NewStats: 3,260,892 , 8,172,873 topics. Date: Tuesday, 27 May 2025 at 11:37 PM c6647

Foodforthought:
Not trying to be holier than thou but why does GOT portray 2 many sex scenes, even incest and women-degrading nudity? It does not really make it exciting!
I feel the show would still be compelling and exciting without the whole sex scenes

because the producers feel sex sells. On the contrary, GOT is successful because of the story line

The producers of the series are disgusting. They could not resist themselves. Utterly disgusting!

Go luck with your bedroom skills and continue to conquer the world with it. You are a great achiever

iLegendd:


I like your reply, but there is something I don't like about it and that is one of the mistake most nice guys make. If you don't want a dramatic woman in marriage, you must be the drama yourself. Men who don't do this always suffer.

I'd advise you to read a short post on our site on 7 Reasons You Should Offend Women. Any man who doesn't read that post will miss a lot in marriage. That post is a Savior.

Read it here: www.wetclef.com/topic251.html

I have read the link you posted. Thanks for posting. However, I would say it was written by someone who is truly not interested in having a successful marriage. As each day goes by women are fighting for more rights and the world is becoming more sympathetic to the feminine cause. Women are not disposable toys. The advice on that post can be successful for dating and not marriage.

The woman would leave you and take the kids with her or even worse leave the kids with you. Your wife is your partner and not a footstool to kick around and disrespect.

Men don’t accept bullshit during dating as they screen out potential wife materials. In marriage, women don’t accept bullshit. This you will come to realize when you marry. Trust me on this. Also, note people are watching. The way you treat your wife is the way society will treat you.

iLegendd:


My comment didn't brag about sleeping around, it discourages it. It focuses on being great in bed, not sleeping around. It also focuses on not yielding to a woman's demand and being controlled by a woman because of sex. At the same time it focuses on self-development.

Yes, reading and comprehension are two different things. I know you can read, but I'm skeptical about comprehension.

This is not an attack, but an advice because you refused to take out the meat in my post, but focused on chewing the bones.

Enjoy your youth. Bragging about being good in bed is equally not an achievement. As you age, these things become less important. As you get older, a woman will not sleep with you because you are Superman on the sheet but because you can guarantee her financial security.

Thiwalade:


Utter waste of who you truly are if you decide to be someone else. Just be yourself but open your eyes. There are far more important things in life than trying to be who you are not.

Many of the world's leaders in of ideas are betas. The only place where your "alpharism" works is on women. What is the aim then of a so called Real man who fuxks say 1000 hoes? There are far more grounding discoveries and achievements than being a real man. There's no medal nor award for being a REAL man/ alpha male. My honest advice, just better yourself to achieve all your dreams and leave your mark in this world.

Very well said. A real man chases and accomplishes his dreams. I didn’t want to tell him that because I believe he is still a boy who would grow up. Sleeping with multiple women is not an accomplishment. It’s a total waste of time and money. Bragging about sleeping with numerous women is plain stupidity.

Wilson125:
hmm.. thanks a lot.. i know this friendship is gonna crash.. i mean everything will crash, relationship too.. cus i am actually hating maself n the girl right now..

Yea you should feel horrible and even more for paying her tuition.

sacramento1212:


And the Red flags are better spotted before any form of involvement not after entering into a swamp. So it's better one have an open mind over all these things so that if a particular individual of interest doesn't check out, one can easily withdraw.

Also not neglecting the aspect of Spirituality which is also very very important.

CC: lalasticlala

Yes you cannot ignore spirituality, but again I cannot delve into that aspect as I am not adept on it.

MissRaine69:

It’s a situation that is currently happening
I will point the man in the middle of this in that direction.

Wow - it sounds like a fictitious story. However, he doesn’t owe the vicious woman a dime. Let her carry out her threat and end up in jail. Maybe that’s the place for such kind of people. He should be lucky and grateful to the UK Home Office for saving him.

MissRaine69:

Vagina.

Absolutely ridiculous! My Goodness. I just can’t advise such a young man

sacramento1212:


There will always be an inner voice if you listen pointing out the red flags but lucky you that it never progressed to marriage.

You have itemized very valid points and i agree with you. Though some may narrowly pull through if they make that mistake but it's usually a very slim margin.

Yes - the moment you spot the red flags, quietly remove yourself from the equation before you complicate matters. These advice is the same I would give my son when he is of marriageable age. I still read threads on Nairaland involving young men who are about to mortgage their future. Avoid these pitfalls

MissRaine69:
Scenario:
A man gets a job abroad three months after the woman he was engaged to broke off the engagement and married someone else.
The man who is a doctor got a post in England everything seemed to be going well. A year later he met this girl, he told her he was not looking for a serious relationship she was ok with that ( initially).

Two months into their situation the woman started to drop hints that she wanted more than just meeting up and was pressuring the guy to get her pregnant. He refused. She then told him her immigration status was precarious and she had been living in the UK illegally. In the third month the woman was served with a deportation notice.
Initially the guy felt sorry for her, and wanted to help so he paid for her to leave the UK voluntarily rather than be deported. The plan was he would try to help her return.

He travelled to Nigeria to help only to realise that he had been deceived about how bad her immigration situation was. She had multiple deportations as well as and numerous immigration violations. He tried to get her back to the UK twice but both applications where declined.

He then told the woman that he could do no more. They had only known each other for three months and he was not ready to wife anyone. So he told her it was over.

The woman got very angry as she believed that if she left the UK voluntarily he would travel to Nigeria to marry her and she would be able to return. Now her people have gone to visit the man’s family and insist that the guy marry the woman or there will not know any peace. The woman is “refusing” to accept that the relationship is over and constantly sends threatening messages to the guy or asks friends so spy on him to make sure he is not with someone
.
He has met someone and is serious about this girl but the woman in Nigeria refuses to accept this and states she will have this other woman killed if she travels to Nigeria.
The woman’s family and some of the guys family are urging him to just marry her so that there is peace. He has refused.

What are your thoughts regarding this? Does the woman have a genuine claim? Is the guy being fair?

Is this super story or true story. If it’s real, I did a thread on how young men can pick their wives. Go and read it and apply both your present scenario and that of the vicious lady to the categories listed

What is wrong with these young men paying school fees for ladies they are not married to

XklusivGistBlog:


I retract my statement bro. Sorry about that.
But I think you are talking base on ur own personal experience. Honestly, I have seen marriages blossom without these rules. I

Laughs - you see the shades of happiness that wants to be shown.

What I wrote here is what elderly ones don’t tell or don’t know how to tell younger ones.

XklusivGistBlog:
Hope your mum has her PhD.
Idiot post...

And to think you can find all these your qualities in one woman is foolhardy

Please note that first, I’m not your age mate. Second, to involve my late mom into this, depicts your upbringing.

You can critique without being ridiculous. To answer your question, yes you can find women who don’t fall into these categories.

I will tell you a story for free. I was deeply in love with a lady and was considering spending the rest of my life with her. However, she was from a broken home. The father was never in her life. The mom was out of the country and only sent money for upkeeps. She was brought up by relatives. She graduated school, but I noticed some form of unserious behavior. I got her a job and also tried to motivate her.

Recall I said I was deeply in love with her. Logically I knew marrying this woman would cause me future pain, but I was in love and didn’t want to lose her. I assessed her family structure and financial well-being and it was not healthy in all ramifications. She wanted me to introduce her to my parents, but I couldn’t and then the problems started. She decided to get involved with someone else and told me she wasn’t interested anymore. I was deeply hurt.

Guess what - her marriage is in bad shape. The guy she left me for married her and I would have been that man. Both her and the husband are terribly unhappy and are considering divorce. I am not mocking her - Hell No, but I am highlighting that if I had followed my heart, I would be miserable and may have divorced her.

Love is not enough for marriage - Young man.

XklusivGistBlog:

Rubbish Post
You don't know the meaning of Love.
Its not a feeling. Love is Living.

Thanks for your opinion. I’m very well versed in love due to age and experience. I can tell you all about it and the fantasies. What I have said is the reality. Don’t marry only for love. If you do, then be ready for rough consequences. Why

- It would hurt you to your soul when the person you love call you disgusting names.
- It would hurt you to your bones when the person you love ignores you.
- Men who are so ionately in love with their partners do not end up well. They are the first to commit crime out of ion.

Those who are married understand what I’m saying. You can choose to ignore the advice. However, when you do marry, you will see the pitfalls before your eyes.

Estherosev2:
op is like don't marry for love, don't marry for this, don't marry for dat... what are we supposed to marry for then?

The advice was not for you. It’s for young men. Are you a man?

goldenboyofpsy:
God bless you for this. I dont know why we Nigerians wont allow our oyibos find out truth themselves instead of acting like they know all. Give her likely reasons not giving wrong impression and assurances. Truth is a big thing for any relationship to thrive and succeed so miss trust your BF until ue proves otherwise. Never use other people's negative relationship experience to generalize it kills 5he relationship.

Very disgusting especially from sisiloge. She sounded like a stupid Arrow. You don’t know this people or the relationship dynamics, but want to sound like an expert. How stupid!!!!

Dionne005:


I feel as if you didn't read my post but quoted. I said I'm not helping him get his citizenship in any manner. Zero help. And he knows that. We will be married after he gets it. We have discussed this. And the girl is 16 which means he would have conceived at 14 or 15. Is it normal for boys to be having babies that age? I know it can happen in America but it's not a thing. Anyways we are both too young for a teenager to be calling us mom and dad.

Please ignore the stupidity you read here. This forum is a terrible place to get advice and negatively affect your relationship. Can you imagine the advices you are getting from people who really don’t know and care about you.

sisisioge:


You bf is married in Nigeria. That was his son he introduced to you. Foreign women are considered dumbbb...they are mostly dumbb too. Normal naija woman would have decoded the encoded sharpsharp. Cheers.

Don’t say this without providing evidence. It’s really dumb

Kazeemakeem:
Dear rich lady, your rich with cars money and you are searching for good husband,you can't keep a man with ur wealth, the truth is to be submive and lower ur self, my dear money evil and can push one to hell if care not taken........

You must be young. Do you know that women don’t marry down. They always marry up. It’s men who really do not know this but continue to marry down. If you understand this, you will try to improve yourself to get the woman of your dreams. Stop day wishing and work on yourself

Basilona:


Exactly o....@iLegend. Do not be dismissive of the OP's nuggets ooo. Na experience dey talk here oo. Marriage experience and dating experience no be same. A Woman pre-marriage and post-marriage can be 2 different beasts if she chooses (operative word being CHOOSES). Even the best of Alpha-maleš have ended up losing their lives to the wrong women oo.

It's almost impossible to change another save the changee takes a conscious effort to be changed. And even then you'll also need some help from a higher power cos it's established that Humans are deathly resistant to change
Be guided Sir

Well allow him to enjoy his youth so that he can recount them as memories. However, if he takes this same attitude into marriage, it will not end well. A woman would tolerate all nonsense prior to marriage, but after marriage, you would see her true color.

She is officially and legally married. Before you kick her out, you would perform rites and also go to court. Divorce is not an easy thing. Forget what people say. During divorce, your entire affair is out in the public.

Kids soften a man’s heart. In all sincerity, forget the Facebook and WhatsApp pictures, many men still stick to their marriages because of the kids. Women too, but I’m speaking from a man’s point of view.

When a marriage breaks down, the shame is on both parties regardless of who decided to push the separation agenda. A man who is divorced is still referred to as a useless man amongst his peers and strangers.

Hence, it is necessary to avoid these pitfalls and pick a woman you know is a gem and treat her like a gem because women within the category I mention would majority of the time mess you up.

kingxsamz:
I don't blame the pastor or the girl.
The bunch of fools I blame are those of his who will witness this thrash and still find themselves in that church next Sunday.
Patiently waiting for when a pastor will receive bj in the presence of his , and those bunch of fools will tag it "God works in mysterious ways".
*spits

Hahahahaha- I was surprised they were still in the church looking at the pastor saying you want more.

babyfaceafrica:
guys should stop paying school fees or house rents of ladies they are not married to.... it is wrong on all counts.. marry her first before doing all these things...can you pay the school fees of any of your family ?..free the lady now and look fir someone better

Correct. Don’t play the role of a father in a woman’s life. If the family are not financially buoyant and the young man is trying to establish himself - leave that lady and go get another. Except you are wealthy with a big heart and a big house because after you finish paying bills for the future wife, the younger siblings too would expect the same.

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Chief do you wish your future to be miserable? If you are with her because you ONLY love her - I’m afraid love is not enough for marriage.

On the other hand, you are playing the role of her father prior to marriage. This is totally nonsense for logical men.

lawrykings:
I shouldn't marry for love... Hmmm. I am really not getting this one OP

Love is important but the least of them all. If you focus more on love, your marriage will not succeed. Love is like a drunk who gets high on alcoholic beverages and once he is sober realizes he has made a mistake.

At least you have seen the lady. You like her. Then begin to apply the rules to see where she fits.

At the Chief above - enjoy your Bachelorhood days for when you marry they become sweet memories.

A woman who wants a man who accept nonsense till she succeed. Immediately she gets married, power dynamics changes. Women are not stupid. In fact, women are smarter than men. I stand to be corrected on this.

Once a man gets married and have kids, his responsibility changes. A man who acts single while married is an irresponsible man. Your focus changes, your family becomes your priority. You begin to think of how to increase family income. Though you would love to club or engage in so many social activities and vices. However, when you house rent/mortgage, bills, school fees, food for the kids - your priorities changes.

It is at this moment, your wife begins her power play. She is finally married, and with kids. I don’t know how to explain fatherhood. Words cannot explain it. It’s best being experienced. That moment you hold your child in your arms, or the voice of the child calling you daddy. It can melt the strongest of all men. Women know this and can use the children as bait.

High Chief, adhere to those rules so that you can enjoy your marriage. I greet you.

ekene101:
My bro divorce her asap,I made d mistake of marrying one with same characteristics, she was very loyal when I was training her in school,bought clothes,textbooks,house rent etc. Immediately mmm started,she used money I saved in her to do mmm and made some small change and thought she had arrived,that's when see finish started,she now believes she can stand on her own. This was someone I saved my alawi to pay up her final year fees and still made sure she went to camp, so doing mmm and serving made her start misbehaving. Once mmm folded up and she lost the whole money,including her savings,she came back begging,I was already done with her,but my brother and friends pleaded because we had come a long way,forgave her and she took in,gave birth and we were happy once again,immediately I helped her and she got Npower job,got paid 3months (90k)character changed again,then our trad mrg was two months away,she just woke up one morning,said she was going to supply shoes(she started importing and selling shoes with the 90k,including the little I added to it for her)packed her shoes and bag,carried our baby and left.. I didn't say anything, business was booming,she brought taxi and packed her remaining loads very early one morning with her younger sister,including baby's picture on d wall.still I kept my cool,her mom later called to ask Wat was happening,told her and she pleaded with me to forgive and forget,told her am not not angry,still go to visit once am chanced and bring things for my baby,but she always threw them away,told me one time on what's app that she could kill me if she had the chance,if not because she is scared of loosing custody of the baby while in prison,she could have poisoned me long ago. I still kept my cool because I know immediately her money is exhausted and her younger ones starts giving her see finish,her head will return to default settings..
Just last week,she called trying to make peace,I went to her moms place to see my baby and over head her saying people bought her goods on credit,now no money to buy stuffs,not even diapers for baby(because I stopped buying,because she always throw away anything I bring for my child) I gave my baby some money and the clothes I bought for her and left,she came to the house since 3days now,I didn't say anything, she has been begging and begging.. I only cook when necessary and do other house chores because I don't want her to poison me,at night I sleep in the parlor, while she and baby sleeps in the room.
My point is,she is now down financially at the moment and is looking for a way to extort me again as usual to start her importation business,once things start going well again and she believes she can now stand on her two feet again and doesn't need me,she will still show her bad character and leave. So I have decided to leave my door wide open because my target is to meet a certain financial target,do my visa and leave this country,woman is not on my agenda for now. This is someone who doesn't even wash my clothes,cook or go to the market,I do all these things just to keep my home together but still,she never appreciated my efforts,someone that even if am broke and she has money,she won't even lend me some for a few days to buy food stuffs at home that she will still eat from. I have made the mistake already, you that haven't gotten a child yet,don't make such mistake..I already vowed not go have kids from different women,if not I would have found someone else and maybe married by by now.
Some women only need you because of what they need from you and start giving you attitude when the achieve that,its not only girlfriends, even sisters,mothers and wives are not exempted.

Sorry about your situation bro. You may reconsider remarrying but before you do. I did a write up on how to pick your wife and I can tell you would see some of the mistakes you made. So when you do want to remarry don’t make other mistake. Study it and advise other young men.

loswhite:
life is not all about status it goes beyond that

Sorry sir I disagree with you on this. If you are referring to a good woman or man - then I will say that does not exist. Under intense pressure, so many people do unthinkable things.

lefulefu:
hmm na wa oo.anyway where i see it might get balanced is if the man getting married to a single mom is a single dad himself.

Yea this may bring some stability. However, the other factors still comes in play. The woman will fight you when your own child is rude to her. She may concentrate more resources attention and time towards her own child.

Many single mothers don’t like single fathers - you’d be surprised. Except you are of good financial standing. In fact, I want to be proven wrong on this. Many single mothers remarry because of financial struggles. A wealthy single mother would prefer to concentrate on her children and have male intimacy gadgets or boyfriends.

Bro is easier to avoid these issues from onset and work hard to protect your marriage and family.

kingralph:


OP i repeat..you are insightful. I think you are worth listening to. Do give me a buzz. Rather how can you be reached?

My email. Though I’m not in Nigeria at the moment. Hence, the time difference maybe a limiting factor

lefulefu:
if d child is very young like 6 to ten yrs old im go respect u cos he is growing with u and d familiarity go dey imprint for im mind.but for a young man to go dey marry a single mom with a 15 yr old child now dats disaster.na dose ones u go see dey beat up their step papa.

You would be unable to discipline that child. Because of the protective nature of mothers, the woman would be the first person to remind you that you are not the father of the child.

The child will grow to become a teenager and remind you that you are not his/her father.

The woman will be wary of you if the child is a girl because she maybe afraid you may sexually assault the child. Imagine your wife having such thought because you are only offering fatherly love.

Bro - forget single mothers I know what I’m saying and I know many men suffering this because dem no hear word.