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tobechi74:

it is love the sinner, hate the sin

Anything you say

tobechi74:
when love do you something, you will hate it

What happened to “hate the player and not the game?" I don't describe Love as a game; just using that maxim to make a point. Love doesn't hurt people, people hurt people. I think if there should be hate, then people should hate the person who hurt them, who took their love for granted, not love itself.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts though

Lightangel65:
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Boy I envy your untainted heart, but even if you find that person, they would leave you for someone better/richer/cuter. This isn't Barbie or Disney cartoon. There is no Happy ever after. Romantic was wasn't created to be everlasting. When you experience it you would know.

Ok. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

nuelsam:
I hate love because i cherish my sanity.....this days Love is just like an illusion......people dont love you for who you are, they love you for what you have rather......so i aint stupid enough to chase love when i should be chasing money and a king sized lifestyle.

I think there are still people people who'd love you for who you are. They might be few but they're there. Sometimes, we are so consumed in our wrong generalizations and misconceptions that even when someone genuinely loves us, we stay suspicious and end up ruining it...

Lightangel65:
Cause love isn't always sweet like Disney butterflies or Barbie's happy endings, in the real world it's filled with heart break which makes people scared lf it and hate it to avoid dissappointment. In the real world love is a fantasy, Money rules over love here.

Hmmmm

Ariza:
They do not hate love, they hate the vulnerability that comes with love. They hate the fact that love opens them to hurt, so they try not to do love or give it a chance. The irony though, love comes unexpectedly before they know it, they are in love again.

They should just say it the way it is then. I think you made a really valid point here and that's how I think it is too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

DanDeeBoss:
Coz of some bad experiences they've had with love....

Love in itself isn't bad, it's just you didn't get it right once or more... probably loved the wrong persons or so

I've always thought love is one of the most beautiful things on Earth, but then you hear or read some saying “I hate love". I need to understand the reasoning behind this.


So, why would anyone hate love?

Riele:
Believe it or not.
Nigeria men are ugly and below average .
It's so annoying .

Seriously? Nigerian guys ugly? Well-done Ma

RedCreme21:
'why us?' I love your confidence sha.

Chai!!! There is God o

Treating someone right has nothing to do with tribe; it's all about the individual. You can say the Igbos are better husbands and I'll show you some Igbo men who treat their wives like crap. Same goes for other tribes. There are good and bad husbands in every tribe, so let's stop making it about a person's tribe; it's all about the individual.

Castamir:

Trust me, it doesn't!

"Trust" has nothing to do with this; just "opinions and experiences." You may not have experienced unconditional love but someone out there [even if it's one person] has.

I respect your view but I don't agree with it. So, hold on to your opinion that it doesn't and let me hold on to mine.

bigpriik:


my brother can you allow you sister to marry or date a street urchin or a bus conductors in the name of love be truthful to yourself.

It's not my decision and never will be. It'll be her who'll live with him and as much as we love people, there are are aspects of their lives we must keep our noses out of; their love lives is one of them. Give suggestions, say what you think but let them decide.

About your question, there's no such thing as "letting her marry...", it's her choice who she will spend the rest of her life with. If she says a conductor is the one, I'll wish her well.

Write-ups and thought patterns like these are sickening to me. The fact you've been unfortunate and have been meeting people that think like you, or know people who have been, doesn't give you the effrontery to posit that there's no such thing as unconditional love. Unconditional love does exist...

Blackivy29:
Love is free. It cant be bought nor stolen.

I'm not every "nigerian" girl. That analysis isnt cool. Every one has a different personality. No sex means no sex. Guys that dont like it can swerve.

Sex isn't love. It is our equating both that has led to such "loveless" society as we have; girls want to dig guys' pockets and guys want to get under girls' skirts. Love holds no value anymore but I'm an ardent believer in the fact that love does exist and shouldn't be built on sex. Sweetheart cling on to what you seek, there's still love out there

PresidentAde:
*** ** * try AwkaetitiBabe

Thanks for the recommendation...

LillyVal:
Tell us exactly what is stopping you from dating someone here.

Show me a lady here who is chaste, intelligent [not just book intelligent], playful, beautiful, and single, and I would not have a reason to not date her.

Question now is "how do you validate that a lady possesses these qualities in a forum full of exuberant teens and where even guys pretend to be ladies?"

You should as well know that saying "responded back" is totally wrong.

Sorry for what you're going through.

I went through this some time ago. What worked for me was quite simple. I bought a clove of garlic, chopped each part into bits, put it orange juice (not industrial orange juice but juice extracted from fresh oranges, maybe half a cup) and drank the mixture. The garlic will seem like you're swallowing tablets. But it works.

You can also get parafin oil from a pharmacy shop and take as prescribed. It lubricated the intestinal walls and makes ing stool easy.

Try this and Thank me later...

If you're board then all you need is chalk or duster , not ladies; unless off course the lady will write on you.

You can't be perfect, nobody's perfect, so don't beat yourself up about it. But you're unique, you're special, you're a Darling, you're a Sweetheart and you should be loved for who you are, because there's no one else in entire world like you.

Be proud of how far you've come, acknowledge how far there still is to go. Be determined to be better, to overcome your flaws/mistakes/shortcomings, and to become the person you hope to be (not who "they" want you to be). Hold your head high and ignore the haters.

Someone loves you, values you, respects you, and believes in you. Don't give up, don't cave, just keep believing & you'll get there; maybe not today, maybe not as fast as you want to, but eventually ...

Marcus Aurelius was an emperor in Rome (AD 161) who reportedly hired a servant to walk behind him. The servant's only job was to whisper to the Emperor "you're just a man," anytime the Emperor received praises from people. Obviously, Marcus Aurelius had recognized the temptation to think of himself beyond what is reasonable. The temptation to be pompous is something we all face, especially for persons who have attained a somewhat enviable status in life.

As praises/encomiums are showered on you and you look at your accomplishments, there's always the temptation to behave or think of yourself as a "god" or "goddess" or even a superhuman. But however high you rise on the ladder of success, never forget that you're still human. Hold your head high for what you have achieved, but keep your feet on the ground at all times. Be conscious always of the fact that how high you rise equates to how deep you can fall, and that however far you go in life, you're always one step away from a fall.

So, don't be lifted up in pride. that for whatever you are, people helped you [one way or another] get there and no matter how "extraordinary" you consider the position you occupy to be, you still need the of "ordinary" people.

So, be down-to-earth; stay humble...

#Adapted

victorian:
How about dating someone that's broke and poor? What's it called?


Ode!

The ease with which you just insulted someone [who probably wouldn't even know you did] for merely saying something makes me wonder.


You disagree with her submission, why not just say it. Did you have to be this "mean?"

Diamond23:
Lols
My dear, dnt take everything u see here serious. U cute tho! Nd d NOSE good

I know. I just choose what to take seriously and what not to. Who doesn't like a joke? It could have been another person's picture I put for you to see. Cool huh!

Diamond23:
Just it in ur wall for cross examination

Cross examine so I take it down

Diamond23:
can I see it before u rebrand it?, maybe it fits in. Who knows

How would you see it na?

Diamond23:
Hight, Sense of dressing nd lastly buh not d least NOSE!

Nose

Diamond23:
Hight, Sense of dressing nd lastly buh not d least NOSE!

I need to rebrand my nose o

Duggedised12:
must be 32 years and above , must not be a Muslim, must not be a northerner,must have a source of livelihood that can two people can comfortably live on.

How does the person you?

How does someone apply? Any specific qualifications?

ebonyggurl:


... I know people cheat all over the world, but atleast they don't take it as a normal way of life. The typical nigerian man would say "ehen, ordinary cheating?"

Because you ladies give them that power with your stereotypical opinions about men. When a lady says 'all men cheat,' she's giving the man in her life an alibi to philander. Some even say 'so long as he returns to me I'm ok,' amongst many other things you ladies say about men. Trust your men to be as faithful as they expect faithfulness from you, but hold them able for their infidelity when they 'slip' [not making it an 'all men' thing] and stop following married men [after all they can't cheat with themselves if every lady responsibly says 'go back to your wife' the moment they find out he's married]. Cheating on someone you claim to love is inexcusable and stereotypes [like 'men will always cheat', 'African men are naturally polygamous,' 'people cheat all over the world but don't make it a normal way of life', and some other annoying things people say to soften the severity of unfaithfulness] only serve to propound it. Stop excusing infidelity!

A lady I'm in love with [emphasis on 'in love'] and interesting live football matches