti:
I would make this short as possible .I met my girlfriend when I was in my 300 level. I am her first. I met her when she was 18 years old, seeking ission. She is young and beautiful no doubt one of the reasons I'm attracted to her.

She gained ission in unilag because the school I studied in didn't offer the course she wanted. She gained ission that year I met her I had known her for about 8 months already. I was already in my 400 level as she resumed 100 level. We had asexual relationship also ( I deflowered her tho..)

She got pregnant for me when I was in my in my final year in school. It happened as she came back from school, she decided to drop at my place to spend the night. I never knew she was going to that and I was not prepared, if not I could have used protection that night.She called me after like 1 month to tell me she was pregnant. I love this girl so much.
She came to my place begging me not to deny her saying her elder sister also got pregnant for someone but was denied this made her parents mad. Her father had threatened that she must provide who was responsible. I later agreed and I followed her. The father (he is very rich' a senior oil worker) had promised to deal with me if I end up leaving his daughter after my schooling.

He had informed my parents and traveled down tho.. Arrangements were made that I would wife his daughter.
I had doubts that I was the father all those while but I couldn't voice out. On several occasions when I was on my IT in Lagos, this girl would deny me visit after work but prefers to visit me at her own time. My work was not far from yaba o, either she visits me at home or I only come at night claiming she is busy.

Even when I was in school I dont do night calls. Even decline video calls. As per guy wey I be, I sabi say bodi no be firewood cos I was also doing some outings on my own end.
I stay in Lagos too so I understand the rush in unilag especially for year 1 considering her beauty and nice body.

FFWD she gave birth to a girl tho. I just had to accept it but still had my doubts. I could not even tell my mom because she knew of our relationship and might tag me stupid. I had made it in mind after my schooling I would do a DNA test.

I saved some money after service and I could have gotten married this year. I took my daughter which I had already lived secretly to the hospital when I was sick claiming that I wanted her to accompany me. My daughter is already 4 years.
The result came out and she is not mine. I ran the test in another hospital same result. I confronted her and she was in tears, she told me that she was confused and didn't know who the father was, that I was the better option. She had a boyfriend in Unilag who was about 18 years and the sane level with her. She had sex with him before coming back and landed in my place and also had with me. She was ignorant.
Her father threatened her that she most provide the person and there us no where for her to go because I was close by. And she thought u should be the one..she wasn't sure.

The bone of contention here is I already like my daughter and my girlfriend though I'm still very bad. But i have been with her after most if the times after she had given birth. She is in her fathers house.
The father has plans already and I to start work at Mobil in Eket. Following arrangements to marry his daughter he has only two girls and doesn't want them to carry children both without fathers .
I still dont know what to do, should I cancel everything and tell the father? considering the trauma I faced as a students and inconveniences I had while in school.
Will she be a faithful person in future? Will she use it against me?
Do I get her pregnant and speed up with the marriage procedures?
I dont want to regret at the end. My mother won't like it if she knows that the girl is not mine and won't consider her as her grandchild.

Modified: I appreciate your contributions as I am beginning to analyze a lot.

Some friends here and outside has adviced me that I should make it open to the family. If I want to marry her because she left school after pregnancy then I can go ahead and get married to her as someone who gets married to someone with a child already.

She has been on my neck since... She says shee was young and naive that she loves me more. I had been with her all this while. She told me tgat we can have other children also.
I have asked her of the father, she says she doesn't know of his whereabouts anymore. That she never even knew the paternity and thought I'm the one.

My daughter on the other hand loves me so much and my mother likes her a lot.
I still love her tho.. Even tho I had my doubts.
I had already packed to resume work this month.

I'm still confused.

if I'm you bring up this discussion with her and record it oncode before you marry her if not after marriage she fit deny m oi ... just get the employment first before you start solomonizing about other women ... if there wer mistakes and the results showed u wer her father u wud still be living happily with a lie ... so bro don't think too much .

Casalindal:
On this day 8 months ago I was fine and carrying a 25 week bump gracefully. I had a good pregnancy, the only complaint from my Dr was my "uterus” had just finished a bowl of porridge yam when I felt "wet". I thought I peed on myself, went to the bathroom and discovered I was bleeding. We dialed 911 and that evening started the most terrifying journey of my life. I got to the hospital, God bless the paramedics. An ultrasound showed I had a total placenta abruption. The rush started to save my life. The baby's life was not priority. I was bleeding profusely. I said a prayer, told God to accept my soul if this was the end The drs told me they would do their best for the baby but because she was only 25weeks old, they didn't have the facility to care for her there. They had a level II NICU. If the baby makes it, she would have to be airlifted to a level IV NICU. 11.48 pm, I gave birth to a baby girl at 25 weeks 4 days. Sh weighed 748grams. She was the tiniest human I had ever seen. When they showed her to me, I kept asking "where is she". They tried intubating her 9 times before they got it right. Her vocal chord was damaged in the process. The travel team came to airlift her to another province but told me they were not sure she would make the flight. She was very fragile. It was a 2hours flight. Those were the longest 2hours of my life. I cried and cried. I prayed till I had not words to pray. I was in agony. I had no power to make things right. I knew this was all in God's hands. The call came, she made it. Next day I was airlifted to her. Everything looked like a movie. Been in a ambulance, wheeled on a stretcher into an air ambulance. Wow. Mid air my oxygen saturation dropped and they had to put me on Oxygen. Oh boy, nothing like a good medical facility and also having money to sort your bill or afford them. The NICU journey is not one you would wish on anyone. It drains you emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and all the "allys" you can think of. The uncertainty that lies ahead tears at every shred of strength you have. The nurses call it a "rollercoaster period". I sat helplessly watching my baby in the isolette, I watched through everytime her heartbeat drops and I couldn't do anything. I would cry everytime, I cried till I would start hyperventilating. If there was a crying competition, I would have been the winner with no opposition. One day, the nurses asked me if I would like to hold her. I was so scared of holding her, I was scared of hurting this tiny baby God gave me.I kept asking them if it was safe. I finally held her, it was a beautiful moment. I held my baby and prayed. Begged God to please save her. See guys you all night think I’m one hell of attention seeker all what have not, but true be told I have seen the good and the bad side of life. I will forever remain grateful to God and my loving husband for this journey and his also To some of you guys here who has taken time to reach out with your kind words I totally appreciate everyone. I have had my fair share of life and trust me there were sometime not always pleasant.

thanks be to God dear ... anytime I see ur name I go just dey laff (drama queen).

Ambiitiouscent:



U dey mind the Apache fellow. He’s the same dude as that Apache something moniker. Just confirmed it now. He’s using IP vanish vpn. Dumb fellow doesn’t know say VPN na wash

how una dey take sabi all these stuffs of tracking someone ip address .... abeg come teach me bro

strong man with a soft heart ... hbd

Danielfx:
The main reason why i have not exposed this to anyone since is because it sounds completely insane.

After my secondary school education, i had an health attack from an overdose of drug and was unconcious, after I was revived and discharged, i started hearing a girl talking to me in a cool voice. At first, i thought i was deluding but it becomes real and real, she introduced herself as my wife and that we got married. She asked me if i don't which i said "no", funny enough i developed an attitude relating with her without a problem and even started having sex with her, i feel her on me and then somehow ecstasy evoke building that sperm flow....

My major issue is that i can't date a girl more than three months. My spirit companion would leave atimes for days and eventually come back. All the ladies i ever loved could not stay even though i showed them love and care and spent money on them.

I have been so lucky with money, she knows my taste for money is insatiable and so she doesn't object that area at all but whenever i start crying or feeling hurt about heartbreak with my girlfriend, she would come and whisper to me that she told me to leave her alone, that she can't share me with anyone and that we belonged to each other...

My friend was able to use voodoo to hold his girlfriend that broke his heart and stole his money to elope with a guy, the girl came back and for years they have been together happily. The girl is so happy that i advised myself to do thesame. My friend took me to an Alfa that did thesame stuff for him. Mine didn't work, as a matter of fact, my girl left me to a guy that is not handsome as i am, not financially buoyant as i am and not even educated. I used drugs during sex and so i am sure the guy wouldn't be twice as good as i am in bed.

The last time i saw my ex, she was dried up from starvation as her dad had no job and she already lost her mom. I called her and sent money to her to make her hair but after meeting her at the saloon, she declined meeting again with me. It was as if one moment she was very jumpy to get back to me and another moment she was critically rude.

So, i called her today and she told me she has a visitor, a male visitor and that i should not call her and that she would call me when she is chanced. I was so angry and didn't know what to do, i withdrew money and bought codeine to forget her but just as i was about taking the codeine, the spirit lady came, i felt her presence and then she laughed jokingly at me and told me she warned me about the girl, that we(spirit and i) belonged together and that i should stop chasing ladies except for flings only....


I was so angry and then i told her i would commit suicide to end the frustration of being lonely all the time, she then threatened to paralyse me if i attempt doing it, and that the paralysis would stop me from putting myself in harms way but i will live for long, even to old age like that...


She seemed so intelligent giving me special advise and saying things that i don't even know of. She makes people see me like a highly intelligent young man. She advises me whenever she's around some of the advise are righteous and it makes me wonder if she is angel or something. At a time, she came to my exam hall once to sit with me and tell me some few answers while she joke...

People started thinking i am mad or deluded in some sort which i know was true. They say sometimes i talk to myself and behave strange and even walk like a deluded person...

The thing is that i don't really hate her but the fact that i can't see her is dreadful for me. I need a companion and no girl seems to be around me more than three months no matter how caring i am. I am so fucking romantic that people always compliment on my act....

My previous posts reflect on heartbreak and stupid relationships all of which were her handiwork.

I am unhappy with my life. No voodoo works for me. I can't even cast a spell on a girl and can't hold any girl around me and any male friend she doesn't like, she sends away somehow...

Please Nairalanders, this is not a story, this is real and to God in heaven i swear on my death. I don't know what to do again. Please someone should help.


Modified: My family dedicated me to an idol in sapele after they gave birth to me.

They claimed i was so sick after birth and that they tried everything possible and only the idol that saved me... I worshipped the idol till the age of 15

The real transaction on ur spirit man occurred when you where unconscious from the drug overdose . Just rededicate your life to chirst and avoid any bad habit that's the only thing that links us with the devil . Also keep the seat of your thoughts pure avoid smoking n drinking especially oi . The open door to entities of the lower realm. Listen to this oyedepo messages on spiritual authority and this YouTube channel vessels of Jesus the babe go give you spiritual ginger. Na from personal experience oi

Righteousness89:
I Love His Boldness..


I Believe that when one Believes in a Course, He/She Should stick out His Life for it Without Fear..

As I am today by the Grace of God! I am Ready to be Killed for the Gospel of My Savior, JESUS Christ..

you are fully persuaded bro ... I pray to get to that level

Twistedadult:
Hello everyone. I'm in my early thirties and I have been dating a girl for the past 15 months. I love her so much and really want to marry her but the problem is that she tells lies a lot and even when she's caught she doesn't become remorseful rather she tries to justify her actions. I have caught her in multiple lies in the past but still decided to give her some time to change but it's not happening. I have even met with her parents to tell them my intention of getting married to their daughter. She also finds it difficult to do house chores or even spend on me no matter how little. I take care of her to the best of my ability and would have engaged her if not for my fear of ending up with someone I can't trust. We had a fight last week and we haven't spoken to each other since then. She called me and was telling me her bestie is getting married next month and I still don't want to pay her bride price. It got me upset because of her tone and I hung up on her and didn't call back neither did she. I'm in a dilemma right now. My head is telling me to leave her for good because it seems telling lies and being selfish is part of her and she can't change while my heart is telling me to go back and keep trying. How do you think I should handle this situation? Thanks!

don't complicate ur life leave her and move on ... you have never experienced the pain of having someone toxic around you

azvm:
2014. i met a guy on Nairaland, i'll call him C. i'm not a new member, only using a new moniker. I was 27, him 29 (now we're 32, 35). i'm yoruba, him igbo. we met in Religion where we were encouraging one suicidal, depressed dude in a thread. he PMed me abt liking what i wrote then the friendship began. we had things in common, had interesting discussions, talked about ourselves and families, problems, etc. we agreed to be in a ldr, communicated mostly over email, whatsapp texts. we've done video calls too several times and till three years ago but i put a stop to them bc he was always asking me to show him parts of my body

2016. i was doing a school research project i needed a website for. C told me he knew someone in Nigeria to build it for me, said he would pay him the money, about $100. after the website was built , a week later he started hampering me to return the money, hurling insults at me, telling me i stole his money and he would tell everyone i took his money and ran. i told him i thought the money had been a gift. we were in a relationship, i didn't think i had to return it. after all the verbal abuse i sent him the money -actually sent him more than $100, then he was happy. it wasn't until i told him how bad his behavior was towards me that he apologized. after this, he wanted me to visit him in Nigeria (we had talked abt me visiting Nigeria since 2015) but i couldn't make it. he soon quit talking to me, disappeared. i didn't hear from him at all for three months, no calls, no nothing. i ended up meeting a man here, a Jamaican. i wasn't attracted to this man, we weren't in a relationship. i don't want to get into these details but i was sexually assaulted and lost my virginity, at 29. i reported to the police last year, it's still an ongoing police case. i somehow blame C. i've felt if he hadn't disappeared i wouldn't hv fallen into the hands of this rapist. C knew my goal was always to save myself for marriage like i had been doing.

rewind. some background. before i met C, i was in a relationship when i was 25, in 2012.
2012. i met a yoruba guy my Uni. he was an international student. we never had sex due to me wanting to wait for marriage. we kissed, hugged during our weekly outings. we saw each other once a week for movies, dinner, bowling. he ended up cheating. 7 months later, i broke up w him. this dude is history but is who i consider my ex if you ask who my ex is. i consider this relationship my first ever relationship, the only real-life relationship i've ever been in all my life, though a non-sexual one.

back to C.
2017. he did encourage me after i told him what had happened to me, provided moral . but he then disappeared again. when he ed me four months later, i was upset, we exchanged some words over email- mostly me calling him dishonest, unfaithful, untrustworthy, which were all true. he took things too far and was verbally abusive calling me horrible names and using the things i've told him about myself to insult me, like the sexual assault. he apologized later but i was quite hurt. we decided to start anew for a relationship mostly doing whatsapp texts and email as usual. he isn't a phone call person, he has the tendency to need his space for a week a two- i never complained.

2018. he disappeared again this time for 8 months, from april to november, no communication at all. i had told myself to forget about him. he suddenly called my phone one november afternoon 5 times. when we got to talking he confessed he was engaged to an igbo girl in Nigeria, was busy making preparations for the marriage but her family were making too many financial demands so he opted to call it off. i was shocked to hear he had been engaged. i told him he only ed me again since the marriage plans didn't work out. he apologized, said it's me he wants to marry, i'm a simple girl, i'll give him peace of mind, blah blab blah. he wanted us to start where we left off. i told him i no longer trusted him but said we could try again, see where it goes

2019. we continue and things were fine till Valentine's Day. a week before V-day he said he loved me, promised to never leave me again. on Valentine's day i got no Valentine's message from him either or email or whatsapp, no call, nothing. meanwhile i would see him on whatsapp. fast forward to two weeks later i needed a logo for a blog of mine. i found a guy on nairaland for it. initially i wanted to send C the money to give to the guy but i decided to send him the money myself, i sent him the money then C started ignoring me. long story short the guy didn't send my logo after receiving the money. i told C, asked him to call the guy for me to release my logo, he refused. after this, i stopped communicating with C myself this time, he didn't me either, not till later last year

2020. fast forward to last month he told me abt his laptop which got damaged after a power outage. i started looking online to buy another laptop for him ( i didn't tell him ). my plan was to surprise him, send it to him for his birthday in October. we chatted on whatsapp the next day, i was doing my best to make him feel better, asked him what laptop he's using now, other questions to show him i care. all of a sudden he went of on me calling me deplorable n all sorts of names, saying stuff he knows will hurt me. i dunno maybe he was having a bad day or what. i told him i was planning to buy another laptop for him but he carried on insulting me. i blocked him. asides, his communication towards me recently has been sexual -he's always talkn abt wanting to make love to me, how attracted he is to me ( he has my pics ), how i'm his fantasy. he emailed me days later talkn abt me being the love of his life. he first refused apologizing for all his insults said over whatsapp, he said he doesn't need to apologize before i forgive. he finally said "i'm sorry ok" days later, i told him there's no more relationship. he says he doesn't want to let me go, i'm the only one who understands him. lately i've been thinking abt sponsoring him or going to nigeria to marry him. despite the fights he hs been my friend over the years. plus i'm thinking being in the same place may help us bond a lot better, start a family someday. my fears are he may not be a good father or husband, will be abusive, or i may find out he's got a wife in Nigeria. what do u guys think i should do?

*he's still on nairaland though not too active. he may or may not see this thread... it wouldn't matter either way.

I know how you feel is hard to cut off who you have been used to ... let him go so u wud av anoda one .... Let most of ur principles slide and flow with guys u wud get to stumble on an amazing personality

I noticed these occurrence in more than 5 theft cases that I caught those involved and I found out the are always children of the upper class ... Do you have similar experiences share yours